Shyness Social Anxiety

Overcome and cure social anxiety

Extreme Social Anxiety Adults

Written By: admin - Mar• 13•12

One of the most common fatigue causes is anxiety, which is known to effect 40 million U.S. adults each year. Anxiety is a state of fear of real or imagined danger, which is manifested as increased heart rate, trembling, panic, weakness, extreme fatigue and stomach or intestinal discomfort. Anxiety disorders make up the largest mental illness diagnosis in the U.S.

Anxiety as a Fatigue Cause

One of the most common fatigue causes is anxiety. Anxiety creates a feeling of restlessness and is often accompanied by physical discomfort or pain, all of which can increase feelings of extreme fatigue and exhaustion. Additionally if anxiety is plaguing you, you might find that you cant sleep through the night, furthering your extreme fatigue. The cycle of anxiety and fatigue are not easily broken. To find out more about overcoming fatigue symptoms, you may download a free report entitled Fatigue to Fit in 30 Days at www.fatiguetofitin30days.com.

Reduce Anxiety to Cure Fatigue

There are many suggestions to reducing anxiety. Some include: Relaxation techniques: Adding regular relaxation techniques to your day including controlled breathing, progressive muscle relaxation an guided imagry. Diet changes: Removing caffeinated products, most refined sugars and artificial preservatives, dyes and chemicals from your diet can help reduce insomnia and allow your body to rest. Also, removing stimulants such as these can lower blood pressure, calm your heart rate and contribute to an overall healthier lifestyle. Avoid alcohol and illegal drugs: Although you may find what seems like temporary relief to anxiety by drinking alcohol or using drugs, in the long term these things will only heighten your anxiety and eventually could cause severe problems. Exercise: Adding healthy activity to your daily route to reduce anxiety is the most recommended advice. Exercise does not require an expensive gym membership or even a lot of time. Adding a 20 minute walk to your daily activity and weekend bike rides is very useful in reducing anxiety because even this small amount of physical activity helps to release endorphins which is known to improve cognitive functioning and elevate mood states. Outdoor activity adds an additional element of anxiety reduction because of the relaxing element of nature as you enjoy the outdoors. Acupuncture: Acupuncture is a traditional Chinese medicine and is reputed to cure psychological disorders by inserting needles into the skin at points where the flow of energy is thought to be blocked. Some believe that it may be used to help reduce anxiety. Supplements: Adding a supplement such as Protandim to your daily routine, which triggers the creation of enzymes to eliminate free radical molecules in your body is known to help eliminate fatigue caused by anxiety. Protandim works because it decreases oxidative stress, the main cause of free radicals in the body.

Other Help for Extreme Fatigue and Anxiety

If youre suffering with anxiety, cultivate a support system to help you through it. Seek moral support from family members and friends who are sympathetic to the fact that anxiety is a condition of mental illness, and should be treated seriously. You can also seek out other people around you who have suffered from anxiety and have already found ways to reduce anxiety in their lives. Professional coaching and your own research is also recommended. To start your research, about overcoming extreme fatigue and reducing anxiety, download the free report entitled Fatigue to Fit in 30 Days at www.FatiguetoFitin30Days.com.

Frequently Asked Questions

  1. QUESTION:
    Extreme social awkardness.?
    I am a fifteen year old female.
    And I seem to be suffering from social awkwardness. An extreme case, I want this to go away. Its killing me literally I am scared of strangers to the point where I cannot even think properly.
    I just recently encountered a survey person ( yes the kinds most people ignore ) and i am still shuddering from the encounter-- and no, she wasn't trying to kill me, she was very nice. I don't know why Im so scared though. Its been an hour and I still feel extreme anxiety.
    I don't like talking to people I do not know. It scares me a lot.
    I don't know why or how to stop it. Im not that scared of talking to people my age though, but when an adult or someone older comes forth to try and strike a conversation I immediately put up internal defenses.

    It used to be worse, I couldn't look people in the eyes or answer them, the most I said was yes and no. But now isn't any better either, I don't know how to strike a conversation, and the most I can utter is a simple sentence that is almost incomprehensible to the human ear.

    But when Im with my friends I act like a completely mad and loud oddball-- myself. I dont know how to act like this toward others.
    How do I solve this without.. going to a "counselor". I would really prefer NOT going to a counselor.

    • ANSWER:
      I used to be the same way.

      You're probably suffering from social anxiety.

      I know you said you're really outgoing with your friends...my question is, are you outgoing with strangers that are the same age as you? or do you shut down the same way you do with adults?

      Honestly, therapy does help...I know you don't want to hear that but its true... if you don't want to do therapy, the best thing I can recommend is to just put yourself out there. Keep talking to people, develop social skills, and put yourself into social situations that make you uncomfortable. After a while (it can be a long time too) you will start feeling more comfortable.

      If the problem is JUST with adults, then you should just work on that.

      If the problem lies with strange peers, then its more serious I think... and you should talk to a counselor about it.

  2. QUESTION:
    How to get over anxiety?
    So I'm an adult now, and I really need to get a job. Trouble is, I have extreme social anxiety. When I think about situations where I don't have at least one person I know to fall back on, I have panic attacks. I finally got a job, I start tomorrow evening. I have been able to ignore the stress and anxiety for now, but its really starting to set in and I'm not sure how to handle this.

    Keep in mind that I've had this anxiety my whole life - school, work, parties, even family. I WILL NOT GO TO A DOCTOR TO GET PILLS. I have lots of qualms about the medication they are forcing on everyone. I tried that a few years ago and I didn't like the person it made me into.

    I'm very nervous, and I would appreciate any help from anyone who feels similarly to me. I feel like the only solution is to just disconnect my mind from my body and pretend like I'm not there.

    • ANSWER:
      The best thing to do in your position would be to relax. Meditate, drink relaxing tea. Take deep breaths, close your eyes think of a happy place. Good luck to you, friend.

  3. QUESTION:
    I am a teen and I think I have social anxiety disorder? Please help?
    Hello, I am a 15 year old teenage girl, and I've recently realized that I may have social anxiety disorder.

    From when I was a young child, I've always been afraid to talk to strangers. For example, my dad may ask me to ask a waitress for napkins, and I would ask him to do it instead. I was very shy and never talked much, but in pre-school I talked and made friends normally. It's just when talking to people that I felt had "power", such as adults, I would be very very shy. I also cared a lot about how adults viewed me. Whenever I answered a question wrong in class I would feel very upset and embarrassed, and I hoped that the teacher wouldn't view me in a bad way. Therefore to avoid that, I would just not participate in class.

    As I grew up my shyness improved, for now, I talk to strangers normally, asking sales associates for help, etc. I talk to teachers when I need help, I talk in class when called on (but I prefer not to raise my hand). But when I have presentations in front of the class, or when I'm called on in class for a very long response, I feel very pressured. I regularly plan out what i want to say just in case I get called on, but I won't end up raising my hand. Many times I get that "blank" feeling and I would completely forget what I need to say, i would stutter, secretly tremble, and then think about it for days. I don't like talking to new classmates unless I feel completely comfortable with them, because I don't feel comfortable making small talk. I've always view myself as being strongly introverted, but now I've realized it may be SAD. I care way too much about what people think about my mistakes, when I know people don't pay attention to them like I do.

    I know my issues and I try to correct them, I also talk to close friends and people when talked to, so I don't think I have an extreme case of SAD. It's just that I'm afraid of humiliation and being judged. Today while in the mall, I stuttered while a sales associate asked me what I needed, and afterwards felt really bad. Then when paying for my things, my hands started shaking, my heart raced, and I started sweating. After coming out of the store I immediately felt better and could breathe again (the store was physically hot and stuffy though). But I still felt nervous for an hour, I was freaking out because this is rare.

    I'm pretty sure I should go to the psychologist soon, but should I worry about this? Is it actually SAD? I just want to know what you think about this because it's been a bother for my life as a student and I really want to fix it. I want to have an idea before I visit a psychologist.

    • ANSWER:

  4. QUESTION:
    Social Anxiety/Social Phobia?
    So I feel that I’m suffering from social anxiety/social phobia. I’ve definitely suffered from it for years but it’s really taking an impact on my life lately because I’m a young adult trying to figure out my future. I’ve always been naturally shy but this has stalled my life immensely.

    For instance I find it hard to get or keep a job since I’m not comfortable in social environments. I blush immensely for the stupidest things. Even talking to close family members or even simply talking through a simple text message is hard for me to do. I do have other symptoms such as: avoiding social situations, I think I’m being judged (though I’m not paranoid), I do, at times, sweat in social situations, and there’s a few others.

    So my question is, what are my options? Medication? I’ve tried hypnosis because it was recommended but it didn’t do anything at all. Who should I talk to about this, other than my parents? How do I know this is really what I have? I’m hoping to cure it so I can go to college and get a job.

    I don’t have anything like agoraphobia since I can leave my house. And I’m not to the extreme that I can’t talk to people, it’s just bad enough that it’s affecting my everyday life.

    • ANSWER:
      i was in this situation several years ago, but then i was in a situation where i need to continue my study where it was impossible to avoid social contact. i hate it though, but as it was impossible for me to run away, I tried to cope with that. i found out that it is very important to have something we really proud of. The key is to be proud of yourself. i am proud of being the youngest (and doing so well of course) in class (where it was hardly impossible for a girl of my age to be in that class). I'd suggest you to find your potential, be very good at it, be confident with what and who you are and let us see how this plan goes

  5. QUESTION:
    How do I get on my own feet?
    I am 21 years old. The past 4 years has put me behind everyone else I know. My parents divorced when I was just about to graduate high school. Then they both suddenly moved to different states, so by circumstance I had to drop out of high school to move with my mom. I then got my GED right away. The next 2 years involved me moving every three months. I haven't gone to college yet, which is a huge part of me. I want a PhD in Psychology/Neurology.

    Right now, everyone around me is working and going to college. A few months ago my therapist stated that I was suffering from post traumatic stress disorder, which has led to extreme social anxiety. I don't want to mention the other horrible things that happened in a short amount of time, to put me where I am right now. But, in the end I tried to attend college but was overwhelmed by the amount of people, i was suffering severe panic attacks and now I have insomnia. I also tried to attend online college courses, but I was unable to afford it anymore. I feel as though I am unable to support myself, and I will never become an "Adult"... I am scared I wont be able to work, or get a degree.

    I have so much ambition, I just feel so overwhelmed, I feel lost like I don't know the right steps to take to begin living like an adult. Bills, school, money, taxes, insurance, credit cards/credit; everything confuses me, I just don't know where to begin.

    • ANSWER:
      I would talk to my doctor about the different medications available. They will help you get back on track and then work with a psychologist (a good one, many are no good) for long term help. There is always financial aid. You may benefit from moving into school dorms, but first work on your anxiety then think about everything else.

      Different people are in a different place in there life, don't compare yourself so much. You are you. Some people are a few years ahead and don't have to have a job etc.. just their parents have a lot of money, some people don't even have parents. Just work on getting your life back on track.

  6. QUESTION:
    Counseling confidentiality surrounding past abuse?
    I have realized that I have a lot of issues dealing with emotional abuse from my childhood. This also includes witnessing emotional and physical abuse to my mother. I want to seek counseling to overcome the ramifications of this abuse (extreme social anxiety, depression, lack of self-confidence), but I am only willing to do so in an environment where I know that the information I divulge will be held in strict confidence. I am an adult, out of the house, living my own life. My mom is now divorced, very self-empowered, and living her own life for the first time ever. I know that any mention of this to authorities will ruin the peace that we have worked very hard to achieve. I would just like assurance that my counseling sessions would indeed be held in confidence. Also, I would like advice on how to specifically ask a counselor if they would be willing to hold this information in confidence without divulging too much information initially.

    Two sites to consider:
    http://www.apa.org/monitor/julaug02/ethics.aspx (which basically says, in my case, they should hold this information confident)
    http://www.aacc.edu/advising/CounservConfiden.cfm (which says that my case is an exception to confidentiality)

    Also, this would be a counselor at my university.

    Also, please, please, please don't try to encourage me to do anything or give me ANY advice out of the scope of my actual question. You don't know me and you don't know what's best for my family.

    • ANSWER:
      You should just ask the therapist what they are obligated to do and not to do and your specific questions. They have to let you know and be honest.
      Since you are an adult, the chances of them doing anything besides help you , and let you make up your own mind, is good.
      No therapist forces anything on a client except in an extreme self harm or or injury to others way.
      So , they are suppose to be there for you,and the most important thing you deserve to do for yourself, is to really research the type of therapist, and therapy you want and need, research and ask around about any therapist you are interestred in. See if you can find out all you can professionally about them ,first and their reputation, and all that.
      Not all therapists are equal, and there are abusers in all areas of life.
      Look carefully.
      Know that you will most likely be labeled something like borderline , because of the abuse, and you need to avoid therapists who label you this, in my opinion. You can ask right out and up front if they believe in the borderline personality disorder and if they use it, If they do, they consider finding a different therapist with different training.
      Here are some good at removing truama eftmastersworldwide.com that you may like.
      I would not use the universtity counselors until i knew what they do with the records and all that.
      So, as an adult you have a lot of rights, . No one has to report anyone if they don't want to.

  7. QUESTION:
    What's the outcome of an adult who grew up with abusive parents?
    When I tell my father he never had anything to do with me he just says, "you never had anything to do with me!"

    There have been good memories of my dad, I don't consider him to be an awful person, but I don't really know my father. He hardly ever pushed me to play sports, or played with me, he told me I never showed interest in sports. When he came home from work he would eat dinner and go to his room and watch television. He has always been a stoic and aloof person. He is very gentle/soft spoken in public. Ironically, he has a very bad temper and can be physically/verbally abusive. When I was younger he used to hit me with a belt when I misbehaved.

    My mom often spoiled me and my two sisters, but I think she did this because she felt guilty. My mom was more abusive than my father who was hardly ever home growing up. She gave my sister a black eye once for missing the school bus. My sister had to tell teachers/kids that I threw a ball at her. My mom also broke my older sisters arm (by accident) because they were fighting and she drug her off the bed. Also, when my mom would get pulled over by the police, she'd try to get out of it by blaming me or my sister who were in the back seat sleeping waking up wondering what was going on. Also, when I was like 3 or 4 my mom would chase me with the book "it" by stephen king. It had a scary clown on it. I'd run around the house screaming. She also used to put on scary masks and chase me and my sister.

    The reason I bring this up is because I am now 21. I've had a lot of hardships growing up. Lots of physical/verbal fighting between my mom and dad, getting shipped to boarding school at the age of 12 due to a learning disability I supposedly had, divorce, more boarding schools and a 24 therapeutic boarding school, abusive step-parents, a mother a on-going eating disorder. I have felt inadequate for years. No self-esteem, extreme social anxiety. My mother always expected a lot out of my two sisters, but when it came to me not much was. My mother often allowed me to stay home from school, offered to do my homework while I played on the computer, would get physical/verbally abusive with my sister for making a B- and would praise me for getting a C.

    My parents have a lot of problems, but they have been good to me. They've paid for schools, cars, insurance, etc. Financially they have been good even though my dad never likes to pay for anything. I'm 21, and I still feel like I'm 14. I'm awful at making bonds/connections with others. I loose friends easily. I'm constantly negative, depressed, comparing myself to others. a year ago I was attending an art school, but left due to all the pressures of school/and social situations. Also, I'm gay, and every relationship I'm in I am always very needy and controlling. I was just wondering if growing up with semi-abusive parents, an aloof father figure, spending majority of my years away from home, had anything to do with how I am today.

    I'm living with my mom and stepdad right now. I have a job and I start school at a state college for my AS degree. I have no idea where my life is heading. All I know I want to get away from family at some point. I still rely on my mom financially. However, I have so much anger towards her even when she is nice to me. I am seeing a therapist. I want to be more responsible and independent and away from family before the age of 24. i'm curious to know if growing up in a broken family has caused some of my insecurities.

    • ANSWER:
      It does have a lot to do with who you are right now. You need to stop worrying about the past and work on becoming who and what you want to be. I had a bad childhood and I decided that I wouldn't let it effect me as a person. I'm nothing like most my family and I made myself that way. I just tell myself I will not let the past determine who I am, I won't let them break me, I am my own person, and I will be a strong women despite my past. Hope this helps.

  8. QUESTION:
    Will it be easier for me to find a girlfriend when I get older?
    I'm only 19, just barely an adult. I'm a lot more thoughtful and insightful than most others my age. I don't drink, smoke, have sex with strangers, pressure girls to do things they don't want to do. I'm just a nice guy. I've never really been told I was attractive before, so I've sent pictures of my face to girls I've had a conversation with on the internet. I guess I felt a little desperate to get compliments for my appearance. Pretty much all of them told me that I was cute and sweet.

    I'm not too concerned with finding a girlfriend right now because I want to finish school, move out of my parents house, and get my life together. I suffer from my own share of problems including insecurity, extreme shyness (social anxiety disorder), depression, and high sensitivity. I'm not sure I'll ever find someone who can accept me, but I still think that I'm just a kid and most girls my age probably just aren't ready for someone like me. I'm very empathetic and caring, affectionate too. Still, I fear that with my own problems and insecurity, I'll end up hurting the people close to me. I still have a lot of trouble even talking to girls, and it seems that many of them have their own things to worry about.

    What do you think?

    • ANSWER:
      .Don't worry about the opinion of others.It's deeds that count. Your ambitions are realistic and worthwhile.Miss right will cross your path. When you least expect her to and you will know

  9. QUESTION:
    Can someone PLEASE help me overcome extreme shyness?
    I have social anxiety disorder and talking to people is extremely scary for me. I don't like being known only as the quiet girl who never talks at school. I have few friends and don't trust any adults. I have no best friends. I am not allowed to have friends over and haven't since i was 10. My mom usually won't drive me to my friend's house if someone asks me to hang out, because she'll make excuses such as its too much work or you have to babysit, so i can go to a party with my friends. She goes out every saturday which means that i have to babysit my 5 younger brothers and sisters and one is autistic. Talking in class gives me anxiety attacks. My attacks are usually hyper ventilating, freezing up, digging my nails into my arm or hand, shaking uncontrollably, and i will even fake sick just to avoid the situation. Talking scares me even to my parents because they aren't exactly people who would understand or care, and they don't even know i'm like this at school. Anything that draws attention to me scares me and one of my teachers won't understand, she is giving me a C in class because i don't participate. I'm trying really hard but i'm too scared to talk. I try little things like giving people who sit next to me in class a compliment but then at last second i get too scared and chicken out and then hate myself later for being so scared. Any suggestions?

    • ANSWER:
      I don't want to offend you but I think a big part of why you have this social anxiety is because of your family. They don't offer up opportunities for you to socialize, and if this has been going on since you were a child you probably haven't learned the skills to socialize with others. What you have learned from your parents is that your thoughts, feelings and needs do not matter and therefore you don't know what to say to others at all or feel that they'll think that the things you do have to say are stupid (I could be wrong but this is what I got out of your message). The first thing you need to learn is that you do matter, you have a right to thoughts, feelings and friends (which your parents deny you) anyone with a brain in their head knows that people need other people to survive mentally, physically and emotionally. I would recommend reading a book by Barbra Colleroso called "Kids are Worth It!" which is a book about parenting, but I think will help you because it will teach you what you are entitled to as a human being, what you need to know about yourself, why you feel the way you feel, and how to change it. Maybe get some good books about social anxiety and try (i know it's hard) to talk to a counselor. just talking to a counselor would be such a great opportunity for you to realize that people are kind and willing to help you and aren't so scary after all. :)

  10. QUESTION:
    Social troubles for an emerging adult?
    I have extreme depression and anxiety. Diagnosed with schizophrenia later bi-polar.

    I've had depression and anxiety all my life. Childhood was something forgettable.

    So, how does one really socialize with people whose life went on as life "should be" attained while you have that and these huge thoughts that really put a damper on life.

    I am 23 and I can't form a decent conversation with my family and friends let alone a stranger.

    I lie to people that could make a difference but I rather avoid them (like my doctor).

    I am literally scared of my friends and family sometimes (exploit, beat me up, humiliate me)
    thanks for the advice! Yes, I am overly critical in general... to stop that though seems tough "I see it as I see it".

    • ANSWER:
      i know how you feel. from the age of 10 i was the same way, but when i was 19 i decided i wanted to stop it. i wanted to be happy. i changed the way i thought. i made myself stop being hyper critical of others and especially of myself. i made myself take down the walls i'd put up and trust people. i forced myself into situations that normally i would have felt lost in so i could learn how to interact normally. it takes time, but you will learn how it's done. the most important thing is that you want it. you have to want to be happy. no more complaining. just appreciation of beauty around you. just understanding of others you would have normally thought of negatively. you change your world. you have the control. the chemical changes will take place as you change your mindset. it's a valid form of therapy which is the most successful apart from increased physical activity. try that too. you change your life.

  11. QUESTION:
    it seems like i have this personality disorder..?
    so i have some issues like everyone else but maybe im looking to deep into this..
    im not crazy or suicidal or anything..but i think i have the Avoidant Personality Disorder.
    i dont have an exact diagnosis, but im gonna start going to this therapy thing in about a week. so anyway i looked up personality disordereds and theres about 10 different kind..i read about all of them and this one seems to match me the best...i looked up symptoms :
    # Hypersensitivity to rejection
    # Self-imposed social isolation
    # Extreme shyness or anxiety in social situations, though feels a strong desire for close relationships[14]
    # Avoids physical contact because it has been associated with an unpleasant or painful stimulus
    # Avoids interpersonal relationships
    # Feelings of inadequacy
    # Severe low self-esteem
    # Self-loathing
    # Mistrust of others
    # Emotional distancing related to intimacy
    # Highly self-conscious
    # Self-critical about their problems relating to others
    # Problems in occupational functioning
    # Lonely self-perception, although others may find the relationship with them meaningful
    # Feeling inferior to others
    # In some more extreme cases — agoraphobia
    # Utilizes fantasy as a form of escapism and to interrupt painful thoughts

    i have 13 out of those 17 listed symptoms..

    but im thinking since im still a kid (17 so young adult actually) that some of these this are normal for me and shouldnt be flagged as a problem unless that person is an adult...
    so what do you think ?

    • ANSWER:
      Hi there, I am so sorry you feel like this, i wont say i understand how you feel, as we all feel different i do understand the symptoms however even if they affect us different, It's not overly unusual i can assure you, Self confidence is very underestimated. It is not a social disorder but more of a self confidence disorder. Again i wont insult you by saying it gets better but i do recommend therapy to help you overcome a least a few of these feelings you have and in time perhaps you can deal with them better and maybe even use the happy face as i call it to hide behind untill you feel comfortable. i wish you all the luck in the world and hope you can overcome this and stand proud.

  12. QUESTION:
    how likely is it that i have an anxiety disorder and...?
    should i get treatment....well here's my story. i am 17..will be 18 next month....anyways i'm always couped up inside my house because i feel comfortable in the safety of my own home...i lie about being sick to avoid
    1. going to my friends houses
    2. going to parties
    3. going to school occasionally but especially when there is a group project, or i have to speak in front of the class or something like that.
    4. going to visit family.
    5. when someone is going to come over (well actually what i do on this one is if no one else is home i'll hide and not answer the door but if someone else is home i'll hide in the other room...)

    also i have trouble with these things

    6. every year when school starts it takes me about 12-20 weeks to start loosening up and not being AS anxious....
    7. when i have to talk in front of a group no matter what size i shake and i get dizzy, a headache, stomach ache, nausea, and i stutter, and my eyes water up...
    8. i HIGHLY fear talking on the phone....if the phone rings i either hand it to my mom or i push the end button...sometimes i'll answer it...but not usually.
    9. i have trouble with making eye contact
    10. i always feel awkward around adults or authority like they are judging me and they think that i'm stupid
    11. I always feel like i'm being watched and i avoid doing certain things because of it (for example: excercising)
    12. i often feel depressed or stressed out
    13. unlike regular shyness it gets worse with time...i didn't use to be this bad...
    14. I quit band which i loved so much because i didn't like marching in front of all the people and i didn't like doing the concerts in front of others...and also i felt like i wasn't good enough
    15. i always feel like i need to please everyone and i can't
    16. (i don't know if this one has anything to do with it or not BUT) I always get headaches....at least once or twice a week (and its not as bad during the summer but with school its all the time)
    17. if i'm going to go somewhere (like out of town or on vacation) i get really happy about it but then when it comes time to go i get really nervous and try to think of excuses not to go...reasons to stay home instead)
    18. (again i don't know if it has anything to do with anxiety disorders BUT) i have an extreme fear of being touched. i can't handle it and i freak out.
    19. I don't like people watching me do things like eating, drawing, talking, writing, things like that
    theres alot more that i fear...but they are all pretty much social stuff like that...u know...and anyways what do u think about all that?

    • ANSWER:
      It is very likely that you have social anxiety disorder. The headaches and fear of being touched would have something to do with this. You describe the symptoms exactly like social anxiety disorder. You should get treatment because it will get worse with time. I would talk to your parents about it. Here is a site with good info
      http://www.socialanxietysupport.com
      Good luck!

  13. QUESTION:
    social studies home work please help me if you can :D and if you do thank you sooo much?
    Complete the following questions.
    1. __________ is a mood disorder that involves feelings of sadness, helplessness, hopelessness, worthlessness, and guilt.
    2. __________ is a general state of dread or uneasiness.
    3. Dissociative amnesia is caused by
    A) a traumatic event.
    B) a severe head injury.
    C) genetic factors.
    D) all of the above.
    4. The word __________ derives from the Greek word for "fear."
    5. Periods of ____________ involve extreme excitement characterized by hyperactivity and chaotic behavior.
    6. During a(n) __________, a person may experience intense fear and become short of breath and dizzy.
    7. The short-term anxiety disorder that may occur almost immediately after a traumatic event is
    A) post-traumatic stress disorder.
    B) acute stress disorder.
    C) obsessive-compulsive disorder.
    D) panic disorder.
    8. Conversion disorders involve a change in
    A) mood from depression to mania.
    B) levels of anxiety about an object associated with a traumatic event.
    C) body shape from compulsive dieting.
    D) physical functioning with no medical explanation.
    9. Match each item with the correct statement.
    A. somatization
    B. hypochondriasis
    C. catatonic stupor
    D. simple phobia
    E. dissociation

    ABCDE Anxiety disorder involving a persistent excessive or irrational fear
    ABCDE Separation of personality traits or mental processes from conscious thought
    ABCDE Expression of psychological distress through physical symptoms
    ABCDE Unrealistic preoccupation with the fear that one has a serious disease
    ABCDE Comalike state 10. __________ is the fear of being in crowded places in which escape may be difficult or impossible.
    11. A person with an excessive fear of public speaking might have a(n) __________ phobia.
    12. Mood disorders fall into the general categories of
    A) depression and bipolar disorders.
    B) biological and psychological disorders.
    C) anxiety and mania.
    D) neuroses and psychoses.
    13. The personality disorder that causes people to be distrustful and suspicious of others is
    A) schizoid personality disorder.
    B) avoidant personality disorder.
    C) paranoid personality disorder.
    D) antisocial personality disorder.
    14. In the United States, psychological disorders affect
    A) less than one fifth of all adults.
    B) about one fourth of all adults.
    C) almost one third of all adults.
    D) close to half of all adults.
    15. Many people with panic disorder also have
    A) zoophobia.
    B) claustrophobia.
    C) agoraphobia.
    D) arachnophobia.
    16. __________ anxiety disorders last at least six months and involve an excessive or unrealistic worry about life circumstances.
    17. People who are loners and cannot become attached to other people are likely to have
    A) paranoid schizophrenia.
    B) schizoid personality disorder.
    C) dissociative identity disorder.
    D) panic disorder.
    18. A person is diagnosed with major depression when he or she
    A) has symptoms of depression that last for at least two weeks.
    B) has symptoms of depression that occur nearly every day.
    C) experiences at least five of the nine symptoms of depression.
    D) all of the above.
    19. People with disorganized schizophrenia are likely to experience
    A) loss of bladder control.
    B) inappropriate emotions.
    C) incoherent thought and speech patterns.
    D) all of the above.
    20. People with personality disorders suffer disruptions in their social life or work because of
    A) patterns of inflexible traits.
    B) delusions of grandeur.
    C) hallucinations.
    D) all of the above.
    21. Personality disorder with the characteristics of having being suspiciousness and distrust of others’ motives are usually considered
    A) paranoid
    B) schizoid
    C) antisocial
    D) narcissistic

    • ANSWER:
      By the time you wrote all this down you could of done your homework.

  14. QUESTION:
    Why can't I function in Society?
    I use to be able to. I was so popular my whole life, I made friends everywhere I went almost instantly, I never really had any dull moments for the majority of my life.

    Now, that's all changed. I look at kids today, in college, my old friends, everyone, and I feel like I just don't fit in anymore. I have sense had panic attacks, extreme anxiety, to the point to where I am almost crippled from being able to social with people. It's like one day I woke up and I was this whole different person.

    But let me tell you why I feel this way. I see all of these people and in their pictures, they're flipping off the camera, wasted, playing video games, honestly, they just like punks... and even though they may be smiling and acting happy, I want to have no part of that. You see, I use to be like that, partying, drinking, getting girls, you name it...but then, I just stopped and I don't know why. I do know, that it lead me to the Bible, which I had never read before. I mean, my whole way of thinking changed, it's like everything made sense to me. Like, people who drink, party and have no real direction if their life, is probably not going to be a good friend down the road.

    I had to learn it the hard way, because that's exactly what happened. I see kids my age today, young adults really, and I feel as though I have nothing in common with them anymore. I mean, when I go to to a job interview, I'm more professional than the people who are interviewing me and on most occasions I'm more competent than my superiors. The funny thing is, it's not like I'm trying to be "super man", but it's like nobody even gives 10% and nobody really cares about doing a good job. They just want to talk about football and the Jersey Shore and gossip all day, and I don't do any of those things.

    I just feel like there's something wrong with me sometimes. most of the time, I'm strong, but I'm so isolated and so alone and I feel so miserable, because my life has changed and I have nobody. I mean, I'm glad I see the world this way, all of my old friends are either still doings, in jail, or working at local super-market and it wouldn't be so bad, but it's like a pandemic, I mean I go outside and really feel as though the majority of people are this way and I really don't know what to do.

    • ANSWER:
      You can't function in society because society is full of blind zombies. you'd have to watch every episode of jersey shore to fit in. Wisdom is no longer a virtue in america.

  15. QUESTION:
    Trapped in Polk County, Jobless and Psychologically unstable. How do I get help?
    First off, let me explain to you my situation here.
    I'm 20 years old. I'm living in a trailer park with a family of six kids and 2 adults.
    I am on probation currently because of something stupid I did.
    I have tattoos, piercings and gauges.
    I recently lost my job.
    The family I live with is on cash assistance and food stamps.
    I was denied unemployment due to my lack of income in one of their so called "quarters."
    I cannot apply for any kind of assistance because I am registered here through the sheriff's office and If I do, it will cut into their benefits.
    I am not going to risk trying to trick DCF or the government that I live somewhere else so I can get assistance, because if they find out otherwise, I can get into a lot of trouble.
    I cannot claim I am giving them rent money so I CAN apply for the assistance, because that would make them lose THEIR assistance.
    I cannot go back home due to who my mother married.
    I am at risk of being homeless due to our landlord.
    I have been trying to go through Polk works, but that process is slow and unrewarding.
    I have been looking through snagajob.com and monster.com without any luck.
    I have been putting in paper applications without any luck.
    I cannot go through job-corp because I am on probation.

    Now. Here is my other issue. I have social anxiety. I do not get along very well with others and my customer service sucks. I have extreme paranoia (I can be sitting in the living room and think that everyone elsewhere is talking about me). I am compulsive and do not think my actions through before I do them, which resulted in me being on probation right now. I am extremely emotional, little things make me cry. Depression tops all of this. These things make me have an issue with keeping a regular job.

    I AM SMART. I got a 3.8 GPA in high school. I have my diploma. Ended up losing bright futures because of a technicality.

    But I can't just go back to school if I can't even support myself. I NEED to live on my own.

    I have gone to a behavioral health clinic that is for poor people, and I am continuing to go.
    But I have high Morales and don't like drugs which is a big problem. Because in order for me to get a psychological evaluation, the therapists I see has to think I need medication. I don't want medication. So if I don't get tested for being CRAZY and put on meds....I would not even be able to apply for SSI.

    Even if I changed my mind about the meds....the therapist I am seeing is female (No offense to you ladies) and she is extremely knowitall and gives me lines like: "I have hormones just like you, so what you're feeling is normal" bullshit.

    WHAT IN THE WORLD CAN I DO?
    I'm pretty much an introvert and would never hurt myself.
    But I feel lost and no guidance what so ever.
    I apologize to rose, sorry for not including everything.

    - I am not religious. In fact I have lost faith in christ when I was 14. I have attempted to believe countless times and it just not work for me. I am extremely logical and I cannot just trust what a book says or what others try to convince me of otherwise.

    - I also am very infatuated with alternative styles of dress. I do not have ambition to work a desk job, be a doctor or otherwise be part of the "normal society." This plays in part with my resentment towards people and what has happened in my past.

    - My dream of actually becoming somewhat involved in society is to own a club/bar, but that is not obtainable right now.

    - Military is also not an option, I had an episode during bootcamp and I am no longer welcomed.

    - Please try and put yourself in my position. My mind works in strange ways and it's not easy for me to just do what everyone else does.

    • ANSWER:
      'Ended up losing bright futures because of a technicality'. What is that? That is ridiculous.
      You cant lose a bright future because of a technicality.
      You are down playing your probation, and what ever that is about.
      YOu have done something that got you kicked out of the military.
      What is this , are you gay?
      Have you fried your self control brain center with drugs/?

      I am glad that you are going to the behavioral health clinic,and the only way you can get ssi is to play their game and do it their way. Ask for a new psychiatrist.
      otherwise it is a job and stay at a mens shelter. or something.

      It seems you might benefit from talking to people you admire and asking them to mentor and advise you, so that you could own your own bar or make some kind of dream and plan happen for yourself.
      Owning a bar takes a lot of people skills.
      You could take this free version of a healing tool and try it on all your anxiety and problems eftuniverse.com click on 'get started free'
      best wishes

  16. QUESTION:
    Do I have OCD or is this behavior normal?
    Ok now to be quite honest I am incredibly odd....
    I have a odd interest in psychology and history basically anything behavior wise as far as peoples characteristics or how society acts as a whole. I tend to view the majority of people as being odd as well, namely cause I can pick up on oddities and most people I find to be well pretentious. Saying this I should also mention, I know I can be somewhat narcissistic when it comes to my personality. Where it gets odd is I technically have a diagnosis of ADHD inattentive which means I have ADHD but I tend to be introverted or compulsive, basically I tend to get lost in my own thoughts. I have extreme attention problems, I am a adult now I am starting to actually deal with my attention issues but I am finding my anxiety issues are still there and my fidgetyness and my anxiety are not treated with my medication.
    I find my anxiety sometimes spikes during certain times, basically I get what feels like social anxiety a lot and sometimes its too much to bear and id rather be bymyself, I tend to play with a key chain a lot while in public, it calms me. I tend to like to talk out my ideas and problems to myself, in order to organize my thoughts. When I am organizing my thoughts or talking out my ideas usually its while I am showering or cleaning (unfortunately it seems to take forever for me to get any cleaning done I am not exactly sure what I do)
    I do not feel as though this is side effects of my medication since I feel the same if not worse without them. I do notice that when someone interrupts my line of thinking I become slightly agitated sometimes to the point of anger.
    I find the real annoyance is how I feel that everything has a solution and I don't let go of things easily tend to hold grudges, also how I will sometimes wake up in the middle of the night to look for a cell phone, laptop, wallet, paper, or sometimes it forms in paranoia of forgetting a thought and I feel oddly I must write it down. When doing paper work I will not write anything down until I have it mapped in my head how its going to look.
    I do not feel that this is destroying my life other than my social life, most people can not deal with my personality, and I have no will to change these habits. I do not do these things in public or around other people cause it is socially unacceptable.
    I do not feel delusional or crazy, I do sometimes believe maybe I am a hypochondriac but I am unsure.

    Are these behaviours or feelings normal for ADHD, does the medication deal with the fidgetyness issue or are my symptoms more compulsive like than anything else.
    If anyone mentions controlled diet, I have tried it and researched it anyone with actual ADHD will not respond to the level needed for their symptoms to diminish.

    • ANSWER:
      wellll, i'm only going to be a junior in undergraduate school, but i think many people with OCD have obsessive anxieties and the way they deal with it is to do weird things like everytime they touch something they need to wash their hands and then their mom won't die in a car crash. it doesn't really make any sense. usually they'll be scared their mom would die in a crash but when they were washing their hands their mom came home and they felt relief so it made the behavior more likely to occur. so when they obsessively have these moms gonna die in a car crash thoughts they'd get anxious and start washing their hands alot and soon they're always washing their hands. things like that. like then you use it for more things as well. anytime your anxious. and it can be a lot of weird things. idk if i were you i'd talk to a psychologist to see what they said. but idk if what you described was as severe? i'm not sure. ask a professional i'd say.

  17. QUESTION:
    Do I still have asperger's syndrom as an adult?
    When I was a little girl I was diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome due to my extreme behavior problems and unusual talents by various doctors. I was good a piano, sound imitation and drawing. I did not like to be hugged and I was afraid of other kids. Growing up, I was in special ed because of my behavior and was teased a lot. I was skilled and focused at some things, but could not fit in with my peers. This has lead to bouts of depression and difficulty getting along with people sometimes as an adult. I fit all the symptoms of an aspie except for one thing. I am affectionate and very aware of people’s emotions. I am affectionate to the point of being almost needy. Because of my low self esteem I have been in abusive relationships. I don’t wish to be alone. I do have some social anxiety because I am worried about what people think. When I am comfortable I can carry on a great conversation. I just hate small talk and awkward silence. Is it possible that I still have asperger’s syndrome as an adult?

    • ANSWER:
      Asperger's syndrome is not something one can grow out of or be cured from. If you had it as a child, then you still have it and always will.

      Every aspie is different and the symptoms vary between individuals, except for a few key symptoms that are mentioned in the diagnostic criteria. Affection and empathy are not mentioned in the diagnostic criteria, so having them does not exclude a diagnosis of Asperger's syndrome. Some aspies are affectionate and aware of other people's emotions.

  18. QUESTION:
    What Services do you have or applied for for disabled child verses a disabled adult child ?
    My differently able (disabled ) son has recently turned 18.I hae no clue where to go from here . What services or agencies(state Federal) provide for adult children.The irony is until 1 year ago when i became ill i was a virtual volunteer information provider for family/caregiver support for ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorders) Mental Behavioral Health , Special Education Services, Learning Neurological , and Developmental Disabilities Delays & disorders.But all information over the years I collected saved studied passed along was for children under the age of 18.I could write an IEP for a family 2 hours away from me fix it and fax it with my eyes closed.But now I am out of my element previously I went off experience .How i had to fight for my own child and the battles I won. Now we Have many new battles ahead of us any advice?
    My son's Present Diagnoses Currently stands as co morbidly compromised Aspergers Syndrome -Specific learning Disorder (Reading) NON Verbal Learning Disorder Early Onset Bipolar Disorder/Bipolar I, extreme Anxiety,Insomnia,& Difficulty with Fine and Gross Motor Skills Late 2009- Spring 2010 He had a Difficult Time with a bout of Anhedonia .He is a senior in a Vocation High school.He was due to graduate this spring .But State standardized testing has put a delay on his graduation date by a year .Unless we want to opt out for a certificate of completion.Which we wont he was an honoroll student until his Junior year when he had a set back and majority of his classes are nuerotypical classes.He has major delays in life skills but his social skills are very much up to speed he just does not have many opportunities to use them in the NT community outside of his academics.He will be continuing to College prep then college.Verses Life Skills/Vocational/Residential Living Programs.He is learning at his pace independence .
    Thank you for any information you may provide .gsmom
    (please excuse the grammar spell check is down) Thank you

    • ANSWER:
      I do one one on one work with Developmentally Disabled children and adults. Does your son receive CAP services. You know Home and Community, Personal Care or Respite, if not he can. There are independent assisted living apartments and such.

  19. QUESTION:
    do you ever wish life would come to you instead of going after chasing it?
    im 33 and ive faced adversitys in my life, psychological problems , homelessness, prison , mental hospitals, harrassment , bullying , violent problems....squandering oppotunitys.

    as such i missed out on all the average things people take for granted ; living life - building adult relationships - getting qualifications - being employed - enjoying life.

    i left my happy times back in my childhood and early teenage years..

    ive missed out at 33, im not getting any younger....and i feel angry with that !

    ( clenching my teeth)

    i realise if i want a happy life of fulfillent , to build meaningful adult relationships that im gonna have to go out there and try to get it ?

    which is difficult because i still struggle with social skills and anger problems - difficulty mixing with people....struggle with my confidence.......being offended and sensitive to what people say and do, paranoia , extreme anxiety .....................................so its not easy to just go into society?

    im a very lonely figure today , i have no one except my immediate family, mainly my 60 year old mother who im very close to...................the song 'cathys clown ' by the etherly brothers reminds me of her and 60s music in general.

    im a very bitter angry person...............i dont like to give of myself again to people, only to get rejected.

    why bother ?

    i hate the fact i have to go outhere to get a happy life , why cant it just come easy like it does for other people ?

    not sure if someone can relate to this ......i know this is very deep and goes beyond most peoples comprehension.

    thanks

    • ANSWER:
      of course i do, who doesnt?

      everything you have been through will only make you stronger. if you made it through all those problems whats stopping you from going out and making your life?
      the people who get life handed to them arent strong enough to stand all that, and eventually things may make a bad turn in their lives and they wont know how to handle it because all theyve had in their lives was good

      wishing you could get things handed to you isnt going to make it that way. it may be unfair but if you really want something you dont have youre going to have to work for it. i may not know exactly what youre going through but i have been and am in a similar situation with the social problems and its very hard to get over those problems and its going to be a long process but you have to take it one step at a time.

      good luck with everything and i hope things get better for you

  20. QUESTION:
    is it true a decent psychiatrist should exhaust the psychosomatic route first?
    meaning they should rule out / do investigations into physical reasons for mental health problems before they accept its psychological reasons ?

    its just im 33 now and they never did this with me , in my life i faced a lot of adversitys - social problems , learning problems , then later on psychological problems, rage and personality problems it started at around 16 years old after suffering harassment in my bigger school ( secondary school ) i was teased and bullied because i were very quiet /reserved.

    i lost contact with good friends from primary school and missed out on an average normal life because of all my problems i faced - missed out on working , building adult relationships and getting qualifications and further learning and studying.

    i was a very handsome lovely boy had quite a many of encounters with girls and girls fancying me , but that was a long time ago, before all my problems started really.

    since then my life has been very dark , come from some very dark, remote , desolate places.

    i presently live alone and endure loneliness, because i long to meet likeminded people who are also like me and quiet or reserved maybe..

    so far , the psychiatric services have attributed my problems to all being ' psychological and mental ' and not anything ' neurological ' ie - personality disorders and extreme anxiety problems.

    ive been taking anti depresseants, mirtazaphine and seroquel for depression and anxiety - but the mirtazaphine was not working so the psychiatrist has decided to switch me to citaliphram instead.

    i read somewhere recently that a good psychiatrist should exhaust the physical /neurological reasons first before concluding that a persons problems are psychological .

    is this true ? because they have never done this with me ?

    • ANSWER:
      Your question is confusing. First of all, psychiatrists treat psychosomatic illnesses as part of their general practice. With regard to "exhausting physical and neurological reasons" you are absolutely correct. A "good" psychiatrist will do enough history to determine whether or not there might be some organic reason for certain symptoms. Generally this would involve a complete physical, including blood chemistry. A Neurological evaluation is also a good idea.

  21. QUESTION:
    Is it true a decent psychiatrist should exhaust the physical route first?
    meaning they should rule out / do investigations into physical reasons for mental health problems before they accept its psychological reasons ?

    its just im 33 now and they never did this with me , in my life i faced a lot of adversitys - social problems , learning problems , then later on psychological problems, rage and personality problems it started at around 16 years old after suffering harassment in my bigger school ( secondary school ) i was teased and bullied because i were very quiet /reserved.

    i lost contact with good friends from primary school and missed out on an average normal life because of all my problems i faced - missed out on working , building adult relationships and getting qualifications and further learning and studying.

    i was a very handsome lovely boy had quite a many of encounters with girls and girls fancying me , but that was a long time ago, before all my problems started really.

    since then my life has been very dark , come from some very dark, remote , desolate places.

    i presently live alone and endure loneliness, because i long to meet likeminded people who are also like me and quiet or reserved maybe..

    so far , the psychiatric services have attributed my problems to all being ' psychological and mental ' and not anything ' neurological ' ie - personality disorders and extreme anxiety problems.

    ive been taking anti depresseants, mirtazaphine and seroquel for depression and anxiety - but the mirtazaphine was not working so the psychiatrist has decided to switch me to citaliphram instead.

    i read somewhere recently that a good psychiatrist should exhaust the physical /neurological reasons first before concluding that a persons problems are psychological .

    is this true ? because they have never done this with me ?

    do you understand my question ? what im saying ?

    thanks

    • ANSWER:
      Hi,

      personality disorders and anxiety problems are psychological rather than neurological problems too.

      What you say is true, some physical illnesses can cause mental health problems. However, most of these have physical symptoms too, such as high temperatures or infection. People can have symptoms similar to psychosis because of an infection, or feel depressed and drained after a virus. Usually, when the physical symptoms subside, the mental health symptoms resolve in a couple of weeks.

      Brain tumours, strokes and brain injury can also cause psychological symptoms, but they also cause physical symptoms such as headache, double vision, seizures, loss of balance, partial paralysis, one sided weakness and so on. You would notice more than anxiety and depression if you had these!

      Sometimes something that you yourself are physically doing can make psychiatric symptoms worse - if your lifestyle includes lots of drink, drugs, junk food and little sleep or exercise, your mental health is going to suffer.

      A very few mental illnesses have organic causes - Alzheimer's, Korsakoff's, Huntington's... The first one is incredibly rare if you're under 60, the second one is very rare and involves drinking far too much over a period of many, many years, and the third one is a dominant genetic condition that you don't have unless one of your parents have it.

      There are loads of other conditions which can cause mental health symptoms, but if you're otherwise reasonably fit and healthy, the probability is that your mental health symptoms are symptoms of... mental ill health. What you describe in your question is a series of events from your childhood that could impact on the way you live your life as an adult - psychological problems.

      You say that you've missed out on education and working - you're 33, not 103, why not give them a go now? It really is the best way to meet like minded people. Sometimes it takes some time to find the right medication, and your psychiatrist may have to fiddle about with drugs and doses, but you could also try a talking treatment, especially in view of the problems you've had in your past. Shrinks are doctors - they note medical problems as part of a patient history, and if there's nothing suggestive in the symptoms you're complaining of, it's likely that your shrink got all the information s/he needs from your GP.

      Good luck!

  22. QUESTION:
    Help me figure out if I'm depressed, confused, or just stupid, and how to get happy again?
    I'm a 22 year old male with a college degree and great work experience, some money saved up, currently traveling the world.

    And I'm rather unhappy, for some stupid reason I can't fully understand. Yeah, boo-hoo, right? But try to bear with me.

    7 weeks ago I broke up with my girlfriend back home in a stupid fight caused by my trust issues and stress from work. Though now I'm realizing it wasn't just work - I'm struggling with making the transition from college to adulthood. It's as if I only recently finally figured out my identity, and now it's under question again.

    But not enjoying my job was part of the problem, so I decided to do the whole world travel thing for a couple months. I know it's too early to talk since it's only been a week since I left home, but it's been rather unenjoyable so far. I saw it as a solution, and it's turning out to be...well, not. I find myself just having lots of free time to think, which is bad. While I think about my ex, that isn't the biggest thing on my mind. What's worse is the fear of not being able to find someone who I'd be happy with. I know, everyone's picky - but my deal-breaker is a particular trait that I'm rather embarassed to admit - and that's not having extreme self-respect and purity. Which most women my age do not. Look around - slutty clothing, random hookups, songs on the radio about nothing but sex - I feel like the older, more innocent views on love and women are gone, yet I have trouble adapting to how things are now. And it's even worse when traveling. Hostels have mixed bedrooms and sometimes unisex showers, AND people are more "care-free" when traveling.
    Though don't misunderstand - I have no issues with people having past sexual partners. It's treating their body like a toy rather than something sacred to be shared in a special way - that's what kills it for me. I know it's silly - and obviously being a good person takes presedence, but sadly that isn't enough - I've tried.

    So I find myself feeling hopeless when it comes to love, and one of my main goals in life has always been finding the right girl and having a successful marriage since my own parents always fought and later separated.

    I'm trying to put that out of my mind for a while, but I'm feeling rather unenthusiastic about any adventures i have the opportunity to undertake on my travels, and am not particularly enjoying anything. In fact i feel like I'd be just as (un)happy going to work, going to the gym, having a beer, and going to bed like I did back home.

    The list of possible causes may be:
    - focusing too much on the seemingly hopeless love situation
    - still feeling the aftereffects of the breakup and not realizing it
    - struggling to build my "adult" identity
    - not knowing what i should do with my life

    I'm not feeling particularly energetic or good about myself, but I don't think my self-esteem is extremely low so i wouldn't call this your typical depression. My past social anxiety issues are surfacing a little, and my day tends to have rather large mood swings - great around breakfast time, then decreasing throughout the day and at times having a "what's the point" feeling. But that feeling is different from low self-esteem. It strikes me as more of a hopelessness. I'm not willing to try new things anymore because most things i try end up being unsatisfactory.

    So, what exactly is my issue here, and what should I do to make the best of my situation and get in a good mood again? It's been quite a while since I've gone an entire day without being significantly unhappy.

    • ANSWER:

  23. QUESTION:
    Do you think I actually have a personality disorder?
    I was diagnosed with Avoidant Personality Disorder. I am only 16 years old (I thought you had to be an adult in the first place), and I do not believe that I have this disorder.
    Some of the things I agree with, such as feeling insufficient to the entire world, basically. Thus ONE of the reasons why I developed an Eating Disorder and self harmed. I do have a bit of social anxiety, but it's not to the point where I feel as though I can't go out into the world or talk to people. In fact, I've managed to "latch on" to certain people, as pathetic as it sounds. But I enjoy their company and I would hate it if they were to leave me. I'm not sure if that's actually a trait of Avoidant Personality, but I don't think that people with this disorder actually do this....do they? I think that people with Avoidant Personality Disorder wish for attention (don't they?), but don't actually go through with obtaining it....I'm afraid that I am a little more extreme than that. I lie or exaggerate the truth to some people because I know that they can't prove me wrong, and I have even thought about the consequences of hurting myself to get myself into a situation in which the attention is on me. It's disguisting, but I do it. BUT. I am also a conservative person, and would never dress or act differently than who I really am to gain this attention. Just making that clear.
    Basically I'm just confused with my diagnosis. Am I Avoidant? Something else? Nothing?
    It's not a self diagnosis. I underwent an evaluation. I promise.

    • ANSWER:
      the avoidance is not in your social life, the avoidance in such a disorder refers to your denial of the disorder to begin with. You avoid believing what they are telling you, that is why the label of avoidance disorder. Cutting, lieing, latching on to people to gain self esteem, all point to the fact that you do have a problem and it needs to be dealt with.

  24. QUESTION:
    How do I began the socialization process for an adult dog with fear aggression?
    I have a 35 lbs, 3 yr old pit. We have had him since birth (owned his mother). When he was a puppy he was very social, with other non-pack animals and people. But ever since a traumatic event occured in his puppyhood (gas leak in house, had to put his mother and him in garage. mom chewed through door, police were called, police tranqed mom then put her down in my backyard w/o calling. puppy took to humane society and got parvo) he has extreme anxiety towards non-pack animals and people and shows aggression when approached by strangers in the home (growling, stiff tail, barking) and shows extreme fear/anxiety in public. he also goes into this same mode when outside on property.

    though he has never bit a person or another dog, i really want to be able to leave him out when i have company, or take him out on walks w/o the drama. other than this issue he really is the perfect dog. very gentle and loving with everyone inside the home, and with the people that visit often. he also is very affectionate with any new baby animal we may bring into the home.

    i have tried training classes at petsmart, if anything just hoping he can be there w/o being so anxious but even after 6 weeks his behavior didnt change (though he did learn sit and lay down).

    i know he's a smart dog, and has great potential, however, i have no clue how to socialize him again when he is just so scared/anxious in the first place. any ideas?
    i AM NOT putting the dog down wats wrong with some of you?? as i said, he is EXTREMELY loving and submissive and gentle with ppl/animals he knows, including me. and he has NEVER bitten anyone or any other animal, even when loose dogs come on our property. he just chases them away.

    • ANSWER:
      Yes i agree with the others he needs an expert,and he can be helped

  25. QUESTION:
    Unless you have experience involving depression,anxiety, trauma etc you have no place being a counselor?
    Do you agree or disagree? I had counselors in my time who just didn't have the emotional depth or the experience to understand me at all. The worst are the middle aged ones who've been successfully put through the system and lived normal happy lives. Nice childhood, good school, university, marriage, kids, good respectable job working with "troubled" young people.

    They have NO clue. They have no experience with domestic violence, drugs, suicide, self harm, etc, except the role play experiences they've done, and talking to other "troubled" young people. And many of them used to treat me like I was less intelligent than them because I came from a different background, they talked to me like I was a small child. Many doctors gave me pills I didn't need (while denouncing drug use as they handed me the prescription). And many tried to find some "cause" for the way I was. Sorry, I have no bombshell to drop. I was never raped or witness to a brutal murder. Or the used my "upsetting" background as the cause, when plenty of people I know went through all the same things I did and never developed depression or problems.

    While I was going through this, there was a girl in my school (the 15 year old version of the middle class success story), This girl was judgmental, sheltered, innocent in the extreme, no people skills. She was afraid to come to my house because of where I lived, had no clue when it came to drugs, self harm, domestic abuse, working class culture, etc. Her mummy shouted at her once, and this girl used a steak knife to make one measly attention seeking scratch on her arm.

    This made her think. She wanted to help troubled teenagers like her. She wanted to be a counselor! She even admitted the scratch (and I mean like a scrape from a cat) was to upset her mother. She had no scope. And she couldn't "read" people, if you know what I mean by that.

    Eventually I got sick of her ramblings about how depressed she was (bull, she was a self centered brat who had been brought up to think she was absolutely wonderful and believed it) and how horrific (her) self harm ordeal had been I showed her the recent 80 or so mm deep gashes in my arm, and she was horrified, absolutely horrified, disgusted, gobsmacked and thought I was "crazy". Yup the same reaction some of the adult versions of her gave me.

    I haven't seen her in years, but the thought that girl is now on her way to being a counselor, scares me. Why are we letting this happen to our kids? Letting severely depressed or abused children be looked after and "counseled" by these people!

    Like the cases of baby P and various other children, who's social workers and such were incompetent idiots who thought it would be "lovely" to help children for a living, but didn't spot the abuse and neglect going on right under their own noses!

    My aunt works with kids in a school as a class room assistant, and she can spot the warning signs for an abuse case miles away, having been their herself, she gets these children's trust and helps them. Often teachers don't notice anything wrong until she notifies the principle who in turn notifies them. Sadly she just doesn't have the money to advance her career. It all makes me so angry!

    What are your opinions on all this?
    Do you agree or disagree? I had counselors in my time who just didn't have the emotional depth or the experience to
    understand me at all. The worst are the middle aged ones who've been successfully put through the system and lived normal happy lives. Nice childhood, good school, university, marriage, kids, good respectable job working with "troubled" young people.

    They have NO clue. They have no experience with domestic violence, drugs, suicide, self harm, etc, except the role play experiences they've done, and talking to other "troubled" young people. And many of them used to treat me like I was less intelligent than them because I came from a different background, they talked to me like I was a small child. Many doctors gave me pills I didn't need (while denouncing drug use as they handed me the prescription). And many tried to find some "cause" for
    the way I was. Sorry, I have no bombshell to drop. I was never raped or witness to a brutal murder. Or they used my "upsetting" b
    something went wrong adding details plus not enough space, so

    http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100726004120AA57JOs

    For my answers to what Alex and beauty D had to say

    • ANSWER:
      I completely agree with you but how will the world develop this thought of process how do we get those whom have experienced such traumatising events to believe in them self enough to complete the required degree.. i am currently studying a bachelor of law social science and psychology, i seem to also be surrounded by troublesome events as well as being involved in a broken home and so on, for this reason i believe i will be more successful then someone who has learnt such symptoms and behaviours from a book because i know i will be able to genuinely help and understand the patient.

      I can truly go one for ever but this is not the place, the class room works better :)

  26. QUESTION:
    Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?
    Match each item with the correct statement.
    A. somatization
    B. hypochondriasis
    C. catatonic stupor
    D. simple phobia
    E. dissociation

    ABCDEAnxiety disorder involving a persistent excessive or irrational fear
    ABCDESeparation of personality traits or mental processes from conscious thought
    ABCDEExpression of psychological distress through physical symptoms
    ABCDEUnrealistic preoccupation with the fear that one has a serious disease
    ABCDEComalike state

    2. In the United States, psychological disorders affect
    A) less than one fifth of all adults.
    B) about one fourth of all adults.
    C) almost one third of all adults.
    D) close to half of all adults.

    3. The short-term anxiety disorder that may occur almost immediately after a traumatic event is
    A) post-traumatic stress disorder.
    B) acute stress disorder.
    C) obsessive-compulsive disorder.
    D) panic disorder.

    4. Many people with panic disorder also have
    A) zoophobia.
    B) claustrophobia.
    C) agoraphobia.
    D) arachnophobia.

    5. Dissociative amnesia is caused by
    A) a traumatic event.
    B) a severe head injury.
    C) genetic factors.
    D) all of the above.

    6. Conversion disorders involve a change in
    A) mood from depression to mania.
    B) levels of anxiety about an object associated with a traumatic event.
    C) body shape from compulsive dieting.
    D) physical functioning with no medical explanation.

    7. Mood disorders fall into the general categories of
    A) depression and bipolar disorders.
    B) biological and psychological disorders.
    C) anxiety and mania.
    D) neuroses and psychoses.

    8. People with disorganized schizophrenia are likely to experience
    A) loss of bladder control.
    B) inappropriate emotions.
    C) incoherent thought and speech patterns.
    D) all of the above.

    9. The personality disorder that causes people to be distrustful and suspicious of others is
    A) schizoid personality disorder.
    B) avoidant personality disorder.
    C) paranoid personality disorder.
    D) antisocial personality disorder.

    10. A person is diagnosed with major depression when he or she
    A) has symptoms of depression that last for at least two weeks.
    B) has symptoms of depression that occur nearly every day.
    C) experiences at least five of the nine symptoms of depression.
    D) all of the above.

    11. People with personality disorders suffer disruptions in their social life or work because of
    A) patterns of inflexible traits.
    B) delusions of grandeur.
    C) hallucinations.
    D) all of the above.

    12. People who are loners and cannot become attached to other people are likely to have
    A) paranoid schizophrenia.
    B) schizoid personality disorder.
    C) dissociative identity disorder.
    D) panic disorder.

    13. Personality disorder with the characteristics of having being suspiciousness and distrust of others’ motives are usually considered
    A) paranoid
    B) schizoid
    C) antisocial
    D) narcissistic

    14. During a(n) __________, a person may experience intense fear and become short of breath and dizzy.

    15. __________ is a mood disorder that involves feelings of sadness, helplessness, hopelessness, worthlessness, and guilt.

    16. Periods of ____________ involve extreme excitement characterized by hyperactivity and chaotic behavior.

    17. The word __________ derives from the Greek word for "fear."

    18. __________ anxiety disorders last at least six months and involve an excessive or unrealistic worry about life circumstances.

    19. __________ is the fear of being in crowded places in which escape may be difficult or impossible.

    20. __________ is a general state of dread or uneasiness.

    21. A person with an excessive fear of public speaking might have a(n) __________ phobia.

    • ANSWER:
      Match each item with the correct statement.
      A. somatization
      B. hypochondriasis
      C. catatonic stupor
      D. simple phobia
      E. dissociation

      D - Anxiety disorder involving a persistent excessive or irrational fear
      E - Separation of personality traits or mental processes from conscious thought
      A - Expression of psychological distress through physical symptoms
      B - Unrealistic preoccupation with the fear that one has a serious disease
      C - Comalike state

      2. In the United States, psychological disorders affect
      B) about one fourth of all adults.

      3. The short-term anxiety disorder that may occur almost immediately after a traumatic event is
      B) acute stress disorder.
      NB. "The main difference between acute stress disorder and PTSD is the requirement that for the diagnosis of the former, three dissociative symptoms must be present."

      4. Many people with panic disorder also have
      C) agoraphobia.

      5. Dissociative amnesia is caused by
      A) a traumatic event.
      NB: "Dissociative amnesia, unlike other types of amnesia, does not result from other medical trauma, such as a blow to the head."

      6. Conversion disorders involve a change in
      D) physical functioning with no medical explanation.
      NB: "Conversion disorder is a condition in which patients present with neurological symptoms such as numbness, blindness, paralysis, or fits without a physiological cause."

      7. Mood disorders fall into the general categories of
      A) depression and bipolar disorders.
      NB: "Two groups of mood disorders are broadly recognized; the division is based on whether the person has ever had a manic or hypomanic episode. Thus, there are depressive disorders... and bipolar disorder (BD)."

      8. People with disorganized schizophrenia are likely to experience
      D) all of the above.
      I don't know about loss of bladder control, but the other two are correct, according to Wikipedia. Catatonic schizophrenia is the one with loss of bladder control.

      9. The personality disorder that causes people to be distrustful and suspicious of others is
      C) paranoid personality disorder.

      10. A person is diagnosed with major depression when he or she
      D) all of the above.
      Just as guess. This is a lot to answer!

      11. People with personality disorders suffer disruptions in their social life or work because of
      A) patterns of inflexible traits.

      12. People who are loners and cannot become attached to other people are likely to have
      B) schizoid personality disorder.
      NB: "Schizoid personality disorder (SPD) is a personality disorder characterized by a lack of interest in social relationships, a tendency towards a solitary lifestyle, secretiveness, and emotional coldness."

      13. Personality disorder with the characteristics of having being suspiciousness and distrust of others’ motives are usually considered
      A) paranoid

      14. During a(n) "panic attack", a person may experience intense fear and become short of breath and dizzy.

      15. "Depression" is a mood disorder that involves feelings of sadness, helplessness, hopelessness, worthlessness, and guilt.

      16. Periods of "mania" involve extreme excitement characterized by hyperactivity and chaotic behavior.

      17. The word "phobia" derives from the Greek word for "fear."

      18. __________ anxiety disorders last at least six months and involve an excessive or unrealistic worry about life circumstances.

      19. "Agoraphobia" is the fear of being in crowded places in which escape may be difficult or impossible.

      20. "Anxiety" is a general state of dread or uneasiness.

      21. A person with an excessive fear of public speaking might have a(n) "glosso" phobia.

  27. QUESTION:
    Overbearing Parents Severely Depressed Moving Out How To Be My Own Person?
    I am currently going through a horrible time. I recently graduated college last Spring and had to move back with my parents out of necessity to survive. Long story short the ecconomy is horrible here and I cannot seem to find a job, or when I do it does not seem to work out very long. I am extremely depressed and think about suicide on a daily basis as well as have extreme problems with anxiety. It has got to the point where I was actually put in a psychiatric ward for a few weeks.

    Although my original intent was to save 2 or 3 thousand dollars and them move to a larger city. I am going to have to move on barely 1 thousand and this will be really tough. However the thought of spending any more time here is beyond me. I need to get out of here as soon as I can. I don't have any social life or any friends. Basically I spend all my time in the basement. However being in a small city of only 50,000 people there is not a whole lot to do unless you are into the whole getting drunk thing.

    All these years it has always been like my parents were extremely overbearing and controlling but in a very passive way. Growing up I was an only child and I always heard them talking about money and how they will pay this bill that bill blah blah blah it is as though they enjoy just barely scraping by on the edge and seem content living like this. My dad always has money for his beer etc but they live in such a tight way I could never even imagine their lifestyle. He also seems to be a 55 year old bachelor in many ways. Few things ever get fixed around the house, and he just lets things go for so long and I see the house deteriorating and I cannot help but to be affected. I find it so hard to watch someone do something stupidly like over water the ivy vines in the living room every time and see them leaking water on the floor again and again.

    Also I was an only child growing up and it was as though they raised me as an adult or something and it was as though they were bachelors raising me. My dad was always sitting in front of the tv watching hockey or baseball and it was as though I was expected to be dull all the time. We did go to museums and enjoyed cycling together etc but it was as though we were too close and I was being coddled. I wasn't even allowed to cross a semi busy street until I was 10 years old, and my mom always drilled stuff in me about strangers trying to abduct me and stuff like that. It was as though their world views and opinions had so much dominance over my life. It was no wonder why I could not relate to other kids. I also started to grow very very depressed but was always able to function so no one really noticed. I was more less seen as the kid who never got into any trouble and just sat there all day silently thinking in my head. It was as though my parents never really introduced me to "kid stuff" I mean my mom put me in cubs etc but she was always trying to find solutions/ solve my problems when I really just needed support and someone to be non bias and allow me to discover my own self and identity. It was as though they got a hold of my brain and tried to manipulate me into the person that they thought I was which was not right. Also my dad always seemed to have negative views on kids and teenagers so when I heard him saying stuff about teenagers being too loud etc I was isolated and thought that I was not allowed to make noise. I always enjoyed my art, especially drawing and painting and I am indeed quite talented even then. In the summer I would spend a lot of time flying my kite and playing with my lego blocks but something indeed was missing. They never really introduced me to music or tv shows or just things to make me interesting so I was just dull and stale like they were. I do not mean to insult them by saying this however it seems as though they were trying to over parent me, and were so stuck in their ways and old fashioned. I have always been a very right brained person and have always had the need to be self expressive in as many ways as I could but my parents were almost the dead opposite to me almost as though they were expressively dead. My dad especially would always give me this weird degrading look if I ever did anything that was outside of his understanding or if I made a suggestion like "hmmm I think I might want to" he would be like thats not logical or I don't do that. I couldn't just run and be free like the other kids.

    So how do I get past all this it was not as if they were trying to be oppressive or anything but in so many ways they were I want to make friends and do all these things. I want to overcome this depression but it seems like I am being held by the ear. It is like they are always trying to give me suggestions I do not need etc and I want to be my own person. I have to be.

    • ANSWER:
      I guess by taking control of your life getting firmly in the drivers seat and making your own mistakes and learning from them - It does sound a very good idea to get away - I think something that you missed is your self in the picture. Good enough parenting is that you are alive and well and have all your limbs Parents can be limited within themselves just as we all can and just as you are right now.
      Parenting isn't a one way act it also depends upon the child in the relationship as well otherwise we would all turn out much the same within a family. YOu seem to think that you are owed but we are not owed anything nor do we owe - we have life thats enough - So take your own life in your hands and do as you wish you are adult now and can make your own way - You have issues that seem implanted by your parents - so do we all no matter what kind of home we came from - Now you get a chance to own all your own mistakes have children and get it wrong for them too. We all do it as children as adults as parents - We get it wring this is how we all learn.

  28. QUESTION:
    does anyone else think that human emotions are weak and that you shouldnt give in to them?
    im 33 and battled through a lot of adversitys with severe psychological problems, rage , violence problems , depression problems , severe anxiety , personality disorders, social problems.

    i had a very happy childhood with loving parents that spoilt me, a happy early teenagehood - but a lot of my adulthood has been spent battling through all these adversitys.....infact, most of it.

    going to prison.....homelessness.....time in a top security mental hospital......missing out on building ' any ' adult relationships.

    but through it all ive always been very strong, had tons of integrity , strength of will, inner strength.....honour........ive fought for justice & honour in my life.

    i also are very independent minded & of character....possess my own mind & have never followed the crowd.

    when crisis as hit in my life at times i have cried.....but for me its always been a struggle....like im giving into to the adversity of life if i cry?.........and thats made me very angry as well when i cried..

    i feel that thats weak and feel like its mentally giving in or admitting defeat.

    and im someone that doesnt ever accept defeat , i battle on - i have fought, fought & fought , i will fight, fight and fight.

    its my extreme mental strength......so when ive cried at adversitys ive felt angry with myself as though ive give up.

    i clench my teeth with fury and outrage......feeling ' how could i do that?'

    anyone else have views or just know what im talking about ?

    • ANSWER:
      I do know what you're talking about my friend. Growing up sad and always feeling I was never worthy of anything, and my mom didn't like me. Into my adult years I became extremely depressed for years. I held all the pain of my life inside. I felt nothing, no emotion. After much good counseling, I let the tears out for once. A lot of rage and anger was released. All this I kept inside believing it was all my fault. The tears were needed to wash years of pain and disappointment that I claimed as my own.
      Don't be afraid of pain and tears, they are there to cleanse and let you rise above your situation. Be proud of yourself, not angry. You've been through a lot now . Don't come down on yourself with anger and rage. I give you so much credit for all you've been through.

  29. QUESTION:
    what to do when you feel sorry for yourself?
    im 33 and i cannot help but feel a deep deep sadness and anger at how my life has turned out.

    granted , my life has not been nearly as unbelievable as a lot of people out there , but i did have learning problems , social problems , psychological problems, anxiety problems , anger problems and things of that nature to contend with.

    as a result i missed out on the life i wouldve wanted , a life of building relationships with similar minded people , having a further education , having qualifications - i lost contact with my childhood adolecent friends .

    ive of course done well for years battling on my adversitys , cooperating with the psychiatric services , im now on an anti deppressant mirtazaphine which is soon being switched to anti deppressant citaliphram. im on seroquel to for severe anxiety.

    ive still retained a lot of my characteristics growing up being quiet and reserved , so that makes it even harder to build adult relationships with similar minded people ...

    i put my family through upset and misery because of my problems , my mother especially with whom im very close , shes 60 now.

    i spend a lot of days moping around the one bedroomed council flat, owning few possessions feel very sorry for myself ? reflecting upon all the dark places ive journeyed from in my life....dwelling on what i didnt accomplish.......feeling extreme guilt having put my mother through alot...

    does anyone quite understand any of this ? or just has comforting words on how i should proceed with my life ?

    • ANSWER:
      Hi.

      To be honest with you 33 is not particularly old. You've got years ahead of you to achieve anything you want. You mention that you dwell on what you haven't achieved. Instead focus on what you want to achieve. Then CHOOSE the achieve it. If you really want it nothing will stand in your way, not depression, not anxiety, NOTHING.

      You are stronger than you realise. The problem is perhaps that you have become comfortable with your situation. You may not like it but you recognise it, you are familiar with it, you have mechanisms for coping with it. The thought of doing anything else probably fills you with fear. But in order to get what you want you are going to have to confront that fear. You need to draw on your inner strengths to do this. Reading this I expect you will say that you don't have any. But think about this: you have lived with a bad situation for years and yet you are still around to talk about it. That takes strength. It takes a presence of will that you probably haven't given yourself credit for. Once you have accepted you have this strength you can re-direct it in whatever direction you want.

      The happiness you seek, the social interraction you desire will come. It won't happen over night and there will be setbacks. But if you forgive yourself for your past and take responsibility for your future you will get there. In the words of Winston Churchill "Never, never, never, never give up."

      With regards to the guilt you feel for your family. Stop now. They probably only feel bad because you feel bad. You feel bad because you've made them feel bad. It's a vicious cycle. You need to break it. If your family see you endeavouring to make a go of things, to have some success in your life they will be overjoyed. By making yourself happy you are making them happy. So don't just make the change for yourself, do it for them too.

      Get on to Google and look up self confidence blogs. There are literally hundreds out there. Some of them even give me a lift and I'm a confidence coach!

      Power to your arm, my friend. May the rest of your life be amazing.

  30. QUESTION:
    How does my essay on OCD sound? need help please! Is the paragraphs too long?
    Can you imagine throughout the day consistently having to check if something is in the right spot to avoid yourself from having anxiety? This is one of just many affects Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, also known as OCD, can effect a person’s life. OCD is a neurobehavioral disorder, which means it affects the way a person’s brain handles emotion, behavior and learning. “People with obsessive compulsive disorder have persistent unwanted thoughts, (obsessions) so they use rituals (compulsions) that control the anxiety that the thoughts produce.” (WEBSITE) In the past, parents had mistaken OCD for bad behavior, but it is now noticed as being common in many people. OCD usually develops in a person before the age of 30. “And among children, twice as many boys as girls develop the disorder. With increasing age, however, this ratio changes, so that among adults, equal numbers of women and men have OCD.” (CB) There are currently 3 million adults living with different levels of OCD in the United States. Since there are so many that have the disorder, people should be made aware of the symptoms, causes and treatments.
    There are many different varieties of OCD and how it can affect a person. “Some people will have just one symptom that will always be a challenge, but many will have multiple symptoms. Symptoms can also change throughout the life span.” (OC) Almost everyone will experience signs in their lifetime that could be described as OCD symptoms, but it is when they affect a person’s life frequently and interferes with daily living that they may be considered OCD. There are six main types of people with OCD; the severity may range from mild to extreme, depending on the person. The main types include washers and cleaners, hoarders, orderers, checkers, pure obsessionals, and scrupulosity. For example, a person who has constant thoughts of germs being on their hands, so they wash them every five minutes, making the skin dry and cracked, is just one form of OCD; this person would be considered under the type washers and cleaners. Another type is hoarders, which is when a person collects many items that many people would consider trash, but to them it is valuable, never wanting to get rid of it. People with the type called orderers reduce anxiety by putting various objects in order. Checkers are consistently checking things. The list is endless of what they may check up on but the person will have constant worry that doors aren’t locked or shut, appliances are still on, or they didn’t complete a test correctly, going back and making sure they filled in every answer correctly. Pure obsessionals are those who are haunted by disturbing thoughts of causing damage or harm to a person or loved ones. People with scrupulosity, have to pray an abundance for their religious beliefs, others may ask for reassurance from others with moral decisions. Many people with the effects from OCD often hide it because it can affect social relationships, problems at school or work, and problems with family. Because of the disruptions it may cause, people often question what causes OCD.
    Unfortunately researchers are still completing studies to determine what the exact cause of OCD is. They have found that the neurotransmitter serotonin plays a significant role in OCD. Changes in serotonin can alter a person’s mood, giving a person unwanted thoughts. “Brain-imaging studies have shown abnormalities in several parts of the brain in people with OCD, including the thalamus, basal ganglia, caudate nucleus, orbital cortex and cingulate gyrus. These areas of the brain process messages coming in from the outside world, sort information so we know what to pay attention to, alert us to danger, and help us focus on the task at hand. In OCD these areas work overtime, focusing on intrusive thoughts and ideas that would normally be filtered out.” OC(24) There has been many theories trying to explain the causes, including a medieval theory, resulted from being possessed by the devil. More scientific theories include, the psychoanalytic theory, learning theory and genetics. The psychoanalytic theory states that symptoms of OCD symbolize conflicts over unacceptable aggressive and sexual impulses. It also states the symptoms are present to control anxiety from the impulses. The learning theory states that it all depends on a child’s learning experience when growing up. For example, there has been scientific evidence proving that a person brought up around religious beliefs has a higher susceptibility to developing OCD. This is based on facts that many religions already commonly practice rituals, making it easier for a person to practice rituals outside of religion. Next is genetics, research shows that genetics does play a role in the development of OCD. While there does not appear to be a specific OCD gene, researchers have proven that with one twin having the disorder the other has a 50% chance of developing it as well.
    With the finding of different causes, researchers have found treatments also.
    Statistics show that a person with OCD symptoms usually doesn’t seek out treatment until on average seven to ten years after the first symptom occurred. “At this time, there is no known cure for OCD, but two treatments have been proven effective in making symptoms manageable.” OC These two treatments are cognitive-behavioral therapy and drug treatment. Cognitive behavioral therapy is used to help control the thoughts of those with OCD. It has been proven extremely beneficial in the process of treating OCD. In this form of treatment it is a combination of the cognitive prospect, which refers to helping people with the way they think, and behavioral, which are compulsive behaviors. When these two are combined, they provide successful keys in overcoming the obsessive-compulsive symptoms, letting those who suffer to free feeling lives. Drug treatment has been proven to also be high effective in treating OCD. Mos

    • ANSWER:
      I agree, you definitely need to split this up into multiple paragraphs, of approximately 3 to 5 sentences. One method of doing that is to have the last sentence in a paragraph lead into the first sentence of the following paragraph. You can introduce your next main point in the last sentence, and then follow up with the detail in the sentences in the next paragraph. And so on.

      Also your essay is well written, but, as with any lengthy writing assignment, could use at least a once over by someone who is proficient in grammar and sentence structure. Because of its length, I am not sure this venue (Yahoo Answers) will work very well for you. Is there someone you know and trust you could ask to do this for you? A sibling, friend, parent, etc?

      The one obvious thing I did notice is that while all of the essay is interesting and informative, including the "additional details" you wrote, there is no ending to your essay. Your ending should summarize the points you made in the body of the essay, and also draw a conclusion. What do you believe is the outlook for those who suffer from OCD today? What about in the near future?

      You are a very good writer, and I wish you continued success on your project.

  31. QUESTION:
    Why is it hard for doctors to believe...ADD?
    Why does it seem almost impossible for a psychiatrist to believe that an adult may have undiagnosed ADD/ADHD? I understand that there are people out there that abuse the medication, but to simply disregard the possibility seems bizarre. My dr. has put me on anti-depressant medication due to symptoms of : social isolation, irritability, inability to concentrate, distractibility, and anxiety. Doesn't seem like depression to me...And now after taking the anti-depressant I've been experiencing symptoms of extreme fatigue, headaches, etc...only making my problems worse. What's the deal? (other than the obvious: I need a new doctor).

    • ANSWER:
      Most anti-depressants, especially the SSRI's, have anti-anxiety properties. The psychiatrist is trying to treat your symptoms which are also symptoms of ADD but not all the symptoms. ADD almost always shows up before adulthood, in one way or the other, but you know that.

      Hardly anyone gets the right medication from a psychiatrist the first time. But do give it 3-4 weeks, fatigue and headaches go away. Effexor is an SNRI, very different from the SSRI's and it's what works for me. With that, I now take Wellbutrin, which is unique, not an SSRI nor an SNRI, and it's an excellent combination. They both indirectly enhance phermones, norepinephrine, endorphins, almost like the ADD meds, but in lesser amounts, with far less side effects and long term consequences of Ritalin and the other ADD meds, like addiction, memory loss, brain damage, etc..

      There are no negative side effects (for me), no weight gain, no loss of sex drive, no addiction potential. I'm more focused, can concentrate, have energy, am in better shape, and I actually feel happy or content most of the time. I even quit smoking 3 years ago.

  32. QUESTION:
    if youve had a problem in the past with feelings of misogyny how do you get over it?
    im 33 and although i have endured deep psychological problems in my life relating to : personality disorders - social problems - low self confidence - rage & aggression problems - severe anxiety disorders and paranoia.

    ive had a real aggressive problem towards women in the past - feelings of deep anger and resentment.
    i left all my happy times in my loving happy childhood and early teenaghood - because of my adversitys , ive missed out on normal things so far like - building adult relationships or having girlfriends , being employed , getting qualifications.

    i feel very bitter and angry that ive missed out on a lot of life and made mistakes like going to prison and a mental hospital etc - ive been homeless in my past to.

    in the past ive had angry aggressive outbursts at pretty women because i feel jealous that i feel unable to get a girlfriend because of low self esteem

    ive felt a jealous resentment when i see girls walking in the street with big shoes with big grins acting all giddy looking happy - that annoys me very much.

    i feel enraged that although ive had lots of sexual encounters ive ''never'' ever had a long term girlfriend.

    i feel enraged looking at grinning blondes and brunettes - i clench my teeth with outrage when i see them.

    i feel bitter and unforgiving that at my age of 33 ive never been in a relationship- except lots of short term flings with girls.

    im 5ft 11 or 6ft have a shaved head because im bald , are quite fat , have a chubby stomach.

    does anyone know , given the extreme misfortunes of my life how i can get over feeling enraged towards women ?

    thanks
    i spend my time in loneliness and emptiness in my one bedroomed flat feeling bitter and angry ive missed out so far.
    adam

    no, i dont feel this way about my mother.

    • ANSWER:
      You need to chill the *#$# out and get laid. If it wasn't for chicks you wouldn't be here. Just curious, do you feel this way about your mom?

      Well that's a start. My suggestion to you is put this crap behind you and slowly try to make female friends.. things aren't going to get better unless you make change.

  33. QUESTION:
    if youve had feelings of 'misogyny' in the past, how do you deal with it?
    im 33 and although i have endured deep psychological problems in my life relating to : personality disorders - social problems - low self confidence - rage & aggression problems - severe anxiety disorders and paranoia.

    ive had a real aggressive problem towards women in the past - feelings of deep anger and resentment.
    i left all my happy times in my loving happy childhood and early teenaghood - because of my adversitys , ive missed out on normal things so far like - building adult relationships or having girlfriends , being employed , getting qualifications.

    i feel very bitter and angry that ive missed out on a lot of life and made mistakes like going to prison and a mental hospital etc - ive been homeless in my past to.

    in the past ive had angry aggressive outbursts at pretty women because i feel jealous that i feel unable to get a girlfriend because of low self esteem

    ive felt a jealous resentment when i see girls walking in the street with big shoes with big grins acting all giddy looking happy - that annoys me very much.

    i feel enraged that although ive had lots of sexual encounters ive ''never'' ever had a long term girlfriend.

    i feel enraged looking at grinning blondes and brunettes - i clench my teeth with outrage when i see them.

    i feel bitter and unforgiving that at my age of 33 ive never been in a relationship- except lots of short term flings with girls.

    im 5ft 11 or 6ft have a shaved head because im bald , are quite fat , have a chubby stomach.

    does anyone know , given the extreme misfortunes of my life how i can get over feeling enraged towards women ?

    thanks
    ade

    a 12 step what ??? ! - i hope your not referring to that rap singer.

    • ANSWER:
      Forget the past, start from now. This reflection may help. The remedy for aversion towards other beings is a quality called in Pali metta, "loving-kindness," an intense feeling of selfless love for other beings radiating outwards as a heartfelt concern for their well-being and happiness. The kind of love implied by metta should be distinguished from sensual love as well as from the love involved in personal affection: we love a person as long as that person gives us pleasure, belongs to our family or group, or reinforces our own self-image. Only rarely does the feeling of affection transcend all traces of self-reference, and even then its scope is limited. It applies only to a certain person or group of people while excluding all other beings. The love involved in metta, in contrast, does not hinge on particular relations to particular persons. Here the reference point of self is utterly omitted. We are concerned only with suffusing others with a mind of loving-kindness, which ideally is to be developed into a universal state, without discriminations or reservations.

      At first the means has to be employed with some deliberation, but through practice the feeling of love does become a spontaneous tendency. The method of development is metta-bhavana, one of the most important kinds of Buddhist meditation. The meditation begins with the focus on loving-kindness towards oneself. Once one has learned to kindle the feeling of metta towards oneself, the next step is to extend it to others, expanding the sense of identity beyond its ordinary confines and learning to identify with others. It proceeds from a simple, straightforward course of reflection which enables us to share the subjectivity of others and experience the world (at least imaginatively) from the standpoint of their own consciousness. If we look into our own mind, we find that the basic urge of our being is the wish to be happy and free from suffering. Now, as soon as we see this in ourselves, we should immediately acknowledge that all living beings share the same basic wish. All want to be well, happy, and secure. To develop metta towards others is to imaginatively share their own innate wish for happiness. We use our own desire for happiness as the key, experience this desire as the basic urge of others, then come back to our own position and extend to them the wish that they may achieve their ultimate objective.

      The methodical radiation of metta is practiced first by directing metta to individuals representing certain groups. These groups are set in an order of progressive remoteness from oneself. The radiation begins with a dear person, such as a parent, partner or child, then moves on to a friend, then to a neutral person, then finally to a hostile person. Though the types are defined by their relation to oneself, the love to be developed is not based on that relation but on each person's common aspiration for happiness. With each individual one has to bring his (or her) image into focus and radiate the thought: "May he (she) be well! May he (she) be happy! May he (she) be peaceful!" Only when one succeeds in generating a warm feeling of good will and kindness towards that person should one turn to the next. When a high level of success has been achieved, one can then move on to consider people who are presently enjoying happiness which they have acquired by immoral means. One might reflect that such people, despite their superficial fortune, are doubtlessly troubled deep within by unhappiness even if they display no outward signs. One should contemplate all beings as subject to the universal suffering driven by their desire, aversion, and delusion through the round of repeated births and deaths. Then metta can be widened by directional suffusion, proceeding in the various directions — east, south, west, north, above and below — then it can be extended to all beings of the cosmos without distinction. In the end one is radiant with a mind of loving-kindness "vast, sublime, and immeasurable, without enmity, without aversion."

      The contemplation has been taught as a method for cultivation, not mere theoretical excursions. We have to contemplate the suffering tied up with the continual quest for worldly enjoyment; we have to consider how all beings desire happiness and freedom from pain. Victory can be achieved. Whatever one reflects upon frequently becomes the inclination of the mind. The direction we take always comes back to ourselves, to the intentions we generate moment by moment in the course of our lives.

  34. QUESTION:
    help me please is for tomorrow.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! thank?
    2)which of these is not a typical sign of bulimia?
    a-eating in private
    b-cycles of weight gain and loss
    c-eating too much food too quickly
    d-extreme weight loss

    my answer is correct is b-cycles of weight gain and loss

    3-people who have bulimia ............ .
    a-are often treated first in a hospital because of extreme weight loss
    b-often deny there is a problem
    c-are often too ashamed of their behavior to seek help
    d-don't need outside treatment because they can stop by themselves

    my answer is correct is d-don't need outside treatment because they can stop by themselves

    4-people with binge - eating disorder are at greater risk of ........ .
    a-colon cancer
    b-diabetes and high blood pressure
    c-appendicitis
    d-liver and kidney dysfunction

    my answer is correct is a-colon cancer

    6-a physician who can diagnose and treat mental disorders is called a ......... .
    a-massage therapist
    b-psychologist
    c-social worker
    d-psychiatrist

    my answer is correct is c-social worker

    9-what occurs during psychotherapy?
    a-a person talks to a therapist.
    b-a person treats his or her own symptoms.
    c-a person creates a problem
    d-a person gets a physical examination.

    my answer is correct is a-a person talks to a therapist.

    10-which should you do if you think you might be suffering symptoms of a mental disorder?
    a-go on with your life
    b-share your problems with a trusted adult
    c-engage in self- injury
    d-overcome the problems on your own

    my answer is correct is d-overcome the problems on your own

    11-if a friend tells you he or she is thinking about suicide and asks you not to tell anyone, what should you do?
    a-notify an adult that your friend is in danger.
    b-don't tell anyone.
    c-dare your friend to go through with it.
    d-assume your friend is joking.

    my answer is correct is c-dare your friend to go through with it.

    12-what is the third - leading cause of death among young people?
    a-homicide
    b-cancer
    c-suicide
    d-diabetes
    my answer is correct is a-homicide

    13-a series of suicides that occur within one peer group is known as ...... .
    a-risk factors
    b-cluster suicides
    c-self - injury pacts
    d-mood disorders

    my answer is correct is d-mood disorders

    14-which term describes an unhealthy way to cope with emotions, stress, or traumatic events?
    a-self-injury
    b-medication
    c-self-esteem
    d-therapy

    my answer is correct is b-medication

    15-which is a major risk factor for suicide?
    a-phobia
    b-biofeedback
    c-depression
    d-relaxation
    my answer is correct is c-depression

    16-which best approximates the number of Americans that experience symptoms of a mental disorder each year?
    a-more than 50 thousand
    b-more than 500 thousand
    c-more than 5 thousand
    d-more than 50 million

    my answer is correct is d-more than 50 million

    17-which describes a condition that can be identified severe disturbances in thinking, mood, awareness,and behavior?
    a-depression
    b-obsession
    c-schizophrenia
    d-anxiety
    my answer is correct is a-depression

    18-which term describes people who experience extreme emotions that make it difficult to function well in their daily lives?
    a-a mood disorder
    b-phobias
    c-attention deficit
    d-hyperactivity

    my answer is correct is d-hyperactivity

    19-mental health experts are trained to recognize .............. .
    a-abnormal thoughts, feelings, and behaviors
    b-abnormal physical characteristics
    c-the kinds of jobs people should have
    d-catastrophic situations

    my answer is correct is b-abnormal physical characteristics

    20-which is not a description of an anxiety disorder?
    a-feeling scared before play tryouts
    b-feeling scared to ride in elevators
    c-feeling afraid to sleep because of continuous nightmares
    d-feeling panicked every time you see a dog

    my answer is correct is d-feeling panicked every time you see a dog

    • ANSWER:
      I would say my answer is same like you, except number 1, may be different...

  35. QUESTION:
    Mental issues, I need advice please.?
    I think I have Adult ADHD (I am 19). My doctor prescribed me lexapro and concerta.For ADHD and anti-depression to help with anxiety. I have nearly every symtom of ADHD. Zoning out, extreme distractibility, difficulty focusing/paying attention, struggling to complete tasks, overlook details, poor listening skills, forgetting conversations or even things that happen in the day. I could go on and on. I have impulsivity and emotial difficulties aswell. Ive never had a job, Im afraid to drive, afraid to leave the house by myself, I barely graduated (to afraid to walk). Nearly no friends, I have mood swings. Also I have limited money (meds/rent at my moms/food). I dont know what to do, Should I apply For social security? My grandpa wants me to go to job corps, I live in Oregon, the nearest one is 126+ miles away, Im afraid to death of going, because of the issues I have with social/focus ect.

    Im Really Depressed, I dont know what I should do.. I cant even think...
    None of that really helps, I need a step by step of what to do. Tuesday is job corps meeting I dont want to go...

    • ANSWER:
      Is the meeting an orientation/tour or an interview? I can say that the orientation is really easy. Which Job Corps campus are you considering going to? I live in California but I am going to attend a campus in Oregon hopefully, I have my interview with a counseller tomorrow morning. How did your meeting go? (I see that I'm too late to offer good luck) I'll check this later if you want to edit and respond.

  36. QUESTION:
    Verbal Speech On Child Abuse?
    Intro:
    According to the "CWO", Child Welfare Organization, about 5 children sie everyday as a result of child abuse. Four ways child abuse can occur are physical abuse, neglect, sexual abuse, and emotional abuse. For Tracey Hermann's 5-month old, it was neglect. The 5-month old, weighing only 10 pounds, was dropped off at his house on February 4th 2008 in his car seat. One day went by, and another, and six more. Finally eight days later police found the baby in the same position.
    In cases like this, reporting the matter can be vital. It can potentially save lives. That's why I'm here today, to discuss why reporting child abuse is important.
    Body:
    Furthermore, there are also different aspects of the types of child abuse. Physical abuse is the infliction of physical injury. Such as shaking, burning, punching, beating, and kicking. Neglect is the failure to provide for the child's basic needs. Examples include the allowance of truancy, a child being left alone, and the refusal or delay of health-care. Sexual abuse is inappropriate physical actions. Inappropriate fondling and rape are actions of sexual abuse. Emotional abuse can be verbal, mental, and psychological. All in all, child abuse can be very harmful.
    Therefore, there are also signs of abuse you should look for. Bruising, whelps (in different stages of healing), and a child acting with anger/fear/anxiety are signs of physical abuse. In addition, a child that has been or is being physically abused will avoid social interaction. Signs of neglect include filthy or inappropriate clothes for the weather, bad hygiene and untreated illnesses. Sexual abuse signs are trouble walking or sitting, negative reaction to adults, an STD or pregnancy before the age of 14, and etc. Emotional abuse results in extremes in behavior, random changes in mood, and excessive crying.
    With these things in mind, you now know the facts of child abuse. If you know of a child that is experiencing child abuse you should report it. Tell a teacher or counselor. Tell a parent. Tell someone before it's too late. Not only his the child in risk because of their abuser but they are also at risk because of suicide. If no one knows, the child cannot be helped. If you believe that the child is in immediate danger call 911. Do something, anything.
    Conclusion:
    In Conclusion, it is extremely important that you report any child abuse you think may be or know is happening. Put yourself in their shoes. Think about being beaten, neglected, raped, or verbally abused. Be the change, don't just look away.
    **********

    I'm an eighth grader, what do you think?
    Any improvements? -- Are greatly appreciated!
    Thanks for reading!
    Die* instead of Sie*

    • ANSWER:
      It's really good. There's just a couple grammar mistakes. I'll correct it for you and reword a couple sentences. Here:

      According to the "CWO", Child Welfare Organization, about 5 children die everyday as a result of child abuse. Child abuse can occur four different ways. The child could experience physical abuse, neglect, sexual abuse, and emotional abuse. For example, a woman named Tracey Hermann's 5-month old baby experienced neglect. The baby, weighing only 10 pounds, was dropped off at his house on February 4, 2008 in his car seat. As the days went by, he remained there, unnoticed. Finally, eight days after being left in the car, police discovered the baby in the same position he'd been in for days. In cases like this, reporting the matter can be vital and could potentially save lives. That's why I'm here today, to discuss why reporting child abuse is important.

      Body:
      Furthermore, there are also different aspects of the types of child abuse. Physical abuse is the infliction of physical injury. This type of abuse can include shaking, burning, punching, beating, and kicking the victim. Neglect is the failure to provide for a child's basic needs. Examples of neglect include the allowance of truancy, a child being left alone, and the refusal or delay of a child's health-care. Sexual abuse is inappropriate physical actions toward a child. Inappropriate fondling, as well as rape, are actions of sexual abuse. Emotional abuse can be verbal, mental, and psychological. These are the actions behind harmful child abuse.

      There are also signs of abuse that are apparent and visible. Bruising, whelts (in different stages of healing), and a child acting with anger, fear, and anxiety are signs of physical abuse. In addition, a child that has been or is being physically abused will avoid social interaction. Signs of neglect could include filthy clothing, inappropriate clothing for the weather, bad hygiene, and untreated illnesses. The signs that point out sexual abuse could be trouble walking or sitting, negative reaction to adults, and STD or pregnancy before the age of 14. Emotional abuse results in extremes in behavior, random changes in mood, and excessive crying.

      With these things in mind, you now know the facts of child abuse. If you know of a child that is experiencing child abuse, it's important that it's reported. You must tell a teacher, counselor, or parent before it's too late. If you believe that the child is in immediate danger call 911. Not only is the child in risk because of their abuser, but they are also at risk for committing suicide. If no one knows, the child cannot be helped.

      Conclusion:
      Put yourself in an abused child's shoes. Think about being beaten, neglected, raped, or verbally abused. It is extremely important that you report any child abuse you think or know is happening. Be the change, don't just look away.

      :)

  37. QUESTION:
    Counseling confidentiality surrounding past abuse?
    I have realized that I have a lot of issues dealing with emotional abuse from my childhood. This also includes witnessing emotional and physical abuse to my mother. I want to seek counseling to overcome the ramifications of this abuse (extreme social anxiety, depression, lack of self-confidence), but I am only willing to do so in an environment where I know that the information I divulge will be held in strict confidence. I am an adult, out of the house, living my own life. My mom is now divorced, very self-empowered, and living her own life for the first time ever. I know that any mention of this to authorities will ruin the peace that we have worked very hard to achieve. I would just like assurance that my counseling sessions would indeed be held in confidence. Also, I would like advice on how to specifically ask a counselor if they would be willing to hold this information in confidence without divulging too much information initially.

    Two sites to consider:
    http://www.apa.org/monitor/julaug02/ethics.aspx (which basically says, in my case, they should hold this information confident)
    http://www.aacc.edu/advising/CounservConfiden.cfm (which says that my case is an exception to confidentiality)

    Also, this would be a counselor at my university.

    Also, please, please, please don't try to encourage me to do anything or give me ANY advice out of the scope of my actual question. You don't know me and you don't know what's best for my family.

    • ANSWER:
      In California, where I am licensed, mandated reporting is specific to dependents - be they elders or minors. (Tarasoff rules also require reporting a plant to self-harm or to cause harm to another.) If a client mentions that their parents are fighting, even violently, it does not trigger a report.

      The mandate is to report ongoing or current risk of abuse. This can reach into the past, but not necessarily so. For example, if a client tells me of someone who abused them 10 years ago, I would explore with them whether the abuser has current access to a specific child/children. We would work to protect the new kids.

      Most of the people I see have had trauma in their past - yet in ten years of practice I have had to invoke mandatory reporting twice. I am much more concerned with helping people work through the ramification of abuse than capturing bad-doers.

      If you are concerned, you might ask the counselor to describe which situations would trigger mandatory reporting. Creating a report requires a great deal of specificity, so you might ask them for permission to outline a vague hypothetical case similar to your own.

      If you don't like what you hear, don't give up, find a different counselor. In cases such as yours it's always a judgment call.

      Good Luck


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