Shyness Social Anxiety

Overcome and cure social anxiety

Help I Have Social Anxiety

Written By: admin - Apr• 22•12

Frequently Asked Questions

  1. QUESTION:
    I have extremely bad case of social anxiety, besides medication and therapy are there other ways to overcome i?
    I didn't know what it was at first I thought it was just "shyness" and that I would grow out of it well I developed social anxiety. I consider it a extreme case because it causes skip classes (college) to avoid during presentation and other "social activities". I was actually suppose to graduate already but I'm still in school because this issue. My major is social work irronically and I don't want to change it because I really want to help people but it would be impossible to do with the level of anxiety I feel in social settings.

    • ANSWER:
      Besides engaging in therapy and/or taking medication it is also important to focus on self-esteem issues as they can be related to social anxiety issues. The first thing you need to do is increase your self esteem and change your way of thinking about social situations. You need to know your inner voice, your beliefs and your emotions. This should drive your positive thoughts and rational beliefs. Check out the 15 traits of high self esteem right here http://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/high-self-esteem.html and practice them to increase anything you lack.

  2. QUESTION:
    How can I overcome social anxiety in order to ride the bus to the psychiatrist?
    I have really bad anger issues and social anxiety, and depression problems. I used to be on meds but I'm not anymore, and the symptoms are back. Im 20 and I cant be depending on my mom for rides. How can I take a bus or train without having a panic attack? People think I'm lazy because I only want rides, it angers me because that is not the case at all. Please help.

    • ANSWER:
      Don't look at anyone, and imagine you're in your own little world, even thought that sounds crazy. Just ignore it and count to ten everytime you panic.

  3. QUESTION:
    What is the best medication for social anxiety?
    What are some medications that are avaliable in generic that are good for social anxiety and occasional panic attacks? I mainly just have social anxiety and when I have to get infront of the class, but I take valium for that but what would help for the social anxiety? what about welbutrin? but I am NOT a smoker.

    • ANSWER:
      It's hard to say what is best. Each medication works slightly differently for each person, some experience alot of side effects while the next person says the medication is great. Only a doctor can really say what is best for your lifestyle, and it may take some trying to find a medication you are really happy with.

  4. QUESTION:
    Which antidepressants seems to work best for social anxiety and other anxiety disorders?
    I have social anxiety, OCD tendacies, GAD, and bipolar. I'm currently a senior and going back to school soon, so I need some help. What are some meds to help me with my social anxiety. I'm going to the doctor soon and I want to try a antidepressant again. Prozac worked ok for me but it made me manic.

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  5. QUESTION:
    How can I get treatment for social anxiety?
    I've displayed several symptoms of social anxiety/phobia, but I don't have any health insurance so I can't seek professional help. I live in California - is there a program of some sort that can help me with this, that doesn't require insurance?

    • ANSWER:
      View the information and weblinks for social anxiety/shyness, and self confidence, in sections 9, and 38, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris Here is an exercise that can help you. It is called "Act as If." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior.

      Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit.

      Try this for a month, in every situation you can. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave.

      People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot". But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy). It will teach you that, although it isn't actually pleasant, you will survive; be stronger for the experience, and the next time (should you need to repeat this type of therapy) will be considerably easier. Remember: "A fear avoided is a fear strengthened; a fear faced is a fear reduced." Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me".

      Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind.
      Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger.

      Although there are anti-anxiety medications (anxiolytics) available, these come with risks, and the possibility of side effects, habituation, even addiction, and withdrawal problems, and are unsuitable for young people.

      Try having a cup of "Tension Tamer", herbal tea, by Celestial Seasonings, (from supermarket tea, or health food aisles) or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed (I find it so strong tasting, that I need to drink it quickly, followed by something like fruit juice, to take away the taste, but others may find it more tolerable). C(h)amomile tea is a more palatable option. As with all herbal/green teas, use lemon/lime, and/or a little sweetener (NOT ARTIFICIAL!!!) but no cream, or milk.

      Xylitol, or Stevia is preferable, (health food stores) or fruit sugar (fructose, such as "Fruisana", from supermarket sugar aisles) or even a little honey, because these will reduce "sugar spikes". Valerian has also been recommended, but some people experience "valerian hangovers". Ensure you know how you react to it, before doing something potentially dangerous, like going out on the roads. The idea is to use the above like water wings, to provide initial, short term support, while you become proficient in the above techniques.

  6. QUESTION:
    How do I tell my best friend I have social anxiety?
    I have recently found out I have social anxiety disorder which has led to depression, and I have a psychologist etc to help me, but that will take a while and I've had it bad for a while already. I want to tell my best friend because he seems to think I'm being ignorant when I'm just kinda scared around other people. How do I tell him that I'm not being ignorant and tell him why I'm like this?

    • ANSWER:
      just be honest&upfront with your friend, if your friend is anything of a mate they wil help you through this! social anxiety&depression is bad enough to go through alone so speak to your friend. if they are anything of a mate they will understand&try to help etc. it's hard for a
      friend to help someone through something like this but give them a chance! I went through something similar when I was 17& it helps when friends are there for you.good luck!

  7. QUESTION:
    Difference between social anxiety and Asperger syndrome?
    I've been diagnosed with social anxiety but i can't help to worry about if i might have asperger because it seems kind of similar. Sorry about my bad english!

    • ANSWER:
      Social Anxiety is not a medical diagnosis alone.What triggers your anxiety is something you should discuss with a certified psychologist that would help you differentiate one from the other. Call it an educated guess but i believe your diagnosis was not conducted by a professional...

  8. QUESTION:
    How can I get help for a social anxiety disorder without anyone knowing?
    I really want help. I am 15 and I have always had underlying problems of social phobia and anxiety. It first started with school when I was very young, and I have found it difficult to keep friends and have never got rid of anxiety for school. I really want to get rid of this because it is messing up my life but I don't want to let my parents know. They would not take me seriously. Can I get help with someone without anyone knowing?

    • ANSWER:
      It is soo hard growing up with SAD. Unfortunately the only way I could get treatment was to see a psychiatrist who prescribed me medicine. I am 23 years old now and have no signs of ever having Social Anxiety Disorder, are you sure you can't go to your parents for help and support?

  9. QUESTION:
    How can i get help for social anxiety?
    So im 17, and im pretty damn sure i have social anxiety. I hate it so much i end up drinking everyday to get rid of it. Thing is id have a a hard time explaining this to my parents , i think im too embarassed to talk about it with them. How can tell a doctor about this so i can get help?

    • ANSWER:
      I've never been diagnosed with it but I'm pretty sure I've had social anxiety my whole life. Usually parents are the cause, not the solution. lol. I've found that practice, practice, practice helps the most and that after the teen years things improve considerably.

      One time when I saw a counsellor about something else entirely, I also got some tips about managing anxiety (fancy word for fear), and she recommended a workbook called "The Anxiety & Phobia self-help workbook". I worked through it and most of it contained stuff I'd already read myself previously but given your age it might contain something new for you. I also noticed that there is a "Shyness & Social Anxiety" workbook out there too.

      Cognitive Behaviour Therapy might help a bit as well.

      After I stopped putting doctors and counsellors on a pedestal, I met a regular everyday joe that talked to me about human emotions and how they are all natural and come with a gift if we are willing to embrace them.

      The gift of fear is Wisdom. Every time you face and embrace yours, you will notice that you get some. Keep doing that and one day you'll be a really wise guy. :) Good luck and keep at it!

  10. QUESTION:
    How to find a job with severe social anxiety?
    I am 17yrs old and have social anxiety and I need a job but I don't know what I could do that won't make me miserable, can anyone help who has the same thing and tell me how you got a job?

    • ANSWER:
      Go to: http://ecouch.anu.edu.au/welcome Select "social anxiety" for free Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy. An exercise which may help you is called "Act as If." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing. Talk more; smile at people, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone. Watch some of your more outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior. (PRETEND that you are an ACTOR, PLAYING a PART). Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit. A form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and yell out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, (make up your own - have some fun, safely) then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave. People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot". Or, possibly in the company of a friend, or family member, on a different train, or bus route to your regular one, call out the names, or numbers of all the stops. It will teach you that, although it isn't actually pleasant, (EXPECT MODERATE DISCOMFORT/EMBARRASSMENT) you will survive; be stronger for the experience, and the next time (should you need to repeat this type of therapy) will be considerably easier. Remember: "A fear avoided is a fear strengthened; a fear faced is a fear reduced." Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me".

      Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down, or print, in large type/capitalisation, the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind. Put it in a prominent position, where you will see it regularly. Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication. Start out small by asking the time, or directions and gradually go bigger. Although there are anti-anxiety medications (anxiolytics) available, these come with risks, and the possibility of side effects, habituation, even addiction, and withdrawal problems, and are unsuitable for young people. Try having a cup of "Tension Tamer", (from supermarket tea, or health food aisles) or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed. C(h)amomile tea tastes better. As with all herbal/green teas, use lemon/lime, and/or a little sweetener (NOT ARTIFICIAL!!!) but no cream, or milk. Xylitol, or Stevia is preferable, from health food stores. Valerian has also been recommended, but some people experience "valerian hangovers". Ensure you know how you react to it, before doing something potentially dangerous, like going out on the roads. The idea is to use the above products like water wings, to provide initial, short term support, while you become proficient in those techniques. Use a relaxation method daily, like http://www.drcoxconsulting.com/managing-stress.html or http://altmedicine.about.com/cs/mindbody/a/Meditation.htm or http://www.wikihow.com Meditate or Tai Chi, Qi Gong, or yoga. Give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you. It is free via the searchbar at http://www.mercola.com "EFT" & "EFT therapists" or www.tapping.com (13 free videos). Professional is best. - There is a version for use in public places, (if you want to, you can claim to have a headache, as you massage/lightly tap your temples, but you would then be restricted to subvocalising: saying it to yourself in your mind: "Even though I suffer from social anxiety, I deeply and completely accept myself."

  11. QUESTION:
    How do you treat social anxiety disorder?
    I have had social anxiety disorder since I was 7. I'm 20 now and seems like its getting worse every single day. I don't have the money for therapy or medication so is there anything I can do by myself to help me?

    • ANSWER:
      Try your local county mental health clinic, they opften can offer therapy for those that can't afford it. Or see if you can find a support group in your area, that might help.

  12. QUESTION:
    I have social anxiety and need help being more outgoing?
    I suffer from social anxiety to a point where it effects my social life. I have trouble making and keeping friends. Sometimes when I am outgoing it comes off as flirt and that just make everything worse. I don't believe in medication, any other advice is most appreciated.

    • ANSWER:
      You just need to vocalize your thoughts more. Talk out loud rather than having an inner monologue, even when by yourself. Get used to the sound of your voice. Make a conscious effort to talk more. I've the same thing, but make sure your doing this because you want to, not because you think it's the correcting of a problem. Some of us prefer shydom.

  13. QUESTION:
    How can i help control my social anxiety?
    i have had social anxiety since i was a lil kid and its gotten really bad over time. I get really nervous, shaky, and my voice cracks everytime im around people. The only people im not like this around is my family. Its really affected my social life and i have no friends because of this. School is starting again on monday and i really want this year to be different. i cant afford professional help. any suggestions?

    • ANSWER:
      Use Neuro-Linguistic Programmation - NLP

      2 ways:
      1 - See an NLP pro that will help you. (Google it - or Yahoo...)
      2 - Do it yourself. :) Buy Anthony Robbins book - Awaking The Giant Within. You can manage and change everything in your mind with this kind of techniques. I am managing most of my emotions using that and a mix of other things and the result is great.

      Your life will be totally different once you will be controlling it.

      Enjoy!

  14. QUESTION:
    Is social anxiety a part of depression, or completely unrelated?
    I'm honestly curious, if anyone has any idea. Does depression cause insecurities that result in a person feeling like they can't "be themselves"? It seems like it would to me.

    More importantly, do antidepressants seem to help at all with these insecurities, or do they have no effect whatsoever on social anxiety?

    • ANSWER:
      Social anxiety disorder can also lead to other health problems, such as:
      Substance abuse
      Excessive drinking
      Depression
      Suicide

      Several types of medications are used to treat social anxiety disorder. However, the Food and Drug Administration has specifically approved only three medications, all antidepressants, to treat social anxiety disorder.
      Those antidepressants are:
      Paroxetine (Paxil, Paxil CR)
      Sertraline (Zoloft)
      Venlafaxine (Effexor)
      Other medication options
      Your doctor or mental health provider may also prescribe other medications that haven’t been specifically approved for social anxiety disorder. This is a common and legal practice called off-label use. These medications may include:
      Other antidepressants. You may have to try several different antidepressants to find which one is the most effective and has the fewest unpleasant side effects.
      Anti-anxiety medications. A type of anti-anxiety medication called benzodiazepines (ben-zo-di-AZ-uh-penes) may reduce your level of anxiety. Although they often work quickly, they can be habit-forming. Because of that, they’re often prescribed for only short-term use. They may also be sedating.
      Beta blockers. These medications work by blocking the stimulating effect of epinephrine (adrenaline). They may reduce heart rate, blood pressure, pounding of the heart, and shaking voice and limbs. Because of that, they may work best when used infrequently to control symptoms for a particular situation, such as giving a speech. They’re not recommended for general treatment of social anxiety disorder

  15. QUESTION:
    How can I become a go getter, with social anxiety, and a stubborn attitude?
    I am a young adult, I haven't had a job, I want one but I am stubborn and have social anxiety. I want so badly to live a normal life, work and work alot! But how can I get myself to do it?

    I would like to hear stories of people who were like me and are doing good now...

    I need some inspiration & advice.

    What kind of jobs do I look for first? And I don't drive so that doesn't help! I feel trapped and just down right now!

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  16. QUESTION:
    What kind of doctor diagnoses social anxiety?
    psychologist, therapist, who?
    could i just walk into a doctor's office for a check up and say, "i think i have social anxiety disorder?"
    i want to get help.

    • ANSWER:
      Hi,
      I have social anxiety disorder, otherwise known as social phobia here in the UK. I got help by going to my gp (normal family doctor) and told them my problems, ie feeling anxious whenever I was in public, like in a supermarket, at the checkouts, on a bus
      ... basically everywhere and with anyone... even family!!! My doctor then prescribed me with an SSRI antidepressant (fluoxitine) and referred me for CBT (Cognitive behaviour therapy). As it has happened, I did not do too well with Fluoxitine, and have since been prescribed Paroxatine and am now on Sertraline and Propranolol. I feel A LOT better and my anxiety has almost become zero and I have my life back. I have been on medication for about a year now; I believe that it takes about 6 months to work to be honest. At first the SSRI's can may you feel worse (they did me, especially Fluoxitine) but once you find a good SSRI that suits you it is amazing how much better you can feel. You certainly dont have to suffer unneccessarily with social anxiety disorder, their is a lot of treatment for it and the doctors are certainly not fazed by you saying that you have it at all. Good luck and I hope that you feel better before too long.. It is a problem that is treatable (very much so in fact) even though you may think that you are untreatable!! Go along to you doctor next week and get your treatment started. Kind regards

  17. QUESTION:
    What are the names of prescription drugs for Social Anxiety Disorder?
    I am not a doctor, but I've done enough research online to know I have social anxiety disorder, and this has explained the way I have acted my whole life. Now my disorder is getting more severe. I'm losing contact with so many friends because of my apprehension and it is negatively impacting my career, because It is so hard to communicate with people. I need the names of medicines that help with social anxiety disorder so i can tell the doctor.

    • ANSWER:
      Most doctors will prescribe an SSRI, such as zoloft or paxil. Try doing a search on webmd.com or www.mayoclinic.com and you will be able to find more of what you are looking for.

      In all honesty it is the doctor who will decide which medication to start you on and every doctor seems to have their own favorite.

  18. QUESTION:
    What advice would a psychologist give to someone with social anxiety and depression?
    Like social anxiety about going to college and stuff. I need to know so I can pretend to someone that I have seen a psychologist. What would they say to me? help?
    stfu jane, don't jump to conclusions when you know nothing about my situation

    • ANSWER:
      Bullsh!t works some of the time but you will get caught out in the end. You could talk inane psychobabble such as "this is projection, just projection" and "why are you beating your self up all the time?" and "This is all about your mother isn't it?" Otherwise Google is your best friend. You know about studying right?

  19. QUESTION:
    Who would I be without my social anxiety disorder?
    Its almost impossible to think about. For the past 3 years it's all I know and expect to happen when I am social. I know that I have had social anxiety my whole life but it started getting real bad when my mom died. Where ever I go and talk to people I'm afraid they will think I'm unfriendly or shallow. I know I'm not any of them things I just can't help becoming nervous and not wanting to talk. I'm in therapy and on some medicine. My question is what does a world without social anxiety feel like?

    • ANSWER:
      You are not alone in thinking about this. I often wonder. What would it feel like to have the anxiety and paranoia when in a social situation dissappear? The weight that would be lifted off would be amazing. I wish there was a pill that made it all stop. At least for a day. Because you forgot what it felt like. When you didn't have that. And you want to be like that one more time. But you can't. And that is something you have to live with.

  20. QUESTION:
    what is the best social anxiety medication?
    I have alot of social anxiety and regular anxiety also I have panic attacks. I just was wondering what yall think is the best social anxiety medication that yall have attemped cause I have severe social anxiety and I wont to find the right social anxiety medication to help fix my problem. I have tried a few and they have not helped and the doctors i have seen have not helped

    • ANSWER:
      Always nurture healthy thoughts habits and traits. Build strong moral behaviors. Stop all illegitimate desires for any material things or living beings.

      Basically it requires physical self discipline and mental control.

  21. QUESTION:
    How can I deal with my social anxiety while working?
    I'm 17 and pretty soon I hope to be getting my first job. I really want to work, but my social anxiety might make me nervous while I'm at work. I have trouble interacting with people (mainly strangers or people I don't know well) and I often get nervous when I have to. My shyness doesn't help me much either...

    I know most job requires this type of interaction so does anyone have any tips/advice on how I can be less nervous? Thanks! =)

    • ANSWER:
      i think i know how you feel, my family owns a restaurant and my mom makes me help out. i'm shy (espically around strangers and people i never talk to before), just like you. and i didn't want to talk to any that i didn't know while i was helping out. but once i did it and wasn't bad and soon enough i was use to it. so just tell yourself "this isn't going to be so bad" and once you done it a couple of times you'll get use to it.

      look at the BRIGHT side you only have to work there for a couple of hours and soon you know it it'll be time to go home. unlike me i had to stay there for the rest of the day. and who knows you might even be able to make some friends

      GOOD LUCK
      on your first job and remember to have fun with it =]

  22. QUESTION:
    How do I find a doctor to make an appointment for treating my social anxiety disorder?
    I know that I have social anxiety disorder, I just don't know how to go about getting help for it. I am almost positive I need medication to help me cope. How do I find a doctor and make an appointment?

    • ANSWER:
      Talk to your family doctor or your insurance company. If you have an HMO you're going to need a referral, if you have a PPO your insurance company should give you a list of doctors to choose from.

  23. QUESTION:
    What are the best medications for social anxiety ?
    I have suffered with social anxiety for over fifteen years ive tried every kind of group to try conquer it but still it consumes me in my every day life. So much so ive thought of taking my own life. This is something I have to deal with on a daily basis im now really feeling low and cant see any way out I just really need some help and advice. Thanks

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  24. QUESTION:
    How do you treat social anxiety disorder is there hope?
    I have had social anxiety disorder for years but the doctors always told me I was just shy which was untrue it was much more than that.I do not have a job not that many friends dont even drive yet due to this .I want to get help and I am just wondering if there is any way to treat this or at least make it tolerable and let me live finally.If you want to make fun of this go right ahead but unless you actually deal with this you have no idea how difficult or hard it is to live with.

    • ANSWER:
      You've gotten good advice so far, i would also remind yourself that its nothing to be embarrassed about, your probably gonna feel a lot better once you get through it, just remind yourself that you have nothing to be anxious about and that people are good, eventually it will sink in and that will be your automatic sub-conscious :)

  25. QUESTION:
    What are some ways to cope with Social Anxiety?
    I have a severe anxiety disorder and I belive I also have social anxiety although I haven't conculted with a doctor. I take a medication for the general anxiety disorder. I would prefer not to take any more medication but I can't keep living like this. I'm very shy and whenever I have to call someone to cancel an apointement or something I get very nervous and worked up about it. IS there any way I can help calm myself during these moments?

    • ANSWER:
      Hi,

      I'm sorry to hear about what is going on.  I was a lot like you and searched the web far and wide for answers.  Eventually, I just got fed up and decided to create my own website to help those suffering from anxiety.  You can find this free resource on google.  It is called Project: I Wanna Live Again.  

      If you are seeking a medication that may help, please keep it natural.  Your body doesn't need anything other then that.  After reviewing many anxiety medications, I chose A2X as my sponsor because they are 100% natural and I personally found them effective.  They even give you a 14 day free trial which is awesome!  I will list the link to it below.  I highly recommend it.  Also, for anxiety help check out Project I Wanna Live Again for a free resource and help.

      In good health,

      Rich

  26. QUESTION:
    Is there a natural way to help with social anxiety?
    I have social anxiety and would like to know if there is a natural way i can take care of this that i could make...or maybe a pill that i could buy at a store without having to go to a doctor?

    • ANSWER:
      Honestly, go to a doctor, its worth it. Their is not a single reason not to.

  27. QUESTION:
    What are some jobs for a teen with social anxiety?
    Hi im a 15 year old girl and i have social anxiety, depression, OCD, and i might be bipolar. I cant find a job with little social interaction. I cant work as a cashier because of talking to people. My anxiety is pretty bad, you have no idea :( Anyway, pleeease help me. I need a job so bad. Thank ya!

    • ANSWER:
      maybe you could try being a stocker (like the people who restock the shelves in the store)
      i don't think that they talk very much, except maybe when the boss tells them where to put something

  28. QUESTION:
    How does therapy help a social phobia/anxiety?
    I have a problem with blushing, which makes up most of my social anxiety. But how would therapy help bring a stop to the blushing?

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  29. QUESTION:
    How do I get over my social anxiety?
    I have a really hard time making new friends because I have horrible social anxiety. I appear to be confident but I'm constantly worrying about getting people to approve of me. Whenever I talk to someone new, especially if they're popular, I try to act normal but on the inside I'm freaking out and am desperate for the conversation to be over.

    How do I turn meeting new people into an enjoyable thing?
    And why am I so socially retarded? Help!

    • ANSWER:
      Xanax

  30. QUESTION:
    what are some good remedies for social anxiety, specifically in a high school environment?
    I have social anxiety sometimes when im at school and it seems to be worsened by cold weather. but what are good ways to reduce or help that during the day when im at school.? thanks!

    • ANSWER:
      You mean shyness. I faced my fears and was on the debate team for 2 years. Spoke in church and tried out for plays. Now you can't shut me up.

      I came up with a saying Surf the Pain

  31. QUESTION:
    My best friend has social anxiety. How can I be there for her without being annoying?
    I recently found out a friend of mine has social anxiety. I want to be there for her, but at the same time, not annoy her or make her feel less social. Is it common for her to retreat to the internet more than want to talk to me on the phone? Some pointers from those of you who have SA would be a ton of help. Please help :(

    • ANSWER:
      It is so kind of you to want to be there for your friend and support her with this anxiety she has. Having social anxiety is such an ostracizing illness, because it takes away the things you love most - family and friends.

      One of the biggest things for YOU to remember is that when she doesn't want to hang out or seems to be pushing you away, it's not anything that you've done, it's the anxiety. She is scared and she isn't scared of you, it's just an irrational fear in her brain that is making her afraid of doing the things she really enjoys, like hanging out with her friends.

      When you want to talk to her on the phone, call her up and say, "Hey, what's up?" If she sounds nervous then say, "Is this an okay time to talk, or do you want to call me back later when you're more comfortable?" Or you could send her a text that says, "Hey, I was gonna call you, is that okay?" That way she knows that you really want to be her friend and talk to her, but the ball is in her court and she can rise to the occasion when she is comfortable and ready.

      Also, don't push her to go out places that will make her uncomfortable, like to the mall or movies or other big gatherings. When you want to hang out, suggest that she come over to your place, or you to hers, or somewhere that she is comfortable. What she really needs is to keep that contact with you, her good friend, but she is afraid to because she has this anxiety of being in social situations even with people she truly cares about. As much as it hurts you when she says "No I don't want to hang out today", it actually hurts her even worse because she really DOES want to hang out, it's just that her anxiety makes her feel like she can't. So when you want to hang out, call her up and say, "Hey, I was wondering if you were doing anything this weekend? Do you want to hang out and do something? You pick." That lets her make the decision and allows her to pick a comfortable place where she can be with you and not have to fight her anxiety the whole time.

      I know it's hard and takes a lot of patience to be friends with someone with social anxiety, but the more she realizes that you accept her condition and want to help her work around it, the more comfortable she will become. Half the problem of anxiety is that we sufferers always keep it bottled up inside of us, we don't want the world to know we have anxiety, and that makes us even more anxious. When she knows that you know, and that you accept it and just want to help and make her comfortable, it will actually make her more comfortable and able to hang out with you. People with social anxiety often have a "safe person", who they can venture into social situations with knowing that they are "protected" or safe within the company of that person. You could be that person, and slowly help her get out into the world and face her fears.

      Also, if your friend is not receiving help for her social anxiety, gently encourage her to talk to a counselor at your school about it. Anxiety disorders are very common and VERY responsive to treatment. If she starts getting help now, she can live the rest of her life normal, happy, and social. This is coming from someone who has been there and done that... I got the right treatment, had the right support from loving friends, and now I am perfectly happy going out places and doing things with large groups of people. It is very treatable, it's something she can get past, but she needs the right professional help as well as the strong support of a good friend like you.

      Good luck!

  32. QUESTION:
    Is there a way to overcome social anxiety without medication?
    I have had social anxiety and depression for 5 years now. I know medication can help me but i don't have medical insurance and i cant afford to buy them. are there any special techniques or breathing exercises that can help me overcome this a little if not completely?

    • ANSWER:
      There are lots of tips and tricks when it comes to preventing and managing panic or anxiety attacks. I would not be surprised at all if your anxiety and depression are linked. Therefore, cure the anxiety, and everything else should fall into place. Good luck.

  33. QUESTION:
    Can people with social anxiety disorder make decent money?
    I'd really like to pull in at least 0k yearly. I'm signed up for a good college this Fall, but it's going to take a lot to make myself go. I have the dedication and intelligence, but I lack social skills and suffer from social anxiety (not simple shyness). Therapists and meds can only help so much. My question is basically, "Can people with social anxiety feasibly have a high income?" I'd really appreciate advice. Thanks a lot.

    • ANSWER:
      don't give into the anxiety. you dont want to get worse do you? get out there and fight what your scared of little by little. then you can earn some money and be happy in social situations too (:

  34. QUESTION:
    How can I get help in finding a job/getting money if I have severe Social Phobia/Anxiety?
    I have been diagnosed with severe social phobia and social anxiety. I have been off medication and therapy for about three months now, but it started getting worse right after it started getting better. Now I can't physically, emotionally, or mentally hold a full-time job, which is the amount of money I need to keep my apartment. Is there anything out there that will help me find a full-time job I can handle or at least get me some kind of disability money so that I could work part-time until I am able to work full-time?

    • ANSWER:
      Get a note from the doctor that says you are being treated for an illness and that you will be out of work for a period of time. Then call up TDI (temporary disability insurance) and file a claim.

  35. QUESTION:
    How well does marijuana help people with social anxiety?
    I have social anxiety disorder and people say that I behave much more socially after smoking marijuana.

    • ANSWER:
      it has been know to take anxiety and make you more sociable, yes...but it also make you want to sit on the couch and look aimlessly up at the ceiling...i don't know this from personal exp, but i've seen it... I wonder if they also prescribe it for regular anxiety/panic attack?

  36. QUESTION:
    I am 17 a londer with no friends, constantly depressed I think I have social anxiety disorder and I hate life?
    I can't get professional help and don't know who to turn to. Also I think I have social anxiety disorder. Please Help !

    • ANSWER:
      have you tried talking with someone? You can keep a journal or diary.

  37. QUESTION:
    How do I appoarch seeking help for social anxiety disorder?
    Someone once told me that I have social anxiety disorder but I thought they were just messing with me. I recently looked it up and found that they might be right. My only problem is I'm scared to ask my parents about seeking help. I'm scared that they won't believe me or that they will and then I'll have to talk to someone. I don't know what to do or how to try and appoarch my parents..Can someone give me some advice?
    So I appoarched my mom about it and just what I thought would happen happened. She thinks that everyone feels like that even her. That I don't have a problem. But I really think I do I was nervous just to tell her about it because I was afraid of what she would think..What else should I do?

    • ANSWER:
      If you decide that you really want to get help, first do some research. Get examples of how the symptoms apply to you, and how it is affecting your life. Do you not want to participate in social activities? Has it kept you from doing things you needed to do?

      If you don't want to go to your parents directly, try going to your school counselor first. He or she might have resources to get you screened, and could provide an "expert" opinion and validation of your concerns.

  38. QUESTION:
    Can someone please help me with my social anxiety disorder?
    I have social anxiety disorder and i am working on it slowly. I've been approaching girls at malls trying to exclude akward silences to the best of my abilitity. After having an akward conversation with a girl at the mall, she gave me a 6 digit number and walked off. I have heard that girls like to talk about themselves. If that's true, what kind of questions would get them to talk about themselves?

    Please help social anxiety disorder is really ruining my life and i am 18 years old.

    • ANSWER:
      First of all appoarching women is one of the best way to overcome sa, for a guy at least. I have social anxiety, and my method to overcome it too is appoarching women. It makes me feel lively and energetic when I do it. But I screw up a lot due to anxiety, when I feel relaxed while talking to them I feel like the conversation flows much more naturally, so my advice is to relax. And trust me after a good convo and some success it feels like u just showed sa who d fck is boss. Approaching women is one of the most confident thing u can do.(women love confidence, not the cocky rude type though) Know that a lot of guys can't do that, you might not be able to succeed at first but you gotta be persistent. Maybe watch a little bit of how professional pick up gurus do it, learn some tips from them. It takes experiments and trail and error to finally be good at it. This one guy made 30-40 approaches daily on weekends until he finally got good(it's hard for me to do this because I m still busy with school). Picking up women is one of the hardest skill to learn but once you get it will be easy and rewarding. Keep going mate and never give up!

  39. QUESTION:
    Is it possible to get medical marijuana in the state of Maine to help treat social anxiety?
    I have very severe social anxiety, depression, ADHD, OCD, and bipolar disorder.

    I have tried many different medications for my disorders and I would like to try something a little more organic.

    Any information on the subject would be very helpful. Thank you in advance.

    • ANSWER:
      That's a somewhat amusing question, since social anxiety is a fairly common side effect of marijuana.

      Other people claim that it makes them more social and empathetic with other people.

      The effects of cannabis on short term memory are unlikely to help ADHD.

      Marijuana is suffiently safe that you could try it and see what happens, but it looks unpromising.

      If you want to try a broader range of herbal medicines you might be interested in going to an Acupuncture clinic and talking with them about herbs. You can use traditional chinese herbs without acupuncture and a practitioner would be able to do an exam and set you up. Various forms of cannabis are also part of chinese herbal medicine, but I don't know if acupuncturists are allowed prescribe it, even in medical marijuana states.

      Comments on medical marijuana:

      Public discourse on medical marijuana is somewhat tainted by the necessity to make it look harmless to most people in order to pass decriminalization laws. Once medical marijuana is available in a state, everyone who wants to avoid the risk of arrest for marijuana concocts some therapeutic story about how much it helps alleviate some feigned medical condition. This is actually their best course of action as a rational person if they want to smoke marijuana.

      It's obvious that cannabis has real pharmacological effects and that CB-receptor agonists are a useful category of drugs. But it's almost impossible to know whether any particular anecdote or testimonial about cannabis is credible unless you try it yourself for the same condition or can find a peer-reviewed research paper on the topic.

  40. QUESTION:
    Is exercise as effective as medication for social anxiety?
    My therapist suggested taking meds to help with my social anxiety. I have never considered taking any type of medication, but I have had social anxiety for about 20 years. I am in the process of doing research and have come across a lotl of information that equates meds with regular exercise.
    Has anyone tried exercising 6 days a week, and then taken anti-depressant or anti-anxiety meds. Are the result similar? I want to get better but don't want to get addicted to anything or experience bad side effects.

    • ANSWER:
      Exercise is the perfect medication for social anxiety. I always feel like shit when I sit around on the computer all day then go out to do something with my friends, I can't explain the feeling but I just feel horrible. My body feels like its rotting away into a vapid pile.

      There is nothing like the feeling of your body cleansing itself, your heart pumping oxygen to your body, all your arteries being flushed of all that bad shit. Sometimes I like to think that anxiety build up in my arteries, lol. Then when your done, you have an honest sweat on your brow and your body feels clean and strong, then there is that refreshing shower, that shower that you KNOW you deserve. Afterwards you can eat a guilt free breakfast and go out into the world thinking "I bettered myself today."

  41. QUESTION:
    social anxiety help and ideas to approach people and make friends?
    I was diagnosed with social anxiety recently but have to wait awhile to get counseling but i`m having a really hard time at school and hate spending lunches alone but have no friends please help.

    • ANSWER:
      honestly you need to just be yourself and be open but not to open.... there's nothing wrong with being shy its normal.. you just have to give saying "hi" a try and if they don't like you dont sweat it someone out there is bound to want to talk and hang out with you.... you just gotta figure out who you are compatible with.. and don't think to hard about talking to anyone... you are probably a really cool person.

  42. QUESTION:
    What homeworks or assignments were you given by your therapist for social anxiety?
    I can't go to a therapist for my social anxiety, and so I decided to beat this on my own.
    So for those who did go to therapy, what assigments or homework did you have to do? For example, did she make you go up to people and as people the time, etc?
    Please help me out.
    I meant ask people for the time.
    P G, you sound a little cranky.
    go take a nap buddy

    • ANSWER:
      He told me to try focusing on something else, other than my anxious thoughts, like meditating, breathing, exercising, etc. If you want to beat it, here is my advice, take three deep breaths and this should diminish your thoughts. Then become aware of your thoughts that hold no weight but to keep your anxiety going. You can do the same not only with your thoughts but your emotions and behavior patterns. Hope this helps.

  43. QUESTION:
    How so psychologists help someone get over social anxiety?
    I have finally accepted that I have a problem and I'ce come the realization that it might be social anxiety. I really need to see a therapist, but I've never been to one before and I'm not sure what they'll be saying. What do they do to help people get over something like social anxiety?

    I'm nervous to speak to a counselor about being nervous =/
    sorry typo, I've**
    How do* -- sorry for the typos lol

    • ANSWER:
      Medication can help, but so can therapy. It depends on the type of social anxiety you have (Agoraphobia and Social Phobia are very similar but the treatment can be a little different). A therapist is there to help, they may suggest interventions but it is always up to you as to whether you want to take their recommendations or to what you want to tell them. Treatment will likely be behavioral therapy in a form of exposure therapy. However, depending on how anxious you are, the process can be very very gradual so as to not cause anxiety. They may have you picture or imagine the situation first before actually doing it, for example. The therapist will go at your pace and will make sure not to recommend something you are not ready for. You will also likely learn some relaxation techniques.

  44. QUESTION:
    How long does it take for Effexor to kick in if you take it for social anxiety?
    To anyone who's ever been on effexor or knows someone on it: how long does it usually take to start feeling normal again? I have social anxiety and was prescribed effexor XR 150 mg and I've only been on it a week, but I was wondering roughly when I could start to expect results. If anyone can help, I would really appreciate it!

    • ANSWER:
      around a week and a half to 2 weeks.

  45. QUESTION:
    How do I help a co-worker with Social Anxiety?
    I have a co-worker who shared with me that they have Social Anxiety (SA). I always noticed that my co-worker seemed a little anxious, and always ended every sentence with an awkward giggle. I also noticed that my co-workers hands shake (almost like Parkinson's) when using the computer.

    I am a trainer, so this means I have to be in close proximity to my co-workers when I am educating them.

    What can I do to help?

    • ANSWER:
      You can help by telling her that the anxiety she feels may be a sign that she is afraid of failing, and, in particular, failing to live up to the expectations of her friends and/or co-workers.

      Just try to convince her that we don't really fail in life; we just learn from our experiences and become more proficient over time.

  46. QUESTION:
    What causes people to have social anxiety?
    My friend has social anxiety, and he often talks to me about having fears of speaking to people. He says hes just nervous to talk and he doesnt know why and he hates it and wants help. He even has this problem with counselors, he says he even feels nervous or anxious to talk to them.
    Whenever he does talk, he seems pretty normal and ok though he doesnt talk much. What causes this in people? I dont understand why people are affraid to talk..

    • ANSWER:
      sounds like me, what causes it is people being mean and anti- social to them! Usually when people are douchebags, it leaves a mark of insecurity within that person, then they start to worry and become paranoid of what other people think of you.

      Then they start to have anxiety, thinking some many things inside their head as to what other people think of him, he's afraid of speaking a wrong way, basically doesn't know how to act in front of people.

      Well I'm on resperidol and that helps for anxiety and paranoia and that didn't work but I'm on abilify to help with my anxiety. Tell him to seek a professional and get meds until he's ready to take the next step of not worrying so much.

      If people weren't so judgemental, ignoring people and letting people in then people wouldn't worry so much or having a tough time trying to fit in, it also has to deal with maturity level and being vain. There's a lot of evil people in this world, what happens is not everyone grew up being evil, it usually takes someone else to become a bad person in general, but bad people get a kick out of making people have social anxiety, it's all bullying and having control over you.

      Your friend needs to build confidence in himself, you need need to help him with it, when he is scared or having social anxiety, you need to tell him that everything is going to be okay, be there for him when things are tough, not let his self destruct. A lot of Envious people like to torment and tease other people bc of wanting a rise out of them, I honestly don't think it's amuzing but I know a lot of people who have issue's of breaking down and having social anxiety from people bullying them and picking on them bc they're humble.

      That's how people get social anxiety.

  47. QUESTION:
    Does anyone know any natural remedies/supplements that help with social anxiety?
    Hi, Im pretty sure i have social anxiety disorder. I would just like to now is there any natural remedies/supplements i could take to help me calm down a wee bit while in social settings? I already take magnesium supplements and feel theyve helped me a bit. Does any1 else with S.A.D feel magnesium helped?

    Thanks for answers in advance:)

    • ANSWER:
      Hey I have S.A.D. I also take magnesium and it helped alot.

      What i do before i have to go in front of a group of people is take a few short moments to be alone.
      I close my eyes and think about my family. I take deep breaths and consentrate on calming down.
      I will also take slow sips of water to calm me down or i will chew a piece of gum during conversation. It helps to keep my mind off of the situation.
      At night i make it a habit to take at least an hour to be alone.
      Sometimes i will fill the bath with warm water and pour a good smelling soap into the water.
      Then i place candles around the bathroom and put on music.
      In the tub i will close my eyes and relax.
      Other nights i will put some music on and lay in bed reading a good book.
      These relaxers helped me alot.

      If you are really looking into getting relaxed i strongly suggest yoga. The heat and consentration is AMAZING.

      hope i helped:)

  48. QUESTION:
    Can a psychologist help cure social anxiety?
    Just wondering is it possible, I have finally faced the truth and as a 18 year old I know I am suffering from social anxiety and I am 99% sure I have been for the last 10 years for sure, it is now affecting my entire life to the point of me not being able to go to uni and work well because of it. To me personally I can't see how someone talking to you will make this horrible feeling go away but is it true they can help? I can't grasp it.

    • ANSWER:
      I would recommend trying therapy. A psychiatrist might be better than a psychologist. They can prescribe medications. I also think that YOU are the one who will cure your social anxiety. The professionals can give you the help, means and possibly meds to do it.

  49. QUESTION:
    Could too much stress at work and school intensify social anxiety?
    I have always been shy, but I used too interact without stress before I started working over 40 hours a week and going to college full time. I have found myself too stricken to interact and form intimate and non-intimate relationships with women since my intense work load began. Could this be intensifying what was a minor social anxiety before, or is just another excuse for the fact that I am horrible person? Please help by answering this,

    Sincerely AudaciousFool

    • ANSWER:
      yes, at least it happens to me. it's a cycle really.

  50. QUESTION:
    Who should I approach about having Social Anxiety Disorder?
    I've been doing alot of research, and I think I may have Social Anxiety Disorder, or at least some form of it. I know there's something more to it than me just being shy. Anyway, I don't know who to approach. My regular doctor? Or a psychiatrist? I really just don't know, and also does anyone know how they go about helping you deal with it/ overcoming it? Thanks for any help!

    • ANSWER:
      Social anxiety disorder is mostly a psychological problem so I would advise you to go to a psychologist. You can significantly reduce your social anxiety through a variety of interesting strategies without medications. Control Your Reaction to Fear - Overcoming these reactions is as simple as learning relaxation techniques such as yoga, meditation, and self hypnosis; Prepare Yourself Mentally - Rather than let your fear of embarrassment or humiliation overwhelm you in social settings, role play a few scenarios in advance to make sure you are well prepared for any challenging situations. If you are prepared for things that can go wrong and you know what to do and say in those awkward moments, you will have the confidence to keep calm and handle the situation well; Face Your Fears - Sometimes, our social fears does not stem from a lack of social skills, but rather from a sense of insecurity and a lack of esteem. By stepping outside your comfort zone and placing yourself in uncomfortable situations such as speaking in front of your peers or complimenting someone, and doing it repeatedly, the easier it becomes. Soon you will soon realize that there is actually nothing to fear from most people and you may even enjoy and laugh about it; Positive Visualization And Affirmation - The way you think strongly influences the way you feel. The realization that only you can control how you think, and how those thoughts control you, is an important step in overcoming social anxiety. When those thoughts, such as “I’m going to fail” or “they will make fun of me” begin making their way into your mind, challenge those negativity and replace them with more realistic, calmer thoughts. Tell yourself that you are capable, confident, and wonderful to combat those negative thoughts. Positive visualization and affirmation are helpful in motivating you along the road to curing yourself of this problem and improving your self worth. Some people have found reading various Self Help Article to be of benefit in overcoming their Anxiety like this one I posted below.


Help For Social Anxiety In Kids

Written By: admin - Apr• 22•12

Often, teachers feel powerless in front of a very sweet, yet painfully shy, child. The shy child who suffers from social anxiety feels isolated during playtime. In class, the child never speaks up, even if they know the answer. During presentations and show-and-tell, socially anxious children have a very hard time. They are almost always incapacitated by their social anxiety and are unable to convey the information they already know, or even display the work they have prepared.

First and foremost, it is important for a teacher to differentiate between shy students, and students who are quiet because of disinterest or those who need scholastic help and support. While it is true that a student who does not speak up in class may not have done his/her homework, some students may not speak upor even answer questionsbecause they are shy. This shyness goes beyond the cute bashfulness. This is social anxiety which is very serious due to the fact that it halts their participation in class discussions, and seriously hampers their public speaking skillspossibly for life. The distinction can be easily made if you compare the student's performance on written assignments with their performance on oral questions, or presentations. An A student who delivers a poor presentation maybe simply held back by shyness. If you suspect that this is the case, ask your student to submit their presentation prep material. In a friendly setting, discuss the presentation topic with the student. Ask them questions, mainly for the purpose of demonstrating for them that they KNOW their material. You can also set a date for a "repeat presentation", where you could suggest that they use PowerPoint slides and a data show. This reduces the eye-contact time, and might ease them into the skill of public speaking.

While the above suggestions are very helpful for the older students, younger kids require a completely different approach. You, as a homeroom teacher, will have no trouble identifying a child with a chronic shyness or social anxiety problem because you spend a lot of time with them and observe them play. The shy child will not like show-and-tell very much. Make sure you help them choose something they are passionate about. You can also help them make a small video presentation to accompany their oral presentation. Making the video catchy, full of sounds, rich images and fun, is sure to turn it into a success that the whole class will enjoy. The shy child will benefit tremendously from this experience: watching themselves speak on camera, and experiencing success in their project is sure to increase their self-confidence which will dampen the effect on shyness on their morale.

Students with shyness and social anxiety also experience trouble when reading aloud. They stutter and sometimes are completely unable to read. This is no cause to skip the shy child when choosing students to read: reading aloud is a perfect opportunity to help them overcome their shyness. The teacher can try and choose the least challenging passages for these troubled students. Also, you can work out a "reading aloud plan" with them where you give them a few lines (or words in the case of a younger child) to practice at home in advance knowing that they will read them aloud the next day. Tell them to repeat the saying "practice makes progress" while inhaling and exhaling deeply if they stutter at home. Creating positive reading aloud experiences will leave a lasting impression on someone with social anxiety.

Also, If you feel like the child's social life and/or achievement in school is greatly affected by his/her social anxiety it is necessary to enlist the help of the school psychologist/counselor and talk about it with the parents.

Frequently Asked Questions

  1. QUESTION:
    Help...My daughter(15)needs a special school for kids with social anxiety.The school systems suck.?
    She has been struggling with school issues for years now.She went to school last year in an afternoon high school for 2 hrs. a day but because of budget cuts,they have it no longer.

    • ANSWER:
      there are online high school courses

      they can send a teacher to your house until an alternate placement is found

      i assume you are still workign with a psuychologist--who is doing behavior tehrapy--and making sure she continues to have access to limited social situations

  2. QUESTION:
    Social Anxiety Disorder Help?
    I know people with Social Anxiety Disorder are afraid to be judged or talked about but I wasn't like that before.

    When I was a freshman in high school, many kids were critical around me and I took their comments really personally. Right after that, I had trouble being social with other kids (that just had them talk about me more). I know some people can be rude to others but I will literally freak out of it happens to me.

    *My parents couldn't find any phsyciatrists available for me. :(

    What should I do??

    • ANSWER:
      ive had the problem for most of my life. and im only 20, in college and stressed out of my mind. it sucks. i dont make many friends because im quiet. people wont talk to the quiet one. im terrified to speak in front of a group. but it seems that the only people that i can talk to are people that are older then i am. it is very strange and im not sure for the reason why. the kids that i do hangout with around my age say that im to mature and serious all the time. i think that may be my reason but i still cant overcome my problem with meeting new people. just like to let you know that there are alot of people with the same problem out there. so far the only thing that has somewhat worked for me is meds. good luck. need anyone to talk to give me a shout.

  3. QUESTION:
    Anxiety and feeling lost. I really need your help.?
    I feel like I can't control my life and am lonely. Loneliness part is true, my father passed away, my useless relatives live in different countries, so does my lovely brother, I have two close friends but one of them got tired of my problems and the other one is too busy with school and work.

    I've always been an optimistic dreamer. I've seen deaths, my father was abusive against my mother, my mom is a conservative control freak but I was doing okay. I've always been an anti-social kid until high school. High school years were great but for after the graduation I started to have anxiety disorder (still have social anxiety disorder. Not a very bad kind)

    I'm in debts, I can't afford anything including theraphy, drugs make me worse, I can't sleep at nights (usually I sleep 3/4 AM - noon), I can't work because of my anxiety and sleeping problem but I should and don't know how can I heal myself?

    Has anyone had a similiar experience? What should I do?
    P.S. I'm taking acting lessons to be an actress but usually miss the classes because of my anxiety and sleeping problem again.
    My insurance doesn't cover mental health. And in my country there isn't any free clinics.

    • ANSWER:
      I suffered from depression too, very much to the same extent as you. I, too had bad debts and friends were getting fed up with me. A friend once told me some very, very good advice. She said "when you feel they need to do something, do the opposite". This means that when all I want to do is stay at home and shut myself off from everyone, I must force myself to go out and visit a friend. When all I want to do is stay in bed and sleep all day, I must force myself to get up and keep my mind occupied. This worked extremely well because, usually when I got to wherever I didn't want to be then I usually had a really good time and was thankfull for "pushing myself", and it broke the vicious cycle I was getting myself into. Now, 4 years later, I do not rely on drugs or counselling as I have a very good network of friends and am much happier and confident within myself. MY 'KICK UP THE BUTT' REALLY WORKED FOR ME!!!! Good luck

      P.S. There are some very good companies out there who will give practical and helpfull debt advice, it doesn't always have to be this way, there is plenty of help out there you just have to go lookin for it.

  4. QUESTION:
    Serious suggestions on how to help someone with a social anxiety disorder.?
    I have a son who as he has gotten older has developed more and more of a social anxiety disorder. Was very outgoing and social as a kid. Nothing to my knowledge traumatic happened, just something that started rearing it's head around 16 with him. He is now 24. He is has been on 2 medications for about 6 months and they do help to some degree. He is not receptive at all when I "gently" bring up therapy....we have a friend therapist who specializes in this disorder. I have also told him we can find a therapist that is totally anonymous if that makes him more comfortable. He isolates himself more and more and finds excuses to not be around people, including family. I want him to live a full and happy life. He is not able to complete his degree that he has worked so hard for...only has about 12 hours left. Can't work outside, not many social contacts. Is a very likable young man by those he allows to get close to him, has a great sense of humor etc..... Please be kind and compassionate in your answers. I'm just asking for suggestions as to how to get him the further help he needs without being too pushy and risk driving him away further into isolation. Perhaps if someone has dealt with this anxiety themselves and found some route that was particularly useful, I would be appreciative for any tips or suggestion. Like all parents we want our children to live full, productive, happy lives and it's breaking my heart to see him retreat further and further away from the majority of people. God Bless you all. A very concerned mother.

    • ANSWER:
      I feel for you and your son. I have struggled with anxiety/panic/cod/agoraphobia and depression for 15 yrs now.I am currently seeing a psychologist and it is helping me. I've been told many times by doctors, psychiatrists and psychologists that I'll never get cured from anxiety but I can learn to manage it. At first I was devastated to hear that there was no cure but in time it made sense and it has helped to cope and accept it a bit better.The way the doctor explained it is that some ppl suffer from asthma or diabetes and usually it's genetic and my conditon is also genetic as I have many family members that have anxiety and or depression.
      I cannot take anti-depressants as I'm afraid to take meds but many swear tah tanti-depressants help calm down the mind of an anxious person and they help stop the fearfull thoughts. So a patient that is on anti-depressants and therapy can expect an 80% recovery rate. when I say recovery I mean these ppl are able to live a fairly normal life. I'm hoping that one day I too can take this medication.
      The main thing to remember with anxiety annd annxiety related symptoms is that you need to keep stretching your boundaries. The more one stays at home and hides from the world the smaller your boundaries will become and harder it will be to get out . I have become agoraphobic because I chose to stay at home rather than face the stress of going our. I wish I hadn't done that as it has become more difficult to get out anywhere now.
      Therapy and meds seems to be the best most helpfull way to treat anxiety.
      Also I would like to point out that depression is the other side of the coin here. This is why anti-depressants help so many ppl. The meds help reduce those obsessive, fearfull thoughts that an anxious person has to deal with.
      I wish I could tell you that your son can be cured from this and have a normal life but after having this for 15 yrs I can't promise you that. What i can offer you is hope that he can learn to manage his anxiety better and not be so terrified and live a more comfortable and productive life . The anxiety happens to us because its our bodies way of telling us that the way we were living our life wasn't working for us. I cannot say I wish I could go back to how I used to be because that is what got me herein the first place. I was extrememly shy and I had no tools to express myself so I kept bottling up my fear until one day I exploded(had a panic attack) and theh anxiety reared its' ugly head.
      Acknowledge that something in him some pain had led him to be here today and you can help him to start healing .

  5. QUESTION:
    After meditation how do i deal with irrational people at my school? How to deal with bullies? social Anxiety?
    How do you over come social Anxiety. I need help. I been throwing myself at parties, club basically forcing myself to go talk i cant beat this. My people skills is low I want to learn how to greet people with out saying the say thing over and over again? maybe thats my weakness I dont know how to greet. I say hi wassup hello how are you doing small talks but no one will help me to carry on a conversation. I hate it when people looks in my eyes i cant help it

    rumors starter, basically bully. I meditation to calm down at home my mind feels clear for a while until I remember i have school. I have social phobia so kids acts really unfriendly. they spent there whole time trying to make me look back or teasing what ever they do. I try meditation and just minding my own business. I stop listening to Buddha teaching also MLK and Gandhi but defending myself. if any one even looked at me the wrong way i got into there face. after all that fighting I was considered the bad guy lol. they told the teachers I was an ass hole and pick with other kids lol. I never spoke a word to any one so i dout i did that crap. It was funny having to listing to bunch of lies al soon as i start fighting back. well they got everyone on there side even the teachers. but at the same time i feel like i won because they stop starting shit like calling me retarded all the time and a bunch of other shit.

    I dont get it A person who shy isolate himself from people they are consider losers. why? Why do people feel like they have to make there friends laugh then they choose you as one of there jokes because they think your not going to fight back. Why are people like this

    • ANSWER:
      I understand how you feel. I've experienced this sort of thing as well.

      It's not you who's the problem, it's them. If they refuse to be friendly and lighten up your day, they're not exactly pleasant people.
      Do not throw yourselves at them. There's no point in befriending people who don't want to be befriended. If you have no friends in school, have friends outside of school. And believe me, there's nothing wrong with being friends with your family.

      Also, the best way to beat the bullies is to have a successful future. In other words, a successful career and a happy life. If you are good at something, pursue it. It might even become a job.

      Talk to people about your situation. That's what I did. Be open and express everything in perfect detail. It will help you feel better. This could be anyone, but make sure it's someone you trust.

  6. QUESTION:
    I Don't Want To Go To College Because Of Social Environment (Long Question)?
    So i'm 19 years old and i am already going to college one year late. I have lived by myself since i was 16 when my father died. When I was younger I use to be social but kids started not to like me i think because I was socially awkward. I didn't have any friends from 6th grade (not one) until my second senior year (Roughly 7 years without one friend except my father and brother). I got very depressed and was sent by my guardian to a therapy place boarding school. Kids didn't like me there either and they didn't help me at all. Since everyone there were there for abusing drugs and being to social they made my social anxiety even greater. I then went to a boarding school, and got a feel for living away from home. I hated every second of it. I had no friends there and hated everyone there. That's when I finally realized that I gave up on making friends and hate other peoples company and enjoy being by myself or close family friends. I went back to my old school being a year older than everyone for my senior year. I made one friend who was also new and we have become very close almost like brothers. I ended up applying to the same school as him and after i didn't get into any of the schools i wanted to go to, but my twin brother did, I ended up going there. School starts in 3 weeks and I already went to a 3 day orientation. It was horrible, the kids have so much energy, wanted to stay out till 5 in the morning, there completely ignorant and know nothing about the world but there the ones who got the scholarship. I requested for a double and they put me in a quad for housing. Right now i live in my old house with my twin brother and I love it. We get a big house to ourselves, and have a pool in the backyard. I take care myself, try and manage the financial stuff to the best of my ability, clean (sometimes) but its nice. Now i have to downgrade to a room the size of a bathroom and share it with 3 other guys. I have rules i have to live by. I haven't had authority since i live alone, and my Father was never strict. He wanted me to be more social so he wanted me to stay out till 6 in the morning as long as i was being social. My boarding school had authority and i challenged them on everything. I felt like a prisoner behind rules and they were suffocating me. The school work is also scaring me because i have to take courses i really don't care about but im less worried, i was always an A student. By the way im not a trouble maker im more quiet. Everyone says im socially awkward and i have tried for over 10 years to fix it. im past the point of trying i was ready to kill myself over this bull S%%@ once im not gonna let it hurt me like that again. I'd rather drop out of school and be a hobo then get that depressed again. . I need some real advice please don't recommend community college and live at home because i already paid tuition and if i transferred then id transfer to a better school. Advice on how to make this situation work would help a lot. By the way its a city school and i don't like cities cause i get claustrophobic lol im just being impossible now. Please Help Me Please

    • ANSWER:
      (LONG ANSWER :) -The fact that you've already paid tuition may be a non-issue as you may be able to get it back. And even if you can't, if you go away to school and become depressed, non functional etc, and you don't successfully complete your classes you'll have wasted those funds anyway. But as I see it, that is all secondary to your feelings of social isolation. Have you ever been tested for any type of "spectrum disorder?" e.g. Asperger's or a non verbal learning disorder (NLD-not like it sounds, it's also a social/asperger type disorder). It is possible you may be on the autism spectrum as the experiences you describe are very common to those with such disorders. Or... you mention you were always an "A" student. Is it possible you are highly or profoundly gifted? Many who are also experience what you've described. I have a son entering 7th grade this year and up to this point (and I anticipate it will con't) he's had the same social experiences you describe. Despite great efforts, he has had no friends since 2nd-3rd grade. He's sweet and kind and tries but he just doesn't "click" with others. (Fortunately, no depression over it yet.) I always thought he probably had some type of spectrum disorder but multiple evaluations indicated otherwise. The last psychologist said he is "different" simply because of his high/profound giftedness and that he will find his flock eventually... most likely in high school A/P or early college classes. Which brings me to another point/question. Clearly the boarding school kids were not "you're flock," so is possible you just haven't meant your "flock." Do you have a passion for computers, art, poetry?? If so, you may meet and befriend others that way. What was it about the friend you made in high school that made you click with him? A common interest? (And, for what it's worth, one doesn't need DOZENS of friends, just one/two QUALITY friends- and wonderful- it sounds like you have that!) Another option is online college classes. You can complete a degree this way very easily. Does the school you've applied/been accepted to offer them? They can be done anywhere so you could still live at home but get your schooling done. And as far as "taking classes you really don't care about,".... sorry, but that's college!!! The idea is for you to be educated/well-rounded etc. No way around it. Having said all of that, I too think some professional help is in order as soon as possible. And not because anything is "wrong" with you but simply because a professional that you can share these feelings with can help you navigate this very difficult time and offer very viable solutions. And... I'm so sorry that you don't have your father to help you work through these things. I have made it my life's work to work with/protect and prepare my son to deal with exactly what you've been dealing with alone. I think your best chance is to reach out to a professional asap for guidance. The things you're dealing with are not insurmountable, you just need someone to help ease the anxiety and define a clear path. ps... there is nothing wrong with "different!" It's those like you that are bright/different that the rest of us end up working for!!! My sincere best to you.

  7. QUESTION:
    How can I overcome social anxiety?
    I think it came from my childhood because I was always teased because my mom died (yes, kids can be very cruel) It didn't help that I didn't have a good father to depend on either. His girlfriends used to constantly mentally or physically abuse me while he acted like he didn't see it. Now as a 19yr old I always feel so nervous when around people like theres something wrong with me. I didn't even know what there was a name for something like this. I'm scared to talk, eat, write, or even concentrate when around others. If I'm in a crowded room I feel like everybodys talking bad about me. I know I might sound ridiculous but please don't judge me, I really need help and some good advice.

    • ANSWER:
      Tackling social anxiety can be a complex thing. Just as other people wrote, the first thing that is good for you to realize is that something like this is an abnormal condition. What I mean is, it's not something you just shake off. It's something people should take seriously, so if people say that you're overreacting or exaggerating, don't listen to them.

      Secondly, because of everything you've been through over the years led to this, it's something that will take time to address and try to deal with. This is something your mind and body have become habituated to through slow repetition of experiences. Conditioning like that needs time to correct.

      I would suggest psychological counselling. I would not suggest prescription drugs as a long term solution, because this only numbs one from the pain and anxiety without addressing the underlying mental and emotional issues. The symptoms are masked, but the root problems are not.

      Also, I would seek help from a medical/psychological professional, and not rely primarily on a faith based cure. I'm not trying to belittle or attack religion here, it's just that too many religious groups do not understand the complexities of psychological disorders and might try to convince you that all you need to do is pray about it or read the Bible to cure yourself. It's not that simple. I've seen people become more discouraged and miserable this way.

      Your situation is unique and I'm not a counsellor, so I've posted some links to social anxiety webpages and forums that might lead you to find counsellors or other people with the same condition. Hopefully they will be able to lead you to the help you need. Remember that you aren't the only one, and that even though part of you might not feel this way or believe this because of your anxiety, there are people out there who do care.

      I hope you find the help that you need. You're relatively young. Do something about it now and you won't regret it.

  8. QUESTION:
    Teenage years using Adderall to treat ADD/ADHD?
    So, I was diagnosed with ADD/ADHD and OCD around the ages of 8-12. I considered myself a normal kid, despite my "mental illnesses" until around middle school though. I started taking Adderall, and I could pay attention to my teachers, but I got far less social. I began getting severely self-concious of myself, which is typical amongst most kids around my age. Then, I realized I wasn't a very social kid either. I mean, I had friends, even very good ones. But, I found it very difficult to communicate in large groups of people. I was often afraid I'd just say something stupid or even when I had something completely relevant to say, maybe even really funny, I would not say it. I often felt a sense of social anxiety, which has gotten progressively worse since I entered by junior year of high school. I mean, It gets so bad, I can't stand up at lunch to walk through a room of 400 kids to get some food, often feeling anxiety that they were looking at me or talking about me. I get this feeling in other places as well, not just the cefeteria. I most harsly suffer from this when going to my high school football or basketball games, I just can't walk through the doors of the gym or field and cross in front of hundreds of people to find my friends. Sometimes, in fact, a lot of the time, I just like to be left alone. I'll spend entire weekends indoors. I find it nearly impossible to talk to my mom normally and even say, "I love you".I find it very difficult to talk to girls sometimes as well, mainly good looking ones, which is also normal for some. But I look around at all my friends, and they've each had girlfriends, talk to 10+ different girls a day casually and whenever I get matched up in a group of people talking with girls, I just can't get my shit together. I've always been far less popular than my friends. Sometimes, I get nervous when I'm alone with a friend, girl or boy, afraid I'm not talking enough or if I've said something retarded. I always try to look my very best, often afraid to even leave the house or school bathroom if I don't, which is an OCD thing I believe. I almost never really get bored...I, for some reason can even sit in a room for hours on end and somehow manage to keep myself entertained, rather it be playing video games to even looking at myself in a relfection. I often feel and consider myself a total loser, I haven't had a girlfriend in years, I either suck at every sport or am uneligable to play due to my pathetic grades, I never ever exercise, yet I lose weight because I skip breakfast and lunch on Adderall. I mean, this all partly tied with depression I'm sure, but what I'm getting at is I think the medication is making it worse.

    I am very intelligent, and yet I get D's and F's...Adderall, didn't really help much in my school life as far as motivation. I mean, my mom's made countless reward deals with me consisting of an Iphone, money, a flatscreen for my room if I bring home good grades. And yet, I roll out with a 1.5 GPA, and a 125-145 IQ. Nothing has helped, I've had dozens of parent-teacher conferences, Adderall, no Adderall, orginizational classes, groundings for months on end, and yet my grades stay the same.

    While on Adderall, I am able to think very clearly and I am very productive when given a task at school. But, its making me a boring and slower person I think. I've always wanted the teenage life my friends have, with the girls, the sports, the grades, the cheerfulness, but I'm never able to aqquire it. And no worries, I've never felt suicidal, nor will I most likely ever.

    I want to stop taking the drug, and please don't tell me to talk to my doctor, I've been letting doctors perscribe me to a half-dozen different drugs over the years, mis-diagnose me with a few other mental illnesses, and all they ever do is contemplate raising or lowering my dose. I just want to live a confident and normal lifestyle without any kind of drug.

    What should I do? Any other illnesses come to mind, given my story?

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  9. QUESTION:
    one event change my life and now i believe i have social anxiety, can you help me get back to normal?
    Well this all happened about 5 years ago.... I was in class and a kid threw a spiked eraser at my eye, my eye became permanetly damaged and for about a week i was practically blinded from it, to this day my eye still has problems from this. Anyway, it seems like after that day something clicked in my head. I slowly became more nervous in public and 5 years later i turned into that kid in the corner who jumps at anything and basically i turned into a weird guy, at home i act like i did before the incident happened, but in public im a totally new person, I can't make new friends anymore and i have a hard time talking with people, i also get very nervous in public. Im 99% sure i have developed social anxiety. I just don't understand how this incident sent me from being a popular kid with a huge amount of friends...into a person who fears social situations. I really want to try to fix the problem on my own, if you have tips for me please help.

    • ANSWER:
      Having a spiked eraser thrown into your eye hard enough to induce permanent damage seems pretty traumatic to me. Did everyone laugh in the class when it first happened? I'm guessing you were a little bit embarrassed when it happened.

      Pencil erasers at first glance aren't the most menacing objects but what you should understand is that what may have seemed like no big deal was a big deal for you. Not only did you suffer from the immediate embarrassment of being hit in the eye with the eraser but you also had the physical pain to go along with the experience.

      The fact that your eye is still having problems is a real reminder of the experience. Your best bet would be to find the best optometrist and try to repair as much of the eye as possible. At the very least make the eye less sensitive to peripheral stimuli that would make you flinch. Your flinching is similar to what happens to children who are hit by their parents growing up. The flinching can be fixed with the help of a behaviorally trained counselor.

      Anxiety disorders are some of the easiest disorders to treat. All you need to do is repair the physical damages of your experience in order to fully overcome the embarrassment and emotional damage. It is certainly possible for you to become the popular, gregarious person you once were. With professional help, you could really improve your life.

  10. QUESTION:
    What are you supposed to do when you have Panic Disorder?
    I remember a few years ago, when I was in sixth grade, I went to a therapist for school related reasons.

    He wasn't a very good therapist; he didn't ask me anything, he only knew stuff about me through my parents (and my parents said some faulty stuff), and he only talked to her for like 3 - 4 minutes at most.

    But he diagnosed me with Panic Disorder. I have my doubts about his diagnosis, but for the most part I believe I do have PD; maybe even Social Anxiety Disorder, but definitely Panic Disorder.

    I never got any help for that though. My family doesn't seem to believe I need help, I'm just an anti-social kid who needs to be in a small class.
    But I don't want to be in a small class, I want to be in a normal school with a bunch of kids.

    My mom apparently had Panic Disorder when she was younger, she never got any help for it and as an adult she became more open.

    I want to become social and talkative; I'm not the type of person that likes interacting with people or socializing by preference, but I do want to be able to make good conversations like I can do in my writing.

    So.. What am I supposed to do about this? Can I help it by myself?

    • ANSWER:
      Lots you can do, read up on anxiety, panic disorders, learn what triggers them in you, practice relaxation exercises, see if there's counselors at your school, or maybe someone at mental health you can talk to. Also look up nami they are a organazation that can point you in the right direction.

  11. QUESTION:
    I need free/low cost help for social anxiety disorder in southeast michigan.?
    I have had social anxiety for as long as I can remember. I am almost 30 and have 3 kids. I am uninsured and really need help so I can get on with my life and better provide for my children. Can anyone tell me of a place that will provide therapy and scripts if necessary?

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  12. QUESTION:
    I am afraid to tell my parents that i might have social anxiety disorder?
    **** if you don't really want to read all this, which i completely understand than just scroll down to the bottom for a WAY SHORTER version haha xD ****

    I always used to think that i was just really shy, then i heard about social anxiety disorder.
    I am 13, and the more i hear about social anxiety disorder, the more i think that it applies to me.
    i have an extreme dislike for being in social situations in which i hardly know anyone, or don't know anyone at all.
    I freak out if i don't have a parent or friend that i know well with me.
    I have a lot of trouble keeping eye contact with anyone, even my parents and friends, and if i do, by some miracle, keep the eye contact, i have to try really hard not to look away and it becomes extremely uncomfortable.
    Just this past year I won a science award and had to present my project to a packed auditorium of my fellow classmates, people of higher and lower grades,teachers.
    I was so extremely nervous my eyebrow started twitching uncontrollably and i was trembling and i could barely hear what i was saying due to my heart that was pounding so hard i felt as if the people surrounding me could see it.
    I have trouble using public restrooms. I am afraid people will think im a freak because of a simple bodily function. I know its an irrational fear and i just keep telling myself that public restrooms exist for a sole purpose, yet i am still scared out of my wits to fill that purpose and find myself flushing the toilet before i get down to business to block out the noise.
    i don't like talking to people i don't know well over the phone, or at all, really. I always have to whisper the meal i want to order to my mom or dad so they can order it for me, even though i feel foolish because i am 13, and even more foolish because i look a good 3 years older, at least.
    These are just the symptoms that apply to me that i can remember from researching it not too long ago, im sure that are more.
    i feel almost certain i have social anxiety disorder but i need to be sure as i can before i tell a parent, because that in itself will be difficult.
    I want to tell my dad because i am far closer to him than my mom, except i am afraid he wont take me seriously, like the time i tore a ligament in my back, or broke my thumb. It took two months of physical pain for him to finally take me into the doctor, with doubts that there was even an injury at all. I had to get my mom to take me in to get m thumb x-rayed because it was pretty much useless it hurt so much.
    I think my dad is this way because he is a doctor, a vet really, but they are somewhat similar, i assume?
    anyways i would tell my mom because i think that she would be more apt to believe me, but ever since she divorced my dad and moved out, we haven't really been too close.
    I really want to tell my dad, but, once again, i don't think he'll take me seriously, and i think i would have trouble talking to him about it even if i didn't have to worry about him not taking my seriously.

    ***** basically to shorten it for all the lazies (hehe just kidding xD) i think i might have social anxiety disorder and i want to tell my parents but im scared. Help/Suggestions on how to do this? *****

    • ANSWER:
      You should print out some papers on social anxiety disorder, maybe highlight the symptoms of it and be prepared to explain to your dad how it applies to you. Make sure he has the time to talk and listen and if you come to him in a serious matter, I'm sure he will take you seriously. Especially if you are asking for help.
      [:

  13. QUESTION:
    social Anxiety disorder, or just low self esteem?
    In your opinion, does this seem more like social anxiety or just low self esteem?
    if a person feels or acts awkward at social gatherings, but only if they feel that someone there doesn't like them. Sometimes they are very sociable, but most of the times they have a lot of trouble knowing how to keep a conversation because they are afraid that they will say something embarrassing.
    because of this a lot of people avoid them and this makes them feel bad. Also when there is a big crowed the person has a panic attack and can't breathe. At a grocery store, the person will go all the way around to get the item they want if there are a lot of people between them and the item. when there is a crowed around them, they put their arms at their side and freeze.
    said person was teased a lot as a kid.
    which do you think it is and what would be suggestions for the person to help them cope better and fit in.
    Thank you for the answers.

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  14. QUESTION:
    social anxiety disorder or just low self esteem?
    In your opinion, does this seem more like social anxiety or just low self esteem?
    if a person feels or acts awkward at social gatherings, but only if they feel that someone there doesn't like them. Sometimes they are very sociable, but most of the times they have a lot of trouble knowing how to keep a conversation because they are afraid that they will say something embarrassing.
    because of this a lot of people avoid them and this makes them feel bad. Also when there is a big crowed the person has a panic attack and can't breathe. At a grocery store, the person will go all the way around to get the item they want if there are a lot of people between them and the item. when there is a crowed around them, they put their arms at their side and freeze.
    said person was teased a lot as a kid.
    which do you think it is and what would be suggestions for the person to help them cope better and fit in.
    Thank you for the answers.

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  15. QUESTION:
    Does anyone have social anxiety?
    I think I have social anxiety. I was very quiet as a child, and when I was elementry school the kids called me mute, and bullied me because I was so quiet, and they thought I was just stuck up, but I was very shy, today I am still a little shy, and bashful at times but just not as much as I use to be i think, and Ill be 26 in December. I have been trying to deal with this ever since I was about 20 years old, and I realized how afraid I was to go outside, unless I had a reason to be out there or when I was 20 I worked as a workshop associate at a non-profit organization with people who are mentally challenged and for some reason I felt that I could talk to them more than I could with my co-workers. Does anyone else have this problem and how do you deal with it? Have you ever gotten help for it? Another thing even though I am this way the career that I want to get into is a social worker. weird huh?

    • ANSWER:
      While the previous person has answered in terms of being an introvert, I would like to add some more. It is ok to be an introvert; having said that, not all introverts have social anxiety. It is social anxiety if it fits the DSM-IV criteria and most importantly, if you begin to avoid social situations for fear of negative evaluation by others and this in turn, affects your social, occupational and daily functioning.

      I don't think I have clinical social anxiety, but I did think I was social phobic. I would constantly worry in social situations what I would do and that I would say something stupid etc etc. However, upon learning more in psychology, one of the treatments for social anxiety if cognitive behaviour therapy which involves exposure to situations the person fears. The underlying principle is that the more you expose yourself to the feared situation, the more you adapt to it. Additionally, therapists ask you to experiment...u predict how bad the situation may be and then evaluate it objectively. Usually, socially anxious individuals will predict a situation to go really badly but the reality is, it rarely would turn out to be that bad.

      I have been able to overcome social anxiety in that I don't have sweaty palms or stage fright...however, I am still an introvert and don't necessarily take the first step when it comes to meeting new people but I am ok with that.

      And finally, no it's not weird you want to be a social worker. I think it's great!

      If it really is affecting your daily functioning, I would suggest seeing a psychologist but if not, and if it's just shyness and not affecting you too badly, then it's ok.

      Good luck with it all. Hope this helps.

  16. QUESTION:
    Serious anxiety issues that are effecting my everyday life and mostly my social life.?
    I'm 21 and the anxiety issues started from when i was a little kid. I have severe anxiety under many situations for no reason. the smallest things will create anxiety in my life. any type of social event or sometimes even walking into work can trigger mild to severe heart pounding panic attacks. I dont understand this. I can not fall asleep until the day breaks sometimes because my mind is running off about my problems. i have to limit my daily activities to prevent anxiety attacks from even occuring. i seen a phychiatrist and he prescribed me lexapro, i gave it a chance for a few months and the side effects made me stop taking it and it did not help in the slightest with the panic attacks. what can ease my anxiety so i can improve my quality of life.

    • ANSWER:
      Well the frist answer made a good point towards helping to treat some of you anxiety by allowing you to get more intouch with your abilities. Understand physically what you can do by jogging, weightligting, or a sport is a good way towards developing yourself a perception that well help with day-2-day anxiety, but it won't cure it. Thats your job buddy, and its unbelieveable hard in our society, because the classic treatment is to numb you out, and comfrom you, which makes the problem even harder, for one you don't feel it like other people, and the out right comfromity is actually your biggest problem, because comfroming to a society with as many social problems as ares is paramount to joining the cursades in hopes it well get you closer to god, or in others words, a very bad path to fellow. You really want to get past you social anxieties, you need to undersand the social struture in such away that allows you to overcome its shortcommings. Is not easy becasue its going to envolve you getting MENTAIL confident so that you can also handle you anxieties on that plane. Understand that unless you look outside the box of our social structure then your going to be DEPRESSED, theres nothing right with the way the culture we deal with is set up. I could go on and on about why, but it has nothing to do with conspiracies and everything to do with seeing how following the purpose of our society is going to leave you insecure, alone, and purposless. Until you wrap your head around the reason why, I can see how the whole thing would drive me crazy, if I was able to understand the WHY its that way. Realize that at some point you need to have a perception that allows you to "let go" of what doesn't matter, and "hold on" to what does, and I gaurette you that thas worth holding doesn't leave you with panic attacks or depression, just an understanding, a feeling, that you not powerless, nor purposeless. This has nothing to do with any one ideology or any one path, just understanding how they all go together and that EVERYONE is valued, important and powerful with in this reality. Anything less then seeing it that way, is depression, and mind-brecking. Lets just say that our society made us look away from the very thing that can save us, namly our emotions. Theres a book out there called "emotional intellegence" that takes a different look at things which is pretty mind opening, short of that is good old carl jungs "man and his symbols" which also does a good job of opening that mind, without be too preaching. Also stay away from posinous thinking, just as I'm ugly, stupid, lazy, good for nothing, what you say to yourself goes along way towards enfluencing the way you feel.

  17. QUESTION:
    How do I ensure that I treat both my kids equally so they both feel loved and special and cherished growing up?
    My birth mother favored my younger sister over me. I was kicked out at 17 as we never got along because she was jealous that my grandma (her mother) legally adopted and raised me from 3 months to 11 years and my bond was stronger with her, naturally. She had me at 16, so I was her "mistake" baby, and she had my sister 10 years later when she married another man. My step dad was better to me than my own birth mother. Living with her for the 6.5 years I had to stay with her was hell on me. She is a borderline personality/narcissistic individual. I was the scapegoat for everything, my little sister could do no wrong. I was a star athlete, ran varsity track, was always on the honor roll, in all honors classes, never was into drugs or boys or trouble, but she always found something to yell and nit pick with me over.

    I am nearly 30, and married and I am still working on my self-esteem. I see what she did to me, and I would rather shoot myself dead right now point blank than to put my son and my daughter through that. I find myself always making sure almost in a OCD way that if I tell my baby girl she did good on her finger painting, I go tell my son a compliment based on his skills, even if it is random...like "Hey man, I saw you out there shooting hoops in the driveway. You're looking good. You should think about signing up for basketball at the youth center."

    It's so OCD, to the point even if one of my kids doesn't need anything from the store, and the other does, I will buy something for the other one anyway one size up and just put it away for later, because I don't want to treat them different. I feel I go into anxiety and OCD trying to be fair so I am nothing like my mother. I scold them equally too. If one gets a game taken away, so does the other. I don't play tattle tale blame games/scapegoating so I do group punishment unless I know one is solely responsible. I want to uplift them in healthy ways, not anxiety and OCD driven ways stemming from my own pain.

    My mother never helped me go to college even though I was a great student and had many scholarships (never enough for a full ride though), but she helped my special ed sister go to community college. Thanks to the Army I did attend college and found my way in life all by my own wits and grit, but I make it a mission to strive to help my kids any way I can EQUALLY when they are ready to cross that bridge. I also never got to have a boyfriend, or even a teen social life. I was too busy babysitting my younger sister while my mom stayed out getting wasted or working. Then, she would yell at me if a boy ever called and tell me I am not seeing any boy. But my sister has been screwing some dude since middle school and they're engaged now, she's 19 and he's about 23. So I want my kids to have normal kid social lives, and have boyfriend/girlfriends and feel that they can come to me about anything. I want them to know I am here for them, and I support and love them no matter what in life. How can I do this in a healthy way? I don't want my kids to ever feel the way I did growing up.

    • ANSWER:
      Work on getting over your resentment of your Mom and focus on what truly matters which are your Children. I grew up sheltered, things bought for me when needed even though there wasn't much, only negative was the lack of love/emotions/bond given to me by my Mother. So once I found love and started a family that was when my resentment towards her started. I just couldn't understand how a Mother not show love and affection to one child but can do so 100% to the other? It seems like I was the only one that was left out of the loop. My youngest sister of course could do no wrong. I had 5 other siblings but I felt so alone at times because none of them could relate what I was going through since they didn't get the same treatment. I feel growing up we had an awkward mother/daughter type of relationship. We could barely hold down a 5 minute conversation. I was only able to pour my thoughts to my dad. In some way I feel the love my Dad has for me is what drives her to give her love to the others. So my parents had their favorites... I might have been my Dad's favorite but it would have been nice if I could have at least an ounce of love from my Mother. My accomplishments go unnoticed, my children are hardly acknowledge. I see now that she treats them the same way she treated her own children... she chose a favorite and she makes it so obvious. It kills me but it is expected.

      Now as a Mother of 2 children. Boy being 8 years old, and daughter 21 months old. I was very scared when I was pregnant with my daughter. I often think that I might not love them Equally because I somehow feel it would be hard to do considering the age gap and the sex of my children. One will need me more than the other or so at least that is what I thought. But really now I know I do love them Equally because I have the same hopes for the both of them. I would die to save the both of them, I wouldn't choose one over the other in my heart of course but showing isn't so easy since both children will perceived it differently. I'm just glad they are healthy and happy children. Love is a word that is often said each day in our home. My Husband and I make sure of that.

      You've already got it covered because it seems to me you are already a wonderful mother. :-)

  18. QUESTION:
    social anxietyschool issues.. Whats going on?
    THIS IS A REPOST SINCE I PUT THE SAME QUESTION IN EDUCATION SECTION

    Ok I just wanna start out saying that i don't know whats going on with me. I started high school this year and I just have to say its been a living hell for me. I have social anxiety disorder so i don't talk or speak to other kids very often because i'm afraid of getting judged. KIds sometimes make fun of me because i'm quiet. My teacher yells at me all the time for not talking. I have multiple panic attacks a day just thinking about what my teachers say about me. The thing that pisses me off so much is that my teachers lie to me and my progress, for example one day a teacher say i'm doing really good in their class and then i see my grades and their in the low 50's upper 40s. My parents have many meeting with school that makes it worse because the teacher got yell at by someone and takes it out on me. While this is all going on I have really bad anxiety because this one teacher say I'm anti-social and does not want to make friends with anybody. I hate this saying because everyone says that to me. Its also very hard in class not to break down crying or having an episode because I get laughed at enough. One of my teachers is very nice to me and understands what i'm going though and helps me out. I'm also very stressed out with homework and test and quizzes. I get a lot of homework do the next day I stay up all night sometimes doing homework and studying then i'm so tired the next day. Also because of my stress i get sick which puts more work on my plate. I've also noticed that I have a really hard time studying. Most of the time i fall asleep at the table or study for hours. When somebody asks me a question I will forget and have a panic attack because i forgot. I'm really getting annoyed with these issues with anxiety stress,depression and school. I have thought about quitting school. because i'm so sick of this crap. If anyone can find out what going with me please leave your responses. Please don't tell me to come to yahoo answer with this question I'm just looking for advice =)

    • ANSWER:
      try homeschool...u'll do better in your work cause you wont have any peers and you wont have to worry about being made fun of. it takes off some pressure

  19. QUESTION:
    Elementary school-age "little buddy" with social anxiety problems?
    Hi!

    I'm part of the "One on One" program at my school, in which a high schooler (that's me :]) is paired up with an elementary or middle schooler whose teachers or parents think she could be helped in some way or another by having a big buddy.
    This is my first year in the program, so I don't know much about the details except that once a week I'm going to spend about half an hour with my little buddy, a 4th grade girl, on Fridays during her lunch and recess.

    What I'm worried about is this: my little buddy is part of the program because she has social anxiety and difficulties getting involved in conversations and playing with other kids. The counselor said I was chosen to be this girl's big buddy because I have a very positive attitude, but I'm really nervous because I have some social anxiety problems of my own. (I'm bad at jumping in on conversations and usually end up being the one who's not part of the group and just kind of stands awkwardly on the edge of the conversation because I don't know how to join in...) I've been getting better, this year especially, but I don't know how or why, so I have no advice for my buddy, and I'm still not fully over it.

    What should I do to help my little buddy with her social anxiety when I have the same sort of troubles?

    :] thanks!

    • ANSWER:
      You're actually uniquely qualified to help this child. You understand the problem as no one without the problem would. You probably have spent years chastising yourself because you know what you should do but just couldn't seem to do it because the mechanics of actually doing it don't make perfect sense to you. You're also getting over it so you also know what actually does work.

      Seriously, you're uniquely qualified to help your little buddy. Just relate to her through your shared problem. Alternatively you can just basically be her friend and playmate and not address the issue directly but just get her used to talking - about anything.

  20. QUESTION:
    Social anxiety issue?
    can someone please tell me if this is a mental social issue i should get help for or wait it out. Im 19 and since a few years ago i have been having extremely bad social nervouseness and anxiety when in groups of people small to large. i feel just terrified and dont talk at all and just feel anxiety making me look wierd to people. even at thanksgiving with my family i tried to not sit at the big table and instead with the younger kids because i was too worried of feeling the anxiety and not talking at the table, i use to not worry like this at all. Any have an idea what is wrong? should i just wait it out and see if it dissapears?...or get help? im in college now and turn down parts constantly and hanging with friends because i feel happy and comfortable just by myself at my house. i wont sign up for classes where presentations happen because i couldn't do it. i didn't use to be like this, just the recent years. i dont know if this is adding to it but i smoke marijuana pretty often. THANKS

    • ANSWER:
      I am 19 too and I am in college. I have anxiety, although it isnt exactly like yours. (Its not really social....its hard to explain) But it has been bothering me for about a year or two now. It hasnt let up, and i have not seeked help yet. I dont want to seem like a hypocrit becase I havent done it, but you should probably talk to your doctor. It cant be healthy to be like that lol.

      Bottom line------ If its interfering with your life, you should do it!

      Oh and p.s smoking weed makes it worse....i had to quit a couple months ago (now im practically an alcoholic because the alcohol gets rid of anxiety)

  21. QUESTION:
    how to tell my dad i have social anxiety?
    Hi! I'm 14 years old and just discovered that i have "Social Anxiety Disorder." As I am getting older, I notice my shyness getting worse.I'm not comfortable with people even my dad. I get nervous ( face turns red, voice trembles, hands shake) going to crowded markets, shopping at malls, eating in crowded restaurants, going to doctors appointments, and having simple conversations with strangers. Social Anxiety SUCKS! I'm having a really hard time relating to kids my age because their always outgoing and fun which is the opposite of me. I want to be able to enjoy my life and feel comfortable/confident like everyone else. Is there a way for me to tell my dad that i have this problem so he can help me get thru it??

    • ANSWER:
      be honest with him. tell him everything that you ahve told us.

  22. QUESTION:
    Social anxiety disorder.?
    I've had social anxiety disorder for about four years now, i've lost all my friends, and i have no life. My mom is a single mother trying to raise six kids, and she works all day so she doesn't have time to take me anywhere to get help. Now I want to kill myself because there's no point in living anymore. Any help?

    • ANSWER:
      Social Anxiety Disorder is a real condition. Someone who has not gone through it is in no place to say "snap out of it" because it is a real monster you have to overcome. I have had it to the point where I couldn't leave my dorm room even to go eat. I failed most of my classes and was put on medical leave. It is nothing to laugh at.

      Fortunately talking to a therapist helps. There are ways you can work on your anxiety and overcome it. Medication can make the process so much easier too by relieving you of some of that huge burden.

      We no longer live in the dark ages. Anxiety disorders are very common and going to a "shrink" or taking meds does not mean your insane in any way. Talk to your school counselor if you have one or a relative you trust. Find any adult you trust and talk. That is the most important thing you can do. And don't hold anything back.

      I've struggled with anxiety for around 7 years now (I'm 20) and I know how overwhelming it can be.

      Suicide, however, is NEVER an option. This disorder is getting more and more treatable by the day and you can lead a perfectly normal life when you treat the condition.

      Suicide hurts you but it also scars relatives and friends, even if they weren't always kind to you, with so much guilt and pain bringing the problem full circle. My cousins friend committed suicide and my cousin became severely depressed for years.

      Everyone faces steep hills to climb but everyone has potential and years from now I know you will look back at those hills you climbed and be a stronger person for it.

      You are in a difficult state of mind now but once you find your way out you will see things in a whole new perspective. Life can be really bad sometimes but there is so much to be had. The throwing away of a life is the worst tragedy ever.

      Just take it day by day. You really should see a professional but in the mean time you can buy effective herbal remedies at any health food store. Kava, valerian, passionflower, and skullcap have helped me to stay calm when I didn't have medicine. You can buy them as pills, liquid,or tea. Experiment with the to see what works.

      Please do the right thing and talk to someone. I've been buried in anxiety before but by taking it a day at a time and keeping the faith that life will get better I have found so many things that help me and the "monster" is still there but I have it on a leash.

      Life sucks big time but life can be amazing too. Never give up!

      Good luck :)

  23. QUESTION:
    Okay, help me with my social anxiety?
    Okay this is how my social anxiety is, I'm good at interacting with random ppl. ex: if Im asking someone on the street to buy me boozte, I always have interestin conversation with the person. Or if ill start talking to someone in line.
    But when I'm hanging out with people, I feel really pressured, and I sometimes say something retarted because of my social anxiety. Everyone around me thinks I'm slow and retarted because of my social anxiety. Even my dad thinks I'm slow, I know for a fact I'm not stupid.. I just sometimes say pointless shit and I can't control it.. Because of this, I'm kinda lonley. And whenever I'm lonley I'm searching for a way to cure my social anxiety... My social anxiety causes me to have low grades, lost opportunites, I'm already popping ectasy and drinking alcohol because it instantly cures social anxiety for a little bit. I wouldn't be surprised if I became an alcoholic, I have deppression because of sa. Oh yeah and I'm addicted to marijuana, cuz its the best thing to do when lonely, but it gives me more social anxiety wich sucks...

    I'm either really confident, or shy as fuck.
    And this comes at random. I always worry if I'm going to be confident during the day.

    I envy everyone that's not me, because they have more interesting lives then me.

    If god was real (I do believe him) I don't know why he would ever put someone through something like this.. If you don't have social anxiety, you will never understand how shitty life could be.

    Yeah sure I should be gratefull that I'm not starving in africa. But those kids don't have to suffer for that long...

    I have a really sexy girlfriend, and I'm prob gonna lose her cuz of my social anxiety

    If social anxiety is left untreated. The individual will grow up and problably end up Being a creep rapist, a sick fuck, mental hospital, failure, a drug addict or suicide. All because sa causes social withdrawl.

    I fuckin hate my life, the only time I was truly happy, was when I was an oblivious youngkid

    • ANSWER:
      I don't think you're suffering from anything. Sounds like an ordinary teenager to me.

  24. QUESTION:
    I want to drop out of highschool due to my social anxiety problems?
    I have pretty bad social anxiety..and sometimes it does effect my school work, like presenting in front of the class, even though alot of people have that problem. But asking questions and asking for help, doing group work...& things like that.

    I was going to be homeschooled once, but the homeschool put me on a waiting list, so basically someone had to drop out in order for me to be homeschooled in that program. So i ended up moving to Chicago, and going to school there, i was living with my aunt. But that didnt go so well, so i moved back here.
    My mom has been enrolling me into school for 2 weeks now...i might even get one more week off. But anyway, i really just want to get my g.e.d. & go to a community college. & get a degree in something. I dont think its that bad. People tend to freak out when people talk about dropping out. Because a High School Diploma is better..im not going to argue with that. But dropping out, doesnt mean Working in the fast food industy for the rest of my life.

    People all ready think im pretty smart. I hear it all the time. By the way I am 16. & i know what alot of you are going to say, if im shy now wont i just be shy later & not going to be able to get a job, and have troubles in college? Well, Theres alot of immature people in Highschool, and thats why my anxiety is worse in that setting, because of all the immature kids there. I can still order food places, and ask questions in grocery stores, and talk to people. But i just seems to be highshool that really bothers me. But how can I tell my mother this without her instantly saying no? I'd like to actually reason with her... I was thinking i'd get through the rest of 9th grade just to make her happy. By the way i am supposed to be a 10th grader, i held myself back. Because last year i did want to try & graduate.
    By the way dont just answer and insult my grammar, & misspellings. I can do better, im just not trying right now.

    • ANSWER:
      suck it up and finish high school like the rest of us.

  25. QUESTION:
    Social Anxiety Disorder
    Hello,
    I'm a 15 year old boy going on 16 in November. I will be going into my sophomore year this year. I have come to the conclusion that I have Social Anxiety Disorder or social Phobia. It makes me miserable. I'm perfectly fine around family and friends. I can't talk to anyone in class and I dread presentations. I told my mom that I believe I have this. She pretty much shrugged and said deal with it. You're just shy. I don't think I'm just shy, it's worse than regular shyness. I don't know what to do. I don't want to be on medication for the rest of my life, but I do want to get some help. I don't want to go my last three years of high school being that quiet kid in the corner. I'm actually a real nice fun outgoing guy with people I already know. Please help me and give me suggestions on what to do. Also I need help with what to say to my mom. She thinks it's all in my head. I think it's denial.

    • ANSWER:
      Try to find kind people to be around. Forget about the fancy people, they are usually mean. Get active in a club or other activity. You need to find yourself. Don't give up yet because you are so young. Lots of things can and will change.

  26. QUESTION:
    Help with my life social anxiety, depression, how do i beat it?
    OK i know some answers will probably be go see a doc.. but i believe my problem is a bit more with in. My views on the world and some past experiences play again and again in my head like a broken record...i cannot let go... i only see the big picture, what i mean is when ever i look at the night sky into space i see and understand the sheer size of the universe and i feel so insignificant... i mean whether we die at the age of 1 or 100 in the end you practically didn't exist either way.. my mind is so consumed on understanding everything, mostly what is the point of life here on earth...i don't believe in god as described in any book on this earth..i do believe that our bodies are machines for our true self that one might refer to as the soul..i do believe we reincarnate...which makes life even more pointless...well i just wanted to get into that with a brief view on the world...
    now i wanna get into a bit of past experiences that still trouble me very much... a year and a half ago i had to watch my friend die, he was shot by our friend, i wasnt there when he got shot but he lived nextdoor and 2 other kids came and got me cuz i was a bit older then them...when i got there he was lying on the floor unconcious still breathing, but barely i could here the blood in his lungs and i knew he wasnt gonna make it right when i saw him...somehow i remained calm went to his side and was with him in his final minutes...then comes the court case.... i got a sapina to show up in court to testify cuz i was at the scene and that whole mess dragged out for a year and 5 summons or so and i could never really let go...the kid was being tried for involuntary man slaughter and was not found guilty..i know it was cuz 9/12 of the jury was mexican and so was he... cuz they obviously cant read and understand what involentary manslaughter means...i still struggle very much with this.. about 6 months before this girl i didnt really know to well but hooked up with was murdered along with her mom and moms bf i dont know much about it but that they never caught the Piece of shit and everytime i think of sex i think back to the last girl i was with and it was her so its hard to forget that shit and let go of it.. i also had a few more deaths following my friend who was shot, aunt died, then an uncle, and just recently my dog died who was like my shadow i miss them all so much...
    now im not trying to throw a pity party just the fact that i speak maybe 500-1000 words a day i barely talk to anyone any more, only think to myself...my whole entire existence is in my head now and is stuck there...everything i do really is mostly by my self and i dont have anyone to talk to.. i try to talk to my mom but she doesnt help really just keeps me alive...my sister has her own life now...i just am alone thats all and my body feels more like a prison then anything else...and i just wanna be free, and one thing that makes it hard is im afraid of people... an actual phobia of people... Social Anxiety Disorder... you know how u scratch your head wondering why when u were a kid u had a friend that was clostraphobic and would freak out if he got messed with and wrapped up in a blanket and has a nervous breakdown or something...same with arachnaphobia...its like WTF am i just cursed or something it feels like my life is threatend when im in a group of people, my body triggers flight or fight, and i usually just leave and get away from the situation...but this is killing me...it is hard to go get a job a degree a girl....a life... part of me fears death but part of me wishes for it...the dilemma of a lost soul....
    im tryin to be more optimistic even tho im truly a pessimist, im working on my diet and trying to eat according to these health books, i tried taken prozac before but it just made me tired, my problem is more like my heart is shattered and my soul is torn...how do u fix that?
    i do know that if i ever get over this i want to help people like me cuz if there is a hell this is it and no one should have to go through this... please help me with ideas on how to get my self back in flow with the world...help me with the small picture and the baby steps plz!
    any ideas of what i could do to get out more? i go hiking and stuff but its hard to find people with the time to go cuz they have to work 2 jobs or something to support there lifestyle so please if u have any kind of suggestion to move forward in life and advice please i have no else...
    i know a few good jokes and of course a socially phobic person really only knows i and me...thats my problem... to much of only me and my shadow...and im a pleading to they and you for some good advice since i dont have much from home
    i know that there is a lot worse out there believe me but i had to get this shit off my chest i cant afford to pay someone to talk to me and that sounds pathetic in its own i would wrather go pay a hooker and get therpy from her...or come here for free and talk to you people : )
    well thx chloe and rayne.. and herb for stating the obvious lol.... that was kinda a joke lmao you told a person who is here asking for help with this stupid social phobia problem there is to much i and me.....as bill engval would say... here's your sign....

    • ANSWER:
      I read it all and it took me a while so I may as well try and help even though I'm not an expert or psychologist. I have felt social anxiety and I have had a few traumatic experiences in my life as well, probably not as much as you but trust me in knowing that alot of people in this world are dealing with stress and problems in their lives just like you. Maybe knowing you are not alone will help. You aren't...everyone wonders the meaning of life, everyone wonders if their is a God or if their is point to all this pain and suffering but without pain and suffering and stress...what would life be??

      Wouldn't life be boring and NOT worth living if we didn't have daily challenges, or obstacles to overcome? That is how we grow, we learn from each experience (good or bad) and once we are all-knowing and perfect we no longer need to reincarnate to learn more. These things you have gone through are very tragic indeed but to let these experiences define you will waste the future that you could have.

      Traumatic experiences need to be forgotten but since this is not easy we have things like counsellors and psychologists who will help you cope. Then I think it would be time to find a hobby or something that you do in life that makes you happy then pursue a career in that field.

      That's all I can think of and I hope I have helped.
      : )

  27. QUESTION:
    High social anxiety is ruining my life. Please help...?
    This is long, but please read it.

    I have high social anxiety, depression, low self esteem, etc. I've learned how to adjust my mindset to help with depression, but I have extreme social anxiety/nervousness that I cannot seem to calm. I have only one friend whom I talk to occasionally on MSN and hang out with once every couple months at night (we go for walks at night in the dark; that's the only way I can handle hanging out with/talking to someone). Other than that, I have NO friends and I don't hang out with anyone or go to restaurants or anything like that (I wouldn't have anyone to go with in the first place). If I have to go to an appointment, I get really nervous when I have to talk and I shake, blush, feel nauseous, my mind goes blank so I have nothing to say, etc. It's awful when people ask me questions and try to have a conversation with me. I feel like I'm put on the spot; I get really embarrassed, feel frustrated, I even cry sometimes and feel faint and nauseous. I spend all my time at home, mostly in my room by myself, which adds to my depression and isolation. (I used to go to regular school, but had to drop out because my anxiety rendered me suicidal. I home schooled myself and finished high school a few years early.)

    I've always been painfully shy and unable to adjust socially because I feel like I'm being criticized/misunderstood and I've always had different interests from the other kids. I hate feeling like I'm wasting my life away. I feel like I'd have a lot to offer the world if I could just get rid of the social anxiety/nervousness. I'm an introvert so I probably won't ever be the life of the party, but I just want the anxiety gone. I want to enjoy my life, I want friends. I'm 16, I should be out having fun. I've considered getting a job, but there's no way I'd make it through an interview, let alone the job itself. Please, please help... does anyone have any steps to overcoming this?

    I've seen a lot of therapists in the past for issues like depression and I don't want to ask my parents to see another one because they don't understand, and they already spend a lot of money on me for other things. They think I like to "play the victim" and I want someone to pity me. Besides, therapists never helped much in the past. I find I do much better with issues when I coach myself through them.

    Thank you.

    • ANSWER:
      hunny, im in the saaaaaame boat. and boy does it suck. deep down you know your a good person, and you know you're capable of so much more. but you just can't get anywhere when you're so stressed out about not having any friends, and what people will think, and how to deal with it all. its extremely hard, and few people really do understand what we go through. i too have been deppressed for a long time.. but i wanna let you know.. its up to you to start making small changes.. and it can be fun.
      right now im working on my listening skills. a lot of people with social anxiety have trouble listening because well.. we're always thinking of something to say (cuz we're nervous).. but u know practice.. being a conscious listener.. by knowing that this is your goal.. it will ease tension in a conversation.. and u will be amazed at how much more comfortable you'll feel. just practice focusing on what the other person is saying.. and have empathy for them at the same time. this way w can divert the focus from ourselves to the other person.
      ps. dont take drugs from the doctor no matter what.. its not worth it.. i dont care what anybody says. but then again its ure call. try different things.. take some chances.. and keep searching for support. keep askign great questions like you are. ask and u shall recieve. if this is your goal . and its to beat the social anxiety.. and you come up with a hundred ways to do it.. and you take action. you can't fail. the human midn is capable of changing. u learned to be like this.. and u can learn to be something different. teach yourself and have fun in the meantime.. dont spend all the time feeling bad about being in the position your in. own everything u got goin for you.. and get out there.. and work what you have.. trust me.. u can do it! believe in yourself.
      nothing bad can happen... if every time u make it an experiment. you;ll never let yourself down ; )

  28. QUESTION:
    Social Anxiety Disorder or Aspergers?
    I have always been really tense around people and wonder if I could have aspergers syndrome or if it is just severe social anxiety disorder. As a child I was a loner and had very few friends although I did have some family friends etc I was pretty introverted. However another factor was that I was an only child and was not exposed to other kids on a continus basis. In fact in a weird way my parents kind of raised me as though I was an adult or something. I always heard them talking about money and how they could never afford things and paying bills etc. I seemed very inhibited for my age. It would really bother me hearing about money all the time and bills blah blah blah. From Grade 3 through Grade 8 I was bullied relentlessly and found it very difficult relating to the other kids in my class. However I was very very depressed throughout the whole time. It is kind of weird looking back and realize that you were a severely depressed 8 year old. I was also very very sensitive and I would react very easily to things and was a the boy who would cry at the drop of a hat "so naturally I was called a sissy etc"

    However looking back a major thing that makes me think that I can not be an aspie yet at the same time feel like I present myself as one.

    I was a very emotionally receptive child. I would smile a lot, enjoyed being hugged and would greatly look forward to doing things with my parents. I know a major feature of aspergers is the inability to read facial expressions etc. I think I always had the ability to recognize if someone was happy sad etc. However at the same time I would also antagonize people especially the "cool kids" because I just found them to be jerks. Looking back however I was probably worse than the bullies because I would verbally provoke them and throw the absolute most scorning unsults "insulting compliment" I'm not sure exactly why I do this but it seems to somehow be rooted in the pain I feel of being so secluded all the time. Yet at the same time I was also able to manipulate the teachers into thinking I was innocent

    .It is so weird how when you feel as though you end up trying to drown the ones that are trying to help you.

    All throughout college I seemed to be on the verge of a panic attack, and just holding onto life at my fingertips on the verge of a nervous breakdown. In three years I only ended up going to 1 party and was way too exhausted to ever want to hang out with people/ make friends. I also seemed to be in a sort of grandiose hypomania in which I was full of this sort of nervous panicky energy. I also ended up saying some of the most socially awkward and deluded things. I almost liked being the insane one and weirdly seemed to flaunt my insanity. However I was also in an art related program so I kind of romanticized the tortured artist part of my identity. I am so sick and tired of living this way and really really need friends in my life in order to feel complete and to have people whom I can confide in. I do not want to spend the rest of my life as a hermit there is just so much I want to see and do.

    So my question is? Is it possible that being constantly at the edge of a nervous breakdown for 20 years and through the critical years of childhood create a sort of pseudo autism?

    I mean I seem to have a lot of weird eccentricities. However at the same time seem to have a completely neurotypical brain in that I was this beautiful loving child who walked young, talked young and loved his parents/ cared very deeply. I was not like the kids with ADHD or anything and since I was not disruptive it seems like it was alright for them to overlook my very severe issues. I always had this very gaunt drawn out aura. I know I have symptoms of bipolar/ ocd and severe depression that has persisted for a very very long time. However is it really just that being so close to a breakdown all these years has left me so cripple? or do these social deficits hint at aspergers/ autism.

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  29. QUESTION:
    Social anxiety, panic attacks, depression, sadistic thoughts. Help?
    Background information is always helpful I think... I am 18. Going to a good college very soon. 3.95 cumulative GPA and a 31 on the ACT.

    Throughout middle and high school, at least once a day, I would have fantasies involving me torturing someone I hate. When I was in class, I would look around at all the kids and just think of ways to kill them. I never told anyone about this because I figured it was normal. I hate almost everyone I know, but I think that's only because inside I feel extremely inferior because of my debilitating social anxiety and depression. Now, going into college, I am extremely scared of the future. I left high school without a single friend. Nope, not even one. It's not that I don't want to make friends; on the inside, I do. I just don't know how. I've been very isolated from my peers my whole life and don't even know how to make a conversation anymore. I lost my last friend a year ago because I couldn't even hold a conversation. My mind goes completely blank whenever someone talks to me. I can't even make small talk or hold a conversation with my own mother. And I know college is going to suck because I won't have any friends or any sort of social network, so getting a job is going to be way harder. And forget getting a wife and kids, or even losing my virginity for that matter.

    Can somebody offer me some sound advice as to where I should start, what I should do? Is therapy the answer?

    P.s. I reread my post and feel as though I may be construed as a whiny b*tch. I'm just under a lot of stress from my mom and depression and all that.
    @Blg Flg - Believe me, I've tried on many occasions talking to people. It doesn't work. I tried for 3 years. I need another way of going about my business.

    • ANSWER:
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  30. QUESTION:
    I think I have Social Anxiety Disorder? How can I treat it without drugs?
    I'm 13, going on 14. I don't have a lot of friends; just a few close ones I'm very comfortable with. I have freak attacks even at the ideas of social or vulnerable situations. I don't participate in class, because anytime I'm called on, I stammer and blush and I feel hot inside and my palms are sweaty and I feel everyone's eyes on me. I can't do anything without thinking it through; even getting behind someone in line gets my nerves up, and I can't help thinking, "What if they don't like me?" I HATE when I sit next to someone new in class; all I can think is, "Do they think I smell bad? Do they think I'm ugly? Are they mad they're sitting next to me?" Group work is my WORST nightmare, because friends are giggling and I end up doing all the work for everyone just to avoid speaking to them. I get lonely sometimes, and I miss my couple close friends, who I rely on and who have never seen the awkward side of me. I don't mind being alone; I LIKE alone time. But not all the time. I have a hard time ordering food by myself, and in common conversation I get so nervous I don't hear what someone's saying, which makes me even more anxious. (Oh my god, do they think I'm deaf?) My friend, or supposed friend (not one of the close ones) told me I needed a hearing aid, which made me even more anxious. I know she was joking; but I can't take that classic best friend insulting thing. My close friends are all super supportive people. Sometimes I avoid calling them though, an anxiety thing, scared their parents would pick up the phone. I don't swear as much as most kids my age. I think it makes me sound uneducated, which I guess contributes to the social-akwardness thing. Once, all my friends (again, not the close ones) were at some meeting, and I didn't know where to sit. So I put my name on the bathroom list and left, trying to avoid interactions. I hate questions like, "Why are you so quiet?" because I want to be able to speak up, I can't. I shut myself out in order to avoid judgement. I want to explain this to people, so they understand, but I'm sure it would make me look even more like a freak. I have zero-self confidence and I'm scared of everything at school; social situations feel like so much pressure. So, I have three questions: (sorry this was so long)

    1) Do I have Social Anxiety Dissorder? (I see a psychiatrist already. I have ADHD, OCD, and anixiety problems. I haven't asked him about SAD yet)

    2) I see a psychiatrist already. How can I get further help? No drugs. (That's something I have to work out with my doc) like books? Or excersises?

    3) Is this normal?

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  31. QUESTION:
    Ugh... social anxiety?
    Ok I'm pretty stupid, I JUST figured out I have social anxiety... like I get scared of talking to people because they might think I'm weird and if people start talking to me I kind of get nervous because I'm not sure what to say next and it always ends in awkward silence. I keep hearing my friends saying that they used to be exactly like me and that I'll get over being quiet but I'm so scared I'm not going to change and I stay up hours at night crying over not being normal and not being like the other normal talkative people at school with real friends. I like my "friends" but they act reallllyy distant because I don't talk much, and I only try to stick with them by being friendly and nice because then I'd be a loner. Goddd, life sucks I feel so depressed, is there some kind of medicine I can take or is it even possible to get rid of this stupid anxiety? I think I also have minor ocd as well, and also extreme paranoia and obsessed with perfection (like my mom). I'm just hoping it'll all go away in college. My sis was anti-social like me but she's all crazy now and has a bunch of friends and a bunch of guys following her.. although she had therapy for depression and is currently taking medication for it and also got plastic surgery (very minor).. I'm scared I won't ever change unless I become fake and some kind of druggee... and I'll end up homeless or if life is nice to me, a hermit who lives in a house by herself... like emily dickingson. And another thing is when I get excited like I'm going somewhere like vegas the next day I stay up all night with butterflies in my stomach, I hate it.. I feel so weird and like I'm retarded.. but I think I am mentally ill. uggh, I hate life and the sad thing is I can't even talk about this with my parents because they ignore me so much and they really don't understand and just say like "oh you have to be brave and just talk to people, your life doesn't depend on it, and oh guys are so stupid I can't believe they don't talk to you cus you're so pretty" they really don't understand how hard that is for me, and (especially) my mom is so shallow minded, she only cares about money and second is looks. This is so sad that I'm ranting online to a bunch of strangers I don't know, but then again I'd say my parents are more or same of strangers to me about my issues than strangers on the net. Maybe I should go get help, I don't even know the first thing about anxiety disorders and I only read a short thing about it.. and it's pathetic to say this but, I feel better that there are other people besides me who have this problem, because I thought I was like the only one in my school who was like this except for those autistic kids except... actually they're not even remotely as paranoid as me...i have a lot of problems maybe it's not just anxiety...like sometimes i think i have adhd as well. urgh this is too freaking long i doubt anyone will even answer but since it comforts me to rant a bit...

    • ANSWER:
      Please don't feel that way about your self. It is actually very common. REALLY. what you may want to do is go and see a doctor. What I think you could use is some adderall. It is a drug that will pretty much make you feel more open to your friends and then eventually strangers. It is kinda hard to get adderall. You have to go to a doctor to get a script for it. just be careful not to abuse it. I am NOT a doctor, but I do know a few people who are actually in my family that have similar symptoms. This is what their doctors proscribed for them. If you are afraid to talk to a doctor... it is simple... just print this out and any other things that describe the way you feel, make an appointment and when you go in, just hand it to him. From that point on, most of the questions that will be asked will most likely be yes and no. I think that would make it easier... hope it helps.. AND if you ever need some1 just to vent on... feel free to email me lowrypatricia@yahoo.com

  32. QUESTION:
    How can I cure my Social Anxiety at home?
    I asked a similar question a couple days ago but people thought that I meant seasonal anxiety so I'm asking again.

    As a child I was bullied and tormented horribly for years until 8th grade when I was put into a home schooling program (not for the tormenting though) I've been in the program for 2 years now going on 3. I'm In high school and I do a lot of rodeos where there many kids who all know each other and hang otu and have a good time. I see all of these other kids running around laughing and having such a good time and I just want so badly to be like them, but no matter how hard I try I can't force myself to even talk to any of the hardly at all. I've looked up the symptoms of Social Anxiety Disorder and I fall into the category of SAD (social anxiety disorder) I haven't told my parents because they would shrug it off and say I was over sensetive and shy. Even If by chance they understood we still couldn't afford treatment by medication or therapy. So I guess what I'm asking how can I cure my social anxiety by myself without the help of medicaton or therapy?

    • ANSWER:
      Go to: http://ecouch.anu.edu.au/welcome Select "social anxiety" for free Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy. An exercise which may help you is called "Act as If." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing. Talk more; smile at people, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone. Watch some of your more outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior. (PRETEND that you are an ACTOR, PLAYING a PART). Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit. A form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and yell out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, (make up your own - have some fun, safely) then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave. People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot". Or, possibly in the company of a friend, or family member, on a different train, or bus route to your regular one, call out the names, or numbers of all the stops. It will teach you that, although it isn't actually pleasant, (EXPECT MODERATE DISCOMFORT/EMBARRASSMENT) you will survive; be stronger for the experience, and the next time (should you need to repeat this type of therapy) will be considerably easier. Remember: "A fear avoided is a fear strengthened; a fear faced is a fear reduced." Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me".

      Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down, or print, in large type/capitalisation, the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind. Put it in a prominent position, where you will see it regularly. Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication. Start out small by asking the time, or directions and gradually go bigger. Although there are anti-anxiety medications (anxiolytics) available, these come with risks, and the possibility of side effects, habituation, even addiction, and withdrawal problems, and are unsuitable for young people. Try having a cup of "Tension Tamer", (from supermarket tea, or health food aisles) or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed. C(h)amomile tea tastes better. As with all herbal/green teas, use lemon/lime, and/or a little sweetener (NOT ARTIFICIAL!!!) but no cream, or milk. Xylitol, or Stevia is preferable, from health food stores. Valerian has also been recommended, but some people experience "valerian hangovers". Ensure you know how you react to it, before doing something potentially dangerous, like going out on the roads. The idea is to use the above products like water wings, to provide initial, short term support, while you become proficient in those techniques. Use a relaxation method daily, like http://www.drcoxconsulting.com/managing-stress.html or http://altmedicine.about.com/cs/mindbody/a/Meditation.htm or http://www.wikihow.com Meditate or Tai Chi, Qi Gong, or yoga. Give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you. It is free via the searchbar at http://www.mercola.com "EFT" & "EFT therapists" or www.tapping.com (13 free videos). Professional is best. - There is a version for use in public places, (if you want to, you can claim to have a headache, as you massage/lightly tap your temples, but you would then be restricted to subvocalising: saying it to yourself in your mind: "Even though I suffer from social anxiety, I deeply and completely accept myself."

  33. QUESTION:
    Need help with social anxiety?
    I am a 17 year old guy and have social anxiety. For many years I have had the same problems and they never seem to improve. I have been through many counselors, tried many different anti-anxiety medications, and have even forced myself into the most uncomfortable situations that have to do with my social anxiety thinking that it may get me used to those type of surroundings. I never had this disorder until I started my freshman year in school where I was traumatized and bullied by other kids. The bullying got so bad that my mother pulled me out of school and started to have me home schooled. For over 2 years now I have done nothing but sit in my house doing hardly anything. I don't have any friends, I occasionally go out in public but only when I am heavily medicated and even then it's still nerve racking for me, I have never had a girl friend, never had a job, and to top off my crummy life I am terrified when think about the future and if I will be able to live a normal life. Someone please help. I have no where else to turn and I am desperate. I just want to be like any other normal kid. Thanks for any help or advice.

    • ANSWER:
      Social anxiety is a really tough condition to live with. Where medication and therapy fail, it is difficult to discuss other options. I used to suffer from a mild form of the condition myself as a teen, so I know how unrealistic it can be for others to just expect you to improve overnight, but it is definitely beatable.

      Start with an activity you enjoy. You have spent a lot of time on your own, and I have to believe you be pretty good at entertaining yourself, or at least have a few hobbies. Look into groups that share your interests in your area and begin by trying to integrate into those groups. The best thing about this strategy is you don't have to talk about yourself and your history, and you already like something that others do, so it takes a lot of the pressure off. It only takes a few successes to boost your confidence, and I'm sure things will begin to improve.

      I really hope things work out for ya bud. Life gets easier as you get older, so just hang in there. Good luck and stay safe.

  34. QUESTION:
    Social anxiety and dont know what to do?
    Hello. I have social anxiety and was wondering if anyone else on here does and what helped them or some suggestions. Ok I have been to the doctor about 3 yrs ago for social anxiety and he put me on Welbutrin. Well, I thought it was working but I dont think it is anymore and I come from a small town and I'm scared to go back because he will think I'm making stuff up or something or turning things into more than what they are. I'm always tired and never feel rested no matter how much or little sleep I get. It interferes with work..Im constantly late and need a nap or two at work. I have the worst memory in the world adn I forget everything and sometimes my armpits hurt feels like i have a bump under them. I have 2 kids ages 1 and 2 and I'm too afraid to take them anywhere..birthday parties, holidays..even their birthday parties. I cant make phone calls infront of people. I'm too afraid to continue my enducation to college even online. I feel stupid all the time even though I know I'm not. I will watch people talk and not listen to them even though I try to and the more I try the less I hear. I'm going to get fired if I dont go back to the doc but like i said...he will think I'm crazy. Any tips? Please dont be cruel. And I'm not not depressed..im usually happy..stressed yes all the time but not sad.

    • ANSWER:
      theres tons of people feeling your way. im one of them. im terrified of going out and when i do, i blush and cant speak. so know that youre alone. do you know what triggered it? it may be your low self confidence, caused by self image? or how someone has treated you?
      you need to do something. dont let pride come in the way of going back to your doctor. if you continue like this youre preventing and limiting your childrens lives aswell. your fear is stopping them from social interactions and they may be influenced by your actions and gain some of you anxieties. so if you dont feel worthy enough to help yourself out, do it for your kids.
      id definately suggest self help books. on confidence, anxiety and getting a better life. its good youre on yahoo, your making progress. so research the internet. but the internet can only help you so much, the rest you have to do for yourself.
      you need a different mind set. you need to stop fearing others, really dont care what others think. this coes with confidence. make yourself feel good about yourself. get your hair done, get new clothes and get your make up done nice, so you look and feel great. this does wonders on how you feel. if you dont want to go out to buy clothes then internet shop and brave it to the hairdressers. do something that makes you happy and at ease. take up a hobby, this will help your self esteem. even if you paint, read, garden take time out for yourself. set yourself some goals, and whoch you will feel proud afer at having accomplished, helping you gain self worth. maybe go to a flower arrangement class (i know it sounds daunting, try going with a family member or friend) or something similar. dont make a big deal, dont think about it just do it.
      know that people dont give you a secnd look if you pass them in a street or anywhere. do you remember anybody in a shop after you have left. don take it on yourself to analyse your every move. you dont need to be perfect, you just need to be yourself. no one else is perfect but they are respected cause theyre justbeing themselves. dont question yourself, just try to believe you are doing the right thing when at work.
      my social anxiety has started to make me feel depressed, but im trying to not think about it, the more social interaction you get the more you will get used to it and gain confidence.

      really hard issue to resolve, go back to your doctor, dont be afraid hell think less of you if he does ask to see a different doctor, you have every right to help yourself and to get the help you need. dont give up x

  35. QUESTION:
    Please help!!!!! Social Anxiety Disorder?
    Hello. My name is Sarah. I'm 17 years old. I've shown signs of SAD since I was 7 years old, but wasn't diagnosed until about 2 months ago.
    I've always been the "weird girl", that always knew I was a little different than most kids. I was somewhat a disturbed child. Watched a lot of horror movies,loved vampires, and tended to like "darker things". I've been somewhat of a closet goth since I can remember. From the movies to the books to the art and architecture. And also being the "shy, weird art girl" (which is how i've always seen myself) has made me feel both comfortable, and uncomfortable at the same time.
    I've gone to prep. catholic schools since pre-school. Where I was always believed to be ridiculed, and judged. I never liked the kids very much. A lot were snooty and ignorant. I never had many friends growing up, because I could never really relate to them. I remember being made fun of for years in elementary school for my hair, socks, overall appearance, and attitude.
    Warp to present day today. It has cause me to have a complete Social Anxiety Disorder, with underlying OCD, strange eating habits/eating disorder, and mild depression.
    I have such horrible days, and feel only really anxious at school.
    Maybe thats where the problems started, and that is where they are the worst.
    I have the muscle tension, sweating, redness, increased heart rate, headaches, and extreme feelings of panic. Almost on the verge of having a panic attack somedays.
    My home life in so stressful to me. My dad always yells at me to take my book bag of the chair. Everyday when he comes home from work, he turns the tv up so loud! I wear my headphones with no ipod connected to them, just so I don't damage my hearing.
    I'm usually home most of the day... by my self.

    Anyways. I'm currently a junior, and my life is driving my crazy. I feel like i'm in a prison.
    I cry almost everyday. I try to do homework, but, most of the times I avoid it, because I get so anxious thinking about school. I don't want to not do my homework, but It's worse to have even more anxiety in my life.
    One more thing I should add.
    I usually have a hard time concentrating at school, I usually keep my head down, and get afraid to look up. Yet, I get so nervous thinking the teacher is looking at me thinking, "what a weird kid".
    I spend all 45 minutes in almost every class thinking about how nervous I am, what impression am I leaving on everyone, and being so afraid to be called on. That I can feel my heart RACING.
    That is 90% of my school life.
    Which is a majority of my life.
    What should I do?
    What advice would you give?

    • ANSWER:
      Those persons who do that to you are just pathetic.They do bad things coz you are good and that their just jealous because you wont like to be them.What kind of people are they?I haven't had that kind of experience.If I were you,I would forget it and divert my attention to something interesting.You're young and you still have a long way to go to explore life with all your best.You know what,THEY CAN'T HELP YOU.Devils are everywhere and we all know their goal-to have somebody lose hope in life.So don't give up easily.Physical appearance?Yes,100% can be changed.Attitude?50/50. So don't get offended easily,I know it's hard to get used to it but sooner or later,you will.What important is that you use your full potential in overcoming your fears.I know you're aware of it then simply ignore them.If you ignore them,they'll get tired teasing and trying to make fun of you.IF they notice you wont respond,then they''ll quit.However,if it goes physical,do not hesitate to seek help immediately.Don't be afraid.As easy as that.I almost forgot,medications pertaining to anxiety are addictive so BE CAREFUL WHEN USING IT.You don't want to be like craving drugs every second to sustain your anxiety and look like a lifeless individual?

      It's just, your way of thinking.I felt what you feel.You may find it hard if you keep thinking negative about yourself.If you focus on that bad side of yours,then other personal aspects might be affected too.The people around you,will respond to what you act.You are the stimulant of the event.Don't let it destroy all your other beautiful qualities,instead learn to accept it.Confidence is always the key but don't forget to set limit.Just be patient.Basically, it takes time for somebody to adapt the changes but once you're used with it, you might find yourself at ease.Just don't make things complicated if you don't want problem.Minor issues become bigger issues if you focus too much on it.If that small issue isn't of BIG importance,then get rid of it.However,if you find yourself insatiable,then find a place where you can shout every thing that's on your mind.That's a great way to alleviate your worries.Always think good of yourself,in that way you always feeling good in everything you do.Try it.It works....:-)

      I recommend you to read the book "Unleash your Full Potential by James Rick" http://www.fullpotential.com/about-james .I was once looking for a self help book when somebody online recommended me to read his writings.I say,I never got bored reading the book.

      The purpose of the Full Potential Philosophy is for living life at your best: physically,mentally,spiritually, socially and financially.It teaches you the things you need to enhance I mean the areas you need to develop and how you can be productive.

      We need to have deep understanding about ourselves before we get our full potential.Life is temporary. Your existence – at least on Earth, has a beginning and an end. This fact urges you to be efficient about how you use time.And that what leads you to be productive.

      There are also interviews conducted by Mr.James Rick to some renown personal development coaches.If you want to change for good,then watch the video interviews.He was actually once featured in Oprah,so It would be better if you check the site.Its really full of information and you don't get bored ...Have a great day!

  36. QUESTION:
    How can I conquer my social anxiety WITHOUT the use of medication?
    Hi there. I'm 18 and a male student in University. Ironically, my chosen career path is in the field of art, mainly acting, although I may pursue directing as well. Perhaps if can play instruments and sing as well. I hear about quite a few very successful people who were very shy or had social anxiety, namely Barbara Streisand and Donny Osmond. I could say that both of them are my inspiration. I am attending counseling, but may have to switch because she isn't really helping me anymore. In fact, I was pressured to go on medication by a high school counselor and my mom. Both of their excuses were that my anxiety and depression is genetic; therefore there is no hope for me to beat it without them. Believe me, I did go on medication just to please them. All it did was make me worse. I have made TONS of progress since I started working on this two years ago. I almost became agoraphobic. Now I'm pretty comfortable outdoors, although I do get tense when I approach strangers on the street.

    Today I actually had a personal victory. Two years ago on a school trip, I stopped in a pizza place and ordered 4 slices. What I didn't know was that they cut them up into smaller slices, so I actually ordered 8. What made it worse was a group of kids from my school then approached the place and sat right behind me. Worse yet is I overestimated how much I could eat. So what did I do? I made the people take it back and give me some of my money back. One kid in line made a big deal out of it and kept pointing it out. To this day I wish I could have punched that little bastard for making my anxiety worse. That was literally one of the worst days of my life. But today, I was hungry and decided to go back to that place. This time I only ordered one. I ate my meal and congratulated myself for all the progress I made.

    Stories aside, I don't have any friends because I still find it extraordinarily difficult to get close to people. Any friend I do make does not understand my condition, so they get mad at me all the time. They usually get so fed up that they abandon me, even when I do my best to explain my condition and what I need from them. So yeah, making friends is going to be very very difficult from now on, unless people wake up and quit blaming me for everything. I try my hardest every single day to progress little by little, but nobody sees that or cares.

    I told myself in grade 12 that I would wait a year before I returned to medication. If it wasn't better by the time I started University, then I would go on. But by the time I started University, I made a huge leap. So yeah, I do not need medication. To summarize, my social anxiety has improved a great deal, but I still have a very negative attitude towards people. How do I keep going?
    Sometimes I tend to sing in public. Doing little things like that helps me feel better.

    • ANSWER:
      Wow, you are taking the 'bull by the horns' so to speak and really helping yourself, congratulations.
      Most of the time in life, we have to be our own best friends and literally not only save ourselves, but also love and encourage ourselves. but i know what you mean.
      It would be nice to have others really love and support us, and do the same for them. There are people like that out here, but one has to find them, usually they have certain 'love others as yourself' type values.
      Aside from that, most people dont take responsibility for their health so you also are ahead of them in that.
      You might ask your doctors, or better, find a hormone expert and ask them to test your hormones, because anyone inhormones knows they can cause as much fear or anxiety as anything , if out of order.
      Mental health types dont usually test for them correctly.
      here are some you can check out and ask them for referrals thehallcenter.com , feelingfff.com, dr. woliner in florida, dr. lowe.com , and there are others .....
      you can ask a naturopathic doc into hormones or HRT to help you also
      Here is a free , i did say FREE , version of a powerful healing method you can apply to everything bothering you about his or anything else , to help heal it like others are successful at doing, emofree.com , click on 'learn eft'......go get it before he retires and other info there at the site
      there are therapists at eftmastersworldwide.com
      best wishes .
      maybe you would benefit to take some clases in different types of medical views also

  37. QUESTION:
    Im 15 have social anxiety and no medication works at all? WTF?? pls help...?
    Hi im 15 yrs old and have Social Anxiety Disorder, severe depression (cuased by years of life living with social anxiety disorder) and on a much less serious note also happen to have ADD. By faarr the most serious and crippling disorder I have is this damn social anxiety. It has completely ripped my life apart. I cant do any of the things I want to do, I cant be myself or show who I am with anyone but my grandma and my mom, I cant show any of my talents to the world, I always feel like Im trapped longing to be free, I've never had a single TRUE friend in my life and im just completely and utterly sick of this miserable life that find myself in every single day.
    In addition Ive recently been pretty much expelled from school for the rest of the school year becuase I basically pushed some asshole who was making fun of me : (
    So now Im stuck at home alllll day...
    I dont have any true friends, no one messages me or wants to do anything with me, my two "friends" (lie) never text me or call me to do anything, my mom is at home until like 3, and I spend all my days sitting at home depressed, hopeless and not doing much of anything other than surfing the net all day, watching porn, watching TV or sleeping : ' (
    At school nobody liked me, several kids bullied me (calling me names, excluding me, etc...) I was basically a loser and nobody wanted to be friends with me. Now that Im stuck at home all day I have nothing to do and all I do is reflect on all those painful, horrible memories.
    The worst part of living like this is knowing that I would be such a great, fantastic, cool and popular person if I could just show who I am on the inside, If I could just show my talents, my personality, If I could just show who I am...
    Anyways sorry about my rant, I have a tendency to do that and I have nothing else to do. So basically Ive tried 4 medications this year and nothing...
    Ive tried:

    Zoloft
    Prozac
    Paxil
    Wellbutrin (Bupropion)
    Seroquel

    None of them have worked. I am currently taking Seroquel.Nothing's worked.
    I have no idea why nothing is working. Im in 9th grade now. When I was in 6th grade I took Paxil. Compared to how the medications have worked this year, Paxil worked wonders then...
    Now nothing works and I don't know why.
    I feel hopeless, I dont care anymore and I dont see the point of living like this anymore. CAN ANYONE GIVE ME ANY ADVICE ON ANY MEDICATION THAT MIGHT WORK?

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  38. QUESTION:
    Could I have social anxiety disorder?
    I'm actually 90% sure I am. I don't believe I have an entirely severe case of it, but I have 0 doubt on my mind there is something wrong with me. I'm too poor to afford therapy and for some reason this brings me to tears I guess it's just my thinking that only lucky rich people are allowed to get help. My insurance won't cover therapy so I have to do this on my own
    I'm 15 and its a thought of unbearable sadness that I'm wasting my life and youth, I'm smart enough to know when I'm much older I'll give anything to be 15 one more time.

    When I'm talking to certain people (it's usually directed to people my age, kids older than me, adults, and boys) I can't even hear what they're saying because I'm literally thinking "am I looking a them too much? Should I look away for a second? Should I nod? Should I keep smiling so they think I'm nice and not weird?" those exact things run through my head and blocks out what they're saying. I try SO hard to relax, I've spent let's see since I was in 6th grade... 4 years googling my problem. It started out as "how to make friends" to, in seventh grade, "how to be more relaxed around people", to 8th grade constantly "how to not be awkward" to 9th grade, "how to interact with other people" and to now when I heard of social anxiety disorder and it all just adds up. I've had a few friends here and there and one incredibly close friend who drifted from me, I don't know why or how, but probably as I got weirder and more anxiety being around people. It kills me to think about her and the fact that I was happy for the FIRST time in my life and it was taken away. I won't get into that because it's not relevant and makes me cry thinking about it but I think after that my anxiety got worse. I feel sort of awkward around my family, the people I've lived with for 15 years. I grew up with my grandma and my brother and she fell in love with someone 5 years ago so now a step grandfather? Well I have a theory that they unintentionally made me like this and my childhood wasn't very happy either. My mom has schizophrenia so I don't live with her and my brother has always been mentally abusive to me growing up but he's not a bad person he was just really mean to me and made me feel ugly and gross. All brothers do that though
    I can never act myself for some reason when I'm with people and I can't hold conversations without getting scared, when I want to so desperately just ask somebody a simple question I physically can't , like "do you go to school here?" and in school I have to force myself the courage to ask to go to the bathroom. I apologize this is so long but I truly need help it's HORRIBLE being so uncomfortable around people. The only thing I've noticed I don't have is standing in crowded hallways, crowds or at a dinner table, I don't sweat and tense up and shake or anything. If we go out for dinner or something with people I just sit there trying to not to be awkward and feel slightly paranoid that people are looking at me and thinking I'm weird. I also don't completely avoid social events, sure I get quite nervous when I have to hang out with one of my friends (happens very little) but I look forward to it even though I act weird and awkward and never know what to say or talk about. If I had to be alone with a boy or somebody my age I just met I think I would cry.....wow...thinking about that situation is unbearable... and I wish it wasn't. I'm afraid words of reassurance has never worked for me, so if you have another form of advice, like something I can actually do and work on that would be good, but if you think you have strong words of reassurance that can change me then I'll accept anything Again, this was long but if you can help me you would be saving my life please please help me. Thank you so much, if you know something about what could be going on with me and need more information just ask me questions and I will answer in the additional details

    • ANSWER:
      you have a hill to climb.. start taking walks, smile at strangers. make eye contact.. keep walking, it is just a walk but for you it is a baby step in the right direction.. walk in parks, in the mall, at work at school, but always smile.. keep smiling.. never give up.. then one day the right person will smile back and you will be able to talk, just as easy as talking to yourself.. people that either don't understand you or don't accept you without you changing, don't laugh at them, they will grow up one day.. just keep smiling

  39. QUESTION:
    Do i Have ADD or Social Anxiety? Whats my problem?
    I am a 17 year old high school student and im convinced there is somthing wrong with me!
    First off i just moved across the country from my home and am now living in a city where i have never been to before! Ok, I never knew my Birth father he left when i was 1 and i have no memories of him or never had contact with him, My Mother met a guy who started living with us at around the age of 3
    and he was my Step father and he was a sort of the abusive type, mostly in emotional way but also physical at times! he was never a nice father and very strict! he used to look at my sister in the shower on ocasions that i found out about when i was around 12 and my mother got married to him and they divorced 3 months later after 11 year relationship (I was 14 at the time) and i called him somtimes to keep in touch but ended up losing any contact i had with him and he doesent make an effort to contact me. i havent talked to him in the past year. My whole life i was fat kid and was always picked on and laughed at for being fat by my friends and kids and it really used to hurt me. i I I just recently lost a bunch of weight by working out and eating right and am now in good shape but i still feel as if i am fat and unattractive and i always felt as if i was a lesser person because i was Bigger...
    I Always think people are constantly judging me and making fun of me.
    I have very low confidence in myself on an emotional level not so much on my abbilties
    Ive started going to school now and ive heard there was a rumor going around the school that i was gay (Childish for a high school, i know) anyways then i started thinking that everyone thought i was gay and started questioning myself if i was gay because there must have been a reason they started the rumor even thoughthere is nothing gay about me (Looks/voice/Clothes i wear/Interests/ personality).. but Then i really think about it and im very attrcted to woaman and am not attracted to men at all and thats essentialy what gay is so theres no way im gay.
    Also i have VERY bad social anxiety, i met a couple of friends at school (like 2) But i have a very hard time starting and having conversations with people and a hard time making eye contact with people so i haven't met much friends. I have anxiety problems in every situation like if i am walking in a group i feel akward and dont know who i should be walking with or next to or whatever and when in class i wither feel anxious like people are watching me constantly so i just act like im doing work or somthing and if i have no work i do somthing like color in all the O's on a handout page in my binder, my legs are always jittering and my mind is constantly thinking about so many things , im always playing with watever i get in my hands like clicking a pen or twiling a pencil or whatever! Somtimes i get so anxious in social situations i frezze up and dont know what to do but get away from it as quick as possible!
    Another thing i do is somtimes i will say somthing and after saying it my lips will invoulentaily repeat it when im actually saying nothing and i dont notice it at all but people have pointed it out to me on a bunch of occasions.
    Alot of times when im feeling really anxious i think out loud to myself about everything! And alot of times i hear voices in my head that arent really there of people just constantly judging me and i try to prove them wrong! (EX: Im making myself a sandwich and i make a small mess while doing so and i hear someone say wow this kids a slob or somthing of the sort...)

    Also i have no confidence when it comes to relationships if i meet a girl i like i always make my best effort to talk and everything but in the end i always end up thinking theres no way she could like me! im ugly and weird and have no personality!

    Thats basically it but if you have any questions please just ask!
    So what is wrong with me?
    Please help Its killing me inside!!

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  40. QUESTION:
    What kind of activities can help me improve my social skill? (social anxiety)?
    First of all, I'm a high school student (senior currently), 17 years old, guy, immigrated to US 5 years ago. My anxiety started when I first came to US ,Before then I was very outgoing and well liked by my peers, making friends was no problem for me

    Now,I have very bad social skill. English isn't my first language and although I'm good with reading and writing, my talking skill is very bad. Never quite had opportunity to talk to people due to my anxiety. my accent isn't bad, if I read aloud from a book, I can speak very clearly, but when talking to others or if somebody's listening, i just get very nervous and starts to lose control of my voice, and say things that doesn't make sense or things I didn't mean to say. In some bad situations, (when i get really nervous) I start to talk by connecting words instead of using sentence, my words start to sound gibberish, it's very bad.

    besides talking:
    - I fidget alot, sometimes I get afraid just walk around people thinking Im walking weird or looking stupid
    - direct eye contacts freak me out.
    - when I sit close to somebody/ psychically close to somebody (ex: sit at same table) I don't know where to look, how I should pose, and my eyes start to cramp/ twitch
    - I have very low self esteem and self confidence. I consider myself not too bad looking and girls seem to like me. But when girls flirt with me or try to get close to me, I don't know what to do and always give them the wrong impression. it's very painful

    It's very hard for me to improve because I literally have no friends at school. I mean not even single friend. I hide at library during lunch, so I don't have to eat alone, hates it when teacher says "get into group", it would be even possible for me to go through one whole day without opening my mouth once. But don't get me wrong, Im not antisocial or anything, I want to have friends more than anything. I do have few small friends (or just people i know little). But we just say "whats up" and stuff, and make little awkward small talks. It's not that kids at school are jerks or anything, sometimes they do try to be friends with me, but I mess it up. I'm an extremely awkward person.

    Bottom line is, I need to change. This is becoming too real. Having poor social skill is not only causing me to be lonely, but it's also disrupting my everyday life. I can't ask teacher question sometimes, kids take advantage of me (there's no physical bully at my school, but they make me feel pathetic) and it will definitely complicate my college life and future careers. I even used to have suicidal thoughts, and cry when I'm alone. I just hated my life. But I figured self-pity wasn't the way. It's still hard for me to stay positive sometimes, but I try convince myself there's hope for me. I tried to change myself in so many ways in the last few years, and I did improve little, but my social skill is still pretty bad.

    Please suggest me activities that will improve my social skill ,especially talking skill (baby steps) ex: getting a job, joining support group, volunteer work or anything that will improve my social skill ,exception of sports, and expensive activities (my family has limited budget). If you suggest job, what kind of job? Also summer break is coming up, so I will have more free time during summer.

    things I tried so far:
    - I tried to pushing myself to talking to kids at school more, but wasn't very effective (but I still try)
    - don't tell me to talk to my family. I'm actually pretty social around them but it doesn't help
    - I tried talking to my school psychologist, but she didn't give a shit
    - I always try to be nice and friendly as possible
    - it's too late for me to join school club (schools almost over)
    - talking to someone through online is pretty easy for me
    - I am planning on taking acting class next year in college

    I know this is pretty long question and thank you for reading all this through. please keep the suggestions coming :)

    • ANSWER:
      with the speaking, remember when you are in your room alone and you feel that you are speaking a Perfect english accent and you can express yourself very well, when your talking to people and you get nervous make a pause and a slightly breath, don't make it so obvious and think about when your alone and you speak perfectly.

      To be social start by talking to them about some school stuff in the first day, then star asking them questions, like what kind of music they listen to or the stuff the friends you like are really into and then after a while tell them something that happened to you so they can feel close to you and then something a little more personal but personal things that you want people to know and then they'll tell you something personal too.

      if you are afraid, i know that feeling i've been there too, just talk to them they are not going to say anything mean to you, you see other people if they are popular you can too. also find so thing in common that u both like, find something that you can talk a lot about. and just go for it, maybe when u can invite them to the mall or something and i'm pretty sure they will say yes!

      hope i help(=

  41. QUESTION:
    Is this social anxiety?
    I'll make this short...
    A year ago I had depression, attempted suicide and saw a therapist for that. Now I'm not depressed anymore but I think I have social anxiety. I'll point out key Things an tell me what you think. A little more about me, I'm 15, never had any really bad things happen to me (rape, death of parents,etc.) the depression was over a girl, I know lame but oh well...anyway;
    I can't talk aloud in class like reading or do oral presentations
    I never participate or raise my hand because people look at me
    I get sweaty, red, naseaus, alot of saliva and just really nervous when I read out loud
    I think people look at me all the time and I always feel like something's wrong on my face or in the hall way I feel like I walk weird and people are thinking I'm weird
    I can't start conversations or meet new people
    I only feel comfortable around people I know
    Also, I feel like all the kids who are more popular are talking about me behind my back
    Lastly, I always tilt my head the other way from girls so that they don't see my face incase something's wrong on it

    Please help me! I'm sorry this is long but I wanted to say all details. Thanks if you read it! Oh and what should I do if this is social anxiety? Because if I see a therapist I get
    Nervous talking to them because of this

    • ANSWER:
      Yes,i believe it is.
      I have it too.Yes,you can go see a therapist but to tell you the truth i don't think it can really help you(it didn't help me).
      Good luck!

  42. QUESTION:
    Social anxiety! (summer job)?
    I'm 14, turning 15 soon and this summer I'm gonna work at a restaurant for the first time for 2 weeks and the problem is I have social anxiety. I live in Sweden but I also can't speak Swedish fluently and I'm kinda embarrassed about it! I have over a month until it starts and I'm already nervous.. I've been told that working in a restaurant is a stressful job and this makes me even more nervous! What should I do?? (plus the kids working there will be a year or two older than me and I'm afraid I'll be left out..) I need help!
    I can't finda different job, this one pays reaaally well and my parents already signed me up... !

    • ANSWER:
      Congratulations on the job! You will be fine- just remember to smile and make sure you are clear on what the customers want. You will do fine- and if you dont like it at least its only for two weeks. Sometimes when I get stressed I pretend I am a character in a movie- it makes you act more confident and calm. Work hard so that you will get good money!

  43. QUESTION:
    I am a girl with Social Anxiety and I'll soon be in my Senior year next. I want to finish online?
    :::::PLEASE::::: I ask you to read everything so that you can understand my issue thank you very much, and hope that you can help me with your opinion.

    ---------------------------

    I cannot take the anxiety in school. Last year I was forced to leave the school 2 months before the year was over because of my condition. I am not the only one with (sad) but it's gotten so bad to the point that I couldnt concentrate in class with people around me all the time and so many students, that I started to fail the classes so I decided to go to the assistant principal and my conselour and explain my situation thar I was getting chest pains and almost like Panic attacks. I started skipping classes by the middle of the day because I couldnt take the pain in my chest and the nervousness of being surrounded by so many kids my age.
    I finally explained to my mom my issue and she started taking me to the psychiatrist and he issued me with different medication such as Paxil and risperdal, but none of these did something for me. I decided to stop taking them after almost 3 months because I thought they were just bad chemicals for my body and I was willing to defeat this anxiety on my own by taking therapy. Ive heard of many people who've had social anxiety disorder and they defeat it with only behavioral therapy and not by taking pills that are obviously not very helpful and carry serious side-effects, which can be even more harmful.

    Now, my biggest concern is that I am turning 18 soon in september, and I am in summer vacation right now about to start my last year of high school, and the moment ive waited for so long, to be a senior. But I feel that I physically wont be able to take it like it happened last year as I havent really finished therapy im just beginning now, as it was delayed I need more Therapy time to get better. my mom agrees but I am hoping the school will let m do this, (take classes online for this last year due to my condition of sad)

    My mom proposed to talk to the school about my issue and to ask them to allow me to take this last year in internet courses or somehow online....is this possible???
    My mom said that she doesnt want me to stay home all day so at least i have to take a part time job to stay busy, but is it possible for me to beconsidered in taking online courses as with my condition I am not able to be in school yet and im still waiting to go back to the therapy as its my only solution but it takes time.

    ----------------
    my question is with my issue and chest pains/panic attacks at a place where theres so many people in every class, is there a way that the school would consider me staying at home taking the courses online, or if the school doesnt want to help me, where could I ask for help for this to be allowed to me? Should I send a letter to some organization or the government>?

    It's only my last year, and Ive been a good student all along. I dont want my last grades to drop as I need a good gpa when I finish so I can get a scholarship, as I dont have very good economical standards.

    I know there are so many people like me and If we can find a way to bring this issue to awareness for school and as a DISABILITY in teens maybe I would help so many. Maybe schools should allow people with social anxiety to finish their courses online, or give them permission with a letter that says they are clinically proven to have the disorder.

    Thank you and hope to get some advice and help.
    THanks alot
    appreciate it very much
    student with sad
    I take my education seriously, but unfortunately I am not able to attend and concentrate fully.
    ***I will take a part time job in a place with not so many people around, it is definitely not the same as a school full of students. I would not put an excuse, I dont need someone to tell me I am lying, I need help.I am clinically proven to have sad. I live in Florida. thank you

    • ANSWER:
      I guess it would depend on where you live, in Washington state, many students are opting to do their highschool years completely on line, but I don't know if that is available nation wide.
      Still, seems to me that if you can hold down a parttime job, you can go to school, sounds like maybe you are rationalizing and using your issues as excuses. Eventually, especially in a college, you are going to have to get used to being around a lot of other students, running away from the situation now will not help you then. I suggest you discuss your plan in depth with your therapist.

  44. QUESTION:
    Feeling bad at school > social anxiety etc..?
    I'm a high school student and today in the morning I just couldn't force myself to go to school, even though my absence hours grow and in the end I will be kicked off the course.

    The thing is that anything associated with school has brought me so much suffering from the very first grade. I was bullied, never had friends whom I could trust. Social anxiety is still paralyzing me. I was the slowest person in the class in reading. Especially I hated reading aloud, because my mouth would get dry and my voice was somewhat different. No matter how well heated the rooms were, I was always shivering and cold sweat was pouring from me. Tense muscles… Allergy…Teachers never really understood me or could do nothing about anything. Stupid homework questions(not all).. I cannot be bothered with that bullshit. I could never do anything on the lessons, because of the lack of concentration, while all the other kids did their homework during the lesson. Then I would come home and I would do this homework, while I would hear the voices of kids from my school laughing, playing outside...

    I tried to be at least a nerd, but even that failed, I still got average grades, even though I tried hard. I felt like nothing and no one without identity.

    Now it is still about two years before I will go to the uni..

    Whenever teachers tell us: “I want you to do for tomorrow this and that…..” My brain thinks: “Go to shit, I’m not going to do anything for you, anything for this place, because you’ve all made me suffer !”>(even though it’s different school now) Another part of my brain knows I am doing it for myself. I’ve always done everything for myself, but I know this isn’t the life I want. I want to be like all the other kids, or adult people already now as I’m 19. I’m still feeling like a kid cause I’ve never had the chance to be a kid really.

    My whole life goes down the toilet this way.  Have you got something similar to me ?? Have you experienced the same things ?? Has there been someone/something that has helped you a lot ?? Please just share anything about this, I don’t want you to feel sorry for me or send me to the doctor or advice me to take some meds.. All I need is some sincere understanding, probably from someone who has/is going through the same things.

    • ANSWER:
      I was asleep in study hall the other day and the bell rang for the next class. And I just thought, what would happen if I just don't get up right now? But of course I forced myself to get my asss to the next class. And in the mornings I just wish I could sleep until later and still not be late for school. And I always try to go to bed earlier but those hours at night are the only ones that I have to myself, and I feel that I want to spend them doing things that I enjoy, and it always gets too late and I end up doing my homework at like one o'clock. In class I don't really pay attention to anything except the super-important stuff like when the next test is, so I can study for it the night before, even though I probably wouldn't need to if I paid attention in class. I feel like all the stuff we're getting taught is just pointless, we only need it so we can get a job, earn money, and support ourselves, no other reason. And I think that because we're doing everything for grades it's harder to enjoy it even if it's something we like. We're so afraid that we'll screw up and get a bad grade that we don't really enjoy learning. I'm taking AP Calculus BC next year, which is supposed to be the hardest class ever, and my math teacher said that you needed to spend six hours on homework each night. And then someone asked her if she was exaggerating and she said, "Yes, a liiiiiiiiiiittle bit." When I was signing up for AP Economics someone told me that was the hardest class ever, too, but the teacher didn't give any homework. And I thought, how can it be hard if there's no homework? And the teacher said, I don't give homework because this is a really hard class, but I still couldn't figure out how it could be hard without homework. To me, a hard class equals no sleep. And AP Economics ended up being my only class this year for which every midterm, quarter, exam and semester grade was an A. I was up late at night once working on a paper that was due the next day, and I was really sleepy, but I said to myself, You can get a good sleep any night, but you get an F only once and it stays forever. However, I ended up falling asleep anyway, so I turned it in a day late. I also didn't like to talk in front of the class, but that's much better now. For some reason I still can't figure out what I want to do and what I want to study. Seems like nothing is interesting enough that I would want to spend the rest of my life studying it or researching it or whatever. Or if something seems interesting, it ends up being not something that would get you a lot of money. And I just don't know what to do.
      I also kind of feel like I never had the chance to be a kid. When I was nine my parents and I moved to Japan, and believe it or not, they send me to Japanese school the day after we got there. And I don't know, it was just too different. I ended up not talking to anyone even after I learned the language, I didn't have any friends, didn't play with anyone, was always depressed, and I just studied really hard and got good grades, cause that seemed easier than even talking to anyone. And then I grew up and time came to like girls. And I couldn't talk to them either because I had gotten so used to not talking to anyone, and it sucked. But then it got a little bit better, but I still don't have as many friends as I would like to. Which will probably change as I grow up more, I guess. I just try to not be depressed over things and just be happy, and then everything falls into place sometimes, for a little while. But it's all good.

  45. QUESTION:
    Social Anxiety=disability?
    My social anxiety, fears, and shyness are taking over.The thought of being in a group setting makes me want to hide under a rock somewhere. Therapists have been of no help. Neither have Paxil, Prozac, etc...
    I am tired of this.Being is group settings has caused me to hyperventilate. Always afraid of messing up. I get nervous, nauseous, and shaky in group settings, AKA work/school. Afraid of being watched or judged. Have no idea what to say to people. I feel awkward and out of place in all situations. The only people I can (somewhat) relax around are members of my IMMEDIATE family! I feel alone, strange, different. I can't even go to parties. Being in places like Walmart's bad enough. I get really anxious there.

    Only only one person understands me really. Sees the way it is for me.
    I ram reluctantly resorting to (the potential pursuit of) SSI disability, just so I can pull my own weight. I don't care about having much money though.

    When I was a child, I begged my mother to let me be home schooled. I hated being around other kids. Didn't happen though. I stayed home at times just to avoid speeches or being made fun of. The longest job I've kept has been 10 mos. and that in itself made me anxious everyday.

    Do I even stand a chance? Tips. Please don't be rude, okay?

    • ANSWER:
      There is no shame about going on social security, but you can overcome it.

  46. QUESTION:
    Social anxiety ?????????????? *LONG*?
    Im a 16 year old guy and i've had Social anxiety for about 4/5 years now. Its not really extreme but it makes me not want to go to school/mosque/family gatherings. Whenever i am in these situations i find uncomfortable (School assemblies, friday prayers, large family gatherings with my extended family), i find myself being really nervous and sweat a lot, sometimes it's gotten so bad i've had panic attacks on numerous occasions and had really bad insomnia. As you can imagine it is pretty embarrassing so i tend to avoid these situations as much as i can now. I used to love going to school before this problem (I'm an A grade student and was a member of the basketball team ) but now i find going to school everyday nerve racking. I used to pray all the time to god for me to stop having these panic attacks and to stop being nervous all the time but 4 years later im still the same. It's not fair because my mum has really high hopes for me when i get older and i feel like this is literally paralysing me from achieving my dreams. I've pretty much avoided going out these summer holidays and have mostly been at home or at my grandads. . I've tried telling my Doctor numerous times but none of the medicines have worked for me. Anyway im going to be starting a completely new school in just under 2 weeks and its making me sick just thinking about it. I can just picture myself passing out or something. The last time i felt this way was when i had to do a presentation in school to the kids in the year below me. My friend knew how bad i was feeling so he recommended i smoke some weed before the presentation. I was reluctant but it was my only option and everything else i tried had failed. So i did smoke some and for the most part everything went good but i was feeling really guilty as i'm a muslim. But then again i think back and it was my only way out of a nightmare waiting to happen. I would never want to do weed again though because i felt sick afterwards. Anyways heres the question : What would you guys recommend i do to help me get through my first day at this new school ? My cousin told me to have a shot of vodka before i go as it would calm me down and was really the only other option apart from weed that would work, but i'm Muslim so i can't. And please don't say pray or go to the doctors , because i have with no luck numerous times

    • ANSWER:
      I would recommend you don't drink coffee, that you might start running it can really help stress, and maybe try evening primrose oil capsules, stay away from smoking dope it makes you worse, or if you can go to a hypnotherapist, if you are easily hypnotised the success rate is excellent, but remember lots of other people are feeling the same as you

  47. QUESTION:
    how to overcome Social anxiety and Depression?
    I'm a 16 year old teenage boy. I had the particular bad memory between friends when I was in 8th grade. Since that, Whatever I do, I think that accident and make me feel miserable. And then I got depression, which makes me sad alot. And the beginning of 9th grade I don't know what that was, but I got a twitch on neck and head area(It went away after doing it one month.), I guessed this was a symptom that happens after depression. And the thing is after finishing 9th grade 1st semester in Korea and I came to America as an exchange student to learn. And I was abused for 3months at the first host home, finally that home got changed But this stupid twitch started to happen again in middle of december till now, which is approximately 6~7months, and then situation got worse and worse.( think about twitching middle of the class.) But the weird thing is I had many friends, so I asked them "have u seen my twitch?" But they said they didn't, which can make me get over and think I don't have a twitch. (I feel a twitch but friends say they don't see it, i guess that's because that is a little muscle twitch.) So I came back to Korea to start my year over, but Since I saw Kids' cyworld(korean facebook), the trauma started to make me depressed. (Since 8th grade, I've been depressing, I was never happy whatever I did and always did fake smile. It's really important, I was never happy never, whatever I've done.)
    Also since 8th grade, I got a paranoid, Whenever I saw people who were looking at me and whispering at the same time, I might've thought that they talk about me, It bothers me so much. (In US, Whenever I hanged out with friends, Sometimes I thought they talked bad things about me(but my friend apologized me and he told me he didn't say any thing bad about me, that was a fatal mistake.), So I started to make angry face and not to talk, which made situation worse and worse.

    A twitch really bothers me, but I was gonna go hospital to get anti-depression pills and some stuffs to cure this stuffs(but I didn't b/c I read one passage Pills can make people happy for awhile,unless u change ur mind from the beiginning depression would happen again even if u use pills.), I'm gonna do my best to overcome everything above.
    Untl 7th grade, I was a really popular and Kids liked me, I was a class captain every years till 7th grade, Although the thing happened in 8th grade, Kids loved me in 9th grade, but the thing is one of my bestfriends who were a same class mate in 7th and 9th grade told me I'd changed too much such as I became way too quite, smile less,etc.....
    I Just wanna overcome all of these thing by doing my best, So give me some advices. I didn't take anti-depression pills, b/c I didn't think my problem was gonna be cured by the pills (I thought Pills could affect Emotions for awhile, but no longer enough.), So What I might need is to change completely my minds from the beginning, I might also buy some books to read it.
    Just one reminder, Recently I changed my mind which gave me a confidence, I tried to act like more confident person, I started to head up and do eyecontact. It gave me abit influence to get confidence. Still I got social anxiety from my twitch though. I'm one of the people who thing life is meant for being happy such as smiles alot,etc.... So Please help me. ( I prefer changing my mind to going to hospital. please think about it. when u answer)

    • ANSWER:
      Which country do you live in? If its the UK, you can get free cognitive behavioural therapy on the NHS which is extremely beneficial. I have social anxiety and depression too and this was tremendously helpful. If you live someone else, you may have to pay for sessions or there may be tips on the internet you could use. Basically, CBT changes the way you think so you are more positive and have more confidence.

      good luck x

  48. QUESTION:
    Do I have social Anxiety?
    I am 16 and a Junior In Highschool. I started out as a spontanius full of energy kid and made friends with everyone I could In elementry school. Leaving elementry school and going into middle school I got progressivly more shy but still was able to slowly make friends and enjoy life. But when i whent into highschool it was a whole nother story. First year i developed a speach impediment its not really a studder but somtimes I will just pause in my sentences and words just wont come out this doesnt happen only around kids Im unfarmiliar with at school but even my closest friends. I wont join sports or go out and apply for jobs because I feel like deep down im possibly scared of the social aspect of it all.

    Is this just a phaze? After Highschool will adult hood be easier? I feel really pessimistic of the future once I Leave the house and am 18. I was not born with this "Social anxiety" it just developed over the years and now I find it seriously affecting my life. How can I change it what can I do?? help me if you can

    • ANSWER:
      Perhaps set yourself a relaxation program on CD

      learn to relax your mind. Then mentally do something new sensible

      slightly risky action.

      Until you feel comfortable and relaxed while imagining the scene.

      Reward your newly acquired skills by having some kind of celebration

      that you enjoy.

      Then set a small real goal, it can be the one you learnt to feel comfortable

      with, then learn to feel comfortable doing so.

      Celebrate it's achievement.

      So first relax, mentally do goal then relax & reward yourself.

      Then do it for real always ending in relaxation & celebration.

      So bit by bit you achieve & make progress.

      Remember how to eat the Hippopotamus, little bits over time ?

      Best Wishes.

      Mars Mission. (Earth).

      14th Year Psychology Student.

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  49. QUESTION:
    Does this sound like Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD)?
    I know that most people with Social Anxiety have very few friends because they find it extremely difficult to make friends, but I do have a lot of friends. It's pretty easy for me to make friends and I have always had plenty. I am really really afraid to go out in public in fear that people will judge me and laugh at me. I don't go out to eat with my family anymore and I haven't been inside of a restaurant in about 2 years. One time at a restaurant, I thought people were laughing at how my hair looked, so I went to the bathroom so I could go cry and I did...for like, 15 minutes. I do go out to some places sometimes (the mall, certain clothing stores, etc.), but not very often. I would rather order my clothing online instead of going shopping for it. Also, even though I have friends and I talk to them at school, I am socially awkward outside of school. Yes, I text them, but I have no social networks to talk to them on because I am afraid to post photos because of how hideous I think that I look. It's really embarassing. Everytime I am invited to go somewhere with my friends, I make up an excuse not to because I am afraid that I am going to do something embarassing in public. I even lie so that I don't have to go to their houses. It makes me sad to know that they're all out having fun while I am sitting at home doing nothing. I'll be a senior. School starts back in less than a month and I still haven't gotten my senior pictures taken. I am so scared to capture that image and know that the image will be in the yearbook forever. I am so ridiculous...and I am only 16 years old. 16! The rest of my life is going to suck, so I am just giving up. I would like to trade places with someone, but that's not going to happen. Even the not-so-popular kids are even having fun with the other not-so-popular kids. It's driving me insane. My mom won't get me a counselor, so I am on my own. I can't handle this by myself anymore. This has been going on since the 6th grade. Can someone help me? Thanks in advanced...

    xD
    @Caterina Kusch: I am not buying Valium pills. I don't have the money and I wouldn't want to anyways. Sorry...

    • ANSWER:
      It sounds like agoraphobia.
      SYMPTOMS

      The essential feature of Agoraphobia is anxiety about being in places or situations from which escape might be difficult (or embarrassing) or in which help may not be available in the event of having a Panic Attack or panic-like symptoms.

      Agoraphobic fears typically involve characteristic clusters of situations that include being outside the home alone; being in a crowd or standing in a line; being on a bridge; and traveling in a bus, train, or automobile.

      A person who experiences agoraphobia avoids such situations (e.g., travel is restricted) or else they endure with significant distress or with anxiety about having a Panic Attack or panic-like symptoms. People with agoraphobia often require the presence of a companion.

      Anxiety or phobic avoidance in agoraphobia can not be better accounted for by another mental disorder, such as Social Phobia (e.g., avoidance limited to social situations because of fear of embarrassment), Specific Phobia (e.g., avoidance limited to a single situation like elevators), Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (e.g., avoidance of dirt in someone with an obsession about contamination), Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (e.g., avoidance of stimuli associated with a severe stressor), or Separation Anxiety Disorder (e.g., avoidance of leaving home or relatives).

      Agoraphobia is generally not diagnosed if Panic Disorder has already been previously diagnosed. As with all mental disorders, the symptoms listed above are not due to the direct physiological effects of a use or abuse of a substance (e.g., alcohol, drugs, medications) or a general medical condition.

  50. QUESTION:
    My daughter has Social Anxiety and I need to get her in school.?
    My daughter has always been a good student. Mostly A's and B's. She is an avid reader and has always been thirsty for knowledge. As a younger student, she made friends easily and often had a group of her peers around her when I'd pick her up from school.

    She started 9th grade last year when we lived in a smaller community. Things were great for the first half of the year. After winter break she became uninterested in attending. She had been sick for a week, then a family friend had passed away and she missed another week and then she got a really bad cold and didn't attend for another week. I went to the school and got her assignments for her and for the most part, she was able to complete them.

    Then, without provocation, she became severely depressed. She was afraid to attend school. Too many kids in the halls at passing time, the lunch room was too big with too many people in it at one time. She became fearful of attending and down right refused to go. The way she'd cry and plead to me how scared she was to go concerned me and broke my heart as well. I empathized with her.

    At this point I will tell you that I am a single parent and always have been. Her father lives in a different state and has very little, if any contact with us. This information may or may not be integral in rendering your advise.

    She started seeing a specialist in adolescent behavior and he agreed with my prognosis of social anxiety but we never resolved the issue. We only worked around it with the school, making arrangements for smaller classes and different times for attending so there wouldn't be many people in the halls. At the end of the school year she had not met the required credits to complete the 9th grade.

    I must be overly emotional because as I'm writing this I have begun to cry. I want my daughter to get an education. I want her to not be afraid of crowds of people. I want for her to attend college and fulfill her dream of one day being a Forensic Anthropologist. I want her to be ok.

    We have moved to a larger city so I can take care of my mother who is in poor health. I know the timing is bad but I had been traveling 120 miles round trip 4 or 5 times a week to take care of my mothers needs that the care center she is currently at doesn't provide. She is there due to slipping into a coma and being on life support last November.

    I do not have a lot of money and it was becoming more and more difficult to continue at this rate. There is no one else to help my mother. She can not live alone and we can not afford to put her in a care center on a permanent basis. I asked my mom to move in with us but she didn't want to leave her hometown, so we moved to hers. She will soon be moving in with us.

    I need to get my daughter back in school but I don't want to scar her for life by subjecting her to a new school that is 4 times the size of the school she had been terrified of. I can't imagine how fearful she would be. I try to talk to her about it and she just clams up. I don't know what to do. It sounds like she's just being defiant and playing me but honestly she's not. She even hates to talk on the phone. If she was starving to death and the only way for her to get food was to order a pizza to be delivered, she would die of starvation. She is that shy.

    A couple years ago at Middle school, she was to give a speech in class. She literally broke down in front of her class and began to cry, then ran out of the classroom. She's terrified. All these people had been in her school since Kindergarten. Why is she so afraid now.

    My daughter is a really good kid. She doesn't smoke or drink or do drugs. She doesn't talk back. She is helpful around the house if asked to do something. Like most teenagers these days, she does like the Internet and plays video games. Nothing violent though. She is very loving and sensitive to the needs of others. She really is a good kid.

    Someone please help me by telling me what my options are. Please.

    • ANSWER:
      Many people with anxiety disorders benefit from joining a self-help or support group and sharing their problems and achievements with others. Stress management techniques and meditation can help people with anxiety disorders calm themselves and may enhance the effects of therapy. There is preliminary evidence that aerobic exercise may have a calming effect. Since caffeine, certain illicit drugs, and even some over-the-counter cold medications can aggravate the symptoms of anxiety disorders, they should be avoided.

      Conventional medications

      Antidepressants (SSRIs such as fluoxetine (Prozac), sertraline (Zoloft), escitalopram (Lexapro), paroxetine (Paxil), and citalopram (Celexa) adjust the neurotransmitter levels in your brain to try and relieve anxiety), anti-anxiety medications (Benzodiazepines such as alprazolam (Xanax), chlordiazepoxide (Librium), clonazepam (Klonopin) and diazepam (Valium) create a sedative affect to reduce anxiety), and beta-blockers (Propranolol (Inderal) are used to stop the effects of adrenaline (such as palpitations, sweating) – a key chemical in anxiety) are the most common medications used for anxiety disorders.

      The most common side effects for benzodiazepines are drowsiness and dizziness. Other possible side effects include Upset stomach, Blurred vision, Headache, Confusion, Grogginess, Nightmares.

      Common side effects from beta-blockers include Fatigue, Cold hands, Dizziness, Weakness.

      In addition, beta-blockers generally are not recommended for people with asthma or diabetes because they may worsen symptoms.

      Natural Herbal and Homeopathic Remedies

      Natural remedies for overcoming social anxiety disorder symptoms can include alternative treatments such as relaxation and deep breathing techniques as well as herbal and homeopathic remedies which may be very helpful along with psychotherapy.

      As with other psychological ailments, a holistic approach has proven beneficial in treating Social Anxiety, while also incorporating mainstream and complementary treatments along with balanced diet and exercise.

      Taken alone or in combination with psychotherapy, natural remedies for overcoming social anxiety disorder symptoms offer the same benefits as conventional medications, but without the disturbing side-effects and potential for addiction.

      Tailored to suit your individual needs, natural products can help relieve anxiety and calm the negative physical effects of social anxiety disorder. Some well known and commonly recommended natural remedies for overcoming social anxiety disorder symptoms include Melissa Officinalis (Lemon Balm), Lavender and Passiflora Incarnata – to soothe the mind and calm the nerves. Some herbal remedies (e.g. Hypericum perforatum or St John’s Wort) have been clinically shown to be just as effective as many of the anti-depressant drugs.

      Taken over time, they can balance brain chemistry and prevent the overwhelming symptoms of anxiety from occurring in the first place.

      You may get more info here http://www.healthherbsandnutrition.com/remedies/s/socialanxietydisorder.htm


Help For Social Anxiety And Phobia

Written By: admin - Apr• 21•12

Often, teachers feel powerless in front of a very sweet, yet painfully shy, child. The shy child who suffers from social anxiety feels isolated during playtime. In class, the child never speaks up, even if they know the answer. During presentations and show-and-tell, socially anxious children have a very hard time. They are almost always incapacitated by their social anxiety and are unable to convey the information they already know, or even display the work they have prepared.

First and foremost, it is important for a teacher to differentiate between shy students, and students who are quiet because of disinterest or those who need scholastic help and support. While it is true that a student who does not speak up in class may not have done his/her homework, some students may not speak upor even answer questionsbecause they are shy. This shyness goes beyond the cute bashfulness. This is social anxiety which is very serious due to the fact that it halts their participation in class discussions, and seriously hampers their public speaking skillspossibly for life. The distinction can be easily made if you compare the student's performance on written assignments with their performance on oral questions, or presentations. An A student who delivers a poor presentation maybe simply held back by shyness. If you suspect that this is the case, ask your student to submit their presentation prep material. In a friendly setting, discuss the presentation topic with the student. Ask them questions, mainly for the purpose of demonstrating for them that they KNOW their material. You can also set a date for a "repeat presentation", where you could suggest that they use PowerPoint slides and a data show. This reduces the eye-contact time, and might ease them into the skill of public speaking.

While the above suggestions are very helpful for the older students, younger kids require a completely different approach. You, as a homeroom teacher, will have no trouble identifying a child with a chronic shyness or social anxiety problem because you spend a lot of time with them and observe them play. The shy child will not like show-and-tell very much. Make sure you help them choose something they are passionate about. You can also help them make a small video presentation to accompany their oral presentation. Making the video catchy, full of sounds, rich images and fun, is sure to turn it into a success that the whole class will enjoy. The shy child will benefit tremendously from this experience: watching themselves speak on camera, and experiencing success in their project is sure to increase their self-confidence which will dampen the effect on shyness on their morale.

Students with shyness and social anxiety also experience trouble when reading aloud. They stutter and sometimes are completely unable to read. This is no cause to skip the shy child when choosing students to read: reading aloud is a perfect opportunity to help them overcome their shyness. The teacher can try and choose the least challenging passages for these troubled students. Also, you can work out a "reading aloud plan" with them where you give them a few lines (or words in the case of a younger child) to practice at home in advance knowing that they will read them aloud the next day. Tell them to repeat the saying "practice makes progress" while inhaling and exhaling deeply if they stutter at home. Creating positive reading aloud experiences will leave a lasting impression on someone with social anxiety.

Also, If you feel like the child's social life and/or achievement in school is greatly affected by his/her social anxiety it is necessary to enlist the help of the school psychologist/counselor and talk about it with the parents.

Frequently Asked Questions

  1. QUESTION:
    what is the main difference between social anxiety/phobia and avoidant personality disorder?
    just looking for a clear distinction as far as i can tell people suffering from social anxiety or social phobia don't necessarily avoid social interaction they just experience anxiety in social situations and phyiscal symptoms are prominent while avoidants simply avoid social interaction due to feeling inferior to others and socially inept.. am i somewhat correct here? appreciate the help!

    • ANSWER:
      I guess there are a few.

      1) Social Phobics don't necessarily lack self-esteem, but I think that's kind of a major characteristic of avoidant personality disorder.

      2) As you pointed out, personality disorders are often focused on maladaptive behaviours, if i'm not mistaken, whereas mental disorders (like social anxiety) do not - so someone w/ social phobia can feel extreme anxiety in a social situation while maintaining social contact. Someone with APD would avoid the situation all together.

      APD may also be more pervasive across all social situations, where SAD may be more likely in new social situations or in situations where they expect judgment, but in more comfortable situations, with people they know, they may feel OK.

  2. QUESTION:
    How can I get help in finding a job/getting money if I have severe Social Phobia/Anxiety?
    I have been diagnosed with severe social phobia and social anxiety. I have been off medication and therapy for about three months now, but it started getting worse right after it started getting better. Now I can't physically, emotionally, or mentally hold a full-time job, which is the amount of money I need to keep my apartment. Is there anything out there that will help me find a full-time job I can handle or at least get me some kind of disability money so that I could work part-time until I am able to work full-time?

    • ANSWER:
      Get a note from the doctor that says you are being treated for an illness and that you will be out of work for a period of time. Then call up TDI (temporary disability insurance) and file a claim.

  3. QUESTION:
    self help for social anxiety and social phobia?
    I'm almost positive I have what is described as a Social Anxiety disorder. I have all the symptoms including excessive sweating,blushing, and worry in social situations, especially around new people. I used to abuse alcohol very frequently and it would help me get over this situation, now I am going to seek help from a professional. My question to you guys is, do you know any techniques I could practice at home to eliminate this extreme social anxiety/phobia?.

    • ANSWER:
      You can't just sit at home and eliminate it. I have Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and I HATE going out into crowded stores, busy places, etc... this is truly self help. You have to put yourself in that position and try to work through the problems as they arise. I am on anxiety meds, but it still doesn't work somedays. I go to a crowded mall and just breath deep and tell myself that everything will be okay... confidence is everything! Good luck and I wish you the best!

  4. QUESTION:
    Is hynotherapy good for Social Phobia/Anxiety?
    I have Social Anxiety Disorder, I'm 13 and there's a youth help service near me that offers hypnotherapy. I've been there once, they said I could come back if I wanted to. I was thinking about hypnotherapy, is it safe, why do some people believe that it's "evil"?
    Plus, I used to have Epilepsy, but now I'm seizure free without medicine. Would that affect the safety of it?
    TY.

    • ANSWER:
      If in doubt I would go see your doctor first or talk to one of the Nurses at your local doctors. If you are going to have Hypnotherapy make sure the person you see is qualified and ask to see their qualifications and make sure you take somebody with you and have them in on your session just for your own safety ok. Take Care and wish you well. Julie

  5. QUESTION:
    What medication has helped you with your anxiety / social phobia?
    Just wondering if I go see a doctor for my anxiety attacks / social phobia and he or she decides to prescribe a medication, what would be the most common medication he or she would prescribe for my anxiety / social phobia? What did your doctor prescribe for you and did it help?

    • ANSWER:
      You could be put on a lot of things. SSRIs and SNRIs are anti-depressants that also can help anxiety long-term. These are meds like prozac, zoloft, effexor, and so on. The other option is fast-acting anti-anxiety meds like xanax and ativan that you take "as needed" when you have an attack or can tell you're going to. I have ativan and it helps when I use it. I haven't needed it as much since I got stablized on my other meds for bipolar depression.

  6. QUESTION:
    How to know if you have social anxiety/phobia? Or just shyness?
    I'm kind of a reserved person, but I don't know if I have bad enough shyness that I should talk to a professional. Some things that make me nervous:
    -talking on the phone or calling people (even friends)
    -eating in front of people
    -writing or typing in front of people (even my family!)
    -meeting new people
    -talking to strangers

    Also, I feel mentally exhausted if I have to interact with strangers for too long. For instance, there's a new girl at work who I like, but I was really relieved when (after just a day or two of interacting with her) I got to "take a break" from her when she called in sick. And this was someone I liked.

    Should I try to seek help? Or does this sound like a normal level of shyness/anxiety?
    Sometimes it's worse. For instance, after my sister joined our school's martial arts club, she kept telling me how much fun it was, but I kept putting off going because I was scared. Finally, I promised I would go with her the very next day. I did go, but I was so scared I cried before we left. :(

    Now that I know the people at the club, I love it, but it really sucks to be so anxious about meeting people.

    • ANSWER:
      Social Anxiety vs. Shyness

      Shy people do not experience the same intense anxiety as people with social anxiety disorder. In addition, shy people don't avoid social situations to the extreme that people with social anxiety disorder do.

      Shyness is not a criteria for social anxiety disorder. People with social anxiety disorder may be quite comfortable with certain people or many people, but still avoid or feel intense anxiety in specific social situations. In addition, social anxiety disorder may come to be debilitating for some people whereas shyness does not. Social anxiety disorder may begin to overtake every aspect of a person's life.

  7. QUESTION:
    What are some ways to help my social phobia?
    summers coming and i need to do something...any suggestion for my social anxiety/phobia?

    • ANSWER:
      It depends on how reserved you are.

      I, being a little more on the shy side, sometimes try to push myself into certain situations where social interaction is demanded. Find a place with people who share your creative talents.

      This is easier said than done. And I must admit I barely get around to it. It's like jumping from an airplane while having a fear of heights.

      Most of all, believe in yourself. Life comes and goes and there are many times you will screw up and look stupid in front of people. How you learn from those situations is your best bet.

  8. QUESTION:
    Careers advice for somebody with social phobia/anxiety?
    I'm in year ten now, the year where you are asked to start thinking about college and further education. We have a class called 'life skills' where we are doing a project on careers. This project is worth some of my GCSE and all I can do in the class is sit and do nothing. I don't want to be able to do nothing in this because I want good GCSE results.
    The thing is, I've got social phobia and social anxiety, so I can't talk to people and the biggest conversation I can have outside of my family is something like 1-2 short phrases or more, depending on who it is I am speaking to...
    For some of the project we have to write about what career we want to pursue and a plan on how we are going to get the career we want. But I don't know what it is I want to do! At all!!
    I'd like to think I'm clever.. I'm in all the top classes at school but all the jobs I'd maybe like to do says specifically you need good pubic speaking skills.
    I've looked online for jobs for people with social anxiety/phobia and theyve all been really insensitive things like 'warehouse worker' 'truck driver' 'lighthouse keeper'
    I'd love to do something involving languages, especially German. Or helping people with the same condition as me.

    Please give me honest answers.

    • ANSWER:
      Ask your schools counsellor and careers advisors to work together and see what they can come up with.

  9. QUESTION:
    Social Phobia, Anxiety, etc.?
    I've fought this for way too long, and I've tried to battle it on my own, and I am busy trying things, getting my hopes up, and then it not working. I tried "forcing myself" to act myself, and it doesn't work. **Important** The reason I think medication would help, is because I have come to think that it is chemically oriented --> BECAUSE, some days I feel great. I can go talk to people, be myself, and do fine with strangers. But most days I feel depressed, nervous, and crappy. Now I don't want ANY of the answers saying "it's just a low self-esteem issue", or "everyone goes through this." I consider myself to be natrually smart when it comes to psychology and I have studied this, and I believe that it is chemically induced, at least in part. It's not a self-esteem issue, because honestly, while my self-esteem could use some work, I KNOW that I am good enough to talk to people, get a girlfriend, and that a lot of people would love my personality if I could show it to them.

    As I said, I have tried a few methods including depression meds (prozac, zymbalta, and one more that I can't remember). They helped a little, but I got off of those once I tried HYPNOSIS. The hypnosis helped me with depression, and I don't struggle with that as much. The real problem is this damn social phobia that cripples my life.

    What I'm asking is if there are any drugs that are in use, or being experimented with to treat this, as I feel it could defifintely help and is at least worth a try.

    **On a side-note, if it matters at all, I am taking anti-histamines daily which combat chronically itchy skin (which I have read on the APA website that itchy skin is being considered as a cause of social anxiety). I also recreationally smoke marijuana and drink alcohol (this only happens once every few weeks) and it honestly makes me feel like the person I want to be, regardless of your thoughts or views on the use of illegal substances. Just saying. Thanks.

    • ANSWER:

  10. QUESTION:
    social phobia, anxiety, etc.?
    I've fought this for way too long, and I've tried to battle it on my own, and I am busy trying things, getting my hopes up, and then it not working. I tried "forcing myself" to act myself, and it doesn't work. **Important** The reason I think medication would help, is because I have come to think that it is chemically oriented --> BECAUSE, some days I feel great. I can go talk to people, be myself, and do fine with strangers. But most days I feel depressed, nervous, and crappy. Now I don't want ANY of the answers saying "it's just a low self-esteem issue", or "everyone goes through this." I consider myself to be natrually smart when it comes to psychology and I have studied this, and I believe that it is chemically induced, at least in part. It's not a self-esteem issue, because honestly, while my self-esteem could use some work, I KNOW that I am good enough to talk to people, get a girlfriend, and that a lot of people would love my personality if I could show it to them.

    As I said, I have tried a few methods including depression meds (prozac, zymbalta, and one more that I can't remember). They helped a little, but I got off of those once I tried HYPNOSIS. The hypnosis helped me with depression, and I don't struggle with that as much. The real problem is this damn social phobia that cripples my life.

    What I'm asking is if there are any drugs that are in use, or being experimented with to treat this, as I feel it could defifintely help and is at least worth a try.

    **On a side-note, if it matters at all, I am taking anti-histamines daily which combat chronically itchy skin (which I have read on the APA website that itchy skin is being considered as a cause of social anxiety). I also recreationally smoke marijuana and drink alcohol (this only happens once every few weeks) and it honestly makes me feel like the person I want to be, regardless of your thoughts or views on the use of illegal substances. Just saying. Thanks.

    • ANSWER:
      I hope I dont come across as offensive here, but I think you are far too concerned with analysing every little thing you feel and then finding a term to diagnose it with. I mean I suffer from anxiety also, I went through depression a few yrs back after my friends passed away tragically and I never fully recovered, I mean sure I "beat" it, but it's not as though there aren't days when it creeps back and I feel the anxiety again...the difference now is I understand what anxiety and panic attacks are so I know how to control them and within seconds I calm myself down.

      Also, having that anxiety makes you more aware of everything that happens in y our body. So if you feel a headache coming on, the anxiety takes over and you start thinking oh no I'm gonna have a brain hemorrhage and die. Or if I felt a tingle in my left hand, I was convinced it was because I had heart problems, which would then trigger more panic attack symptoms which funnily enough mimic heart attack symptoms so I would cry myself to sleep convinced that I wont wake up in the morning. Basically, when you have anxiety, you tend to over analyse everything. It has noothing to do with how "smart' you are. My whole life I've been labelled as an intelligent person, but it doesnt mean shit when your body takes over your mind.

      The other main issue I have, which I have not been able to overcome, is my blushing. I blush very easily, and so this makes me nervous when speaking to certain people (it's in my nature to be a 'social butterfly') Im one of those people who can go out there and speak to random strangers as though I have known them for years, but there are also certain moments when I worry that I will blush, and my worrying-in-advance no doubt triggers the blushing so I find myself avoiding speaking to people. Especially at work. And this is so unlike the Usual me.

      I dont think you should be resorting to drugs, I also study psychology and from what I have gathered, there are some illnesses that require drugs, but at the same time, anything that goes into our body that is not natural, is more than likely going to have some kind of side effect. If you alter with the natural state of your body, your chemicals, you are "treating" the problem, but you are not actually fixing anything.

      What I sometimes do is I know Im about to blush, but I force myself to talk to the person and stare them in the eye until I feel my face cool down and im "over it". So maybe, when you feel your social phobia taking over, force yourself to just go and talk to people anyway no matter how you are feeling. You won't always find the will power to do this, some days you will find the will, other days you'll give into your fears. But the good thing is, when you do find the will and force yourself, you become more aware of how your fear is stemmed from something internal & that there aren't any real external threats. Trust me, I was prescribed medication for my panic and anxiety, but I realised my body was reacting to it in a negative manner - sometimes I'd get twitches in my body that felt like electric shocks running through - then I googled it and realised alot of people who were on the same medication also were experiencing this, especially after coming off the meds, after that I started cutting my pills in half - literally - and lowered my dosages myself (which isnt recommended at all) and then eventually I got off the meds and nowww thankfully I dont have the long term "shocks" that other patients are stuck with.

      anyway, good luck with it but honestly, stay away from meds unless you have some illness that has potential to be harmful to others around you, meds should always be last resort.

  11. QUESTION:
    Social Phobia/ Anxiety
    For six years now, I have dealt with major self consciousness and self esteem issues. In my eyes, I am hideous. I hate everything about my appearance. My sisters always joke and say I have body dismorphic disorder but I truly think I have a problem.
    It's gotten so bad that I won't even go into public places for fear that everyone will stare at me and see how ugly I am. My sisters tell me they think I am beautiful, but I almost take it as an insult instead of a compliment. Actually, anytime anyone tells me I look good, I take offense. I don't mean to but my vision of myself is so far from beautiful that I have trouble grasping that fact. It's almost as if I believe that they are making fun of me. It's irrational I know, but that's why I need help.
    It scares me on a daily basis that I will end up alone and miserable, but I can't stop fretting over what others think. I feel inadequate. People at school think I'm stuck-up or that I think I'm too good for them, but in all actuality, I'm terrified of being rejected or laughed at.
    My social anxiety is so bad that I won't even hang out with my close friends anymore. Even if I want to, my fears keep me at home.
    I have never had a boyfriend for all of these reasons--I don't meet new people, nor do I even try because i know they won't like me.
    I don't know what to do. I'm 17 and fearful that I'm wasting my life away. I just don' know what to do anymore.

    • ANSWER:
      Who cares what other people think? It is impossible to control how another thinks of you. You could be the most beautiful, intelligent person and someone out there could still tell you that they don't like you. The answer is to quit putting your self-worth in the hands of others. All you can do is love yourself--you really are unique, special, beautiful in your own way. Love yourself first and always. Fear? What for? I used to have a whole bunch of fear, but I realized that I was creating it in my own head. There is truly nothing that can hurt me. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself. All other forms of fear are not real, just made up by our minds.. I like this saying:
      "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things that I cannot change, the courage to change the things that I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." Think about it.

  12. QUESTION:
    quick tips for overcoming social anxiety/social phobia?
    if anyone has any quick tips for overcoming social anxiety/social phobia that DONT include therapists or medication. breathing exercises, etc, other related tips.. would be greatly appreciated!
    ive been dealing with this anxiety for a good year+ now, and im ready to be done with all this! the panic attacks, the fact that it doesnt let me perform normal daily functions/routienes, i cant meet people, i cant talk normally with friends and family even(at times) ANY tips at all would help alot!!
    thanks

    • ANSWER:
      I think the best way to overcome social anxiety/social phobia is to attack head on. Instead of "running" away from it take small steps toward defeating that phobia.

      For example if you have trouble talking to one person for whatever reason, invite them to a group lunch with another friend. That way you'll have someone else to rely on if the conversation gets too blan or personal.

      A much quicker tip is to visualize yourself defeating the phobia in any way possible. Cracking my knuckles or rubbing my cheeks and/or taking full deep breathes always helps me relax.

  13. QUESTION:
    How can I get help for a social anxiety disorder without anyone knowing?
    I really want help. I am 15 and I have always had underlying problems of social phobia and anxiety. It first started with school when I was very young, and I have found it difficult to keep friends and have never got rid of anxiety for school. I really want to get rid of this because it is messing up my life but I don't want to let my parents know. They would not take me seriously. Can I get help with someone without anyone knowing?

    • ANSWER:
      It is soo hard growing up with SAD. Unfortunately the only way I could get treatment was to see a psychiatrist who prescribed me medicine. I am 23 years old now and have no signs of ever having Social Anxiety Disorder, are you sure you can't go to your parents for help and support?

  14. QUESTION:
    I need help, I have social anxiety/social phobia?
    Please read, I need someone to listen.

    I am fourteen years old and I have had this since I was five. I remember Kindergarten being terrible I'd go to the bathroom and just cry. It got so bad I had to be taken out of school for over three months in the first grade. I got on Paxil and I have always been little but Paxil made me gain so much weight and I wanted to get off of it in 6th grade because I was being teased about my weight,So the doctors took me off of it and I was doing good for a while and I had lost all the weight that I had gained and I was doing good with my S.A.D as well until my dad walked out when I was 12. I completely threw me for a loop and my social anxiety,social phobia,& panic attacks have came back worse than ever. I am on Zoloft now, I just got on it and I am so scared that there is no hope for me. I read blogs about people who are 40 years old and still have this problem and it discourages me. This is holding me back SO much. I used to have so many friends and now I only have have one best friend who I'm not completely terrified to talk to and even she can' understand this even if she tries. I don't go to school anymore,I'm home schooled. I started that in the 7th grade because I tried to go to school the 1st day of 7th grade and completely freaked out,I got off the bus when I got home and just collapsed on the floor crying, I couldn't believe it was back. My worst nightmare. I should be going out and having fun with my friends,people say these are the best years of your life and mine are passing me by. I have so much potential,I am smart and I want to do something with my life but I can't. I cannot have a conversation with anyone outside of my family or my best friend without completely freezing up and not knowing what to say. I can't make small talk and I won't talk on the phone unless it's with my best friend or my close family. I'm a pretty girl(& I'm not saying that bxc I think I'm hot shit) but I get asked out a lot and for once I would like to be able to say okay sure you're cute let's talk,let's hang out and maybe if your a nice guy then I'll be your girlfriend. I don't know what to do anymore,what is the point of me being on this earth anymore & don't get me wrong I would never do anything to harm myself but there has got to be more to my life than just letting it pass me by. I need to know that I'm not the only one out there that has this problem,I feel SO alone and scared. I'm just a kid and I need someone to make this better but no one can. I don't know anyone who is going through this. Are their institutions that I can go to? I'm willing to try anything but I want to have a life,I want to chase my dreams & I can't because this is holding me back. It is terrible knowing that I am capable of so much and the only person holding me back is myself. & if you read this,thanks. Sometimes knowing that your not alone and there are people out there that actually care is relieving . God Bless.

    • ANSWER:
      One word. Chill. I have general anxiety disorder and everytime i start to freak out just think "chill." I don't know what your stance on drug use is but marijuana can help as long as the "set and setting" (google it if you don't know what i mean) is right. Not trying to push drugs but it's healthier then zoloft. On a side note just chill, don't take life to seriously because if you do, you'll miss out on alot

  15. QUESTION:
    Where can I find behavioral therapy in central Ohio for social phobia?
    I have been searching for this for a long time now and haven't had any luck. Even information on a therapist with special training in social phobia/social anxiety would help a lot.

    Thanks in advance for the feedback.

    • ANSWER:
      Check the Association of Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies Find-a-Therapist service. You can limit your search to social skills or social anxiety.

  16. QUESTION:
    How can I start a non-profit organization for Social Anxiety/Social Phobia?
    I think a lot about the years I lost to Social Anxiety. I have my BA in psychology, and my aim was to help those suffering from the disorder.

    I suffered from the disorder severely from ages 0-16. I slipped easily through the school system and I just want to go back to every teacher and shake them, and tell them to open a book! I had it very severly and no one ever noticed! My goal with this organization would be to educate teachers, maybe send out pamphlets to help at least open the door of communication with students who may have the disorder. I would love to even go to classrooms and talk to students/teachers and let them know they can get help if they feel they need it. I would also be interested in helping people find the area's sources for mental help, and how to get financial aid. Maybe even getting together people who are doing better to come talk to people who may feel they have no hope, or like a group therapy thing.

    Any suggestions how I can start a non-profit organization educating people or just helping those with social phobia? Do i not have enough credentials?
    Aw, Destiny. Thank you for your help and kind words. I know people have been through much worse. Just trying to help :)

    • ANSWER:
      What an ---OUTSTANDING--- individual you ARE !!! I take "my hat off" and grant you my deepest RESPECT !!! You must be an exceptional person and I am so enthused about your plans...(I wish I could join you in the project)...-smile-

      However, it's such a shame, NO ONE "noticed" anything...I mean from what you've described, it's such a lack of concern (from teachers, etc.). It stuns me and shows again, that ----APATHY--- is "among us" and we need to change such a careless attitude...(no matter from WHOM) !!!

      Now...honey...all you need to do (as I did just now) is....put your "title":"How to start a NON-profit organization" into "Google"...and you'll get various pages, where you can get ALL the information you need ! I sure wish you :GOOD LUCK in the process ! We need MORE concerned people like---YOU---!!! Amen !

      Wishing you all the best for the future (and some outside assistance as well) ! Greetings from Germany with all my love, care & concern....your friend...Annette***

  17. QUESTION:
    Treatment for social phobia/social anxiety disorder?
    What's a good cost affective treatment for this. I'm too poor to go see a psychologist and i' a student so i dont have benefits. Any over the counter drugs work well for you. Perhaps supplements.
    I'm a psych major to try to help myself but no real answers

    • ANSWER:
      Dear Peter,

      I understand the position you are in. I have social anxiety. My mother refused to let me be on medication because of the risk of becoming addicted to it and the fact that the side effects can be worse than the actual anxiety itself. I refused therapy because I cannot stand the idea of talking to someone about my problems and don't believe in therapy as a whole. Instead, my mother researched on the internet of ways to control social anxiety and/or any anxiety.

      A test study has shown that Omega 3, along with a good, healthy, balanced diet and a decent amount of excercise can help a person who is suffering from anxiety. And if, like me, you do not like fish and/or things that contain Omega 3, you can purchase fish oil tablets at your local store. It has been shown that, while it can not cure it completely, it can help anxiety. I, for one, do not believe this helps, but you may be one of the people it does work on, and it can't harm you to test it, can it?

      I wish you the best of luck,
      The Beautiful Mind.

  18. QUESTION:
    Social Anxiety/Social Phobia or just Shy? 10pts?
    I'm 21 in university, and I think I may have a condition more complex than just shyness. I wasn't always shy, I was really outgoing as a kid but after grades 5-8 I became more self-concious and withdrawn. I've been told I'm "really pretty" and get attention from guys but I'm not confident enough to approach them. In fact, i have trouble talking to people unless they talk to me first. I'm afraid of not having anything interesting to say, or making an idiot of myself because of my lack of social skills. You can imagine how many new friends I've made in uni. Oh, and ppl find it hard to believe but I've never dated in my life.

    *please tell me if this sounds like just shyness or a disorder*
    -I tend to avoid large crowds, parties, and the school caf if I don't have anyone to go with
    -I get really uncomfortable when ppl stare at me (especially when i walk, eat, or just sit in class)
    -i tend to sit at the back of the class, near the door, if i'm by myself. if I have a friend in the course it doesn't matter where i'll sit
    -i get random "panic attacks" when i'm walking down a hall sometimes, like i'll suddenly find it hard to breathe and get light-headed
    -sometimes if i answer a question in class, i won't "feel" nervous but afterwards my hands will shake badly for about a minute or more

    i'll take any suggestions on how to get over these things, i'm actually on the lookout for a herbal supplement or natural substance that helps with anxiety. so plz recommend me things. thank you!

    • ANSWER:
      You are not alone! I am almost 20 and I suffer from the same problem... I don't date, just like you and feel self conscious like I don't have anything good to say. I have, not panic attacks, but extreme nervousness in new situations... Going on a new ride, going to work in a new place, meeting new people, etc. I get stomach cramps, I shake and I even have to visit the bathroom a lot because I end up giving myself an upset stomach.

      I have looked up named disorders and found one that best fits you and I... It's called SAD (lol) Social Anxiety Disorder. There is even a forum for it where people could discuss their problems and lean on each other.

      The only person who can change this is you... I am slowly getting over it. I now talk to people first, try to look at their face as we talk and smile a lot. I find it easier to do it as I make myself do it. Also, personally, I had very severe self worth issues and that is what played a role in my shyness... I need to convince myself that I am alright, I'm not ugly and people don't think I am stupid.

      It's a process... Sigh.

  19. QUESTION:
    How to cure Social anxiety/Social phobia???
    Someone please help me, my best friend has socail anxiety/socal phobia, we think, but she has it so terribly. She changes her mood unbelievably and it hurts her life. She will love someone with all her heart, and then not love them at all. It makes her think that there are people better than her out there, and im the only one that she can actaully talk to and it took 3 years for that alone. She also gets TERRIBLE stomach aches and head aches, and even gets very sick. She wants to have a lot of friends, and she wants to be able to live her life, i've searched everywhere for her, everywhere to find some cure besides having to go to a clinic or something, i just cant find anything, someone please help me, please if anyone knows anything please help me, i want to be able to help her, and let her live her life happily...

    • ANSWER:
      a; she has neurological problems as you know.

      b; one way that can put a dent into her
      concerns will take you out of your comfort zone;

      a tv show, Baa Baa Black Sheep,
      about a command of fighter pilots
      in the South Pacific under Pappy Boynton,
      a real group and real leader,
      depicted an event that is helpful in your situation;

      one pilot was on the beach the night
      before a big air fight with the
      Japanese. Pappy's men were the best
      but he still had men downed.

      This one pilot responded, when his
      boss asked "what's wrong john?"

      "I feel as though I am going to die tomorrow."

      This went back and forth 1-2 minutes
      and the pilot could not shake his
      feeling of doom. Pappy then asked the pilot to stand up and pappy turned around
      and then, without notice, swung back around and smacked his pilot in the nose, decking him. The pilot got to his feet and
      pappy knocked him down again.
      the 2nd time he arose, he got hit again.
      AT that time, the pilot, from a ground position, attacked Boynton which started
      a mini brawl-fight.

      after 2-3 more minutes of this,
      With Pappy getting the best of the
      young pilot, he asked him "what are
      your feelings about tomorrow now?"

      "hell with tomorrow, i need to stay
      alive tonight."

      With that, the fight was stopped as Pappy had made his point; Fighter pilots
      cannot afford to think doom before
      a flight or they give the edge to the
      enemy.

      YOUR friend must be "with love but
      a real challenge", brought to a short
      term DIFFERENT focus.

      Some times, it is throwing cold water
      in their face, sometimes, it is smacking
      them across the face hard with a pillow.
      sometimes, it is something rougher.

      --
      an old joke [?] matches this
      Pappy thing.

      a farmer was on the dirt road with
      his donkey which was refusing to
      budge. A city slicker in a car, came upon this farmer and donkey and watched
      for 1-2 minutes.

      The slicker got out of his car,
      went to his trunk, got out a pole/bat
      whatever, and walked up to the donkey
      and swung the bat hard and hit the
      donkey in the middle of the head to which
      the donkey screeched and brayed
      and ran off down the road.

      THE farmer turned to the man and said
      "what the hell did you do that for?"

      the man said, "you were having
      a difficult time getting the attention
      of the donkey. YOU have it now."

      peace and love

  20. QUESTION:
    Questions for those with Social Anxiety Disorder(Social Phobia)?
    Do you stay at home or able to go to work, school, etc.?
    If you do stay at home, what do you do? Are you enjoying staying at home?
    And lastly, which meds do you take?

    I am asking this because I am struggling with this too so I need help. I used to take Ativan but stopped because of the severe side effects. I have switched to Valium but it is too weak for me so I am not able to go to school or work...
    Please help. Thanks.

    • ANSWER:
      I also have PTSD so my medicine might not work for you.

      A doctor put me on a benzodiazepam but I had to get off it, it made my mind messed up and I was so afraid of addiction.

      Valium (diazepam) is a strong medication and has been one of the most frequently prescribed meds in the world for over 40 years. It was the number one seller in the US from 1969-1982.

      You can take up to 10mg per dose 2 to 4 times a day. That's enough to make a horse social, lol.

      I love staying home but it's the worst possible thing to do. Isolation has severe consequences for SADs. Take a class or go to the gym, get a membership at the YMCA or the library or something every day to get out of the house or you will lose the ability altogether and won't even care. Especially if you're on a benzo.

  21. QUESTION:
    Do I Have a Social Anxiety/Social Phobia?
    I'm 21 in university, and I think I may have a condition more complex than just shyness. I wasn't always shy, I was really outgoing as a kid but after grades 5-8 I became more self-concious and withdrawn. I've been told I'm "really pretty" and get attention from guys but I'm not confident enough to approach them. In fact, i have trouble talking to people unless they talk to me first. I'm afraid of not having anything interesting to say, or making an idiot of myself because of my lack of social skills. You can imagine how many new friends I've made in uni. Oh, and ppl find it hard to believe but I've never dated in my life.

    *please tell me if this sounds like just shyness or a disorder*
    -I tend to avoid large crowds, parties, and the school caf if I don't have anyone to go with
    -I get really uncomfortable when ppl stare at me (especially when i walk, eat, or just sit in class)
    -i tend to sit at the back of the class, near the door, if i'm by myself. if I have a friend in the course it doesn't matter where i'll sit
    -i get random "panic attacks" when i'm walking down a hall sometimes, like i'll suddenly find it hard to breathe and get light-headed
    -sometimes if i answer a question in class, i won't "feel" nervous but afterwards my hands will shake badly for about a minute or more

    i'll take any suggestions on how to get over these things, i'm actually on the lookout for a herbal supplement or natural substance that helps with anxiety. so plz recommend me things. thank you!

    • ANSWER:
      I had the same problem almost exact! But a couple of years ago i thought of something to say, like i played out what i was going to say to this girl in my head first before i went over and talked to her and then i just played as if it were in my head.. like think of something to say to someone. like a question then play out and answer and think of something you would normally say to that answer and just go over and do that exactly.. i know it may be hard to understand what i am saying lol, no the best person to put something on paper but just play it out first go over play it and you should be fine.. alittle confidence boost to later on actually start a conversation without thinking about what to say first!!!!

  22. QUESTION:
    How does one go about overcoming social anxiety disorder/social phobia?
    I was put into homeschooling in 7th grade. By 8th grade I developed social phobia and a fear of people, therefore I didn't ever really leave the house except for dr. appointments or late at night when it was dark. I am 17. I am severely depressed and just feel no support of any kind from my family and do not feel loved and my mother knows this as well as my father however they make no effort at all to help me in any way. I have no friends. And when I say no friends, I mean I literally have 0 friends. Lately I have begun to feel trapped.

    I am crying more and I just feel so unstable. There is a part of me that needs to get out of this house but the other part of me will not allow myself due to fear of social situations and anxiety. What can I do?

    I know that there is no instant solution and I don't know where I should start.. My first thought would be getting out of the house slowly by going outside for at least a couple minutes each day, even if it is to run to the mailbox to get the mail. Or maybe even taking a weekend vacation with my mum and just relaxing?

    Also please only answer if you know what you are talking about, rather it be you have or do suffer from social phobia/social anxiety etc. Or you have been around those who have had this problem or else you will not be helping me.

    Thanks.

    • ANSWER:
      I think I can help you. I used to have SA really bad and now I am almost over it 100%. I did some cognitive behavioral therapy on my own and it helped me immensely! It is a 20 step audio/workbook series that a guy named Dr. Richards created. I downloaded the workbook and the audio tapes for free on a website called demonoid.com. The series is called 'Overcoming Social Anxiety Step-By-Step'. You are supposed to listen to one tape per week and the doc tells you specifically what you will work on for that week. At first, it was sorta difficult for me, but in time, I got better and less anxious. The first 10 tapes help you to change the negative thinking patterns that are holding you back. The second 10 tapes focuses more on implementing what you've learned into the real world. The doc knows what he is talking about, because he had social anxiety for 20 years! You CAN beat this, but you have to be persistant! Sometimes you will feel like giving up, because you feel hopeless, but please never give up. You are only 17 and you have your whole life ahead of you! I wish I would have found out about this series when I was your age. You don't want to look back at your life and wish that you had tried harder to help yourself. I know you probably don't feel like this now, but you are worth it. Getting help for yourself is the best thing you can do for you right now. Remember this always and to never give up! Good luck to you and you can contact me if you have anymore questions.

  23. QUESTION:
    Should I tell my best friend that i'm pretty sure I have social phobia/social anxiety?
    It's like in a scary movie when someone is killing that person but no one believes them. I feel like no one will believe that I have social phobia/social anxiety. (That I am so shy to a point where I start to freak out and have panic attacks)

    My sister has developed schizophrenia and my dad has been diagnosed with cancer about 2 years ago. And I haven't had a social life in forever. I've been hiding in my house and I only talk to my best friend. (And people who I feel comfortable with)

    But I need to know If I do have social phobia/social anxiety. Because in a way, I don't know how to be around people. So here is the story ... I was freaking out the first time I hung out with a friend a few days ago and I haven't seen him in forever, then I tried it again today because maybe I would be more comfortable the 2nd time around not thinking to much into it and trying to face my fears. And I was fine until we went to his friends house and then I was being really weird when I started to not feel confident about my self. I hate to admit it but, I think I was that "ockword person" in the room. I didn't know what to say. I was freaking out inside.

    But I picked him up at the library and we went to publix so I could get sushi, cigarettes, and he got a cigar (for a blunt) and then we went to his friends house. (I'm pretty sure that what I'm going to say next is really crazy because I looked at it in 3rd person.) But when we got there and were chilling in his room I asked if I could put the shushi in his fridge because I wasn't going to eat it. If someone that came over my house and I didn't know them asked me to put their food in my fridge I don't know... I'm pretty sure you're not supposed to ask that the first time you meet someone.

    So then we were walking to my car and he wanted me to take off my sweater but I was too self conscious and I told him that and he got that I was. Was he not supposed to know that about me since this was practically the 2nd time we really hung out and I liked him? Anyways, then we went to smoke in my car and I think they expected me to finish the whole blunt? I don't have that big of tolerance for weed. I think they thought I did? But I wasn't comfortable getting super high. And I think they thought that was weird?

    BUT oh wait there's more! we went back inside his house and I got the sushi from the fridge and was feeling REALLY fucking uncomfortable and so I don't know why but I was eating my sushi at his kitchen table like it was nothing. And I'm pretty sure they were trying to tell me it is weird to do that, that we could go in his room.

    That's when we went back to his room and I got the vibe that I should leave. But then I thought maybe I was just freaking out. And the guy who I came with said that he was in the mood to do his homework. And the other one wanted to play his video games (I think.) I don't have much memory of it because all I was thinking was HOLY SHIT - I'm freaking out. And then I got the vibe again that I should leave so I left. And when I was leaving they said (while I was totally out of it because I was freaking out ... i.e. a drunk person that's not cohesive to situations) they said that I might be allergic to marijuana?

    But basically, I think that I don't know how to act in front of people regardless If I was high or not, I would of done the same thing sober.

    Thank you for your time, sorry if this was boring . But I am begging please help me I don't know what's wrong with me

    • ANSWER:
      Sure, tell him; if you are anxious that's to be expected with social anxiety but anxiety is fear and the way to get over a fear is just to face it down. If you don't tell him that is your social phobia kicking in.Fear again; face it down.

  24. QUESTION:
    please help me how to cope i have extreme social phobia and anxiety?
    i have severe social anxiety and social phobia and also agorophobia ,, its so bad i cant even go to the shop to buy food , i have to ask a friend to come with me for everything or then im so scared of everyone and think everyone hates me and is judging me i feel so scared. i have seen psychiatrists varies times and they refused to give me tranquilisers so ive had to buy my own but atm ive run out and waiting for my delivery and i cant go out ,, i feel so depressed as i cant make friends either due to this mental problems i have. tomorow i have to go to a appointment and i am so scared of going out and being around people i cant cope so i dont think i will go. please if u have story to share with me or copying techniques or advice i would really appreciate it. i also dont have a suportive family , my mother gave me away when i was 7 and since then i havent had a loving childhood and i know this has contributed alot to my problems now, i am now in my 20s and have felt like this since i was 12 years old and feel scared of people and that everyone hates me so i avoid anyone too.

    • ANSWER:
      See www.wikihow.com HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS. Enter "abandonment" in the searchbar at amazon.com and view the highest rated media. Google: "abandonment; chat sites + forums + support groups" and check them out. A previous answer follows, modified for you: I suggest that you view the posts on agoraphobia, social anxiety, anxiety, and depression, at http://your-mental-health.8m.com/blank_25.html and pages e, i, 3, b, and the COGNITIVE DISTORTIONS on page m, and write down what evidence there is that people hate you, then the opposite. Realise that most people are indifferent, and too caught up in their own lives to bother hating 20 yr old women who have done nothing to offend them. Hypnotism is merely a heightened state of suggestibility, in which you are better able to communicate with your subconscious mind. 85% of people are suggestible, to some degree, so you could either seek professional hypnotherapy, or hypnosisdownloads has ones on overcoming a troubled childhood, and caring less about the opinions of others, and/or asktheinternettherapist.com has one on re-parenting your inner child, and/or hypnotictapes.com has one about overcoming fear of being negatively evaluated in a social situation.

      If the above proves insufficient, I suggest that you seek psychotherapy, and a course of EMDR therapy, (* http://your-mental-health.weebly.com/q.h... ) would probably reduce the negative emotions associated with your memories of abandonment to more acceptable levels - the EMDR to reduce the negative, combined with the other techniques shown may be all you need, enabling you to avoid psychotherapy (open ended; can take years, cost a small fortune, and achieve little, depending on the therapist, and client).

      Try the relaxation methods at http://www.drcoxconsulting.com/managing-... or http://altmedicine.about.com/cs/mindbody... or http://www.wikihow.com/meditate... and/or Tai Chi, Qi Gong, or yoga. Also page L at this site*, where there are several to choose from. Some people are still dismissive of them, but scientific testing has demonstrated conclusively that they increase activity in the left prefrontal cortex, when practised.

      Things which may help you are:
      having a few good friends, and go out with them regularly, even if you don't feel like it much, at the time. It's alright to OCCASIONALLY tell a close friend that you are feeling bad because of family, or other causes, and ask if it happens to them, and what do they do.

  25. QUESTION:
    adderall dosage for social phobia anxiety?
    i have social phobia/axniety. my doctor put me on adderall 5mg twice a day, it hasnt really helped. i took it in the past but did about 30mg and i felt like i was king of the world at the party, talking to everyone. i love that feeling should i have my dosage increased?

    • ANSWER:
      Yeah, either that or take 6 of your pills at a time and run out WAY sooner!!!

      They always start you out on the lowest possible dosage and 5mg 2Xs a day is pretty DAMN LOW!!! So, yeah I'd ask him or her to up the dose.

      I'm currently on 30mg of Vyvanse per day and I plan on asking my doc for an increase next month too.

  26. QUESTION:
    LEXAPRO is not enought for Social anxiety disorder or (social phobia) is this TRUE ?? plz hlp?
    guyz ,, am sufurnig from social phobia and am taking LEXAPRO (this is my 3rd day with lexapro) and ive heard that lexapro dosent usually work with social phobia is this true :`( plz guyz i need help i want to end my pain
    24 minutes ago - 3 days left to answer.

    • ANSWER:
      it takes more than 3 days to start working. give it a little more time to fully work.

  27. QUESTION:
    Social phobia and Anxiety - help please!?
    My main obstacle right now is eye contact. Especially while walking towards people. At work, there are very long corridors, so you can see the person coming towards you for about 2 minutes before they are within speaking distance. The anxiety builds in those 2 mins as i walk towards the other person, thinking where should i look?, what are they thinking? etc. Eventually when i get near them, i have to force eye contact and squeeze out a very uncomfortable hello.

    It is actually a lot worse if it is someone i know coming towards me. This is because i think, " if i act weird around this guy (whom i consider a friend) he's gonna think i dont like him and get the wrong impression. Also, you are expected to stop and talk to people you know which is very hard if you are overcome with anxiety but are doing your best to hide it. So the anxiety builds to the point of pain and jitters in my stomach and i am compelled to look away from the person. In fact, if i could, i would hide somewhere until the person passes by. But i force myself to look at them uncomfortably and say hello.

    Another thing is - the main part of my job involves a cleanroom environment, which means everyone has to wear suits and masks (We make computer components). This means that the only part of the body exposed is the eyes, and if you have a problem with eye contact in general, imagine how difficult it is. Its not as if you can look at other parts of the face, you are basically forced to look into the persons eyes.

    I actually want to be friendly with everyone but find that i am sending the wrong signals with my body language and i can tell this by people's reactions to me. On a lighter note, at present, i am feeling 10x better than i was this time last year as i am taking citalopram and cant even begin to tell you how bad i was over the last 12 years or so b4 the medication. But the main problem for me now is eye contact because i am so consciously aware of it all the time. And the irony is that people see me as macho because i am well built and do martial arts (which i have taken up because of my social anxiety) but they dont really know how nervous i am inside and i dare not let them see it.

    • ANSWER:
      I know how you feel..almost exactly how you feel...I've been having the same problems at school. I was invited by a friend of mine to meet her in the cafeteria and hang out with her and some other people. Well I walked to the doors first and looked through the window...I didn't see her...my stomach started bubbling i was so nervous... eventually, i just went in and walked straight across to the other door pretending that I had a purpose in going out the other side of the room when really I was just trying to see if she was in there. I was afraid to talk to anyone else. I never used to be like that but I sure as hell am now...but the main thing I try to overcome is my fear and anxiety by being confident and telling myself I have nothing to lose.

      "When one has nothing to lose, one becomes courageous. We are timid only when there is something we can still cling to."

      Also, try to stop thinking about it...stop thinking about yourself and what you should do to make yourself better..or what kind of image you create...

      As far as the "across the hallway" thing, I usually just take the initiative to shout "Heeeey!" Just for the hell of it.

      Hope this helps in some way.

  28. QUESTION:
    Social phobia treatment (Social Anxiety Disorder)?
    i believe i have social anxiety disorder. Whenever i am the center of attention (giving a speech or something like that) i almost always get very red in the face, my heart rate increases a lot, my thoughts are not clear, and my voice trembles.

    i have researched this disorder for some time and everywhere i look i see stories that it is a horrible disorder, it can ruin peoples social lives, and drugs are needed to HELP this disorder.

    i need to know if it is possible to psychologically overcome this disorder. I am only 18 years old, and i dont want to go on anti-depressants and what not, i just want to try and overcome this disorder.

    has anyone ever heard of someone that overcame social phobia without the use of prescription drugs?

    • ANSWER:
      A friend of mine had the same problems as you are having when you have to publicly speak etc. He overcame it by joining a Public Speaking Club, a Debating Club and a Poetry/Writers Club! He got so used to speaking to people it was no longer an issue and he never took pills in any form for it. I hope you can overcome it naturally as you want to. Best wishes. uk

  29. QUESTION:
    Social Phobia treatment (Social anxiety disorder)?
    i believe i have social anxiety disorder. Whenever i am the center of attention (giving a speech or something like that) i almost always get very red in the face, my heart rate increases a lot, my thoughts are not clear, and my voice trembles.

    i have researched this disorder for some time and everywhere i look i see stories that it is a horrible disorder, it can ruin peoples social lives, and drugs are needed to HELP this disorder.

    i need to know if it is possible to psychologically overcome this disorder. I am only 18 years old, and i dont want to go on anti-depressants and what not, i just want to try and overcome this disorder.

    has anyone ever heard of someone that overcame social phobia without the use of prescription drugs?

    • ANSWER:
      My friend does little projects to help herself overcome her problems. For instance, when she goes out to eat, she'll show up a half hour or so before anyone and sit by herself at a table. Sounds stupid, but she's so shy--this is a VERY hard thing for her to do.

      She finally got a job at a retail store part time and is forced to speak with people and give advice on purchases.

      It can be overcome in little steps---you just have to find what works for you.

  30. QUESTION:
    Social anxiety/phobia help?
    I have social anxiety, depression and extremely low confidence and self esteem but I am finally going to try and find some help.

    I started realizing today that these mental problems are controlling my life. I don't leave the house anymore, I dropped out of high school and now am home schooled so I don't have to be around people my age or girls, and don't have any friends or know any girls.

    I really don't know where to turn for help though and was wondering if anyone else have had problems like this and what they did. Any information would be helpful, thanks :)

    • ANSWER:
      I've been through what you've been through, and we actually have a lot in common. :P

      I homeschool too (I'm 15 right now), because I didn't feel comfortable around the people and had such harsh anxiety attacks that I had to hide in the bathroom to calm down.

      But I've made a lot of progress over the year, so I'll try to help you out with what I've been doing.

      I never started getting help from a therapist or anything, all I really needed were some books on building up confidence.

      The key is: learn to love yourself and accept yourself. As soon as you accomplish that, you'll realise it truly doesn't matter. You can walk through a crowd of people staring and not give a crap because you know they're the ones missing out on meeting a worth-while person.

      I have a lot to say, but that's the main part you need to accomplish.

      If anything, you can email me and I'll be more than happy to talk to you about it. You can email me on my yahoo answers page. :)

      Trust me, I'm still having troubles with courage, but I know that someday I'll go to college and be perfectly happy with who I am. And I know you will too, as long as you keep trying!

      -from one person battling sa to another.

  31. QUESTION:
    I've had problems with anxiety and social phobia but feel that I have been missdiagnosed slightly?
    I've been back and forth to the doctor and various counsellers. I was first diagnosed with social anxiety which is a fear of being ridiculed and judged by others. I then went back to the doctor feeling a bit depressed, partly because I felt a bit stuck, like I had gotten so far with improving it and it just stood still so she gave me antidepressants which have helped with the anxiety. I now believe I have something slightly different called avoident personality disorder and I have every symptom apart from one (out of 10 listed). I feel like this explains everything for me. I don't just feel anxious about talking to others I have extremely low self esteem, I can't get close to people, I find it difficult when people physically touch me and the list goes on.

    This might sound silly but I'm scared to go back to the doctor and say I think I've got a different problem. I feel like a hypercondriac or something, just there to complain as I've been to the doctor a few times for other things
    The last thing was binge eating, I have contacted a counseller to talk about that. But maybe that's connected to the other problems I have with low self esteem I don't know. I know myself I'm not fantasising because it feels right and maybe why it's harder to talk about, but I'm scared that my doctor will think I'm self-diagnosing myself too much as I seem to have been there so often lately.
    i want to be with people I cant that's the problem, no matter how hard I try I pull back because I've been rejected so many times. I put it to my childhood of being adopted and fostered and also bullying.

    • ANSWER:
      Firstly you should never be scared to talk to you're Doctor or Councilor, we are here to help you. If you think you've been miss diagnosed you have the right to see another Doctor or Councilor to verify this. We all have the right to request a second opinion and we cannot be "marked down" for requesting this.

  32. QUESTION:
    Reposted more info Get a refund from trade school? After diagnosed anxiety/panic disorder& social phobia..?
    fore mention; I chose not to use specific situations about my difficulties, the school I attend and other specifics. and I chose to use the mental health category because i'm sure others have had similar situations.

    I enrolled in a cosmetology trade school in June of 2009, I have had huge issues attending so much so that in feb. 2010 I took a 5-6 month leave, then continued to struggle and ended up leaving again at the end of march this year, I was diagnosed with anxiety/panic disorder and a social phobia, and haven't been back. I have considered a disability discharge of my loans but they are very difficult to get approved, and since my disability, I feel hinders me specifically in this field (cosmetology and the direct client interaction) the disability discharge can affect your ability to go to school for something else, which I plan and want to do, just in a field that I would prosper better in. I can't afford to pay for this ,000 course, and then go for something else, when there is no possibility of me even being capable of taking the state board for a cosmo license, let alone work in the industry, I am absolutely heartbroken about this situation and that I literally am throwing money away, money that I don't even have! it's bad enough I've already wasted 2 years of my life and even if I can get a refund I will have to start all over with something else. to top it off the cosmo "school" is a joke I don't even know how people with out disabilities can do it... I need some good advice on how to even approach the situation, or if there is anything I can do :(

    I posted this before but clearly the person(s) who answered not only didn't read my description but, were inappropriate, ignorant and assumptive.. so here is detail and response to that...

    I am not requesting a refund from the lenders as you can so clearly read right up here, and while the cosmetology field may work for you K. it is not about all the customers that come in at one time, and if you actually knew anything about mental illness other that your personal experience and opinion, you would know that anxiety disorder is very broad in its specifics from person to person as well as its severity! social anxiety is not the same as social phobia fyi, I am also not giving up on life or my preparation for the future, I am not using my illness as an excuse but rather making a conscious and educated decision to change my life path to better my well being. and while popping pills may work for you, not feeling myself makes me symptomatically worse. I don't know what state you are from but 00 and 9 months and how many years ago was this? you must be a great cosmetologist! where I live they require 2000 hours and it is a international school with a very prestigious name. I have general anxiety/panic disorder and a social phobia.. that is not the same as what you claim to know about personally, from other information I have researched, If you are not capable, and my doctor backs me on this, to procure a job in the field you are attending or satisfactorily complete the course since it is not a question of them being able to accommodate my disability, theoretically I can get my government loans forgiven, but like I said previously it is an industry situation and in another field I can prosper and not have to deal with the daily interruptions due to my disability, by being in a field that does not directly interact with consumers, thus helping my over all well being in the future.

    hopefully this post will merit answers that are helpful, in my opinion if you can't answer the question, DON'T.
    and if you are going to be disrespectful and rude don't bother either. I didn't know i'd have to use a disclaimer on this site! what ever happened to tact? class? humanity?

    judgmental know it all's

    • ANSWER:
      Many of the trade schools are private, and have very strict policies regarding withdrawal and refunds. They can get away with this because they are not public schools.
      You are probably out of luck.
      Have you even contacted the school & explained your situation?
      My ex had to withdraw from a private tech school due to illness (schizophrenia), and I ended up having to pay with my credit card a lump sum the remainder of his fees because they wanted it all right then or it was going immediately to creditors.

  33. QUESTION:
    Social Anxiety/Phobia?
    I know for a fact that anxiety is possible in all ages, mostly older people or teens, but I think I have social anxiety.Do I have social anxiety? I worry about things to much, I worry about going to school because of the way I am. I think I have a behavioral problem. When I walk.. I walk weirdly I don't want to walk like that it's just me getting nervous. I can't write or work without getting nervous. This has been going on for a long time, I usually blank people because of this. When I am around ANYONE expect my friends, I get nervous. Please try help me. This is really going to effect my life and I don't want this to continue. I am moody most of the time, and at my age 12 I don't enjoy life. Many things in my life have happened to me. Some very humiliating, could this have caused the anxiety? anxiety is very hard to live with, and at my age I should do something about it, because a twelve year old shouldn't be like this.

    • ANSWER:
      I used to have the same type of anxiety until my early 20s. It took some time for me to feel comfortable in my skin and it also meant a lot to me to learn how God viewed me. If he is willing to put his son to death so that I can live, then He must view me as being pretty valuable. (John 3:16)

  34. QUESTION:
    Amitriptyline for social anxiety/phobia?
    For as long as I can remember, I've been pretty bad in social situations. It's gradually been getting worse as I get older. I suffered from depression about five years ago and was put on a Zoloft treatment for four months, which seemed to clear it up completely. Lately, I've been in a rough spot and very stressed and anxious over just about everything in general. Irritable, moody, I have insomnia, and I have non-social related panic attacks quite regularly at night before I go to bed (particularly when I think about the idea of death).

    I strongly believe two things:

    1) I'm not depressed, due to the fact that I've been depressed before. This is not how I felt.

    2) Even so, I think these maladies are only temporary until I sort my life out a little better. Regardless, I felt like I need some help until I get to that point.

    So with all of these symptoms, on top of my lifelong problem with social anxiety, I decided to see a doctor. Since all of these things are so related, I thought most of the birds could be killed with only one or two stones. He only prescribed me Amitriptyline. From what he told me, and from what I've read about the drug, this will help tremendously with all of my symptoms. From what I've READ about the drug, it will help with all of them except for social anxiety. As bad as everything else has been, I don't know how much it will improve my life. Yes, eliminating the stressful symptoms will be nice, but as I've previously mentioned, I feel they're only temporary anyway and the one issue I think impedes on my regular life the most is being left untreated. Will Amitriptyline help my social anxiety? Should I just focus on the other things and worry about getting medicated for the social anxiety later? I feel incredibly close to finding happiness and a somewhat normal life. I don't want to deal with this all very much longer.

    • ANSWER:
      I don't know about amitriiptyline, but i know that most times these drugs are like a crutch which prevent you from finding your feet so to speak.

      As you're feeling lighter than when you had depression, i think you should put the work in and use alternative treatments such as reiki, meditation, homeopathy, art and music therapy, exercise and nutrition to once and for all sort out the causes of how you feel and giving yourself strategies to cope and have a more content life always.

      It might sound like nuts, but i discovered a bad diet and sleeping late got my kidneys and adrenals run down and left me panicky and low. You might not connect the two, but that's how the body works. I found having a routine, sleeping early, eating less carbs and
      taking a herbal kidney formula helped a great deal. Try and be your own doctor if you can, and use natural food and water as your medicine.

  35. QUESTION:
    Several social anxiety / phobia - Don't wanna be this way anymore, but don't trust conventional medicine/ Drs.
    I've had severe social anxiety for almost 10 years now and it was triggered by a really rude comment a co-worker made while I was at work. The anxiety started then and it's gotten progressively worse. It's gotten to the point where I don't even answer my front door anymore. I'm married, but I met my husband before I had the severe anxiety and I was a whole different person, I was fun and outgoing and worked outside the home, (at the job where I got the rude comment). We were just friends then and I had a boyfriend at the time, he wasn't seeing anyone. Anyways, 4 years later, my boyfriend at the time and I had broken up, due to the severe anxiety, and my now husband and I ran into each other. I already had the severe anxiety too. We talked just a lil and exchanged phone #s. I told him about the anxiety by phone & he said we could take our relationship as slow as I wanted and that he wanted to help. Well a couple months later I felt comfortable enuf to start going out, (more below)
    sorry ran outta room above, i'm adding the rest of it now, so if you have time, please wait a few mins then read on ....
    so as I was saying a couple months passed and i felt comforatable enuf with him to start going places like the park, and zoo with him and even to stores shopping as long as it wasn't packed. I feel totally comfortable around him now and I have no anxiety being around him or my close family members like parents and brothers, but anyone else I still have the severe anxiety. Even my old friends, who I quit going to visit or call when I got the severe anxiety. Was too embarrassed to tell them about it and honestly don't want anyone to know I have it. So it's been almost 10 years now since I've lived with the anxiety but it's not getting any better and actually I think it's getting worse as like I mentioned above, it's gotten to the point where i don't even answer my own front door anymore. I have gone to see a couple of doctors but what they've prescribed for the anxeity (Zoloft and Celexa?) hasn't helped at all. What else should I try or do? Are there good natural remedies for this?

    • ANSWER:
      I'm glad you've been feeling a little better, but the first thing is that even though I'm sure you know in your sensibilities that you should not let this coworker have taken away your sense of security, your brain sent signals that perhaps caused a sort of post traumatic stress.
      There are herbal remedies that you can try, rather than taking any prescription meds. Try looking up Kava Kava, Valerian, Chamomile, California poppy...
      Oh heck! Let me give you a website that has been helpful for me finding herbs that have worked.
      I do hope you can find some help. I lived through something similar for a few years until a sought the help of a psychologist. At the same time, I was taking several of these herbs.
      Best to you!!!! Take care!

  36. QUESTION:
    What does a person do that has severe anxiety and social phobia?
    I have many physical symptoms. They worsen when I go to places like the grocery store. My vision gets weird and I feel like I can't focus. I have a past history of alcohol problems. I have been sober for about 2 yrs. I don't know what to do anymore though because I haven't ever had a real job, I dropped out of college, and I have tried anti-depressants and they didn't work for me even at high doses. I have also gone to therapy and read an anxiety work book. I feel very hopeless. Can anyone recommend something I could try that might help it. I used to just try and hide my anxiety. It is to the point where if I am out with a friend they notice and ask if I am ok.
    I am not a violent person. I am a wife and mother of two children. What happened at Va Tech was very sad. I am and never will be a person like that. That comment was very rude and uncalled for.

    • ANSWER:
      Sounds to me like you could have a case of depersonalization/derealization. It's a very common disorder that is caused by anxiety. You may have developed it when you quit drinking. I have suffered from it for close to six months because of an anxiety attack from a bad trip. It has slowly gotten better and better, and is pretty close to being gone for me. The best thing you can do is to keep yourself calm when faced with a bad situation. It will take a lot of time unfortunately, but will eventually go away as long as you don't let your anxiety control you. Here is a link to a forum that will help you understand and cope with the disorder so you can get rid of it.
      http://www.depersonalization-home.com/forum/

  37. QUESTION:
    Do I have social anxiety/phobia?
    Sometimes when i'm out in public, i get really nervous and begin to shake and my heart races.
    i avoid eye contact with people so they wont talk to me and when i'm talking to someone i constantly look away.
    i avoid social situations, like visiting with family and when someone wants to hang out with me, i make up excuses not to go out.
    i always feel like people are watching me and judging me.
    when i talk to someone im constantly thinking "did i sound stupid? why did i say that etc."
    i also sometimes think about conversations ive had with someone thinking that, that person probably thought i was an idiot.
    i sometimes won't even answer the phone..
    i can't make friends cause i'm really shy...i haven't had a friend for 3 years..
    and when i talk to people online(people i'm familiar with, not strangers) i never know what to say to them cause im afraid they'll think i'm an idiot..
    i've had 2 jobs (fast food) and both lasted 1 day because i got overwhelmed and had anxiety attacks.. and i dropped out of highschool because of being i couldnt make friends
    ive been to 3 phychologists and they all said i had social anxiety but i didnt believe them, i just thought i had really low self esteem, but now im starting to realize that they might be right and i'm deciding on whether or not i should go back
    to talk to one of them and try and get help

    • ANSWER:
      I believe that you have a possibility of 1-2 issues.

      One would be social phobia, and the other would be generalized anxiety disorder. To have this/these properly/accurately assessed, you will need to talk to your primary physician so you can get a referral to see a psychiatrist. Psychologists could assess these issues, but they cannot prescribe medications. The most the psychologists could do is move you towards things as 'group therapy, talk therapy, etc.

      I can guarantee that I am the most accurate person answering your question because I have been diagnosed with GAD, my wife has been diagnosed with social phobia, and I have degrees in Psychology to top off the cake if you will.

      Your story 'perfectly' blends in with both what my wife and I have, so I Strongly encourage you to do this because life is way too short to suffer like this everyday. In both my wife and my case(s), our doctors have prescribed us with benzodiazepines. Now, do not go out drug seeking because every person is different, so what may work for some can and will destroy others.
      During my time of being assessed, I went through Many trials and errors with SSRI's, SNRI's, and they made me feel suicidal and I am normally not this kind of person. But, one could work for the next person and not you. This is why you need to see a professional. They didn't go to college for All of those years for no reason. Medications are Not anything to mess around with, unless supervised by a doctor(s).
      Please get this taken care of. I fought going to a psychiatrist for years because I was too embarrassed to do so. As I look back, I cannot believe that I tortured myself like that. Save yourself that BS and take the proper steps to help you recover and live life to your fullest. If you choose not to do so, then jail is the equivalent to suffering from being around people, places, and things.
      Take care of yourself and make that appointment asap. I am even going to open my personal email in here so I can hear how you are doing, and I can be of assistance, I am sure of that. My name is Greg FYI. Shoot me a PM if and when you wish. Any questions I may have or I will get a hold of my doctor for you to help is all. Peace and Cheers...

  38. QUESTION:
    ok , i have social anxiety/phobia...?
    my question is though, i have been claiming benefits bcoz of this disorder, it has only been about 7 weeks since the doctor gave me my first sick note to get my benefit. the jobcentre or someone just phoned and said i have to go to like an interview now to see if im still sick and learn more about why im on benefit ect....but i seriously am scared to go, bcoz i have social anxiety and also paranoia, the jobcentre were i have to go is always full with people ....what can i do i rlly cnt go, and if i dont they said my money will stop...can the doctor tell them or somthing i cant attend bcoz of this???? what the hell would i do with no money i need money!!! i only get 95 pound every 2 weeks. and i have to pay £30 of that to my mam and dad for keeping me under a roof. (lodge). any1 understand ? help ? im in england by the way.

    • ANSWER:

  39. QUESTION:
    I think I might have social anxiety/phobia?
    I...I really need help...

    I want to go to the dr and see if I can get any type of medication...but im too afraid.

    What kind of questions will the doctor ask
    What kind of tests will she perform
    What would happen if she see's the...scars..., she isnt going to check for scars right

    • ANSWER:
      I had the same problem all through highschool. It was a tough time for me. I could hardly get out of bed and I was severely depressed. I was afraid of even walking down the hallways. My heart would race and every time I came into contact with another person It was like I couldn't control what I was saying.

      I learned to get over this in college. I realized I need to relax and just take life one day at a time. Another problem that was contributing to this was worry. I was worried about so many things it affected my interaction with other people.

      My advice is do what you can to relax. Clear your mind of bad/negative thoughts before your day starts. Try to meditate somehow through something you like (for me it was music). Try and get on a healthy eating schedule. Take vitamins if you aren't getting your nutrients during the day. For me another thing that helped is green tea, it really calms you down and has antioxidants that seem to help me mentally.

      Anyway good luck I know what you are going through. I had the same thoughts before I decided medicine would not fix any problem I had myself.

      Alex

  40. QUESTION:
    Should I seek help for my Social Anxiety/Phobia?
    I have Social Anxiety Disorder. I know that you're supposed to seek help if it affects your daily life, which it does a bit. But I'm only a teenager, so I might grow out of it (or get better at dealing with it) and its awkward to raise it to my parents.

    Sometimes when I totally freeze like when the teacher calls on me, I feel like just seeking help, but once in a while when I manage to not embarrass myself, I get my confidence back and decide not to.

    So, basically, should I?

    P.S. Sorry if that was a bit long-winded.

    • ANSWER:
      Young Kate, your Social Anxiety Disorder is nothing to be embarrassed or feel awkward about. Every human being wants to be accepted by one's society - and everyone feels anxious at some point or other of their lives, about whether they will fail in gaining its approval.
      The best practical move would be to simply talk it over with your parents. Another would be to contact the student counselor of your school, who would definitely know how to solve your very genuine problem.
      Do not delay any longer, dear : The earlier you get treated, the better it will be for you.
      I wish you a very bright future and every success in your life and career.

  41. QUESTION:
    Social Phobia/Anxiety?
    I'm going to try to keep it short so here's my situation. Back in my teen years (high school) i was really social, and especially good at picking up girls. during junior year i met a girl who i fell in love with but like most relationships it ended on bad terms. During my time with her time i accumulated psychological problems (anxiety & social phobia)... partly because of her. growing up i had a lot of friends only because i compromised so much. i gave my friends all my time, paid for everything when we went out, you know? stuff like that. i felt like i had to please everyone all the time. So when i was with my ex girlfriend i took that whole "i have to please her" shit to the max. She always treated me like shit, lied.. and i took it because of the way i was. i was too much of a little b*tch to talk back to her because i was afraid she was going to leave me. even in high school people would make me mad and i just stored that anger, and with her it was the same. One day I had a panic attack and that’s when I had found out I had mental problems so to speak. Eventually i got tired of her shit and dumped her. I became depressed after and the social phobia & anxiety escalated into a bigger problem. i saw a psychiatrist for a few months but then i said fuck this and just stopped going. I started abusing drugs and alcohol for the next 4 years (age 17-21). I dropped out of high school my senior year, started staying home just getting high, getting drunk not giving a shit about life. during my time as an addict, my attitude changed... i started becoming an asshole to my friends moreover with women (because of my ex). my personality didn't get any better either. basically, during those 4 years i was the worst person to be around with. i hung out with some people here and there but it felt like they were only hanging out with me because they were old friends not because they liked my company. Now, I’m 22 and im finally trying to get over the whole anxiety thing myself. (without drugs and psychiatric help). i stopped drinking & smoking... i am exercising a lot and im trying to be nice again but it doesn't feel genuine you know? im really trying hard to become a normal human being again but i feel like the same asshole i turned into is still in me. Maybe the change will come with time? The only problem now is that when im a social situation especially with females I stay very quiet. I cant carry a conversation… I don’t have anything interesting to say (or I think I don’t)… and theres this girl that I really like however she was around the time I was an addict. I really want to talk to her , tell her how I feel about her but I don’t think she will like me because of who I was before. I feel like a good step into getting rid of my anxiety is getting a girlfriend but im having trouble finding a girl now because of those 4 years. I want to know what people think of my situation from another point of view. I have never discussed this with anyone else so please just tell me what you think…

    • ANSWER:
      don't dwell on the past cuz where is that going to get you? nowhere. it's good that you are coming out with your thoughts as to express yourself. write a diary or book (you don't have to publish it) so you can write you feelings against yourself and those people. then get out more often and when you talk to someone and don't feel genuine, think of the past, do you want to be back in that situation again? and just because she made you feel that way doesn't mean every girl in the world is that way.

  42. QUESTION:
    Do I or don't I have social phobia/SAD (social anxiety disorder)? Please help, this is important to me?
    I am a 23 year old college student. Various roommates, classmates, and my parents don't agree with me when I say I have this because I am not quiet... I am a very loud, very talkative person. I have no fear of public speaking and I talk a lot in class because I always do the readings, am confident about the material, and I want to get full credit for class participation.

    HOWEVER, when I meet new people, I get very nervous, which makes me talk constantly and overshare personal information that I probably should think is embarrassing, but don't. For example, almost everyone who talks with me knows:

    1) that I think the arbitrary rules of fashion are stupid, and the only reason I appear to have fashion sense is that I wear the clothes my mom picks out for me (which should be embarrassing since I'm a girl) and

    2) that I like to be alone so much I spend all my free time either reading books, writing my novel, or playing videogames and that I have no real life friends, only online ones I met in World of Warcraft.

    There must be conversations I have where I don't blurt out these embarrassing facts, but I can only remember the dates and times when I do- for example, the most recent time was before class today, when I'm sure everyone in the room heard me say embarrassing fact #2 cause my voice is too loud (at least I made it to October!) I am afraid people think I'm weird for bragging about not having friends, and I always obsess about it after I blurt it out. No one ever asks me to hang out or go places with them. However, if I was invited to a bar or a party, I would decline because I don't like alcohol and if I meet more people I'm just afraid I'd fuck it up like usual. (I'm very popular in WoW though, I think its because I play it a lot and the fact that I'm typing instead of talking forces me to think more before I "speak").

    Also, my mother recently set me up on my second date ever (my first was back when I was 12) with a 23 year old intern at her office who saw the picture of me on her desk and said I was "very pretty." We went to see a concert, and while we were talking, waiting for the concert to start, he knew embarrassing fact 1 and 2 above (probably because I was nervous). For the rest of the concert, I was worried I fucked up the chance to have a boyfriend/friend/friend with benefits (any or all of which I'd like to have), so after the concert as he drove me home I asked him "Do you think I'm really weird?"
    He replied: "I think you worry way too much. You just need to relax. You're like your mother, every time I go to see her, I just want to tell her to relax."
    Naturally, his comment did not have the effect of making me worry less... instead, I now obsess about his comment and how completely TRUE it is!!! (Although, I don't think my mother worries too much except when it's about me... she worries about me a lot, though).

    I called him once to talk on a random weekday in September, but he said he had homework (he is in college too, not JUST an intern), and on another occasion I asked him on facebook chat about which games I should ask for for my xbox for my birthday and he gave me a pretty long opinion on the games I wanted. He hasn't text messaged me since our "date" though, and he text messaged me every day the week before the "date"---BUT also our "date" was the last day before both of us returned to school so he could just be busy...? Regardless, I still obsess about whether or not I drove him off with my weirdness or if he's just busy, and that's another part of the social phobia I (might) have.

    However, I also worry constantly about grades, and whether I'm going to get a "B" or lower on my class assignments (because an "A" is the only acceptable grade to me), so I guess it's not just about socializing....

    So knowing all this, can loud people who don't think before they speak and feel very self-conscious about it afterwards (like me) also have social phobia or is it only shy people???
    And also I KNOW I shouldn't say those embarrassing things above, but I get so nervous I can't help blurting them out...
    I forgot to say serious answers only please!!! If you just say I'm weird or hopeless, it is NOT helpful, I will NOT be amused, and I will report you for not answering the question properly.
    happenstance, you rock

    your answer was very very very very VERY useful

    You gave me advice as to how to stop worrying, and it actually might work! I'm so glad I posted all this now....

    • ANSWER:
      By the sounds of it, you have very normal anxious-type feelings about meeting new people and going on dates, etc. Everybody feels these ways (even though to other people, like you, it may not appear that way). These feelings are normal and are necessary for people to function normally in their social worlds.
      Your embarrassing things are really not that embarrassing, for one, and it seems that they are used to "break the ice" in awkward situations. I suggest that you sit down and try to think of two new facts about yourself that you can share that you think would be interesting and wouldn't bother you so much, and use those instead. If you find yourself resorting back to your old facts, come up with some new ones to add to your repertoire. Keep doing that and hopefully it will help you feel more and comfortable in social situations.
      However, it does sound like you do worry too much. You're putting too much emphasis on (and giving too much credit to) other people. The people in your class may have overheard you, but why do you think that it matters? Why do you think that they would even remember? They are probably too busy worrying about themselves to put too much effort into what you're doing. Try to remind yourself that they will not remember (or maybe even care) next time this happens.
      As for your date, it's possible that he's just not that into you. If you haven't been texting him either since the date try sending him one more saying you had fun and would like to go out again and if he doesn't respond with a yes, let him go.
      If all else fails, talking to a counsellor can really help you work through your worries. No diagnosis required. Talking and getting the advice of a professional can really help (don't worry about the stigma).

  43. QUESTION:
    social anxiety disorder a.k.a social phobia?
    Hi I've been doing a little research, and it seems my partner has social anxiety disorder..........all the symptoms are there.
    He was recently made redundant, but is keen to get back to work as we have a young family to support. However, even the thought of an interview gives him a full blown panic attack.....he breathes faster, he shakes, complains of a tight chest, even sweats............all classic symptoms of social anxiety disorder. It's not just the thought of an interview either. Whenever we are invited out, even to a friend or relatives house, we have to make an excuse as to why we can't go as these situations cause panic attacks. Our daughter asked him to take her swimming and although he would love to he just doesn't feel able to as he thinks he is being watched and judged constantly. We rarely go into town to shop, and he would sooner do our food shopping online just to avoid people. He knows all this is irrational, but it's something he cannot control.........think of a fear of spiders or needles but a LOT worse.
    We want to get married, but even that panics him.....and before you say that's normal, on this level I can assure you it's not ( I suggested just having a couple of witnesses and our daughter present but even that sends him into panic mode)
    Is there any help I can get for him, as this ongoing condition is not only disrupting our lives on a daily basis, but he feels he is making our daughter miss out on a lot of things other kids takes for granted. Basically he feels like a failure to us as a family, and that makes him more depressed every day.
    He has been like this for as long as i can remember, and although I'm not a Dr, even I can see this is not a normal phobia........it's worse.
    Thanks for not quitting this novel halfway through!

    • ANSWER:
      I have social anxiety and there is medicine out there that can help. He just needs to see a dr and get on some medicine that will help.

  44. QUESTION:
    Social anxiety/phobia / agoraphobia ?
    I have one of the three if they aren't all the same, and it is interferring with my life a lot.
    Some things of the top of my head I find stressful..
    Bus rides
    Doctor waiting rooms
    Shops, especially checkouts, ques.
    Parties even childrens I leave the room and can't make myself go back in to the party.
    I hate crowds of more than 3 people.
    I feel my body stiffen up and I feel giddyish
    I have lessened my anxiety and panic attacks in situations but I can't break the barrier between phobic and shy.
    I don't like taking medication, is there anything else therapy groups ideas that will help ?
    I want to be able to feel I can walk into a room and say hello but I freeze and/or walk past everyone.
    I want to be like everyone else and I want a break from this I have been like this for 20 years now :(
    LOL I have been on Valium and had convulsions.
    Increased sweat, rashes vomiting from all others I prefer not to take medications.

    • ANSWER:
      Your question was deleted next time around. I'm sorry you eel like that, but I think you really need to talk to those who prescribe your medication. We are not specialists on here.

  45. QUESTION:
    Depression, fatigue, and social anxiety/phobia are ruining my life. I want to kill myself?
    I've gotten tired of being tired. There's no more reason to do anything. Nothing is always the answer. I want life to end. I can end it so easily. My life means nothing to me just like everything else is as nothing to me.
    All i feel day in and day out is a constant sense of drained energy and a stab of anxiety whenever the unexpected happens or i'm forced to go somewhere outside the confines of my room, my only sanctuary in this world. But even when I'm alone I have these stabs. My chest becomes very tight and then the numbness begins to set in, and it says to me that life is pointless and that's all it ever will be. God, I wish I could even feel sad! But I can't. There's nothing to feel. Nothing is always the answer...
    I stopped taking the pills my psychiatrist prescribed to me a couple of days ago when after taking them for 3 weeks all they made me do is feel dizzy and worse than what I felt like before.
    I've had this anxiety for almost a year now, when I was 15, and has only worsened sense then. I have no friends, i hate my family. I'm always alone. I'm being home schooled at my request. I was going to fail out of high school with all the constants anxiety attacks I was getting.
    Is there no magical solution to this numbness, this anxiety, this depression? I'm only 16 with my whole life ahead of me, but I'm afraid that there will be nothing but more pain and suffering ahead of me because of the choices I'm making now. And, please, don't say," Stop being depressed. Just stop it." I've been telling myself that for over 365 days.
    So here's basically what I'm asking: How do i deal with this depression/anxiety/fatigue when being put on meds and going to the doctor haven't helped? I want to be able to feel again.
    Thank you for all of your answers

    • ANSWER:
      I'm sorry but it sounds like you are impatient and want fixed now. Most all antidepressant take up to 2 months before you are feeling balanced again. There is absolutely no reason for you to remain in this emotional abyss when there is so much help out there today. Doctors, psychologists, psychiatrists, counsellors/therapists, and medications for just about everything. You are first going to have to learn to be patient with yourself and love yourself enough to want to get well and stay that way. You are still so young to be feeling as you do, when there is no need for it, unless you are comfortable where you are because you know how to deal with this as you have been doing for so long. You are going to have to come out of this box sooner or later if you want and choose to have any quality of life. It is your choice. There is an entire world waiting for your input and many people who also need a hug. Do whatever you have to do to get well and soon you will look back on this as only a memory and a learning experience. Take care, life will always have its ups and downs, which only serves to make us stronger and a better human being.

  46. QUESTION:
    i haave social anxiety,phobia ,help?
    i am a guy and i live in the dorm at an university.everyday i have to eat with 100 people ,and none of them are my friends and i dont want to be friends too,i prefer not.but it is just hard for me to go and eat cafeteria.should i move out from here or stay?

    • ANSWER:
      NO... moving out isnt the answer to ur Problem.. if u want to get over ur social anxiety.. u need to deal with it and stop trying to "run" away from it. Now just think about it... how will running away from ur problems help u in life? You just need to relax and breathe...and realize that maybe there are may kids there who feels the same way. Just learn and accept who u are... we are not meant to fit in with everyone.. we are meant to stand out... so be urself and people will want to be ur friend..

  47. QUESTION:
    Do I have Social Anxiety Disorder?? (Social Phobia)?
    All throughout highschool and my first 2 years of college I was the life of the party. I was involved in so many clubs with leadership roles. I was part of drama club and was in many plays. But recently, for about a year and a half, I have been feeling verry verrrry VERRY anxious about things that I use to do. I cannot talk to people I don't know that well without feeling anxious. I start to stutter and then I just find something else to say to avoid the embarrassment.

    There are some things I can't say. As if my mind has completely loss function of saying these things. If I meet someone, I will have trouble saying my first name. Or I will have trouble saying my address. If I call to ask about the status of my application for a job I applied for...I can't get it out. Once I dial the number...I get a feeling as if I'm going to die.

    This doesn't happen to people I know. If i'm at a party with people I know then I am soo comfortable. Lately I have feeling anxious while I am in class. I can't pay attention and I just want to leave.

    I don't like this feeling. It's beginning to interupt with my work, school, and my relationship.

    Does anyone else feel/or has felt this way? Know someone that feels this way?

    help...

    • ANSWER:
      Before labeling yourself with "Social Anxiety Disorder," which is a very real thing, think about seeing your doctor, describing the symptoms and asking for some help. Sometimes therapy and some sort of antidepressant medication can help people manage these feelings, especially if they are interfering with work or with school.

      I have a friend who had symptoms very similar to what you are describing and it took her a long time to pinpoint the problem and get some help. Medication turned out to the the answer. Now she looks back and wishes that she'd done something sooner.

      Life is tough enough without unnecessary suffering. Don't hesitate to see a professional for help.

  48. QUESTION:
    do i suffer from social anxiety disorder/social phobia and depression?
    hi i am just wondering do i suffer from depression im 16 years old and since i was 14 i was always depressed i always go into myself and down and want to cry one minute i can be ok laughing and joking and next i just feel like verythings going/gone wrong i want to break down as i cant take it no more and it can last from a day to over a week but i realy do not know why? i have overdosed on morphene before due to being depressed i have recently moved out from living with my mum into a shared house and because i didnt finish school i didnt get any qualification so i cant get a job so i have had to start claiming benefits so i have to go to interviews but i feel like i have a fear of being around other people i just want to rush and go as i panick my heart starts racing im nervous and shaking always itching my hand and back when im with someone i dont know and my local shop is literaly about 15 metres from my house and i dont even go there i send people for me i have been there once in the month i have been living here the only time i go out is when im with someone i know and trust like family but apart from that i wont go out when im ill i dont even go and see my doctor unless there is someone there with me and then when i get there i dont want to talk as i feel so nervous and want to go asap can anyone help me? thanks b

    • ANSWER:

  49. QUESTION:
    Suffering from General Anxiety Disorder, Which is turning into Social Anxiety Disorder & Social Phobia. Help?
    I have no insurance. No money. Only the little help I get from family and my boyfriend. I want to go to work! I want to go out with friends! I want to not freak out at the grocery! I have such big plans for the future but its almost like I dont know myself anymore. By the ways ive been feeling, i cant even act like myself half the time. I got prescribed different benzodyazpams from the age 15-19 and now im having a rebound effect. I didnt want to be depended on a addictive medication. I cant afford any herbal pills right now. If ANYONE has any advice, it could save my life.... Thanks...
    I dont know if i can comment on my own question. But i just want to put a big thanks to those who are giving me info. :) !!!

    • ANSWER:
      I suffer from social phobia and I identify with you on what you feel, to me it costs too much even throwing out the trash and need medication, I have no insurance and this is very difficult and painful for me. On occasion I'd rather have to control my weight, but improve my quality of life, can not even go to the store. I added you to my friends and I hope you accept. Greetings.

  50. QUESTION:
    What jobs would be suitable for someone with anxiety and social phobia?
    Hey,

    I've been suffering from anxiety, social phobia and depression from about August last year. I've now come to the stage where I'm thinking about looking for a job to get some money in so I can work towards a goal of getting a motorbike.

    I need something with extremely little social interaction and if possible, something without a formal interview. I'm up for all sorts of jobs including manual labour, but the main factor is not being forced to speak out loud or have to meet many new people. I just need to start off really small,

    Any help would be greatly appreciated.

    Thank you,
    Thanks for all your help so far, I wasn't expecting so many answers so quickly!

    If it helps, I'm 18 and live in Bromley, South East London.

    • ANSWER:
      Just don't give up you will fine some. Have you try the work at home you are to look in to that


Help For Social Anxiety Disorder

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Caring for an autistic child can be very challenging. No one can tell exactly how much sacrifice and patience it entails to care for an autistic child unless he/she has had experienced caring for one. Thus, parents who offer their unfaltering love and devotion to their autistic children are truly commendable. The anxiety and stress that accompanies bringing up such a special child can prove to be too much for the parents. And because autistic children are inherently impaired in terms of communication and socially interacting with other people, taking them along during trips or family outings can be quite a feat. The unpredictability of autistic children's behavior in reaction to external factors can be so threatening on the child and very heartbreaking on the parents, that it is like a ticking time bomb on the verge of exploding. It is very hard to tell when they would throw fits or tantrums. Should such incidents occur, it is equally traumatic for both the children and their parents. Below are some anxiety help tips for autistic children that parents should undertake prior to taking them on family trips.

Frequently Asked Questions

  1. QUESTION:
    How to overcome social anxiety disorder?
    I am suffering from social anxiety disorder for a few years now. Tried a lot of varies treatments but very little of them used to help. Please give some advice on how to overcome social anxiety disorder.

    Thanks

    • ANSWER:
      Hmm.. I have a bit of this too. I think the best thing to do is to see a counsellor. My counsellor says the best thing for people like us is just to have someone to talk to and be 'human' with. If you can connect with someone, even if it's just your counsellor, then you can learn to work your way up to connecting with more people.

      Sorry I can't give more help, but you didn't say much about your background/experiences.

      And btw I love your pic and name too ;)

  2. QUESTION:
    How do you treat social anxiety disorder?
    I have had social anxiety disorder since I was 7. I'm 20 now and seems like its getting worse every single day. I don't have the money for therapy or medication so is there anything I can do by myself to help me?

    • ANSWER:
      Try your local county mental health clinic, they opften can offer therapy for those that can't afford it. Or see if you can find a support group in your area, that might help.

  3. QUESTION:
    What are the names of prescription drugs for Social Anxiety Disorder?
    I am not a doctor, but I've done enough research online to know I have social anxiety disorder, and this has explained the way I have acted my whole life. Now my disorder is getting more severe. I'm losing contact with so many friends because of my apprehension and it is negatively impacting my career, because It is so hard to communicate with people. I need the names of medicines that help with social anxiety disorder so i can tell the doctor.

    • ANSWER:
      Most doctors will prescribe an SSRI, such as zoloft or paxil. Try doing a search on webmd.com or www.mayoclinic.com and you will be able to find more of what you are looking for.

      In all honesty it is the doctor who will decide which medication to start you on and every doctor seems to have their own favorite.

  4. QUESTION:
    Who do you go to first for social anxiety disorder? How much does it cost or is it covered?
    Where do you go to get help for social anxiety disorder? Do you go to the doctor or go to a psychologist or something like that?

    How much does it cost or is it covered by insurance ( the visit + medication) I'm 17 and i doubt my mom would want to pay for it.

    • ANSWER:
      It all depends on your insurance. I had to go to the doctor first and get a referral to go to a therapist. My insurance paid for a certain amount of visit a year, but each insurance policy is different. Also, you're assuming that your mom wouldn't want to pay. Talk to her, let her know what the problem is, let her know why you want to get help, you're assumption could be wrong. I started out telling my mom by making a list of "symptoms". I then, not telling my mom what this was about, asked her to answer yes or no about if the the things on the list describe me.

  5. QUESTION:
    How do you treat social anxiety disorder is there hope?
    I have had social anxiety disorder for years but the doctors always told me I was just shy which was untrue it was much more than that.I do not have a job not that many friends dont even drive yet due to this .I want to get help and I am just wondering if there is any way to treat this or at least make it tolerable and let me live finally.If you want to make fun of this go right ahead but unless you actually deal with this you have no idea how difficult or hard it is to live with.

    • ANSWER:
      You've gotten good advice so far, i would also remind yourself that its nothing to be embarrassed about, your probably gonna feel a lot better once you get through it, just remind yourself that you have nothing to be anxious about and that people are good, eventually it will sink in and that will be your automatic sub-conscious :)

  6. QUESTION:
    How do I find a doctor to make an appointment for treating my social anxiety disorder?
    I know that I have social anxiety disorder, I just don't know how to go about getting help for it. I am almost positive I need medication to help me cope. How do I find a doctor and make an appointment?

    • ANSWER:
      Talk to your family doctor or your insurance company. If you have an HMO you're going to need a referral, if you have a PPO your insurance company should give you a list of doctors to choose from.

  7. QUESTION:
    How do I appoarch seeking help for social anxiety disorder?
    Someone once told me that I have social anxiety disorder but I thought they were just messing with me. I recently looked it up and found that they might be right. My only problem is I'm scared to ask my parents about seeking help. I'm scared that they won't believe me or that they will and then I'll have to talk to someone. I don't know what to do or how to try and appoarch my parents..Can someone give me some advice?
    So I appoarched my mom about it and just what I thought would happen happened. She thinks that everyone feels like that even her. That I don't have a problem. But I really think I do I was nervous just to tell her about it because I was afraid of what she would think..What else should I do?

    • ANSWER:
      If you decide that you really want to get help, first do some research. Get examples of how the symptoms apply to you, and how it is affecting your life. Do you not want to participate in social activities? Has it kept you from doing things you needed to do?

      If you don't want to go to your parents directly, try going to your school counselor first. He or she might have resources to get you screened, and could provide an "expert" opinion and validation of your concerns.

  8. QUESTION:
    Who should I approach about having Social Anxiety Disorder?
    I've been doing alot of research, and I think I may have Social Anxiety Disorder, or at least some form of it. I know there's something more to it than me just being shy. Anyway, I don't know who to approach. My regular doctor? Or a psychiatrist? I really just don't know, and also does anyone know how they go about helping you deal with it/ overcoming it? Thanks for any help!

    • ANSWER:
      Social anxiety disorder is mostly a psychological problem so I would advise you to go to a psychologist. You can significantly reduce your social anxiety through a variety of interesting strategies without medications. Control Your Reaction to Fear - Overcoming these reactions is as simple as learning relaxation techniques such as yoga, meditation, and self hypnosis; Prepare Yourself Mentally - Rather than let your fear of embarrassment or humiliation overwhelm you in social settings, role play a few scenarios in advance to make sure you are well prepared for any challenging situations. If you are prepared for things that can go wrong and you know what to do and say in those awkward moments, you will have the confidence to keep calm and handle the situation well; Face Your Fears - Sometimes, our social fears does not stem from a lack of social skills, but rather from a sense of insecurity and a lack of esteem. By stepping outside your comfort zone and placing yourself in uncomfortable situations such as speaking in front of your peers or complimenting someone, and doing it repeatedly, the easier it becomes. Soon you will soon realize that there is actually nothing to fear from most people and you may even enjoy and laugh about it; Positive Visualization And Affirmation - The way you think strongly influences the way you feel. The realization that only you can control how you think, and how those thoughts control you, is an important step in overcoming social anxiety. When those thoughts, such as “I’m going to fail” or “they will make fun of me” begin making their way into your mind, challenge those negativity and replace them with more realistic, calmer thoughts. Tell yourself that you are capable, confident, and wonderful to combat those negative thoughts. Positive visualization and affirmation are helpful in motivating you along the road to curing yourself of this problem and improving your self worth. Some people have found reading various Self Help Article to be of benefit in overcoming their Anxiety like this one I posted below.

  9. QUESTION:
    What to do when social anxiety disorder is getting worse?!?
    Hi there! I'm 20, a college student and have social anxiety disorder and it's getting worse. I can barely buy a bottle of water without having my heart jumping out of my chest and shaking. I sometimes can't look at my teacher cause I'm afraid of starting shaking and humiliate myself with a stupid answer etc. I'm gonna go to a psychologist tomorrow for the first time and my real question would be 'How can this disorder be treatable?'. Can I cure myself or seriously need help? Thanks for answers.

    • ANSWER:
      I think it helps to keep in mind that you aren't alone. A large percentage of the population has a hard time trying to get over social anxiety. That might not be very comforting, but remember people aren't waiting for you to screw up, only you are. If you have a positive self image, it will become easier to talk to people.

  10. QUESTION:
    How can I get help for a social anxiety disorder without anyone knowing?
    I really want help. I am 15 and I have always had underlying problems of social phobia and anxiety. It first started with school when I was very young, and I have found it difficult to keep friends and have never got rid of anxiety for school. I really want to get rid of this because it is messing up my life but I don't want to let my parents know. They would not take me seriously. Can I get help with someone without anyone knowing?

    • ANSWER:
      It is soo hard growing up with SAD. Unfortunately the only way I could get treatment was to see a psychiatrist who prescribed me medicine. I am 23 years old now and have no signs of ever having Social Anxiety Disorder, are you sure you can't go to your parents for help and support?

  11. QUESTION:
    What could a person do to help someone with social anxiety disorder?
    My husband is suffering from social anixety disorder and he does not want to take the medication for it because of the side effects. Is there anything I could do to make him feel better?

    • ANSWER:
      Medications can give temporary relief but prolong use can give various side effects. Anxiety disorder is a treatable condition and natural remedies for anxiety are getting popular because they have no side effects and proven effective. To get rid of anxiety disorder for good using natural methods visit http://cure-panic-anxiety-attacks.blogspot.com/

  12. QUESTION:
    Who would I be without my social anxiety disorder?
    Its almost impossible to think about. For the past 3 years it's all I know and expect to happen when I am social. I know that I have had social anxiety my whole life but it started getting real bad when my mom died. Where ever I go and talk to people I'm afraid they will think I'm unfriendly or shallow. I know I'm not any of them things I just can't help becoming nervous and not wanting to talk. I'm in therapy and on some medicine. My question is what does a world without social anxiety feel like?

    • ANSWER:
      You are not alone in thinking about this. I often wonder. What would it feel like to have the anxiety and paranoia when in a social situation dissappear? The weight that would be lifted off would be amazing. I wish there was a pill that made it all stop. At least for a day. Because you forgot what it felt like. When you didn't have that. And you want to be like that one more time. But you can't. And that is something you have to live with.

  13. QUESTION:
    Can people with social anxiety disorder make decent money?
    I'd really like to pull in at least 0k yearly. I'm signed up for a good college this Fall, but it's going to take a lot to make myself go. I have the dedication and intelligence, but I lack social skills and suffer from social anxiety (not simple shyness). Therapists and meds can only help so much. My question is basically, "Can people with social anxiety feasibly have a high income?" I'd really appreciate advice. Thanks a lot.

    • ANSWER:
      don't give into the anxiety. you dont want to get worse do you? get out there and fight what your scared of little by little. then you can earn some money and be happy in social situations too (:

  14. QUESTION:
    Do they make medicine for social anxiety disorder/chronic shyness?
    I have finally admitted to myself that I have social anxiety disorder. It has kept me from having any kind of social or dating life. I have it bad. I need to know if there is any kind of medicine that can help me act like a normal 22-year old male.

    • ANSWER:
      Awh AJ, I'm so sorry you're going throught this. I do too, and can really relate to and understand it, The thing I find that works for me is just getting out there (cold turkey), meeting people, being 'myself' and believing that I am on level with these ppl. I know the ease of mind doesn't happen instantly but in time you'll feel wanted, desired, needed (These feelings help more than anything) Getting over it is not that simple either, that's just a minute part of it. You've just got to realise your importance and worth in this world, not only that, but if you could see yourself the way others see you.. you would really love yourself for who you are. Please see
      that "why be him, when you can be the best so easily?!"
      Email me to discuss your feelings more. I feel exactly the way that you do now. I have good days and bad days. Some days I think I'V conquered it and then the next day I'm back where I started... but with a bit of communication from my nearest and dearest, it really helps. I don't have them everyday though so I need to get over it, help myself. Pls email me, Rly want to
      talk to you. I know you see it as a huge thing! Well of course it
      is,it's YOU. I do too sometimes, but with a bit of confidence and a positive outlook, you can easily get over it and happily express yourself. email me. Love Caz xoxo

  15. QUESTION:
    Do anti-depressants help with social anxiety disorder?
    I think I may have social anxiety disorder, and because of it I have fallen into temporary periods of depression.
    I tend to avoid intense social situations (parties, etc) and in the past it has interfered with things like school and getting a job. If I know I have to speak with someone I don't know, I mull about it and am incredibly nervous about it for days.
    Blahblahblah, would anti-depressants help me?

    • ANSWER:
      Hi,you mentioned 'think' you might have this disorder (social anxiety disorder),and that being said...you need to see your doctor/psychiatrist to get a diagnoses.And,of course once or if you receive your diagnoses then your doctor may prescribe you an anti anxiety medication/s,or who knows what he/she will prescribe to you.But,you must keep in mind...that the medications designed to help patients with whatever mental illness/disorder they may have? The medications are only offered to help relieve their symptoms,and the medications are not a cure.Ok? So,try to keep that in mind.My guess would be...yes medication/s might offer you some relief/help,but whatever medication/s the doctor/psychiatrist may put you on will not cure you.Wishing you all the best,and hoping everything works out for the best.Take care.

  16. QUESTION:
    I believe I have Social Anxiety Disorder. What should I do about it?
    I believe I have Social Anxiety Disorder. What should I do about it?

    Are there any good medications out there made specifically for it that aren't anti-depressants or narcotics?

    Where should I go for initial help? My general practitioner?

    • ANSWER:

  17. QUESTION:
    How to find al isting specifically for social anxiety disorder (in Albany, NY)?
    The insurance company gave me three psych listings, but I am looking for social anxiety in particular.
    There are so many providers;
    is there a list on the net? I've tried looking under "psychologist albany social anxiety"
    and in the NY Psych Assoc,
    but have not found anyone specifically for SAD.
    Thanks for any help you can offer!

    • ANSWER:
      Call up therapists and ask them what their experience is with providing cognitive behavioral therapy for SA. If they seem unsure of their answer, look elsewhere.

      I called several therapists and one of them gave me a recommendation to a place that specializes in anxiety disorders.

      Good luck.

  18. QUESTION:
    does hypnotherapy help you get over social anxiety disorder?
    i have had social anxiety disorder for a few years and was wondering if hypnotherapy helps. i have been prescribed medication but would quite like to try and get over it with out that.

    • ANSWER:
      not really. CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) is the best therapy having over 90% success rates. Together with the medication you should be able to function better or remove all symptoms of your Social Anxiety Disorder. Ask for a referral to a psychologist from your family doctor.

  19. QUESTION:
    Anyone have information on Social Anxiety Disorder?
    I'm looking for any information on Social Anxiety Disorder or any help from people who suffer from it, or information on varying cures. Also, if anyone knows any good websites giving additional info or group support, please let me know.
    Also, if anyone has experience with being put on benzodiazepines, information on the effectiveness and personal experiences with them would be extremely useful.

    • ANSWER:
      There is a huge amount of information available on the Web about Social Anxiety Disorder. Check out my previous "best answer" to a similar question:

      http://nz.answers.yahoo.com/question/?qid=20081114201103AAe3jDa

      Regarding the use of benzodiazepines, I do have personal experience and opinions about them. I believe them to be:

      1. VERY effective in lowering anxiety, there are also known as tranquilizers.

      2. Useful as a short-term measure and as a last resort if anxiety levels reach unbearable levels, or if sleep is not possible.

      3. Highly addictive, and may do more harm than good long term if you
      do not address the SA directly with therapy and/or SSRI's.

      In short, it is very easy and tempting to rely on tranquilizers, using them as a "crutch", and then never learning to "walk" with out them. Avoid their "regular" usage, you can, and if you must use them, be very careful...

      Good luck on your healing journey. You CAN do it!

  20. QUESTION:
    Has anyone had therapy for social anxiety disorder?
    Has anyone here had cognitive behavioural therapy for social anxiety disorder and blushing? What were the techniques and how much did they help you?

    • ANSWER:
      Hello

      CBT is effective for social anxiety also a similar therapy called Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT). The “shame attacking exercises” (calling out bus stops) mentioned by Shaneris are from REBT.

      An essential principle of these cognitive therapies is to get you to focus on who you are with, where you are and what you are doing rather than focus on yourself. To focus outwards rather than inwards and to focus on what you are doing rather than how well you’re doing.

      You will also learn to dispute your unhelpful thoughts and beliefs and replace them with realistic and helpful beliefs. For example “I must not look stupid” would become “I would prefer not to look stupid, but there is no reason why I must not” “If I do look stupid it’s not terrible or horrible and I can stand it – it’s not the end of the world”. “I would prefer it if everyone liked me but it’s not necessary for my survival to be liked and approved of by everyone for everything I do”

      Hypnotherapy can be useful for blushing and building confidence.

      There is some useful stuff at

      http://www.mental-toughness.co.uk/

  21. QUESTION:
    What are some treatments for Social Anxiety Disorder.?
    I have to do a report for my english class on some kind of world problem and I have to do a report on Social Anxiety Disorder. Not to be confused with shyness. I have most of my information, I just cannot find anything on therepy or treatments for this disorder.

    I need help with finding some kind of specific therepy for S.A.D

    • ANSWER:
      The most common treatment from a Dr would be one of the mood enhancing drugs i.e anti depressants Seroxat seems to be the pill that works best .
      Otherwise CBT cognitive behaviour therapy looks at how we think & the effect it has on behaviour, learning to change unhelpful thoughts.

  22. QUESTION:
    For people with social anxiety disorder..what specific medication or treatment has worked best for you?
    I believe I have a serious case of social anxiety disorder although I have never been professionally tested (due to the fact that I'm scared to see a doctor about it -- go figure).

    I have been with my fiance for a year and I almost break down into massive panic attacks everytime I am in the company of his parents. I have become unglued at dinner with them, spilling water all over the table due to my shaking hands. I avoid most of their family parties and claim either sickness or another event to attend. My fiance even says my nervousness is very noticeable and that I sometimes look like a complete mess. He tells me all the time to calm down and act myself, but I can't. I don't know why this happens to me but it does.

    This happens with other things as well. I am petrified to continue my education and go off to college. I attempted it but I was nervous everyday in class and uneasy. I am a day care teacher and speaking with my boss and the children's parents is a STRUGGLE! Help me!
    I met my fiance at a high school party when I was under the influence of alcohol. I would have never had the nerve to approach him sober.

    Also, job interviews....most nerve wrecking events in my life. I spend days worrying about them.

    • ANSWER:
      Medications often used for chronic, severe, or generalized social anxiety disorder include:
      Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), to relieve anxiety. SSRIs are often the first type of medication used to treat generalized social anxiety disorder.
      Benzodiazepines, to relieve anxiety. They are fast-acting; however, they may be habit-forming and are not generally used in those with substance abuse problems.
      Monoamine oxidase inhibitors (MAOIs), to relieve depression and anxiety. MAOIs have potentially serious side effects when they are taken with certain foods (such as some cheeses and red wine).
      Beta-blockers, to reduce anxiety. Beta-blockers are sometimes used to treat physical symptoms of anxiety (such as tremors or rapid heart rate).
      Venlafaxine, to help relieve anxiety and depression.
      Ongoing treatment of social anxiety disorder usually includes continuing psychological counseling and regular checkups to monitor any medications you may be taking.

      If professional counseling alone has not reduced your anxiety symptoms, medications may be added to your treatment.

      It is possible to overcome the fears associated with social anxiety disorder. Working through fears with a specific type of therapy-cognitive-behavioral therapy that includes exposure therapy-may be the best approach for treating your anxiety. It is important to continue professional counseling even if you are taking medications to reduce anxiety.

      Types of therapy that effectively treat social anxiety disorder include:

      Cognitive-behavioral therapy, which helps you identify anxieties and situations that provoke the anxiety. Initially, you may feel uncomfortable while addressing the feared situations, but it is an important part of your recovery. Several types of cognitive-behavioral therapy are used to treat social anxiety disorder, including:
      Exposure therapy. You will be guided by a professional counselor to imagine you are facing the feared situation until you no longer fear it, such as eating in public. Next, you may go with your counselor to a public place and eat until, eventually, you can eat by yourself in public without fear.
      Social skills training. This therapy helps you develop the skills you need in social situations through rehearsing and role-playing. Your anxiety is reduced as you become more comfortable with and prepared for the feared social situations.
      Cognitive restructuring. This therapy helps you learn to identify and improve fearful thinking to help you better handle social situations.
      Symptom management skills. This therapy teaches you how to reduce stress by controlling your breathing and other physical responses to anxiety.
      Supportive therapy. This can include:
      Education about the disorder.
      Family therapy, to support loved ones affected by your condition.
      Group therapy or support groups, to seek support from others also diagnosed with the disorder.
      If your anxiety is triggered by many social situations (generalized), you may need continuous and prolonged treatment with a combination of counseling and medications. During this time, your health professional will need to monitor your medications. If one medication is ineffective, you and your health professional may decide you should try another.

      With social anxiety disorder, it is possible to progress from debilitating fear of one social situation to having anxiety about all social encounters (generalized). If this occurs, additional treatment is needed that usually includes adding medications and increasing the amount of professional counseling you receive.

      You may also feel more anxious when starting professional counseling. This is because you are thinking about the situations that cause you fear and anxiety. Once the situations have been identified, the fears can be addressed through counseling-especially cognitive-behavioral therapy which includes exposure therapy-gradually exposing you to your fear.

      If you are taking medications to treat social anxiety disorder, you will need regular checkups to monitor the medications (such as selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors) and their potential side effects. The medications may cause bothersome side effects that may make your anxiety worse at first. These side effects may get better over time. But if they do not, you may need to take a different medicine.

      If social anxiety disorder is left untreated or improperly treated, it can cause debilitating distress that interferes with daily activities. Physical symptoms such as rapid heart rate, blushing, shortness of breath, and dizziness can occur and need to be assessed.

      Other psychological conditions (such as depression or substance abuse) may accompany social anxiety disorder, and these conditions need additional treatment. If left untreated, the combination of social anxiety disorder and another psychological condition (such as depression) can increase the risk of attempted suicide.

  23. QUESTION:
    My son was diagnosed with social anxiety disorder?
    My son was diagnosed with social anxiety and I am very concerned with it . He is 25 years old and real good person but has no self esteem . I would like to know if there is social network on the internet for that problem ? He will be going to a therapist as soon he has set up an appointment .We live in Canada I would any opinion please , as I am afraid that he may harm himself although he says he isn't suicidal . Please reply if you know anyone has that problem and how and what have they done to help themselves . Thank you for your response .

    • ANSWER:
      My son, 21, also has social anxiety disorder.
      What helped him was you tube. It helps knowing others have the same problems, and they have a little support system going on there. in fact, if he views the videos he may see my son on there, as he has made a few.
      The docs will try meds. Some of the meds work for some of the people and some don't. I hope you get lucky. It may be a lot of trial and error to get the right meds.
      My son is not on any meds at the moment as his condition has gotten a lot better through reading, and through the big step i made. I moved away from the big city, and into the country. This is not possible for most people, i know.
      If you email me privately i can have my son email your son and give him some resources and some encouragement. My son is shy, but not too shy to talk about the disorder and to help others with it.
      my email is puterwitch "at" comcast "dot" net
      Good luck to you and blessings,
      Maria

  24. QUESTION:
    How do I go about getting help for Social ANxiety Disorder?
    I never knew there was a name for my chronic shyness until Thursday this week. I have suffered all of my life (I'm 26) because of this. I have taken Lebowitz test my score was 105 which is severe Social anxiety. I am not able to get a job or go to school. I can't make my daughter's doctors appt., my sisters make most of my important phone calls, I experience the worst anxiety when meeting new people or ordering at restaurants. In high school my gpa suffered because I skipped class or found ways to be absent. My husband is a public speaker and I try to find ways to not attend his events. I hate to answer our phone. He doesn't understand whats wrong with me but he loves me anyway. I NEED help! I know I need to make an appointment with the doctor, but how do I get the nerve? Am I eligible for SSI? My husband is pressuring me to get a job and I cant stomach the thought. I had to quit my last job as the pressure of interacting stressed me out. Depressed:( Please help! I'm at wit's end:(
    think it would be wise for me to seek a way to add to my family's income. I am not an unfit parent in the least. To say so is very insensitive on your part. I have a very dedicated husband and my child is very well taken care of. there is no reason why i should not seek benefits if the government is willing to help while I seek the help I need.

    Thanks for your reply.

    fYI: The SSI is to help me and my family UNTIL I complete treatment.
    The detail I've added above was to a yahoouser who answered this same question that I've also posted to the psychology section. I just thought I'd put my response here in case another user wondered the same thing.

    • ANSWER:
      Hi hon...

      i found a couple of links below, and you can find more information about social anxiety by doing a yahoo search.

      therapy and medical help is always recommended for social anxiety disorder... and i hope you will consider it.

      depression goes hand-in-hand with anxiety, so you are not alone... i know what you're going through...

      as far as social security disability goes, you have to be under a doctor's care. social security reviews your medical case, and makes a decision based on questions and answers from you, someone you know and your medical history. they have their own medical team in the decision making process.

      i'm sorry you are at wit's end and i hope that you can find the resources for help. i'm happy to hear your husband loves you and that you have your sisters for support.. that is a BIG plus in your life right now.

      take care of you -- hugs

  25. QUESTION:
    What is the treatment for social anxiety disorder? Has it helped you?
    I never had any problems with being social in my life, but for the past year or so whenever I even think about going out on a Saturday night, I get horrible anxiety, stomach aches, nausea, and diarhea. I am terrified that if I go out I will get sick and/or make a fool out of myself. I am not sure if social anxiety disorder can come out of the blue like this. I was just wondering if anyone else has had experience with this. I am curious to know if I can ever get better.

    • ANSWER:
      I have had the same problems and it did come out of the blue for me too. My doctor perscribed Zoloft for the social anxiety and xanax for the anxiety attacks. Not on any medications now and I do fine in social settings with no anxiety at all.

  26. QUESTION:
    What is the most successful drug for social anxiety disorder?
    i am a 25 year old woman, I am having problems going out and seeing people in social situations. i am really anxious walking alone. is there a drug can can help me overcome this? i am taking up a course in a few weeks in a city i will be in these situation everyday so better to be prepared for the worse

    • ANSWER:
      I use to take alprazolam and dubopal it worked on me. ask your doctor about it. it is a prescription med.

  27. QUESTION:
    How do I go about getting help for Social Anxiety Disorder?
    I never knew there was a name for my chronic shyness until Thursday this week. I have suffered all of my life (I'm 26) because of this. I have taken Lebowitz test my score was 105 which is severe Social anxiety. I am not able to get a job or go to school. I can't make my daughter's doctors appt., my sisters make most of my important phone calls, I experience the worst anxiety when meeting new people or ordering at restaurants. In high school my gpa suffered because I skipped class or found ways to be absent. My husband is a public speaker and I try to find ways to not attend his events. I hate to answer our phone. He doesn't understand whats wrong with me but he loves me anyway. I NEED help! I know I need to make an appointment with the doctor, but how do I get the nerve? Am I eligible for SSI? My husband is pressuring me to get a job and I cant stomach the thought. I had to quit my last job as the pressure of interacting stressed me out. Depressed:( Please help! I'm at wit's end:(
    I think it would be wise for me to seek a way to add to my family's income. I am not an unfit parent in the least. To say so is very insensitive on your part. I have a very dedicated husband and my child is very well taken care of. there is no reason why i should not seek benefits if the government is willing to help while I seek the help I need.

    Thanks for your reply.

    fYI: The SSI is to help me and my family UNTIL I complete treatment.

    • ANSWER:
      PHONE your doctor, make an appointment - force yourself to go. He will decide whether or not to put you on a course of antidepressants (for your depression) and others for your anxiety disorder. He will probably also suggest that you see a psychologist for therapy. Go and change your life - choose life!!
      Please be kind to yourself and visit:
      http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/generalized-anxiety-disorder/DS00502
      You desperately need help.

  28. QUESTION:
    How can someone with social anxiety disorder start their own business?
    The thing is, I've suffered from this for years. I'm currently on medication, but it only seems to help with the panic attacks and doesn't really help with the overwhelming shyness, inability to think while talking, etc.

    The only idea I can come up with is to hire someone right away who has sales experience, but then how do you pay someone when your business is JUST starting out?

    • ANSWER:
      Have you done a business plan? This should be your first step. You recognize that you need a sales face to help you out, so play with your business plan until you find a way to do it.

      If you haven't done a business plan, you're worrying too soon. Get the business plan done and if it shows you can't afford a marketing person, and you know you can't sell, maybe your own business isn't the right thing to do.

      A business plan would include decisions such as sharing ownership with someone else (perhaps this is how you can afford a marketing guy.)

      Another way might be to tap the senior citizen population. Get a marketing guy who is retired but still a genius. Where I live, you can get a small grant for hiring seniors.

      Here's some guidance from the government's small business administration.
      http://www.sba.gov/starting_business/planning/writingplan.html

  29. QUESTION:
    Will being diagnosed with Social anxiety disorder disqualify me for the Air Force/Navy?
    I have it but i didn't go to the Doctor, so i have not been diagnosed, but now i am ready to get help. Will it disqualify me if i am diagnosed with it? I heard the pill they give you is also a depression pill (I am not depressed) if it disqualify s you than the military is not worth it, my heath is more important.
    *health

    Sorry i just noticed that, i was typing too fast.
    What if i dont take a pill and i just do therapy?

    • ANSWER:
      It is the Mental Health Issue that will Disqualify You. Even if you don't take any Meds for it

      I wish you the best
      Take care of your health

      Good Luck

  30. QUESTION:
    How do I tell my mom I need help for social anxiety disorder?
    I really hate telling my mom when I have problems especially when they are medical. Can somebody please tell me how I can approach this touchy matter?

    • ANSWER:
      Just be honest with her. Remember she is your mother and isn't going to judge you. Anxiety can run in families...so it might not be so new to her. Tell her how you feel or how certain situations make you feel. Trust me. The first step to getting help is opening up about your problem so that you can find the right way to deal with it. Whether it be medication or some sort of counseling. Lots of people in the world suffer from different forms of anxiety. Here's a link that I hope helps you cope with your anxiety. It works! Pray to the Lord to deliver you from this anxiety problem and you will be healed. http://www.stresscenter.com/resource/default.htm

  31. QUESTION:
    I have social anxiety disorder and i cant stand it anymore where do i go for help?
    I am 15 years old and a male and i just cant live like this anymore and i am not going to let this control my life. Give me every suggestion you can possibly think of.

    • ANSWER:

  32. QUESTION:
    If you take medication for social anxiety disorder what will happen?
    Will it help you cope and make you less afraid of the situations you used to fear? If not then what the heck is the medication for anyways?

    • ANSWER:
      It really depends on the medication. However, usually it does make you much calmer, and let's you deal with fear more rationally. Generally it takes a while to go into effect.

  33. QUESTION:
    Social Anxiety Disorder - help other than pills or therapy sessions?
    I think I probably have Social Anxiety Disorder.

    My finanical situation prohibits me from trying to go the route of medications or paying for any kind of therapy sessions.

    Are there other resources I can try to help myself with until these become options?

    • ANSWER:
      I'm sorry to hear you have to go through that, but SA is treatable and curable...you just have to have a lot of patience. Anyway, here is one site...where you can get more support, as well as informations...and it doesn't cost anything :)
      You can find a lot of people that share you problem!

      If you need anyone to talk to feel free to send me email
      girl_lina06@yahoo.com

      All the best!

  34. QUESTION:
    What is done to test/diagnose people with social anxiety disorder?
    I believe I suffer from this,and just want to know what is done to diagnose it. Also how should I bring it up to my mom that I feel I need to find this out for sure? It's kind of awkward for me,since I tend to panic when needing help with certain things.

    No rude or unhelpful answers please

    10 points for the best answer

    • ANSWER:
      You may be asked a lot of questions relating to your life experiences etc. There is much help for what you are feeling , you are not alone! Good luck to you.

  35. QUESTION:
    What are sufferers of Social Anxiety Disorder/ Depression like in new environments? PLEASE ANSWER?
    I have both and I have to make a choice about which sixth form to go to for my A levels

    1) my current school, I know everyone, a few friends mostly on an ok level with everyone.

    2) or a new one with new people, a mixed sixty form, fresh start they both offer the sake courses

    will this help with my problems or worsen them?

    • ANSWER:
      It depends. Number one isn't good, but it isn't bad. If you really want to change, and not be as quiet, then a new school could be the perfect opportunity to change. Remember, when you're starting at a new school, no-one knows who you are or how you are like, so that means they don't expect you to act a certain way. So you make an impression that you aren't quiet, and you'll soon get a reputation for it.

  36. QUESTION:
    How to deal with Social anxiety disorder in college?
    I have SAD and new semester has started. I realy dont have friend in my college . Tommorow is kind of first day for me . Hope you can understand my situation plz help
    i need mental strength
    ThANK YOU

    • ANSWER:
      I've struggled with anxiety in social situations for most of my adult life. I usually found ways to mind over matter it but I had a really bad bout of anxiety the past couple of years (for good reason - lots going on in life all at once) and finally had to start asking around for help.

      I inadvertently ran across someone that had been through some life stuff themselves and recovered nicely and that person shared what I am about to share with you (and more).

      Anxiety is just a fancy word for fear. Fear is a natural human emotion. We have our emotions because we need them. Every one of our emotions, even the uncomfortable ones, comes with a gift. The gift of fear, if we will embrace it, is Wisdom. Sit with your feeling of fear, be with it, try to let it tell you what the real message is. You will become wise. I did this and it made fear one of my favorite emotions!

      I would add that sometimes fear stands for False Evidence Appearing Real. It can be worth sitting down writing out and sifting through our thoughts and then challenging them against a list of common cognitive distortions or logical fallacies to undo any repeat lies we are telling ourselves without realizing it.

      Cognitive Behaviour Therapy charts can help make this process of identifying thoughts and emotions easier. This is almost like a coach would do for an athlete, playing back the tape in super slo mo to get a better idea of what small things to tweak. Then rinse, repeat.

      Please be patient with yourself and try to trust that people are people and that you will gradually get familiar with the environment and various characters around you. Remember: We all have earlobes, ya know? =]

      If you feel overwhelmed with the thought of making a new friend, think instead of just having a "we're all in this together" kind of attitude and at the very least you will gradually build some camaraderie with those around you. This technique has helped me some too.

      I hope you will find the beauty and joy amidst the struggle and adventure. I also wish you courage and peace and a manageable level of excitement about your life experiences 'cause I know the feelings!!
      =]

      ps - EDITED TO ADD: Oh, and remember to always, always look for things to give yourself credit for at the end of the day. Sometimes we're just too damn hard on ourselves and we really need to LAY OFF. So yeah, CELEBRATE successes no matter how tiny. It'll totally shift focus and retrain to remember what it feels like to feel JOY!!! =]

  37. QUESTION:
    Is there any other way to treat Social Anxiety Disorder?
    Well I am taking medication for it and talking with a Psychiatrist and I was wondering if anybody knows if there is anything else that might help cure my problem other than beeing on a medication and talking with a doctor. Thanks if you have any suggestions for me.

    • ANSWER:
      Medication and talking with a mental health professional are probably your only options. Paxil or Xanax would probably help you. Xanax is addictive so take it only as prescribed.

  38. QUESTION:
    i have social anxiety disorder and have a very difficult time holding a job. ?
    the only medications that help my anxiety make me very tired and working a full-time job is exhausting. does anyone have any recommendations for jobs in which i won't have to talk with or deal with people? please don't recommend cognitive therapy. i've had s.a.d. for a very long time and had tried that many times with many therapists.

    • ANSWER:
      any desk job is good for those with social anxiety disorder.jobs where you have a task and do it, without much interaction with others would work, like doing books if your good at math,filing if you are organized ect.I have social anxiety as well, and it is pretty tough.Good luck!

  39. QUESTION:
    Why the red face? - Social Anxiety Disorder?
    I have social anxiety disorder and have done for many years.

    The other day I started to write a little bit about the condition in Microsoft Word, then over time it seems to have developed into quite an interesting read.

    I was just wondering if anyone things it would be useful to create a website with my personal experiences on, to help people understand the disorder and educate also.

    Thanks in advance!

    • ANSWER:
      if u google enough.. u'll find sites like that.. but hey.. u can never have too many.

  40. QUESTION:
    I have agoraphobia and a severe social anxiety disorder but i've been called for jury duty.What should i do?
    I struggle to hang my washing out the backdoor so the thought of facing a court is making me ill and i can't sleep.Any advise would be much appreciated

    Please help!!!
    It was a potential selection letter i received so if i just state on this letter about my condition and send it back will they understand my current situation that i'm in?
    It was a potential selection letter i received so if i just state on this letter about my condition and send it back will they understand my current situation that i'm in?

    • ANSWER:
      You still have to do your civic duty, regardless of whatever personal issues you are facing.

      This could be a chance to conquer your phobias head on. Good luck.

  41. QUESTION:
    Are people with social anxiety disorder protected under the Americans with Disabilities Act???
    I have been diagnosed as having social anxiety disorder. I don't like to talk about it as it can be rather embarrassing for me to tell people this. I ask if I am protected because last week I started my fall semester at college (I am a Junior). In the past I have informed my professors of my problem, and they have all been completely willing to work with me. Obviously it's not an easy thing to go to college and have this disorder. I made one of my English profs aware of this today, and her reply was basically "You need to get over that if you're going to succeed in college." I am extremely upset because she was not willing to work with me on this AT ALL (there is one specific assignment in her class that I needed accomodations with and that is an oral presentation in which I am supposed to teach the class for the full period). I just need to know if I can do anything about her ignorant behavior and get the help I need. Thanks!!

    • ANSWER:
      I really don't know the answer to your question. However, I do have a suggestion. I would make an appointment to speak to a counselor at the Special Needs/Disability Services office at your college. They will be able to tell you if they can help. The counselor will probably need a letter from your doctor stating the nature and limitations of your disorder.

      If the counselor feels that it would be helpful, they can send special instructions and limitations on test giving and assignments to your various professors.

      Good luck.

  42. QUESTION:
    Where can I get free self-help for social anxiety disorder?
    I need anything regarding free treatment (not info). Please help me.

    • ANSWER:
      Try to search for a good book i'm reading one now about cognitive therapy and it seems like its got alot to offer it may not cure me but it seems so far its going to help me be more aware of what kinds of moods i'm in hence help me understand myself better hope you can find a book for you to.

      btw-the book im reading is called (Feeling Good , the new mood therapy) by David D. Burns, M.D.

      maybe you can find one of his other books

  43. QUESTION:
    I think I have social anxiety disorder but I'm afraid to bring it up with my parents. How do I resolve this?
    I haven't consulted with a professional yet because I don't know how and where I can do so, and even if I did, I don't think I can afford it myself (because my only source of money is the allowance I get for school).

    I'm afraid of what my parents might think if I told them. I've tried self-help methods but none have worked so far. What's the best way to resolve this?

    • ANSWER:
      If its really effecting your life, its better to tell your parents and find a solution, then to live with your anxiety. If you are worried about money and finding a therapist, you can kill 2 birds with one stone. Call your insurance company and ask them for a list of therapists in your area that are covered by them. Trust me thrapy really helps. Good luck!

  44. QUESTION:
    Are there any techniques for handeling social anxiety disorder?
    does anyone know of any ways to help social anxiety without having to be on pills for the rest of your life

    • ANSWER:
      YES!! i have SAD and i focus on neutral objects. Like for me its trees. Just try that and repeat to yourself "im ok im ok". Works for me. Just pace yourself. know what your surroundings are. Hope this helps!!!

  45. QUESTION:
    My husband has social anxiety disorder. How can I help him?
    He doesn't want to see anyone for help and seems to be content playing computer games all day. He doesn't have a job, won't do much housework, won't help the kids with homework, and isn't emotionally there for me when I need him. I wanted a partner, not a burden. How do you help someone who won't help themselves-or how do you leave when he has no one and nowhere else to go?
    Nicole:
    you're very insightful and wise, for any age!

    • ANSWER:
      I, myself, used to have social anxiety disorder.

      What helped my social anxiety was being put into social situations where I would be forced to talk. At the time, it was painful for me yes, and I hated my parents for sending me to all these sleepaway camps, and making me go to parties, just to make myself more "out there", but in the long run, it has helped me so much. Just thinking about my progress can bring tears to my eyes, because just not even two years ago I would stay in my room, lock the door, and stay on the computer all day, just like your husband.

      My parents told me they felt terrible leaving me in my room, so they made me go everywhere with them. If my mom was going to get groceries she would make me come, just so I would be outside. Now I'm not trying to put the burden all on you, telling you that you have to help your husband and put him "out there" like my parents did, because that's not your job.

      I'm just going to flat out tell you that he NEEDS to be medicated. You are going to have to FORCE him to see a pyschiatrist. He needs a job, even if it's scooping icecream, but he needs a job to help him be outside more and INTERACT with people! Take away his computer and MAKE him help you take in the groceries, make him go to Walmart to get the batteries, etc.

      Then again, this is all coming from a 16 year old girl, who didn't even graduate high school yet, but I've been there, in the same situation. As Lincoln once said, "It's not the years in your life, it's the life in your years".

      Honestly, my social anxiety is not completely gone, and it will probably never really "vanish", but I've learned how to cope and how to deal, and that's what your husband needs to learn how to do.

      I just read what you wrote, and Thank you so much! Lol

  46. QUESTION:
    How do I deal with Social Anxiety Disorder??
    I've always felt uncomfortable in social situations, and it's reached a point where I am actually afraid to talk to people around me. Does anybody have tips on how to keep a conversation going? I sweat a lot, and I cannot look pple in the eye for some reason.... help?

    • ANSWER:
      Well, there are lots of things you can do. Pick up a book on social anxiety/social phobia and you will get lots of ideas. There's different types of therapy, and some people use medications. Along with a myriad of tricks and self-talk that can help. For me just getting older and getting more and more practice dealing with people went a long way.

      The single most important piece of advice I have, though, is to not focus on whether your social anxiety "shows." For lots of people with social anxiety there's this vicious cycle - you feel anxious, then you feel anxious about the anxiety showing which makes you more anxious, which in turn you worry "shows" and you spiral down into panic.

      You have to break that cycle. Tell yourself that it's OK to *look* anxious. It's OK to stutter or sweat or just look like a deer in headlights. The goal isn't to look calm and smooth, it's to interact and get more skills. When you interact a lot and have more skills, the *looking* calm will start to come slowly. But everyone looks nervous and anxious and shy sometimes - you can never totally control it - and you'd be amazed at how little it matters and how much you can do and say once you allow yourself to look anxious.

  47. QUESTION:
    I think I have social anxiety disorder can someone help me?
    im 15 years old. i constantly feel like people are judging me and staring at me while im in public. i dont know how i developed this.. i know that i am pretty, smart, and athletic but this is ruining my potential because people can't get to know the "real" me because i hide it. my friend said her first impression of me was a "snob". i am really nice to people but i usually talk to people only usually when they talk to me first. im trying to stop that and talk to people more. i find it really hard to participate in class and only do it when i have to. in class im really short of breath and stressed out and can't stop fidgeting. i only have one close friend at school and i have known her a long time. at my old school i was popular but now i'm not. one time in class i had a panic attack.. i even get stressed around family members now. and its hard for me to walk down the street even when cars go by because i think people are staring at me and maybe judging me...what do i do?
    the other day my mom yelled at me because she is annoyed with me..she said "YOU ARE ANNOYING ME!!!! TODAY IM JUST ANNOYED..YOU ARE DOING THE TWO THINGS THAT ANNOY ME- YOU WON'T ORDER YOUR OWN FOOD AND YOU WON'T CALL AND LEAVE A MESSAGE FOR YOUR TUTOR!" i dont like ordering my own food its just easier if she does it. and i don't like to leave messages on my tutor's phone it stressed me out. MY MOM WENT ON TO SAY "WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU!!!!! I'll TAKE YOU TO DAM* THERAPY IF YOU NEED IT!!!!!!!! " she was really mad. yes. and i can't tell her what's wrong she will criticize me and tell all her friends my problem..what do i do??
    yes i think i did lose alot of self confidence when i switched schools.
    im on the basketball team at my school. and around *SOME* people i don't care what they think. i dont know just depends.
    I also hate how i have no friends anymore who i can hang out with on the weekends. i don't understand why people don't like being around me anymore when they used to like my company. this makes me feel like sh*t.

    • ANSWER:
      You'll be fine, just remind yourself that everyone has insecurities just like yours and no one is judging you. That's the truth. Just try and train your brain to remind yourself everyone out there is on your side. People want to see others succeed, the same is true with you. And hell, people ARE probably looking at you, that's a good thing. It means they like what they see and it's pleasing to the eye. A lot of 'snobby' people are really just good looking and shy. Unattractive people are just shy, good looking people are 'snobs'. Weird but true. Not sure what to do about the mom, maybe you could learn to do the things she asked. Doesn't sound like too tall an order to call in your own food:). Sit her down and talk to her, if may not appear like it but your mom is human too, and she'll probably listen if you give her a chance. Don't jump to conclusions about what will happen if you tell her, that will just stress you out. Just open up and find out. Keep your head up, smile, have fun.

  48. QUESTION:
    my daughter has social anxiety disorder what help can i get her?
    se was just diagnosed a few days ago. i feel so badly,i now know wy se was so horrified when i told her we are moving.
    we are moving for my husbands line of work and se is just starting high school too! wat elp can i get er besides medication [she already is on it]

    • ANSWER:

  49. QUESTION:
    social anxiety disorder medications are not working now ?
    i have been taking same medications(doxipin and sertraline 50mg) for social anxiety for last 4 months .at starting it was working quit well . i was able to be 100%normal at a huge gathering also but medications now dont show any signs for betterment . now again i feel wierd in the social gatherings .1. should i try other medications now ? 2. should i stop medication for a week and then continue it again .
    or what please help me .

    • ANSWER:
      You are taking 2 anti-depressants, and you say they were helping for a few months.
      Whatever doctor prescribed them, should be called and told.
      You may need a higher dose--or maybe have one changed.
      There is medication for anxiety too, which might help.
      But your doctor would know best.
      I would definitely not just stop the medication. Call the doctor and get his advice-- as many medications you can NOT just stop--you have to be weaned down from them.
      Good luck

  50. QUESTION:
    I need help writing a thesis for social anxiety disorder?
    I'm covering the triggers for SAD, symptoms and ways to treat it. I'm having trouble coming up with a thesis

    • ANSWER:
      I can help if you provide your essay prompt. :)


Help For Social Anxiety And Depression

Written By: admin - Apr• 21•12

Are you one who is thought of as shy? Do you think that everyone else in your life has successfully outgrown their shyness and there you are still struggling, because you are held back by social anxiety? Are you left feeling a little scared and panicky when you are thrust into social situations? Are you nervous thinking that everyone is going to laugh at you or think you are a bit strange? This is social phobia. Because of this condition, sufferers can literally feel paralyzed with fear when presented with a new situation or needing to be out in front of others. Believe it or not, you really can overcome social phobia and feel as strikingly confident and secure as you do when no one else is around.

If you are in the midst of social anxiety, each event or outing can be tortuous but you must know you do not need to always feel this way. There are treatments and therapies and even natural supplements, such as SocialFear Relief to help you overcone social anxiety. You may have it in your head that to overcome social phobia successfully, you have work really hard and long to get anywhere near being the confident person you want to be. You must realize often in these situations, all of this extra work to feel comfortable and not exhibit debilitating shyness anymore can actually make you worse.

Dealing With Social Anxiety

Frequently Asked Questions

  1. QUESTION:
    What would be the best medication to treat social anxiety, depression, and fatigue together?
    I have finally admitted/realized my difficulties with these issues. I want to get help, but am not sure exactly what kind of drug I should try. Of course my Dr. will work with me on this decision but I would like to get some feedback from users. He previously put me on xanax for the anxiety and it definately lessened after popping the pill, but I don't like how it makes me feel fatigued and loopy. I realize there is no wonder drug but I would like to know if there is any one drug to combat all three conditions...anxiety, depression, and fatigue. All this, keeping in mind that I really don't want to have the sex drive or weight gain issues as I already have a low sex drive and have recently gained 10 pounds. Any HELP is appreciated...so while I do respect and usually agree with all you anti-medication people...I have made the decision to try some so please spare me your disapproving lectures. Please help! Thank you all!

    • ANSWER:
      Pls call your dr for a referral & make an appt re your depression with a psychiatrist. He will know which drug to take in addition to the anti-anxiety drug. Sometimes it takes awhile to find the right drug but whatever will work would need a prescription. Avoid an over-the-counter drug as you don't know how it would react with the drug you are taking.

      I would ask for a referral to a psychiatrist. After the initial visit you could make 15 min appts on an as needed basis. A family dr is not experienced in finding the proper meds for psychiatric illnesses.

      Good luck to you. Don't waste time by putting it off. The sooner you get started the sooner you'll get well. From one who knows.

  2. QUESTION:
    What can I do for my social anxiety/depression besides medication and therapy?
    I've been in therapy and on medication for about a year now, and I don't think that it's been doing enough. It's so hard for me to make close friends and I don't have a good relationship with my parents, so there isn't anyone that I can talk to. Please help if you can....

    • ANSWER:
      Hi,

      The 3 best things to do first are to:
      - make sure you are getting at least 7 hours sleep a night (and not less or too much more than that - don't sleep all day)
      - exercise a few times a week where you actually sweat, this release nature pain killers and feel good chemicals and can reduce stress
      - eat good foods or at least cut out the bad foods. You brain and body gets all the vitamins and minerals that are digested in your stomach and if you don't give it good foods then you don't have the fuel to think clearly and you will have less energy to move around...etc.

      If you are successfully doing these 3 things and are still having issues, which many us are, then write down how bad you feel and for how long it has lasted... if you feel you can not cope with depression or anxiety or lack of motivation...etc. and it is seriously negatively affecting your life for long periods of time, then yes go talk to your doctor to refer you to a councillor or psychiatrist and one of the best things you can do is look for a local support group for depression or anxiety or lack of motivation...etc. as these have helped me very much. If you go to Craigslist website for your city, you should be able to search for a group. Or call your cities specific crisis hotline and they should be able to give you some group names and other resources you can utilize to help your condition.
      My opion of psychiatrists is that although they can usually tell you what you are suffering from or give it a name, they are not so good at treating it naturally or with groups, most of them give you drugs unfortunatley. Drugs are good if you are so deep in depression that you almost can't work or go to school and you are having longer periods of depression ...etc. They can get you out of the hole, but research very carefully what you take as most of them have side effects and some are very hard to get off of once you get onto them.
      Before taking any drugs, talk to a support group or join an online support group such as one of the several on yahoo groups or google groups and see what they are talking about and post a question to them as they would have years of experience about that. Then compare what they said to other resources that you may have access to and them make a decision to use drugs or not. For me, just going to my weekly meetings keeps me feeling ok for now and met some good friends I can talk to. There are several other natural ways to fend off mental issues if you study and reseach it. Could be you are not eating properly or have bad digestion or have a thyroid issue ...etc.
      I would suggest to get a regular phsyical exam done by doctors to see if anything comes from it. Especially test your thryoid and adrenal glands as my sister had a thryoid issue that affect her energy and moods and I had a DHEA and Cortisol level issue (both produced by adrenal glands) where I ended up taking some DHEA suppliments and eating more foods for it, and felt much better.

      Hope this helps and take good care of yourself. This will get better if you just put in a littel time and effort and have faith that you can and will get better.

      If you feel you can not cope with depression or anxiety or lack of motivation...etc. and it is seriously negatively affecting your life for long periods of time, then yes go talk to your doctor to refer you to a councillor or psychiatrist and one of the best things you can do is look for a local support group for depression or anxiety or lack of motivation...etc. as these have helped me very much. If you go to Craigslist website for your city, you should be able to search for a group. Or call your cities specific crisis hotline and they should be able to give you some group names and other resources you can utilize to help your condition.
      My opion of psychiatrists is that although they can usually tell you what you are suffering from or give it a name, they are not so good at treating it naturally or with groups, most of them give you drugs unfortunatley. Drugs are good if you are so deep in depression that you almost can't work or go to school and you are having longer periods of depression ...etc. They can get you out of the hole, but research very carefully what you take as most of them have side effects and some are very hard to get off of once you get onto them.
      Before taking any drugs, talk to a support group or join an online support group such as one of the several on yahoo groups or google groups and see what they are talking about and post a question to them as they would have years of experience about that. Then compare what they said to other resources that you may have access to and them make a decision to use drugs or not. For me, just going to my weekly meetings keeps me feeling ok for now and met some good friends I can talk to. There are several other natural ways to fend off mental issues if you study and reseach it. Could be you are not eating properly or have bad digestion or have a thyr

  3. QUESTION:
    Taking Risperidone, Lithium, and fluxentine(Prozac)? I have anxiety disorders(SOCIAL!), depression and mania?
    I been on Prozac for about 2 months now. I took hydroxzyine for when I needed for anxiety symptoms but I dunno if it helped.. But I have social anxiety now from a job expereince, have generalized anxiety, OCD, depression, and mania. The Prozac has been helping me with my anxiety overall but I'm always happy or sad now. I feel like Im always cocky when im happy that i dont need friends and lonely to sucidial thoughts when im sad... I stoped taking hydroxzyine and my prozac got reduced back to 20mg from 40mg yesterday. I took 40mg for my 2nd month. I'm scared of taking lithium and risperidone now.. I take 300mg Lithium, 20mg prozac, and 1mg tab risperidone. I have racing thoughts in social situations that people are talking about me, judging, and my social anxiety is the worst out of anxiety problems. I have ocd and gad tendecnies sometiems but the main thing draining me is my social anxiety! I always feel awkward or these thoughts that its awkward comes up..Will these help me with my social anxiety and depression? I have mania episodes and get more depressed from social anxiety situations from school.. Im currently 18 and in high school .PLEASE HELP!!

    • ANSWER:

  4. QUESTION:
    whats the best meds out for social anxiety/ depression?
    are anti depressents not specifically for social anxiety any worse than antidepressents for social anxiety? i no you get antidepressents for anxiety and social anxiety is a sort or anxiety? all very confussing on which meds would help better. im currently on mirtazapine which i no is a normal depression/anxiety drug. would i be better on a social anxiety antidepressent cheers

    • ANSWER:
      To be honest there are so many different types of anti depressants out there, it is impossible to say which one is best because everyone reacts differently to different ones. I think social anxiety and general anxiety overlap so much that medication for either can help with both of these issues.

      If you have been on these antidepressents for more than 2 months and have been taking them as recommended by your doctor and you have not noticed an improvement, go back to your doctor and he or she can try you on something else.

      If you do feel better and you're not having any dodgy side effects, I would stick with them rather than overhauling and trying something else that is just as likely not to work.

  5. QUESTION:
    Need advice about Social Anxiety/Depression?
    I feel like I have social anxiety or depression, or both. I only have one friend, and she moved 3 years ago, 3 hours away. I have a BF, of about 3 years. He is loving and would do anything for me. I feel like we both have this problem - we just joke about how we dont have any friends, but we have each other. I have a really hard time talking to people and getting personal or close to anyone except him or my mom. I'm not even completely "real" with my mom. I cant have eye contact with people for very long, although I did notice that cant and try to do it now. I am not even close with my 3 siblings. I just dont know how to talk to people. I feel like I will say something stupid. I feel like I should go talk to a prof., but I just dont. I just wonder if I do get help, what, will I just out of no where be able to talk to people and make friends? What will change? WIll anything change?

    Can anyone give advice if they have had this problem?

    • ANSWER:
      Well, that sounds very familiar to me! My boyfriend and I have no friends. We joke about it also. So, there are already four of us out there in the world! I'm sure there are millions more of us friendless folks!

  6. QUESTION:
    What else can I do for my depression and social anxiety?
    Okay, i have social anxiety and depression. I've taken medication but stopped taking them a couple of months ago cuz i felt it didn't help me at all. Im in therapy right now but not even that is helping me. all we do is talk, which i really dont care wat is said.

    i feel really bad cuz i dont want to be like this forever..........
    wat can i do????
    -btw im 16

    • ANSWER:
      i have depression also.......
      it took all of my friends and most of my family to finally get me to go to therapy.........
      just remember that you are loved by a lot of people.........
      i hope that helped.......

  7. QUESTION:
    What are the best medicine's for social anxiety and depression?
    I think I have social anxiety and depression, I have not went to the doctor yet. I have a fear that the doctor won't believe me and he wont help me. I'm nervous to even go talk to him. I feel like I've lost myself over the past five years. I feel like such a dissapointment to my family. But when I tell them things about me like, Im depressed or I'm also extremely insecure about my looks, because my skin is so damaged and messed up, they dont believe me. I've never been outgoing but now I feel like I put people off, and talking to people is a challenge. Especially when I think about how bad my skin looks. The only thing I use to have was being pretty; dressing nice and putting on make-up. Now that my skin looks and feels so bad, I dont even have that anymore. I told my parents about my feelings about my skin and they didnt believe me. now I think no one will believe when I say I am depressed and have social anxiety. Have any of you guys had social anxiety or depression?

    • ANSWER:
      yes i have both. Paxil has worked wonders for me. Feel a whole lot better than I did. My situation has caused me to be on disability. I have severe panic attacks often and I even hate to leave the house now, so you are not alone. Please go see a doctor or a shrink they can help you. They know when people are lying to them so just go in there and tell the truth and it will be fine. They will start you on meds to see if you show signs of improvement, if not they will try something else. It has taken me awhile to get a combanation that work's for me but everyone is different. If you can try to find a therapist that you can go see every week for the time being. You can set down and talk with them about anything because its not their job to judge you. I may feel funny at first but you become more comfortable and will be able to express yourself more. When you talk to family or friends about how you feel they do not understand because they have not experienced it. You can get some material on the internet for helping family members to understand how you feel. Trust me I hear "just get over it" or "you need to get out more". I just have to say you know I would if I could. I tell them you know I did not pick this for me and if I could get over it don't you think I would. I wish you the best and if you need a shoulder to cry on just email me at debidoo3123@yahoo. I would be happy to talk with you. Good Luck

  8. QUESTION:
    I need help with social anxiety and depression?
    I need help with social anxiety and depression? Since I can remember I was always feeling anxious and tense around group of people. I didnt know what was wrong though. I remember sitting in school in class or being in church and couldn't wait till leave it as soon as possible. And when I was out of there I felt so much better. I never knew what was the problem. I was 14 back than.Now I am 21 and I know that I suffer from social anxiety and depression. I get panic attacks whenever I try to socialize. It made my life miserable.I stop at the red light and I think everybody is looking at me and I get panic attacks. I can't even talk on the phone anymore. Its really hard for me to go to grocery store,I know if someone will talk to me I will get panic attack. It have been this intense for last 3 years. I dont have any friends now even though I used to have lots.I stayed home most the last 3 years having agrophobia. I need help,how can I beat it?Where did it came from? Any help appreciated.

    • ANSWER:
      I have had a very similar experience when I was your age.

      There are several things that have helped me:
      Light exercise... walking around the block, dancing to music in your room, etc. Of course if you are in better shape and can do cardio, then by all means do it. But make sure you are comfortable with what you are doing.

      You should probably see a doctor if you aren't already. Both consoling and medications can help quite a bit.

      The last one is difficult, but important. You probably need to confront the fears you have that you know are irrational. For example, if you are sitting at a stop light, and the thought occurs to you that people are watching you, try to relax and work through the fear. As you habituate to a fear like that you will overcome it. If you find that you have anxiety while going shopping, you may actually want to make some deliberate stops to the grocery store to pick up a few small items so that you will be exposed to the situation.

      You can beat this, it is hard, but I hope that you do.

  9. QUESTION:
    What are some jobs for a teen with social anxiety?
    Hi im a 15 year old girl and i have social anxiety, depression, OCD, and i might be bipolar. I cant find a job with little social interaction. I cant work as a cashier because of talking to people. My anxiety is pretty bad, you have no idea :( Anyway, pleeease help me. I need a job so bad. Thank ya!

    • ANSWER:
      maybe you could try being a stocker (like the people who restock the shelves in the store)
      i don't think that they talk very much, except maybe when the boss tells them where to put something

  10. QUESTION:
    Any combat vets who has been in Iraq that have psychological issues? Social Anxiety, Depression, Bipolar, PTSD
    I was in OIF 1 and now that I’ve been out the military, I’ve been suffering from social anxiety and depression. I’m also pretty sure PTSD has a part in that subconsciously. I’ve been irritable for no reason, and I’ve secluded my self from everyone. The longer it goes on, the worse it gets. Life is passing me by and that just sucks. My Doc said I was Bi-Polar, which I don’t agree, but the meds he has be on (Depakote) has helped. But I’m still suffering from anxiety. Also I find it so hard to eat, every time I try I feel sick. And of course the longer that goes on the worse it gets! Although I am getting better, I just want to see if any of my other brothers in combat have been going through the same thing, and if they have, what’s been working fro you? If anything at all... Thanks!

    • ANSWER:
      hay brther in arms.
      3 tores Irack hear.
      im still in and loking at tore 4 hear soon.
      I hate that place.
      coming back home for the first time, you remember how strang gust walking arond hear in the states wos right.
      It woss allmost serale for me.
      its still strang just talking to cavilyons now.
      ya man like the first poster sead find some one hues ben thrue it like us.
      I remember at ferst ( some times still is ) eaving thinking about some of the shit Ive sean gave me a varey strong adreenalin rush that cinda sent me into a fight or flight responce.
      wair I cep fealing like I wos gona get shot and neaded to leave.
      or got varey agresiv but fought to stay still and quiet.
      talking at ferst made it werce. and I could onley start and then Id have to walk away from the topick.
      but my step father made me talk .
      the more I did the more It got easeer.
      and then Id go back and make it werce.
      but I fulley beleave now that talking to some one hue knowes wot the Fu#k wear talking about has helped me to setell back into the new world we came back to.
      no I cant see my self being that persion I wos agin but im not shore I wont to be that nieave ever agin.
      its amazing wot wear capibell of doing to eatch other over an Idea isint it frend.
      like the first gy sead you have to forcew your self to help your self by geting out and and talking.
      I v gon thrue a fue shrinks since then and no that dont have a clue but thay are good at geting you to get some of it off your chest.
      a batill budy is beter.

      us army sinig off
      good luck frend.
      be strong.

  11. QUESTION:
    HELP! Can Clarocet Cause Social Anxiety/Depression?
    Started with heavy doses of Clarocet NRI (all natural supplement for anxiety, nervousness, etc) a few weeks ago, you're supposed to start off with 1 pill a day but i started off at the maximum of 4 a day for a week and I felt good for the week. I soon began to feel a little too un-nerved, as if I wasn't myself anymore and I was aware of it so I stopped taking them all of a sudden one day and for the first time in my life had serious symptoms of depression, manic depression, and now I have social anxiety, I never used to get this nervous around people, and if I go into new places I sweat alot and get really shaky. I think it's getting better but I still dont want to do alot of the things I used to do, some times I dont want to even leave the house or visit friends, and Im tired alot of the time now also. Even though all natural, could the Clarocet have caused a chemical imbalance because I took so many and then stopped suddenly? Any advice will be greatly appreciated!

    • ANSWER:
      You may not think this, but cyanide is "all natural," too.

      The field of alternative medicine is controversial and in many cases without scientific merit. Many authors, "pracititioners," and others who sell and promote these products have a financial interest in separating you from your money. I have no ax to grind with alternative medicine - just "show me the science."

      I realize that many folks swear by herbal supplements, what you don't hear are the many people who weren't helped. Not all products - prescription and non-prescription - work for all people.

      Clarocet contains a number of different herbal products that indeed do have effects on the central nervous system - St. John's wort, valerian root, and the amino acid 5-hydrotryptamine. Although now marketed for many years, the science behind them is still scanty despite what claims manufacturers make (I mean articles published in mainstream scientific and medical journals that are peer-reviewed and referenced in MEDLINE not so called anecdital reports). Even Clarocet's website states that you should seek outside medical help before starting their product. That's what I recommend - see your doctor or get a referral to a mental health professional.

      Good luck.

      Rick the Pharmacist

  12. QUESTION:
    Is it possible to get medical marijuana in the state of Maine to help treat social anxiety?
    I have very severe social anxiety, depression, ADHD, OCD, and bipolar disorder.

    I have tried many different medications for my disorders and I would like to try something a little more organic.

    Any information on the subject would be very helpful. Thank you in advance.

    • ANSWER:
      That's a somewhat amusing question, since social anxiety is a fairly common side effect of marijuana.

      Other people claim that it makes them more social and empathetic with other people.

      The effects of cannabis on short term memory are unlikely to help ADHD.

      Marijuana is suffiently safe that you could try it and see what happens, but it looks unpromising.

      If you want to try a broader range of herbal medicines you might be interested in going to an Acupuncture clinic and talking with them about herbs. You can use traditional chinese herbs without acupuncture and a practitioner would be able to do an exam and set you up. Various forms of cannabis are also part of chinese herbal medicine, but I don't know if acupuncturists are allowed prescribe it, even in medical marijuana states.

      Comments on medical marijuana:

      Public discourse on medical marijuana is somewhat tainted by the necessity to make it look harmless to most people in order to pass decriminalization laws. Once medical marijuana is available in a state, everyone who wants to avoid the risk of arrest for marijuana concocts some therapeutic story about how much it helps alleviate some feigned medical condition. This is actually their best course of action as a rational person if they want to smoke marijuana.

      It's obvious that cannabis has real pharmacological effects and that CB-receptor agonists are a useful category of drugs. But it's almost impossible to know whether any particular anecdote or testimonial about cannabis is credible unless you try it yourself for the same condition or can find a peer-reviewed research paper on the topic.

  13. QUESTION:
    Do antidepressants work for social anxiety and depression?
    What are the best antidepressants, with the least side effects? What other things could help? Thanks.

    • ANSWER:
      im the same as you and looking for the correct drug for social anxiety and depression. I am currently on mirtazapine which isnt specifically for this but im going to my doctors on tues to change as i have done some research on this.zoloft,paxil and xanax are in the top three for social anxiety but ive been told to stay away from xanax as its a beno drug and they are supposed to be addictive. Go to this site and read the reviews it helped me http://www.drugs.com/condition/social-anxiety-disorder.html hope this helps good luck x

  14. QUESTION:
    should you get help for social anxiety and depression?
    When I moved I saw a new doctor and told her how difficult I was finding things to the point that I cannot get a job. I have had the problems for 11 years and she basically told me to get over it. I felt like saying if it was that easy, why have I suffered for so long?! I came away feeling lost and like I was being pathetic, surely there should be some help around? I'm not on benefits but really struggling but I feel like when I try and get help I get the door slammed in my face. I feel that only recently depression has been recognised as a mental illness but social anxiety isn't....I guess it's because people think 'well everyone gets nerves'....it's a hard bridge to cross when everyone thinks like that, surely if something afects your life so much it should be taken seriously?

    • ANSWER:
      First of all, you should not see that doctor who told you to get over it. She is not a good doctor, has no proper bedside manner and is probably like that outside of her practice.
      Social anxiety IS a recognized anxiety disorder, of which there are several.
      You must get help. It won't suddenly disappear. Cognitive behavioral therapy as well as medication together can be very effective. You will probably be gradually exposed to various anxiety-provoking situations, but by doing so, you gradually lose your fear. It's ironic that to get well, you need to do the things that have made you 'unwell' in the first place. When you face the problems, bit by bit, you begin to squash the fears to the point that you can start to function properly again.
      It will take effort and won't be easy. Can it be done? You bet! You can do this, so stay positive and focus on your goals. Good luck!

  15. QUESTION:
    social anxiety? Depression and stress... SCHOOL? ''/ help?
    Well basically i suffer from a lot of depression and anxiety, i guess my anxiety is different around new people now because ive kinda got over it and im different around them. but in school ive been in for 3 years i have ALWAYS been shy. Mostly... and tbh it kinda has held me back from forming friendships and stuff :( I have some friends at school or should i say Associates... and a few friends. But tbh some of my friendships just got destroyed because of my depression anxiety... it teared me apart and i didnt exactly know how to form them back. And then the friends i did have something always happened. they left, they left me or we just drifted apart. I left some people too because of pressure.... :(
    Ive been unhappy in school. For a LONG time... and its really not good.
    I also feel bad because of the options i picked. They really are NOT working out for me... And i hate them. Im gonna miss some things about the school but this school depresses me... It does :( I miss the way things used to be. everything has changed so much since being in year 10. But at the same time i know staying will be the safe route for me...Not the happiest but the SAFEST. what i mean by that is i wont have pressure to make new friends and everything....and it will be hard catching up. but i know moving could be the best option for me but then i would be leaving EVERYONE behind.... :( i dunno. I need some help deciding... Im getting Therapy soon by the way. This wednesday coming... for my social anxiety and depression
    So yh maybe that could help me before i move to a new school... if i do. My mum said shes not sure. she thinks i should stay but if im really unhappy i should move.
    I dont really get bullied. i used to. for a few weeks,,, 2 months? maybe a bit longer. or just picked on. I havent had the best life at that school. i guess i show my weak side by being too soft and everything. I guess i am running away from my problems by moving but I really WANNA GO.
    Ive made a pros and cons list...
    Pros
    I could have an oppurtunity to show my talents off,make better friends, Choose new gcse options,Be a new me without people questioning my personality,Be a new me... By concentrating more on my education...
    my anxiety and depression could get MUCH better

    Cons
    Its hard making new friends
    i Could get bullied at a new school i move to
    My anxiety and depression could get worse
    I could find it too much to deal with... being the centre of attention when i get anxious when that happens...
    Help??? Please i need opinions.

    • ANSWER:
      I think if you're strong enough, take a stand and be more confident, but if you want a fresh start move to another school, but you will have to change and be a more confident or else your just running away from your problems and the same thing will happen

  16. QUESTION:
    in a relationship for 3 years with depression/social anxiety...but now confused.?
    So basically i've been dating my boyfriend for about three years.
    I have depression, and social anxiety. In the past four years, they have gotten worse, until I recently started going to therapy.
    Aside from this, I've lost pretty much all of my friends that i've made since I started attending college.

    Now that i've been getting help, I want to go out and meet people..socialize, make friends, etc.

    I'm just confused now. Do i remain with my boyfriend? He's incredibly outgoing and friendly...he does not understand social anxiety at all....

    I feel like I've been missing out on the past four years of my life...I'm 22, I should be going out and meeting new people... I love my boyfriend, but I also feel like I'm missing out on dating in general.

    We have so many plans together for our future, and I love him for being with me through all of the hard times i've had in the past, but I just don''t know anymore.

    I don't want to end up dating him because he's such a good guy, and doesn't deserve to be broken up with because he's helped me through all of my depression/anxiety, etc...

    I firmly believe that i should do what makes me happy. He does make me happy, I'm just lost.

    Does anyone have any advice?

    • ANSWER:
      If you love him and YOU ARE sure that he loves yuo, than do anything to be with him.

      And the feeling of missing out, going out and meeting new people, do that together, invite him and share your life with him, get him into what you want but at the same time respect what he wants.

      I believe if you love each other you will come out with alot of ideas and happiness, remmber JUST TALK AND SHARE!!

  17. QUESTION:
    Social anxiety + depression cycle?
    I rarely leave the house (only to run errands) because of my social anxiety. I don't ever talk on the phone either. This has been going on a long time, but has only gotten worse recently. I'm going to school this summer and expected to get a job. I'm deeply afraid of being seen as a "freak", because I feel like my anxiety is going to show when I talk to someone.

    Last week, I had to go to school for enrollment and I had an anxiety attack, but I managed to get through it. However, I'm sure that the counselor and the student aid noticed. Also, when I'm in environments like work and school (I either always quit, get fired, or drop classes) people approach me a lot (like co-workers and students) to be friends. Now, that my anxiety has reached an all-time high, just the thought of them doing that makes me want to cry. My depression is a result of being isolated for so long.

    I used to abuse drugs and alcohol to get through my social anxiety, but I hit rock-bottom and had to stop. Since then (6 months ago) I haven't been around anyone except for my ex boyfriend. I'm on Buspar for anxiety, but it's apparently not working. Tips to get through this? Help?

    • ANSWER:
      I would really recommend working with a therapist on this issue. I had very similar things when I was at community college and felt very isolated, lonely and unable to connect with people. I would highly recommend finding someone to talk to about these issues because they are quite common, and a therapist will help you work through them and give you support in working through them. One think that I figured out on my own is that while you may feel very odd, people tend to see the good in you, and not the bad. People understand being nervous, and social anxiety and it helps to just admit how you are feeling and own it, and sort of "diffuse the bomb" of anxiety by admitting that you are nervous. More often than not people will connect with you on this, and not think that it is a big deal, or a reason to not be friends with you! This helped me a lot, to sort of say "Ok, this is who I am, and these are my issues" and be honest about it. People are 100% understanding most of the time and will even connect with you over it!

      I would also suggest going to yoga, this is what got me through school! I never could have handled the stress, or remained optimistic and felt as good about myself if I did not have yoga training. It helps you connect to your body, and reign in all your anxiety and breathe deeply and center yourself in a peaceful state. It also helps burn off steam, and helps you release endorphins and feel better about your body image! All good things. I would really, really recommend trying it out! You are not alone in this and therapy and exercise will help tremendously. Good luck!

  18. QUESTION:
    help boyfriend with social anxiety + depression but i have mental health issues too?
    My boyfriend and I have been together since the end of May 2010 but we have been friends and more then friends since fall of 2008. I didn't know until about a week ago that he suffers from social anxiety and he thinks depression too, which is why its been a rough ride with him before we were together. (I also just found out he has epilepsy which he apparently thought I knew about for the past 2 years and apparently 30-70% of epileptic people have depression or anxiety problems) I would always be really confused with his behaviour because he would say i'm his favorite person, i make him happy etc but then when he'd get the impression i felt the same or he would think i dont feel the same he would tell me hes worried and he doesnt want to hurt me, not sure if he can provide stability. I never understood why I always thought he was afraid to commit which was actually what I was afraid of (this is my first real relationship, I always run away from relationships because I couldnt open up to someone and be so close - the whole idea scared me, I'm 20 by the way, he is 24.)
    Anyways he left 3 days ago for a wedding thats 600 miles away from where we live and I'm taking a summer class so I couldnt go, also I didnt really feel comfortable with the idea of staying at his sister's who ive never met for a week and going to the cousins wedding who i've also never met. I feel that that would be really awkward and expensive, the flight was 0.

    Anyways before he left he said he really wanted to talk to me, he told me he was seeing a therapist for social anxiety which i was completely surprised because my boyfriend comes across as really confident, he was a personal trainer and he will strike up a conversation with ANYONE. But apparently it was because of friend/socail issues - he has stopped hanging out with his old friends because there's tension in the group and he feels he isnt respected. I know social anxiety is based on fear that you're being judged and in his mind he sees himself as inadequate. He stopped personal training to focus on university but it really made him happy and he wants to go back but I think he is afraid because its full time and he doesnt want to mess up his GPA like he did last year.
    The job he has now he HATES, i hate it because its a 6 day a week job thats 11 hours a day so he has NO time for fun and hes exhausted. Its definitely worsening his issues and I really think he needs to go back to therapy. I was on his computer and he was googling all these mental health issues so I think he's confused but aware there is something going on. I want to help him but I'm also really worried. I have anxiety issues too, stress induced, a touch of OCD and i have had struggles with eating disorders since i was 16 so I'm also worried I wont be the best support system for him because of that, it's already stressing me out and I cant really turn to him if he is hurting
    I dont know what to do!

    • ANSWER:
      Group/talking therapy is always going to be the better option for anything anxiety related. It seems this is the big issue for both o f you as he would of dealt with his epilepsy since birth. The work related problem affects many but 11 hours a day is often too much for the "average person" let alone people with other problems. Get a job that pays less for less hours, this will free up precious time and allow time breathe. If this is not possible, some other option will be, be positive also, from everything I read above it seems all your doing is focusing on the negatives (although your here asking for help) and this can be part of the spiral.

      I beat panic disorder about a year ago and used to have 10 full blown attacks a day, couldn't leave the house and contemplated suicide. This lasted for 2 years until I told myself I would regain control over my life.

      I did this by doing the opposite of everything I was doing ^

      Scared of going out?, go out more.

      Scared of talking to people?, talk to more people etc

      Its all about breaking your own habits, we are habit forming creatures and often chose to protect than to expose ourselves, with anxiety you need to do the opposite to 'break the trend'. It will be awkward at first but this inevitably is the only way.

      All the best pilgrims,

      Pooky

  19. QUESTION:
    Help boyfriend with social anxiety + depression but i have mental health issues too?
    My boyfriend and I have been together since the end of May 2010 but we have been friends and more then friends since fall of 2008. I didn't know until about a week ago that he suffers from social anxiety and he thinks depression too, which is why its been a rough ride with him before we were together. (I also just found out he has epilepsy which he apparently thought I knew about for the past 2 years and apparently 30-70% of epileptic people have depression or anxiety problems) I would always be really confused with his behaviour because he would say i'm his favorite person, i make him happy etc but then when he'd get the impression i felt the same or he would think i dont feel the same he would tell me hes worried and he doesnt want to hurt me, not sure if he can provide stability. I never understood why I always thought he was afraid to commit which was actually what I was afraid of (this is my first real relationship, I always run away from relationships because I couldnt open up to someone and be so close - the whole idea scared me, I'm 20 by the way, he is 24.)
    Anyways he left 3 days ago for a wedding thats 600 miles away from where we live and I'm taking a summer class so I couldnt go, also I didnt really feel comfortable with the idea of staying at his sister's who ive never met for a week and going to the cousins wedding who i've also never met. I feel that that would be really awkward and expensive, the flight was 0.

    Anyways before he left he said he really wanted to talk to me, he told me he was seeing a therapist for social anxiety which i was completely surprised because my boyfriend comes across as really confident, he was a personal trainer and he will strike up a conversation with ANYONE. But apparently it was because of friend/socail issues - he has stopped hanging out with his old friends because there's tension in the group and he feels he isnt respected. I know social anxiety is based on fear that you're being judged and in his mind he sees himself as inadequate. He stopped personal training to focus on university but it really made him happy and he wants to go back but I think he is afraid because its full time and he doesnt want to mess up his GPA like he did last year.
    The job he has now he HATES, i hate it because its a 6 day a week job thats 11 hours a day so he has NO time for fun and hes exhausted. Its definitely worsening his issues and I really think he needs to go back to therapy. I was on his computer and he was googling all these mental health issues so I think he's confused but aware there is something going on. I want to help him but I'm also really worried. I have anxiety issues too, stress induced, a touch of OCD and i have had struggles with eating disorders since i was 16 so I'm also worried I wont be the best support system for him because of that, it's already stressing me out and I cant really turn to him if he is hurting
    I dont know what to do!

    • ANSWER:

  20. QUESTION:
    What to do if i have Social Anxiety, Depression and Agoraphobia?
    Hi and thanks for taking the time to click my question....

    I have always been shy as a kid but it never really held me back from doing what i wanted but when i got to about the age of 18 i stopped doing the things i enjoyed and fell away from my friends. I got a little bit depressed and started smoking weed.... That made things worse and i stopped it after a few years. It did leave my anxiety a lot worse though. I am now 21 and don't have any social life whatsoever.... I have no friends(NONE), no job and no money to buy clothes etc.... Because of my Social Anxiety i don't like to go outdoors and so stay inside for weeks and at the moment (months) on end... (haven't been out for 1 month and 1 week).... So my Social Anxiety has lead to me being agoraphobic which has now lead to me becoming very depressed. My days consist of waking up at irregular times. Sometimes i wake up at 6am and other times as late as 12noon... Then i do nothing... i just sit and watch tv, go online and wait for my family to come home... they usually moan and say hurtful things like "go get a job" and that i'm so lazy. But they just don't understand what is wrong with me so i don't blame them.

    I usually stay up very late til about 2am and other times i stay awake in my bed til sunrise...

    The main things i have a problem with is meeting new people. My mind goes blank and i start panicking and get dizzy and really scared and anxious. I have trouble speaking on the phone and making phone calls, so applying for jobs are a huge problem. Other problems are walking outside... i become very aware of the way i walk. Waiting for and getting on and off buses is another huge problem. I hate the idea that everyone on the bus is watching me get on and off. I hate being the centre of attention. So to avoid all of this i have just avoided it and isolated myself indoors.

    At first it helped. My anxiety stopped but staying indoors all of the time has just made me depressed and made the thought of going out even worse. I'm not mad or anything. Like i know the things i worry about are so stupid but i just can't stop the psychological and physical symptoms of my anxiety.

    A lot of people think people with SA are anti-social. I'm far from it. In the past i did have good friends and i was very outgoing and never had a problem in the slightest from what i do now. I also have so many plans. I want to visit my friend in Nepal at the end of this year and need to find a job for that. Then i want to go to college and hopefully university starting next year.

    But i can't see it happening.... I can't see myself stepping outside my front door, let alone go anywhere else. My Social Anxiety, agoraphobia and depression is ruining my life.

    I have seeked help for my problems. Infact this is the first time i have actually told anyone about this. Everyone that knows me like my family just think i am lazy and choose to stay indoors and do nothing....

    I just don't know what to do. What happens if i visit my gp? I've heard a lot of stories from people online that gp's don't know much about social anxiety so i'm worried that i go and they don't help me.

    Does anyone know what happens for people who suffer from Social Anxiety on the NHS (Scotland)?
    What will they do to help me?

    Where should i go for help?

    thank you.

    • ANSWER:
      i was in a nearly identical situation as you about a year ago and im just starting to get clear now. your going to need to make an active effort to get out and do things because avoiding social situations is just reinforcing your behavior and fears. Its going to be tough, but start out small and start building yourself up again, by say going to the gym ( working out will also help you feel more confident). You need to realize that people are quite self centered and dont really care about what your doing and are rarely more critical than yourself. try meditation as well, buddhism helped pull me outta my anxiety and i felt alot calmer from day to day. This is going to take alot of willpower and your going to have to want to be better. No one else can do this for you. Try to remember that on the other side of your fear is freedom. Theres plenty of people who suffer from anxiety and depression and you can find plenty of blogs of people who have beaten it, (you'll never be totally free of anxiety though, everyone feels it from time to time) heres an okay one to get you started http://www.succeedsocially.com/

      Good luck

  21. QUESTION:
    What depression/social anxiety meds have seemed to work best for all of you??? Thanks!?
    I can't seem to do anything in public, small groups, going to parties, meeting people...... I freak out... very uncomforable and make myself sick. I need help badly!!!!

    • ANSWER:
      You'll never really know whats best for you until you actually get on it. For me, it took over a year to get mine straight, it depends on your body and how it reacts with the medication. I take Effexor XR for depression, Klonopin for anxiety, and Seroquel to sleep. I was taking Ambien for sleeping, but after a long time on some meds your body no longer responds. This might be a lifelong process. I'm sure it will be for me, with tweaking meds and doses here and there. Consider that I've been on 8 different allergy medications since I was 14, of course now, at 22 I've almost grown out of my allergies, but the point remains. Just be aware that this is a process, and that eventually something should work for you.

  22. QUESTION:
    What are sufferers of Social Anxiety Disorder/ Depression like in new environments? PLEASE ANSWER?
    I have both and I have to make a choice about which sixth form to go to for my A levels

    1) my current school, I know everyone, a few friends mostly on an ok level with everyone.

    2) or a new one with new people, a mixed sixty form, fresh start they both offer the sake courses

    will this help with my problems or worsen them?

    • ANSWER:
      It depends. Number one isn't good, but it isn't bad. If you really want to change, and not be as quiet, then a new school could be the perfect opportunity to change. Remember, when you're starting at a new school, no-one knows who you are or how you are like, so that means they don't expect you to act a certain way. So you make an impression that you aren't quiet, and you'll soon get a reputation for it.

  23. QUESTION:
    is this typical of social anxiety/depression or something else all together?
    I am recently diagnosed w/ clinical depression and generalized/social anxiety disorder. I am in therapy and on meds. I am female, 30. Anyways a few years ago I used to have a close group of friends and would love going to restaurants, amusement parks, movies with them etc....I have since purposely isolated myself from them and don't enjoy ANY social activities. I like to watch hours of TV and play on the internet and listen to music. that is all I like doing -- alone. My family recently went on a cruise to the Cayman Islands and I was invited but I chose not to go. my old friend from college saw my sister and told her to tell me to call and I never did. It dawned on me that people think I dont want to do things with them b/c I don't like them personally. I feel guilty for being like this. I went with my sister to the mall last weekend and hated every minute of it. She did and said nothing wrong, I just couldn't wait to come back to my apt. and be alone again. it is nothing personal I just want to go to work, come home, and take my dog out. That's it. I can't help it; have no drive or desire anymore to socialize.

    But once and awhile I will have a crying fit because I am so lonely, WTH?? Is this typical of clinical depression or is it some other illness? Thank you.
    PS - I am still a virgin and never had a bf. I do not have any close relationships with people except my therapist who I see once every 2 weeks.

    • ANSWER:
      Look , I don't want to tell you the wrong thing because I am in no way a therapist or anything.

      But , even though you hate it, go out . I know , sounds stupid. But , after a while you might really miss them and want to go out and stuff. You have to get out of the house.

      Good Luck :)

  24. QUESTION:
    Do I have social anxiety/depression?
    I'm 18. I think I might have social anxiety or/and depression. Since I started school i've always been extremely shy, all throughout primary, secondary school and even my 3 years I've been at college. Here are some of my symptoms:

    *Because of my shyness I have never really been able to make friends and still don't have any so I don't go out anymore and I havent since i was 13.

    *I have never been able to have a relationship even though I've had lots of crushes.

    *When I'm in college and I have to sit around the table to listen to the teacher I feel like everyones looking at me and get scared, I get scared that I may be asked to answer a question and i just feel extremely uncomfortable.

    *I can't look someone in the face when they're talking to me so I'm not really listening.

    *I'm also too shy to ask the teacher or my classmates for help with my work so i sit there with nothing to do and struggling with the work.

    *I dread it when I know somethings coming up which requires me to talk for example last week i had to take a day off as someone was coming in and wanted us all to ask him a question each about his job.

    *Last week when I was writing something i felt like the teacher was watching me and I got all sweaty and went red. I hate people watching me when I'm doing something.

    *I also get insecure about the way i look, my body and my clothes so I keep my coat on and try to avoid any eye contact. I can't go out wearing make up or wearing nice clothes because i'm scared i'll draw attention to myself.

    *I have to get a job soon and i am terrified, it'll be hard enough to get through the interview let alone hold down a job since a lot of jobs require talking to customers and such. But my parents will make me get one otherwise they'll think i'm just being lazy when its nothing to do with that because i'd actually love to get a job otherwise.

    *When I'm around my family I get shy too (not the family I live with) I mean my aunts and uncles etc. I've been invited to a family party and I really want to go but I know that I'm going to get really shy so I'm thinking about not going now everyones saying i'm being miserable and I need to socialise sometime.

    *When I get uncomfortable and panicky my face goes red, I sweat and I get a lump in my throat and I get even more scared when I think that everyone can see me getting nervous. I just want to run out the room.

    *If i do ever have to talk to anyone I have this really quiet voice and then think I sounded stupid afterwards.

    It has ruined my life and still is. I feel depressed and sometimes suicidal and i am not enjoying life.
    I feel like life is pointless and don't feel motivated to do anything to sort it out, I just feel that even if I had friends, relationships etc i would still be depressed. I've always been very reserved and independent because of shyness so it would all just be a huge change. I have weird trust issues towards people even my own family sometimes, I have no idea why. The littlest things depress me even silly things. I just feel so alone, scared, sad and don't know what to do, I cant tell my parents, they would think I'm being stupid. Whats wrong with me? What should I do?

    Sorry its long.

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  25. QUESTION:
    stuck in a rutt with social anxiety/depression?
    ok well im 25 years old have depression/anxiety since i was 14......at first i didnt no i had social anxiety as i never new it existed but now i no its that. currently going into my last year at university studying to be a nurse and my head is just not in the right place for it but im trying to push myself. Feel so down sometimes i just shut myself away dont want to go to uni or see friends or talk to anyone, have missed a lot of uni because of this and friends have wondered whats wrong i make excuses. I live im my head 24/7 and feel so so low used to be a happy go lucky girl with a great sense of humour now i have nothing to say, no confidence and my heads a complete mess. A few years ago the doctor sent me phyciatrist she spent 15 minutes with me and sent to cbt therapy i went but didnt help me. been on prozac, buspar, valium, citalopram im now on mirtazapine 15mg it helps with my eating as i dont eat when not on this drug but still feel low and spaced out.......ive came off it so many time trying to make a clean break from the drugs (slowely) but keep going back on it seems like im stuck in a rutt......really think im heading for a breakdwn with no one to talk to or help me i dont no what else to do, fed up with going to the doctors any1 any advice at all?

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  26. QUESTION:
    Can someone fully recover from social anxiety and depression?
    I got social anxiety at a young age when I was at school. Because of this I eventually could no longer leave my home. I foolishly refused to get help when I really needed it. So I slowly became depressed because I could no longer leave my home no matter how much I wanted to I just couldn’t. It took me along time to get the courage I needed to go to the doctors and tell them how I felt. I’m in my early 20’s now and I’m gradually getting my life back on track. The only thing I miss is not having much of a child hood because of this. But as I’m only in the early stages of getting my life back on track I often wonder how long it could take for someone to make a complete recovery. So have you, or do you know anyone who has suffered from social anxiety and depression? If you have, or you know someone who has suffered from this, how long did it take you or, them to make a full recovery? Also has this ruined the chances of me having a relationship with someone because of what has happened to me or will I slowly have the confidence to start dating. Because I have never dated or lost my virginity yet because of the problems I was faced with.

    • ANSWER:
      i was always a nervous child too, but i faked a smile & pretended to be happy.... it worked for a while, but then i went through a stressful time in my early 20's..... it knocked me sideways, and i ended up in hospital suffering from anxiety and depression...... that was 6 years ago now, and although i'm a lot better than i was, i feel that this has affected my life on a permenent basis. so to answer that part of your question, i do believe that it is possible to make a good recovery - given time, but these things will have made u the person who u are today - and if u are anything like me, u will still have bad days... although thankfully the good now outnumber the bad. in response to your worries about having a relationship, i think u should try not to worry too much. the right person is out there for u somewhere, and they will accept u for who u are. just don't make the mistake of dating someone just because they show an interest in you. make sure u go out with them for the right reasons, and not because u are afraid that u are never going to meet the right person. i speak from experience.... i ended up dating someone because i needed to feel wanted.... not a good situation to get yourself into. good luck. you can leave me an offline IM if u ever need someone to talk to .

  27. QUESTION:
    How do I get a job..social anxiety & depression?
    Ok so I am 18 and I suffer from depression and social anxiety. I also:

    -Sleep from 3am to about 2pm
    -I go to night classes. Monday 5-8pm, Tuesday & Thursday 4-8
    -I don't have my license
    -My parents work during the day so I have no transportation
    -I get back pain easily. Like when I am cooking or doing the dishes after like 3 mins it hurts cause of my bad posture
    -My feet hurt after like 30 mins of standing

    But my biggest thing of all is I hate talking to strangers! Like I can't even ask for ketchup at mcdonalds or anything. I don't like going to the doctors or any other appointments alone(not cause I don't have a license), I hate talking to people on the phone, basically I am an extremely shy person. And when I do need to meet/talk to new people my feet and hands get ice cold and my heart starts pounding.

    So how in the World do I get a job? My family is middle class but a lot of times its pay check to pay check. And I want things and I don't want to keep asking them for it cause they work hard. I mean I could do chores around the house but I am always tired, and I have no motivation. What do I do? Also when I do get my license(I have to get my permit first then wait 6 months) what kind of job should I get? Please help me. I have seen a psychiatrist for meds and I was on prozac but it didn't work and every time I see her I never tell her about these things because I find it embarrassing, also I lie to her about it.

    • ANSWER:
      I'd have to ask, what are you depressed about? your life, living situation? Work, school, what you look like? I think you should just sit down and write out what your good at, what you like to do, what you want in life, and how much of this life do you want! Then read this every day, tell your self "I AM A GOOD PERSON, I HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE HAPPY AND I CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY".

      Get some good sneakers, change your feet i a manner of speaking. I work all day and back problems, feet aches and just headaches, but I change position, sit when I can and change into different shoes daily.

      You can qualify for a monthly cheap bus pass just with school, but also doctor visits, just check your bus company!

      Sounds like your getting tired, i mean, your day to day life seems boring to you and that zaps your energy, so maybe music, art, movies, swimming, sleep less if youcan, 6 hours is the min requirement for young adults and it keeps your brain active.

      Vitamins, b100's and St. Johns Wort.

      God bless, hope ive helped some, have to go now, my 3 year old parrot is bored with my typing and its one on one time. :-0

      Did I mention, a good bird is better than a good friend! Always there, dependant on you and a real pain in the asp some times.

      Bye!

  28. QUESTION:
    17 Year Old Male..Suffering from TERRIBLE Social Anxiety & Depression...Plz Help?
    Well i've been dealing with these problems since about 8th grade, and now i'm a senior in high school.

    My Social Anxiety is so bad it's hard for me to function like a normal person in public. I get a sick feeling, sweat badly, and blush just from talking to a single person!! I don't try new things just because im scared. I don't speak up in school, I stay quiet and to myself most of the time, hell i get bad anxiety attacks just from talking to someone i don't know on the phone!

    The depression is also horrendous. Most nights I just sit by myself and think...cry..and just feel terrible about myself. It's very hard for me to put my feelings into words so everything I've described doesn't even begin to scratch the surface of both of these problems.

    I'm going to talk to a doctor next week because my counsler at school said that trying medication for a short period of time, to see how that affects me, might be the best option.

    Any help would be appreciated
    Just wanna thank everybody for the advice..i'll be sure to e-mail some of you
    Wanted 2 add one more thing..i'm not really on my yahoo mail very much but i do have a myspace so if you'd like to help me with this bull$h!t im dealing with or just so i can let you know how i'm doing e-mail me and ill send you the link to my myspace and we can talk over that..thank you 4 everything though to everybody that answered

    • ANSWER:
      hmm... im sorry that you feel that way. i used to have social problems until around 7th or 8th grade. your answer may very well be medication. but that can't fix everything. try taking it one step at a time when it comes to making friends or socializing. try talking to someone on the computer or texting them. then try talking to them on the fone. people are not out to get you and there is no reason to be afraid, thought it did take me forever to figure that out. just keep in mind that you're not the only one and that suffers from that, and it can be overcome with some time. =D hope this helps!

  29. QUESTION:
    I need to talk to a counselor about anger/social anxiety/depression issues, but I'm scared to go?
    I have felt in my heart for years I should go talk to one.. I'm 27 now. I got on Lexapro about 9 months ago, it has helped some, but not nearly enough. My anger and social anxiety and being such a "blah" with depression ruined my last relationship, even though I wanted it to end anyways.

    Now I am in another relationship and these issues are once again about to end it. My boyfriend wants me to see a cousleor, the doc asked if Ive considered it too.

    I think its time I do it... but I dont know what to expect. I afraid i will start crying when talking to them, and be embarrassed.. and Im scared to spill my life issues to a stranger. Help???

    Any advice????

    • ANSWER:
      It feels so good to know that someone is experiencing the same things I am. I also have social anxiety; my psychiatrist put me on Lexapro a couple of months ago, and my conditions have improved a bit, yet I still experience anxiety often. I think you should face your fears and talk to a counselor, if all else has failed. I fear talking about my problems to others as well, so you may want to try alternatives before resorting to speaking to a counselor. Try talking to someone close to you, whom you know would not judge you. Maybe you can up the dose of the medication you take. I hope I helped, and good luck:)

  30. QUESTION:
    help with depression, social anxiety?
    I have had depression, general anxiety and social anxiety for most of my life.
    It is only now that I am older that I realise what my problems are.
    Every area of my life is severely affected.
    Please could I have some advice on dealing with these issues, although one part of me would like to heal another is thinking that this wont change and I am getting close to giving up.
    Thank you
    Thank you all of you for your advice and support

    • ANSWER:
      A combination of therapy (to learn skills to deal with the depression and anxiety) and medication (to lessen the effects of the depression and anxiety). There is a great life waiting for you just around the bend. I had many of the same problems for years and self medicated with alchohol. Finally when that got so out of control I went to rehab and they finally got me the help I had needed for years and didn't even know. I just thought me and my life sucked. It took a while to get the right medication (NO THEY ARE NOT ADDICTIVE!) and find the right therapist but it was well worth the effort. Be proactive (even though its hard when your feeling like this) and do a little research and work each day and soon you'll not recognize the happy confident person you see in the mirror.

  31. QUESTION:
    Can you get social security for things like depression and social anxiety?
    Can you get social security if you've had a job. I've worked before, but not much, because of my problems. I was working earlier this year, but I'm not now, and don't really feel like trying to get another job. I'd rather have social security, and something like medicare, so I can get some help.

    • ANSWER:
      You have to have quite a work history and have paid into social security before you are entitled to receive the benefits of it.

      Otherwise you will be stuck with welfare at less than 0 a month plus about 0 in food stamps and medical insurance coverage. You can also get help with rent but you cannot own a marriage, home, boat, motorcycle, trailer, camper, more than one vehicle, real estate, or life insurance policy; you will have to have no assets or property, no savings accounts, stocks or bonds, no cash on hand, no other income (like child support), checking less than and a vehicle worth less than -5,000. (or they will make you sell it or trade it for one worth less).

      You will have to deplete all those assets one at a time before you will be eligible for welfare. Any asset you liquidate,give away or sell for cash within the past year of applying will have to be accounted for. Otherwise, if investigated, you will be liable for welfare fraud and never be eligible for benefits again and have to pay back any cash you were given.

      And you will be required to look for jobs continually and have proof that you are following up - unless you are medically certified as unable to work and/or what limitations you have.

      Depression and anxiety alone will not qualify you for permanent disability since they both respond to adequate treatment. Unless you have like, lost your children because of it and been fired multiple times, been in and out of long term mental wards, had numerous hospitalizations, had ongoing (years of)psychotherapy, counseling, psychiatry and medication and nothing has improved your condition. They will require documentation of all these things from hospitals, family doctor and psychiatrists and psychologists..There are tons of paperwork, psychological tests, psychiatric reports and treatment plans.

      Since you have worked on and off in the past, you may not be eligible for total disability. But again, depression and anxiety rarely qualify long term.

  32. QUESTION:
    Bad social anxiety/depression, but I'm going to a party tonight... help?
    My life is in shambles in every possible regard (no job, living w/my mom, breaking up w/my bf). I'm forcing myself to go to this party tonight b/c as if the other crap weren't enough (lol), I have zero friends and have been totally isolated for the past year. The birthday girl is someone I've met once or twice EVER (very briefly), and it was sort of random that she invited me. The rest of the people are total strangers. I'm been stressing about this for like 3 weeks (like, dreading it) but I won't let myself chicken out. Any advice on how to handle it (and *not* come off like I'm a loser, which is how I feel right now)? Many thanks for your thoughts...

    • ANSWER:
      Give this a chance, go, hang-out a bit, maybe drink something to get comfortable, mingle some...maybe you will know others at the party. If not, then say happy birthday to the birthday girl and see if she can introduce you to a few of her friends to break the ice. If you go and do all this and still don't feel comfortable then its fair to say that you tried and go on home. Don't discount yourself so soon. Give yourself some time to heal. It sounds to me like you have a lot going on in your life. Taking baby-steps is the only way to get back into the groove. You're doing a good job.

  33. QUESTION:
    Social anxiety, depression and desperation?
    I suffer from social anxiety. In the last week my anxiety reach a new high, and i was very depressed, to the extent that i didn't even bother going to school on friday. I started self harming again, and i have been pretty miserable.
    I just don't see the point in doing anything, most of all school work. I am a top student who used to really enjoy school, but since this academic year began, i have begun resenting my day to day life.

    I spoke to my school counselor today, and am going to see her tomorrow, but i don't think it helped much. She said rational but obvious things, like 'you have to face your fears and pull yourself together', but i don't feel better after talking to her- in fact i feel a bit worse when i think about it. I can't talk to my family or friends because... i just can't. i have lied about everything for over 3 years, i wouldn't even be able to start.

    I'm thinking of skipping school tomorrow, because i just can't go back there. I can't stand the frustration and panic i feel, the monotony of day to day life, another bloody conversation about who's going out with who.

    As i type this i feel like a brat, and i'm sorry if that's how it comes across, but i'm feeling really sad and desperate and empty. Can anyone help me out?

    ps. I'm not suicidal, btw, if that's how it reads. I have occasional thoughts, but they are never serious. I know it looks like i want to run away from things, but i really feel like i need to get away from everything and everyone. I don't think my councellor takes me seriously...i make things sound less painful than they feel. Is there a way to make her understand how crappy i'm feeling? The anxiety usually stops me expressing it.

    • ANSWER:
      Start by copying this and printing it out. Take it to your counselor Maybe then she will she what you need her to see. I am sorry you feel so low, but you can get over this feeling but you need help take this in to her and ask her to help you get the help you need. I don't know how your parents are but you should be able to go to them with this also. I know I would want my kids to come to me if they were feeling like this. Good luck

  34. QUESTION:
    Any suggestions for tremors, depression and social anxiety?
    My mother has a tremor that seems to be brought on by movement, anxiety and she is obviously depressed. She has seen many drs and none have helped. Any suggestions?

    • ANSWER:
      The next thing would be counseling or even seeing a dietician. Sometimes depression can be linked with a poor diet. Maybe she has an underlying medical problem that is leading to this type of depression. Perhaps the doctors should try running some other types of tests if they haven't already

      I am sorry that you have to see your mother go through this and I am sorry that she is going through this

  35. QUESTION:
    Should I keep a journal since I have depression and social anxiety?
    I'm 14 and it seems that everything is getting harder for me to handle. The last time I keep a journal I felt stupid and embarrassed about writing in it. That's the only reason I don't want to write in one but I really really need to get out my thoughts. Please help what should I do?

    • ANSWER:
      Don't feel stupid for writing down how you feel! It helps to express yourself and relieve stress. Not only that, but if you ever have to get help, you can show someone what you have written and it will be easier for them to help you! If you don't want to write, try talking to someone about it. It really helps so that everything that you are handling doesn't get bottled up until you explode. Life can be really really hard so never feel down on yourself about wanting to express your emotions.
      Hope this helped! :)
      P.S.
      You're beautiful. Hope things get better for you. :)

  36. QUESTION:
    Social Anxiety, Depression and sweaty hands.?
    I've been suffering from these for a couple years now. I'm seriously terrified of meeting new people, or being in large groups. My hands always sweat and I have low self esteem, etc. But I'm an 18 year old high school drop out, and it's been about a year now and I still haven't done anything like get a job, or go for my GED because I'm so scared of everything. But my friend and family are starting to get annoyed and keep pushing me to do something, but I dunno what. I'm afraid to step out of my comfort zone. And I feel like if I get rid of social anxiety, what can I do about my hands? What if I go to a job interview and my hands start to sweat. I'm sick of being so scared. Help?

    • ANSWER:
      Have you sought treatment for your social anxiety and depression? You're 18 years old now, you're an adult, make an appointment to see your doctor and tell them that you need help for these problems. What are you more afraid of, stepping out of your comfort zone or living like this for the rest of your life? When I was struggling with the idea of getting treatment for my mental health problems, I ultimately found the idea of living with crippling mental illnesses much, much scarier than the idea of making a doctor's appointment.

      Social anxiety is so treatable, it's a shame to let yourself keep living with it. Medication can help, but even more effective is a type of therapy called cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). The reason that CBT is more helpful is because it teaches you how to change your thoughts about social situations, it doesn't just mask your anxiety symptoms the way medication does. The problem with anxiety medication, especially for something like social anxiety, is that when you stop taking it all of your symptoms will come back. With CBT you learn to actually change your thoughts and stop the anxiety where it starts, and you won't need medication to make your anxiety go away.

      CBT is hard work, but it's worth it. CBT can be scary sometimes, because you have to do what are called "exposures" which means you put yourself into anxiety-provoking situations (so for you it would be things like going to crowded public places, going to take the GED test, etc.) and use your anxiety coping skills learned in therapy to calm yourself down. Eventually after you do enough exposures you stop feeling anxious in those situations, and your anxiety just goes away. Seriously, it works. I've done CBT myself for panic disorder with agoraphobia, I can tell you that it really, truly works. If it worked for me, I think it can work for anyone!

      As far as the sweaty hands... I had to laugh when I read that. I'm not laughing at you at all, I'm laughing because I used to have such horrible sweaty hands. I would have a panic attack when I went to class, and I would literally set my palms on the desk, pick them up, and there would be wet hand-shaped marks where my hands had just been. It was that bad. But you know what? When I started CBT and began exposure therapy for my panic attacks, my physical symptoms began to go away, and my hands stopped sweating. I haven't had a problem with sweaty hands since.

      Good luck!

  37. QUESTION:
    social anxiety/depression(can you relate?)?
    Im just wondering if there is anyone else out there that feels the same way I do. My fear of social situations has gotten much worse and I think It adds to my depression. For instance I cant go out in public without feeling like everyone is judging me(it probably does not help that i am so self concious). Something as simple as being introduced to someone new,ordering a meal, being the center of attention in a small group, they all make me turn red and I start to feel all clammy and I swear everyone can notice. Its much worse in front of my parents cause my mom has always tryed to shelter me and my siblings and has always answered for me no matter who speaks to me. I sometimes think its her fault and a combination of where I live.(Small town as compared to where they grew up in NY) I cant even picture myself ever getting married because I have visions of what might happen at the wedding like having to give a speech or people watching me dance(which would be so awcward) But worst of all what guy would date someone who has no girlfriend or guyfriends and is awcward in pretty much every situation. I cant answer a simple question anymore because my mind goes blank, almost like i freak myself out that I am not going to know the answer. Sorry this was so long, I just want to know if anyone else goes through similiar problems on a daily basis. This has kept me from starting college when everyone else has and cant find a job that I think I will be able to handle let alone get through the interview process without making a fool of myself. Thanks so much for reading this and any answers are appreciated.

    • ANSWER:
      OMG! i was pretty much just like this...but i kinda got out there and it started to go away a little bit...its not as bad anymore...i can actually talk..in school..someone would say hi to me and i would try to say hi back and i would just end up mouthing it...no sound would come out at all..i swear some people thought i was mute..but yeah i was depressed..and actually i think the social anxiety lead to the depression cuz you feel so lonely and awkward...all i can say is...JUST BE YOU! try and get out a little bit everyday and i promise it will get better...or if that doesnt help..go see a doctor and they can prescribe you some meds that help you relax and be more comfortable.

  38. QUESTION:
    What kind of medications help with major depression and social anxiety?
    Iv been dealing with these problems for a long time now. I'm on Zoloft but it dosent seem to being do much good.

    • ANSWER:
      Your antidepressant may need to be adjusted or you may need to try another one. The best treatment for depression/anxiety is meds and therapy. CBT tends to be the most effective. If you do not have a therapist, look for an experienced one you can respect and trust. All therapists are not equal, so shop around before going with a particular one. (The first appt is yours to interview. If it's not a fit after that or the first couple sessions, move on.)

  39. QUESTION:
    Seriously need help with social anxiety/depression?
    I have been struggling with this for my whole life. But really started getting worse in about 2nd grade. I never talked to anybody about my fear of people, and what I went through emotionally.
    I've been having thoughts of suicide at a really young age. Even in elementary school.
    I am now currently a 15 year old (Sophomore), and finally met up with a counselor. I tell her what I went through and feel, but when she tells my mom that it could become severe or worse, my mom denies it. She thinks that I never had problems throughout my life and everything was normal. When I know in reality it wasn't. She says she understands what i'm going through but denies that i ever had suicidal thoughts or that I struggled so much with social anxiety forever.

    Do you think there's anyway I can control this on my own?
    Thats pretty much the only way I can do it... Cause I don't have anyone to understand or help me through this...

    I hate always getting Panic attacks, and avoiding social situations, becoming really depressed... And never being able to be comfortable with myself... I have a lot of self hatred and extremly low self esteem. I can never remember a time when I actually felt comfortable or at least OKAY with my appearence or anything about myself EVER...

    Can anybody help me please? Anyone going through the same thing..?

    • ANSWER:
      I have been (or I think is still going) through that.

      In high school, I suffered too much for low self-esteem too. My fear would be "humans". I would hate crowded palces and I would always seclude myself. Even walking in the hallways is so difficult. I have to bow down my head while walking all the time. I would avoid competitions. I avoid new people.

      Back in high school, I was once in a speech contest and I qualified for the division (just before the regional) tilt. Just days just before that, I dropped out. Despite the protest of my coach and the school head, I had enough. In each and every weekbefore those contest where I'll stand before the sea of faces, I will cry and cry and stop attending school. Even though after the contest, I'd feel okay, the horror of facing it is soooo formidable. It's only now I knew it's called social phobia. And I guess I will never be able to speak in large crowds ever.

      When I was in sophie high, I grew suicidal. I was too depressed. I felt my parents wouldn't ever understand. I have OCD, I fear people, I worry all the time, I was sure I'm good for nothing. Now, I'm so happy I did not do it because the sun is beginning to shine again in my life. Don't lose hope there pal. The sun will be poking in your horizon too.

      I don't know how I recovered. May be and I think it is my own personal will to get out of the quicksand of depression that I managed to revive myself. You want to recover too, don't you? then it starts there.

      I know people say a lot about positive thinking but it really works. SOme people don't really understand even our parents so what you could do is just to understand them. If your councilor is nice, pour everything. The most important thing is to find a trusted person to share the things you have inside. Turn to God, He really listens even though all of huamnity has gone deaf.

      Even thoough, I'm still walking under the gloomy shadow of my "mental illness", it's really a lonely struggle. It's more of yourself versus yourself. Research on your "illness" on the internet. A lot of material will help.

      You'll make it through. Believe me.

      I'll pray for you. Smile. God bless.

  40. QUESTION:
    Help with my life social anxiety, depression, how do i beat it?
    OK i know some answers will probably be go see a doc.. but i believe my problem is a bit more with in. My views on the world and some past experiences play again and again in my head like a broken record...i cannot let go... i only see the big picture, what i mean is when ever i look at the night sky into space i see and understand the sheer size of the universe and i feel so insignificant... i mean whether we die at the age of 1 or 100 in the end you practically didn't exist either way.. my mind is so consumed on understanding everything, mostly what is the point of life here on earth...i don't believe in god as described in any book on this earth..i do believe that our bodies are machines for our true self that one might refer to as the soul..i do believe we reincarnate...which makes life even more pointless...well i just wanted to get into that with a brief view on the world...
    now i wanna get into a bit of past experiences that still trouble me very much... a year and a half ago i had to watch my friend die, he was shot by our friend, i wasnt there when he got shot but he lived nextdoor and 2 other kids came and got me cuz i was a bit older then them...when i got there he was lying on the floor unconcious still breathing, but barely i could here the blood in his lungs and i knew he wasnt gonna make it right when i saw him...somehow i remained calm went to his side and was with him in his final minutes...then comes the court case.... i got a sapina to show up in court to testify cuz i was at the scene and that whole mess dragged out for a year and 5 summons or so and i could never really let go...the kid was being tried for involuntary man slaughter and was not found guilty..i know it was cuz 9/12 of the jury was mexican and so was he... cuz they obviously cant read and understand what involentary manslaughter means...i still struggle very much with this.. about 6 months before this girl i didnt really know to well but hooked up with was murdered along with her mom and moms bf i dont know much about it but that they never caught the Piece of shit and everytime i think of sex i think back to the last girl i was with and it was her so its hard to forget that shit and let go of it.. i also had a few more deaths following my friend who was shot, aunt died, then an uncle, and just recently my dog died who was like my shadow i miss them all so much...
    now im not trying to throw a pity party just the fact that i speak maybe 500-1000 words a day i barely talk to anyone any more, only think to myself...my whole entire existence is in my head now and is stuck there...everything i do really is mostly by my self and i dont have anyone to talk to.. i try to talk to my mom but she doesnt help really just keeps me alive...my sister has her own life now...i just am alone thats all and my body feels more like a prison then anything else...and i just wanna be free, and one thing that makes it hard is im afraid of people... an actual phobia of people... Social Anxiety Disorder... you know how u scratch your head wondering why when u were a kid u had a friend that was clostraphobic and would freak out if he got messed with and wrapped up in a blanket and has a nervous breakdown or something...same with arachnaphobia...its like WTF am i just cursed or something it feels like my life is threatend when im in a group of people, my body triggers flight or fight, and i usually just leave and get away from the situation...but this is killing me...it is hard to go get a job a degree a girl....a life... part of me fears death but part of me wishes for it...the dilemma of a lost soul....
    im tryin to be more optimistic even tho im truly a pessimist, im working on my diet and trying to eat according to these health books, i tried taken prozac before but it just made me tired, my problem is more like my heart is shattered and my soul is torn...how do u fix that?
    i do know that if i ever get over this i want to help people like me cuz if there is a hell this is it and no one should have to go through this... please help me with ideas on how to get my self back in flow with the world...help me with the small picture and the baby steps plz!
    any ideas of what i could do to get out more? i go hiking and stuff but its hard to find people with the time to go cuz they have to work 2 jobs or something to support there lifestyle so please if u have any kind of suggestion to move forward in life and advice please i have no else...
    i know a few good jokes and of course a socially phobic person really only knows i and me...thats my problem... to much of only me and my shadow...and im a pleading to they and you for some good advice since i dont have much from home
    i know that there is a lot worse out there believe me but i had to get this shit off my chest i cant afford to pay someone to talk to me and that sounds pathetic in its own i would wrather go pay a hooker and get therpy from her...or come here for free and talk to you people : )
    well thx chloe and rayne.. and herb for stating the obvious lol.... that was kinda a joke lmao you told a person who is here asking for help with this stupid social phobia problem there is to much i and me.....as bill engval would say... here's your sign....

    • ANSWER:
      I read it all and it took me a while so I may as well try and help even though I'm not an expert or psychologist. I have felt social anxiety and I have had a few traumatic experiences in my life as well, probably not as much as you but trust me in knowing that alot of people in this world are dealing with stress and problems in their lives just like you. Maybe knowing you are not alone will help. You aren't...everyone wonders the meaning of life, everyone wonders if their is a God or if their is point to all this pain and suffering but without pain and suffering and stress...what would life be??

      Wouldn't life be boring and NOT worth living if we didn't have daily challenges, or obstacles to overcome? That is how we grow, we learn from each experience (good or bad) and once we are all-knowing and perfect we no longer need to reincarnate to learn more. These things you have gone through are very tragic indeed but to let these experiences define you will waste the future that you could have.

      Traumatic experiences need to be forgotten but since this is not easy we have things like counsellors and psychologists who will help you cope. Then I think it would be time to find a hobby or something that you do in life that makes you happy then pursue a career in that field.

      That's all I can think of and I hope I have helped.
      : )

  41. QUESTION:
    do natural remedies really work for anxiety/depression ?? Social anxiety?
    I have tried so many remedies like

    St JOhns wort (made me more anxious and spaced out/self concious)

    5htp (caused me to be really moody and stressed)

    Valerian (feel odd on it and different)

    Passiflora (felt depersonalised and mroe stressed)

    GABA + B6 (calms me but moody and depressed and flushed

    EPA HIgh Dose ( seems to help a little bit but not enough

    Many herbs like rhodiola, AShwagandha,

    I tried some homeopathy like Sulphur, Aconite and arsenicum album but they didnt do anything. does homeopathy work?

    What is the best recommendations?

    I always feel I have to be happy and smile. But I feel a weight and moody and not too mention always anxious and flushed. I get nervous just answering a question some asks me so what would you recommend?
    i have tried 4 different hypnotherapists...

    i am trying cbt but its not helping much.

    im trying to eat better avoiding sugar wheat/dairy caffeine but this makes me feel worse lol...i do lots of walking daily for over an hour briskly.
    thanks for the replies.

    I find sometimes I can be more confident talking to someoneandthen the next day(most days) I cant talk to anyone and feel anxous even at home.
    thanks for the replies.

    I find sometimes I can be more confident talking to someoneandthen the next day(most days) I cant talk to anyone and feel anxous even at home.

    • ANSWER:
      The best natural remedy I have found is to go in nature, mountains are the best source of peace and energy.
      And if you have social anxiety you have to spend more time with other people and practice to have conversations.
      Remedy only without any action doesn't work. Good luck.

  42. QUESTION:
    Can depression & social anxiety be treated to live a normal like like everyone else? Please be honest.?
    I find it hard to believe that depression and social anxiety can be treated. I suffer from both of them and want to change it. I want to live a happy life. But I have no hope. I'm going to see a psychologist but I don't see how that's going to help. At least I'm trying.

    I feel like my mind keeps defeating me. For example, one thought I have right now is that my entire life sucks and is boring. I mostly get flashbacks from my childhood being alone at school with no friends (I later got friends but took a while). I felt like I never satisfied my parents as a child either. But I'm obviously wrong because my dad's greatest memories are of me as a kid and he proudly says it. Somehow I'm not seeing something right. Almost everything can trigger flashbacks. Any help?
    p.s. I don't think I've ever been seen as normal since I have few friends, never cared about driving, often get laughed at when doing something wrong (that's why I do my best to do it right the first time) and so on. I also had speech therapy which is techinically "special ed". It really hurts.

    • ANSWER:
      Sweetheart I used to be in the SAME BOAT.

      Okay, first thing's first: happiness is a choice. The reason why you are upset is literally because you are choosing to be upset, to focus on the negative things in life rather than the positive. It's hard to imagine it as a choice because it doesn't feel that way. Believe me, I know. Depression runs in my family, some of them are on prozac and such, so please don't think I'm talking out of my ass.

      If you're taking a walk outside and see some flowers, what's the first thing you think? Is it "OMG BEES?!" or is it "those are pretty!". It's about perception. You have a father who loves you- how many people don't? You have friends- you know first hand what it feels like to not have them. You're young and healthy- better than old and handicapped! Make a list (I'm serious) of all the great, amazing things in your life, and refer back to it whenever you need to. Also, take the time to REALIZE what you're thinking! You probably get down on yourself without even realizing it.

      So, whenever you're feeling depressed, realize what exactly it is that you're upset about. Chances are, it's not a big deal at all. And another thing: if you are anywhere in the range of 13-17, please realize that 90% of what you're feeling is hormone based. It will not (I promise!) be this way forever. It's difficult to look at the future as something that is legitimately coming, and will most certainly contain different things than what you're experiencing today, but I promise it's true :) .

      If all else fails, there is medication that can help you with what you're going through, but it's best to talk to your doctor about that of course :)

  43. QUESTION:
    Does Wellbutrin actually work for depression, social anxiety, and ADD?
    i've never taken any antidepressants but now i feel i need to. i never felt this way before college and its having a huge effect on my life. ive always been shy and had ADD so im trying to find the best antidepressant for me.

    im meeting with a psychiatrist soon and want to see what he thinks about Wellbutrin/other options.

    Wellbutrin seems to have the fewest side effects and ive heard it helps with ADD and social anxiety. Please address all three (depression, social anxiety, and ADD). Thanks.

    • ANSWER:
      Well it's been a while since I brushed up on my anti-depressant research, but I can tell you this:

      Wellbutrin is a dopaminergic antidepressant. It works by helping the brain to regulate the neurotransmitter dopamine. Dopamine appears to be one of the main problems in people with ADD.

      Research does show that Wellbutrin helps with ADD, but it does not help as much as stimulants such as Ritalin, Dexedrine and Adderall. Wellbutrin also helps with depression, but SSRIs usually help more.

      SSRIs (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors) are the other common antidepressants and they work on the neurotransmitter serotonin. SSRIs include Prozac, Zoloft, Paxil and many others. SSRIs are:
      1. more effective than wellbutrin for treating depression and anxiety
      2. less effective for treating ADD than Wellbutrin (though they do help with ADD, just not as much as Wellbutrin)

      However, this is on average. Which medication works best for YOU will depend on YOUR brain chemistry. If you have a bigger problem with dopamine, Wellbutrin will work better for you. If your brain is lower on serotonin, you'll be better off with an SSRI.

      Unfortunately, there is no way to tell which medicine will work best except to try them. Be forewarned that your doctor may recommend whichever drug the drug company is paying him to recommend. (I think drug companies are paying for Adderall XR right now and I don't know which antidepressant.) So the doctor may try to persuade you NOT to take Wellbutrin or Prozac or whatever you have decided on. They may start listing the side effects of them or saying they are no good or whatever.

      Just ignore them. All the SSRIs are pretty similar to each other, the dopaminergic antidepressants are similar (Wellbutrin and Effexor are the two I know of) and all the stimulants are similar to each other (Ritalin, Dexedrine, Concerta, Adderall, etc.)

      Adderall XR is no better than Dexedrine XR. The doctor just makes more money by selling you Adderall XR.

      SIDE EFFECTS
      None of these medications have a lot of side effects. I know they list a lot of side effects on the bottle, because they have to. By law they have to list every symptom anyone ever has on the drug. Sure, there are rare cases of serious side effects, but they are very rare. In reality SSRIs, dopaminergic antidepressants and stimulants all have a few, mild side effects that almost always go away within the first few weeks of taking them.

      MY RECOMMENDATION
      It sounds like the social anxiety and depression are your biggest concerns, so I would recommend an SSRI for you (Prozac, Zoloft or any other SSRI. Google SSRI for more info.) Also, depression and anxiety often make ADD much worse, so if you take care of the depression and anxiety, the ADD will probably get better on its own.

      If you try the SSRI and it doesn't help, ask to switch to Wellbutrin and try that for a few weeks.

      If the SSRI helps with the depression, but you are still struggling with ADD try taking the SSRI and a stimulant at the same time.

      P.S. I started a thread because I was curious what are the current drugs that doctors are getting kickbacks for. It is here if you want to see it: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=ArWuP6CfJyY5hPno1sfXT6_sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20081212125828AALWfcZ

  44. QUESTION:
    need serious help... have depression, social anxiety, suicidal?
    I have clinical depression, social anxiety, and I'm pretty much suicidal. I'm on meds, and they are not working at all. My mom won't pay for my therapy anymore.
    I've sort of quit going to school. I don't leave the house much, so basically my social life is nonexistent. Tried to kill myself a couple of times. and to make matters worse I have an older sister who is the complete opposite of me. She has lots of friends, popular at her school, has a super nice boyfriend, EVERYTHING. She's told her friends about me, referring to me as her "emo sister." and they pretty much think I'm a freak. I suffered a mental breakdown in December of last year. I called 911. I was so scared... I thought I was seriously going to go through with killing myself. The police came and took me to a mental hospital. Stayed there for about a week. The doctors, everyone there told me everything would be fine and eventually get better. And yet nothing's changed. I don't know anymore. I don't know what to do.
    * I'm 15. I'm a very anti-social person, and I feel like life isn't worth living. This is my second time posting this question because I need as many answers and as much help as I can get. I really feel like I'm on the end of the line here.

    • ANSWER:
      Nothing's changed because you haven't worked to make them change.

      Yes, I was diagnosed with clinical depression, bipolar disorder, PTSD, general anxiety, tried to kill myself, self-injured, blah blah blah. Nothing helped. Not any of the three pills I went on. None of the five therapists. Not church (ha), nothing helped. Until someone told me what I just told you.

      Things will not get better until you work to make them get better. If you laze around and wait for things to get better, they won't. Just like if you laid around and expected to get in shape. To make money.

      You can not have output without input. You just have to tell all of your disorders to get over themselves, they don't have to exist, and they don't. It's the hardest thing you will do, but it's the only way to get better, no one else can do the work for you. Only you can make yourself happy. And yes, it will take time. Everything takes time. Even microwaving food. If happiness was as easy as making a Hot Pocket, everyone would be happy.

  45. QUESTION:
    I have depression, and servere social anxiety with moderate post traumatic stress disorder. I am 17.?
    Many conselors and psychiatrists have diagnosed me with dysthymia depression, social anxiety, and mild to moderate post traumatic stress disorder. I am a 17 year old male who has suffered with these conditions for my entire life. Medication has helped me a lot but due to problems I am no longer able to take them for reasons I do not want to state. My conditions affect my life, my school, and my ability to function as a normal person. I am not, nor have I ever been suicidal though which is a very good thing. If you were in my shoes, and medication was not an option, and money was limited to only seeing a counselor once a month to 6 weeks, what would you do if you were me in terms of dealing or treating these problems? I am physically fit although I do not exercise on a daily basis becasue my conditions prevent me from having energy and exercising properly on a daily basis. I am basically stuck. Any advice? Any websites that I can read that may help me? Any reccomended books that I should order or checkout at the library? Just any advice that may help me even if its a little thing.

    • ANSWER:

  46. QUESTION:
    Social Anxiety, Depression, and low Self-Confidence?
    I have all 3 and its really having an impact on my life..nothing seems to help..i try to put myself out there and what not..but it keeps getting worse. I have no insurance so its hard for me to see a dr. any suggestions.? your help will be greatly appreciated.
    btw...i'm 20..and its really hard for me getting out there and meeting new people..i just really need some help...

    • ANSWER:
      Regularly monitor your internal monologue (self talk): write down the negative ones: "I'm pretty ugly" and then the converse: "I'm fairly good looking", and next time you become aware that you are thinking the former, visualise, as vividly as possible, a big "STOP!!!" sign, and deliberately repeat 5 times, either aloud, in a big voice, if alone, or subvocally (to yourself, in your mind), the converse affirmation. Habits take about 30 - 40 repetitions to become established, with most people.

      Cease comparing yourself unfavorably with others, using the STOP sign: "I am a unique individual, with potential, and my own set of skills". Keep your head up, and look people in the eye, or on the bridge of their nose. See self esteem/confidence, in section 38, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and consider volunteering, even from home, at first. It will also provide a solid basis in reality for the daily affirmations: "I am a good person, who is valued by my community, because I ..(insert activity here).." Section 47 also refers. On volunteering outside the home, you will come into contact with supportive people, and receive positive feedback for your efforts, which will be obviously appreciated: there are many options; one is sure to suit you. Practise one of the relaxation methods on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed. Also, give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you.

      Section 53, and pages 2, 2.q and 2.o at ezy-build also refer. "Even though I sometimes have low self esteem/confidence, I deeply and completely accept myself". ~~~ Read: "Lift your mood now." by John D Preston, Psy.D. 2001, New Harbinger Publications, Inc., 5674 Shattuck Avenue, Oakland. CA 94609 http://www.amazon.com/ may be worth trying for this, as it has a good section on building self esteem, using a different approach.

      1. Build up your self-esteem. You must take an inventory. What do you want to improve or change about the way you interact with others? Try to make only one change at a time. Always check you progress before making another change.
      2. Celebrate your journey, not your destination. Learn to always feel good about where you are now, and to exude self-confidence about anywhere you might find yourself tomorrow.

      3. Set clear goals for yourself before every interaction. Know what you want. Think about how the people you will be meeting can help you reach those goals. Then decide how to approach each person accordingly. Apply this regularly and you will notice a difference.
      4. Be proactive. Take the initiative. Be decisive. Let the other person know exactly how he or she can help you. Proactive people tend to be more successful in their career.

      5. Treat each person you meet as if she or he is truly important. (You'll be amazed how this works.)
      6. Give a firm handshake; look the other person straight in the eye. Practice both of these. Your handshake should be just right. Not too firm and not too loose. Train yourself to notice something you like or find attractive in the person.

      7. Listen! Listen! Listen! Teach yourself to develop good listening skills. Learn a way to remember the other person's name. If in doubt simply ask for the name again 2 or 3 sentences into the conversation. ~~~ Here is an exercise that can help you. It is called "Act as If." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are confident, and outgoing. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior.

      Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit.

      Like yourself
      The first step in becoming more confident is to accept and like yourself. You should make a list of all your positive traits and strengths on a piece of paper or in your diary. By doing this, you are reminding yourself that you too have praise-worthy qualities like others. You will like yourself and feel confident about yourself after this. See COMPREHENSIVE POST - GENERAL POST: SHYNESS & SOC. ANX, in section 9, and depression: section 2 (see page R first).

  47. QUESTION:
    I have surrendered to my mental problems. I am going to be taking Lexapro for Social Anxiety/Depression...?
    If I take these pills to get over a HUMP in my life - is it easy to stop them within 6 months and see how I do without them at that point? Will I be exactly who I was before I started taking them? I want to use them to get through a rough time, But with therapy and the pills I would like to eventually be able to just stop them and move on with my life without them. is this a possibility or am I signing up for a life time of medication? I also want to be sure it won't make me WORSE off when I stop taking them then I was before...Any insight guys? Also - I have been taking Xanax and it has worked wonders for calming down my mind but hasn't helped my social anxiety too much...Are lexapro and xanax ever taken together??
    I just really wanna know if I start taking a medication and its not for me, can I wean off of it and feel the way I did beforehand- or will it change me somehow? thanks guys!!!

    • ANSWER:
      It's going to be hard to go off them, but possible. Unfortunately, nobody can answer the questions you pose with certainty, not even doctors. This is why I stubbornly refused medication for a month, although my depression and generalised anxiety got very bad, my partner left me, my mum got cancer and my finances are not great. I was crying for an hour non-stop during counselling. I have now changed counsellor, and after 2 months feel much better - but, obviously, I was not able to work and live normally for that one month.

      My point is, are you really sure you cannot get over this with other ways? Of course it depends on what you are going through in your life (may be worse than mine). For social anxiety cognitive behavioural therapy is helpful.

      From another answer in Yahoo!Answers I found this about LEXAPRO, you might find it helpful: http://www.drugawareness.org/recentcases/lexapro-journalist-has-side-effects-not-sure-lexapro-is-working-u-s
      It seems that it may help you if you suffer from severe depression: 'In a study published last January by the Journal of the American Medical Association, scientists conducting a meta-analysis of existing research found that antidepressants were unquestionably “useful in cases of severe depression” but frankly not much help for the rest of us. “The magnitude of benefit of antidepressant medication compared with placebo,” the study’s authors concluded, “may be minimal or nonexistent, on average, in patients with mild or moderate symptoms.”'

      Having said all of the above, you seem like the person who will have the will power and self discipline to GRADUALLY go off medication, and get on with your life with the help of therapy. I completely disagree with the person who said that if your conditions are neurologically based you cannot get on with your life without medication. It's harder, but it's possible to learn and manage your condition, sort of like a diabetic watching what they eat on a regular basis - this is what I try to do. But if your life situation is so hard you feel you can't cope, you should listen to yourself and not to me.

      I do have one friend who suffers from multiple sclerosis, and this gradually influenced her mobility to the point of her getting very depressed - understandably. She is the only person I know who told me that antidepressants made her feel like herself again - she is still on them, but then her mobility is not improving and she has to stay indoors all the time.

      Either way, managing a mental health condition is like a constant struggle, and tough situations in life don't help... You have to try to be strong, with or without medication, and try to find what's best for you, not me or my friend... For me, the uncertainty of not knowing the answer to questions same as yours was too much to deal with, and actually this strengthened my resolution to overcome my problems without medication. But I would be definitely open to taking medication if I, in my heart, knew I wouldn't be able to cope otherwise. Don't let me scare you into not taking needed medication, and don't let doctors and drug companies scare you into taking unneeded medication... The choice is ultimately yours.

      Choose wisely :) I wish you all the best and hope things get better soon!

  48. QUESTION:
    marijuana can help for depression and social anxiety?
    im despered, i need something, and antidepresant and all that i think is worse than marijuana, so advice and anyone have tried marijuana and work? yes or no anyone can help advice.

    • ANSWER:
      It does work for depression, but a lot of people are going to tell you it's bad, and a drug and all that. Yes, it is considered a drug, but so is Prozac, which is man made. Marijuana has been documented to help depression, eating disorders, glaucoma, PTSS and even some life threatening disorders and is a plant that grows wild, not altered by man. My aunt has a prescription for it because she has Hepatitis C. She's had it for over 20 years. Her prescriber said she has minimal liver damage because of her smoking marijuana. Hey, she said it, not me, I know some people will find that hard to believe. The main componnent of marijuana, tetrahydracannibinol (the stuff that gets you high) has some amazing qualities. So if you really want to give it a try, I say go for it. It is better that taking pills, and doesn't have the possible side-effect of "thoughts of suicide" like a lot of depression medications have. It also starts working to make you feel better a LOT faster. You will have to find a special doctor that will give you the prescription and find marijuana clubs that you can legally buy marijuana from. Here's a site to help you get educated: http://www.norml.org/index.cfm
      Good luck!

  49. QUESTION:
    Social anxiety/Depression and work.?
    Hii,
    This is my first post so here we go ^_^

    (Ive had S.A since i was 12, or so we think and i have only started getting help for it as i have been through alot of bad experiences the past year. I live with my 19 year old bf as i was kicked out on my 16th birthday by my dad who used to be my best friend, but then he began abusing me after he became depressed, i was also sexually harrassed by a 49 year old man who was 'helping' us by letting us stay at his guest house when we where homeless,i have no contact with my family, i suffer from depression, my s.a is through the roof since i was sexually harassed, i also and i self harm alot - FUN, but yeah, things are pretty difficult and have been for a year now.
    I was on income support for a while when me and my bf got our place, until i found work - I LOVED IT! i could sit at home all day and never have to face the outdoors, finally, my bf found me a job..and i had to do it because being on benefits is 'scummy' and he was working so i felt guilty)

    I'm 16 years old and i started work about a month ago working in an office. Its SO hard for me to get the bus in a morning and the one at night just makes me feel weak and shakey. Anyway, i've been working for about a month, its so hard for me to face doing it every morning and i just get drained by 10 oclock from stress and worry. Its the worst possible job in the world because i have to answer phones and go into meetings which i just cant handle anymore, i feel like i want to have a panic attack and as soon as i get home i eat, then sleep until the morning so i dont think about what happened that day because it just gets me down to the point where i'll cut. Worst thing of all is i have to go to college one day a week starting this week to get an NVQ to do my job!! I cant deal with it, its making me ill. Its causing issues in my relationship, i keep having panic attacks, i scream and break things, i hit my bf, i just cant deal with the feeling of being cluttered up inside with everything thats happening to make me stress and depressed, it just builds up and makes me have a panic attack or it will make me lay in bed all weekend and shout at my bf to F off when he comes into the room, its not fair on him, he has done a hell of a lot for me. I want to go onto income support again and stay home with my pets so the stress and depression goes away. I think i could handle voluntary work one day a week so im not being a total recluse. & then when im better and happy again i can start finding work again! that would be amazing. But we would get less money, and i havent even been paid for this job yet anyway when im supposed to get paid weekly!!! She says her clients havent paid her yet so she cant pay me, and the 1st 3 weeks where 'PRACTICE' urghhhhh.

    I feel like a pathetic teenager who thinks she has all the issues in the world for posting this, im sorry.

    Help?
    (eek..sorry for rant,)
    xx
    Thank you!
    oh and i know i should work, i would like to work. Just with the way i am now and working = a BAD combination which is making me feel very hopeless and much more depressed. I dont want to sound like a scummy 16 year old scavenging off benefits...i just want to get better first. Going out just stops the process of it. :s
    x
    Gloria: I will soon be receiving treatment from a child councillor, i have been assessed and i have been put on a priority list.

    • ANSWER:
      Honestly, I think you should go back to school or at least get your GED so you can feel like you have SOME control over your life and you can at least start doing things that you want to do. And you can go to college on Financial Aid and loans and you can build up your self esteem there, its much different than high school and your ideas will get much more support there. You need to build yourself up on your own and not rely on a boyfriend or some guy to keep you from falling down. You need to be able to stand up on your own two feet and be comfortable and happy with who you are and what you have done.

      I was in your same position when I was 19. I didn't get "better" until I had to work 30+ hours a week and it kind of "broke me" in a sense, but then you have to keep on it or you will fall back into depression or fall onto another guy for strength which will not make you more able to deal with this condition.

      You don't want to work a crappy job the rest of your life. Social Security is not secure and not feeling like you have value in society will eventually get you down when you get to be in your 20's when everyone else around you is buying houses and new cars. Believe me! I screwed up my life with a bad, overly dependent marriage sealed by fear and loneliness and ended with debt and bad credit.

  50. QUESTION:
    Social anxiety/Depression/Fuked Up!?!?! HELP!?
    I avoid social situations at ALL costs!, i have since i was young. i was scared of other people when i was younger and now its this overwhelming fear that haunts me everyday even with people i know very well.
    when im in social situations i stress out,get tense,sweaty the whole works! i become so uncomfortable i feel like i cant walk. but then something happens .. then tension goes away,i feel blank,i suddenly have very few thoughts running though my head, im comfortable..
    From all the stress i start feeling dis-personalized. (depersonalization)
    honestly i wish i would just feel stressed out i hate the spacey feeling, i cant focus on whats going on around me.. (or maybe that's due to something else? )
    When i get home and try to relax i feel as tho someones watching me.. maybe they have set up some camera( i always check Teddy's for cameras), or maybe someones watching just outside of my window.. i know how stupid it is but i cant control the 'thoughts'
    And finally when i go to bed i feel so tired and depressed, i wounder why no on loves me or why i cant just be normal. or why cant i feel happy even every now and then..

    Help?!?!

    • ANSWER:
      Goodness gracious, you must be exhausted! Are you tired of all the thoughts racing, repeating and confusing things?

      I found myself in a state where i would have absolutely written line for line what you have written.

      I now have hind sight, and i can share a bit of what i learnt with you. I think you will have relief in time, just like i did.

      I thought first i might have agoraphobia. Simple, I thought, i just don't like people. Groups i thought. I had trouble with employment and self esteem. I deep down thought, I hate life. I 'hate' these people. I 'hate' having to work for money. I 'hate' that if i don't feel well in my head, my whole day is a waste of time. And after a while every day was in a grey cloud of self hatred, self pity, (no one likes me, loves me, calls me, cares for me) and paranoia, (checking the curtains, the holes or gaps in things, hearing noises) Everyday events like washing clothes, checking the mail, doing dishes were very painful as life was so unhappy and undeniably wrong. I kept looking up to the sky and looking for a way out. A trapdoor to another realm. A human realm, but not Earth.
      I didn't seem to fit in, even though i was human, and my brain was a mess of racing thoughts and self doubt/(?hatred?). I still don't know if i actually hated myself, but it felt that way. It's like a blur of pain.
      At the time i thought;
      'The world is not as i imagined. The love i have had has not healed my wounds. The rat race i must participate in is disappointing, and the people in my life aren't as dynamic and supportive as i would like. I am not as smart as i need to be to become a vet, so i wait tables. I have not got a million dollars. I don't have a car a pony a motorbike, or an iphone. I owe money. I have no pets, can't find matching socks, never said goodbye to my grandpa, stole mums necklace and lied about it, but every one knew, dumped friends for boys or boys for friends, made mistakes, hurt people and hurt myself the most.' Disappointment meter on maximum.

      Mental Stress caused me a mental illness. They call it anxiety. They tried to get me on regular Med's to 'fix' my problem. I wouldn't accept that.

      The world let me down. That's why I'm stressed.
      A whole bunch of disappointment. Disney films and primary school told me to believe that i would be special one day. That i would matter. That life would shine a light on me and i would be important to a cause, to anything. That i am unique and special. I can do what I want.

      As life wipes all that away as you get older, and you barely get by, you force your smiles, your thoughts are confusing, and your future is uncertain, you can get Anxiety, which if left untreated can blow up in your face. It creeps up until you have a whole list of issues, just like the issues you have listed. It took me over a year to realise i am not going crazy, and i am not the only one to stop being 'normal' and slip down 'crazy' lane.

      My advice is embrace the change you need to make to get to the next stage of your life, it will be better, you will know yourself better, and you will jump into a fresh set of skill to use when stress bothers your brain next time.
      There is crisis.
      Crisis is represented by 2 symbols in Japanese.
      Conflict and Opportunity.
      Focus not on the conflict, ......but the opportunity.
      Be wise and stay kind to yourself always.
      Change the stress from crippling, to growth and understanding.
      The brain is asking for your help.
      Aim to the future, take it for what it might be, not what you want it to be.
      Accept that even IF no one likes you, there are things that matter more, develop an awesome skill, for me it was canvas art. And don't let your self spend another day in the same routine, change a small bit each day until it is different. You have to think a smile is better than a frown and Choose to smile instead, even when you are alone (this helps your brain feel better) and Yoga is unexplainably AWESOME for stress. (maybe it is explainable but i can't explain, i just know it made me cry with joy and feel relieved in a way i have never experienced before or since.)
      And validate or encourage yourself. No letter will come in the mail saying you are well again. A bit better is good enough. Don't expect too much too quick. Take it easy to recover. Be kind to your self, you may not 'love' yourself yet, but at least be kind and friendly with yourself. It's the least you can do...... :)


Help For Social Anxiety

Written By: admin - Apr• 20•12

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Caring for an autistic child can be very challenging. No one can tell exactly how much sacrifice and patience it entails to care for an autistic child unless he/she has had experienced caring for one. Thus, parents who offer their unfaltering love and devotion to their autistic children are truly commendable. The anxiety and stress that accompanies bringing up such a special child can prove to be too much for the parents. And because autistic children are inherently impaired in terms of communication and socially interacting with other people, taking them along during trips or family outings can be quite a feat. The unpredictability of autistic children's behavior in reaction to external factors can be so threatening on the child and very heartbreaking on the parents, that it is like a ticking time bomb on the verge of exploding. It is very hard to tell when they would throw fits or tantrums. Should such incidents occur, it is equally traumatic for both the children and their parents. Below are some anxiety help tips for autistic children that parents should undertake prior to taking them on family trips.

Frequently Asked Questions

  1. QUESTION:
    How can I overcome social anxiety in order to ride the bus to the psychiatrist?
    I have really bad anger issues and social anxiety, and depression problems. I used to be on meds but I'm not anymore, and the symptoms are back. Im 20 and I cant be depending on my mom for rides. How can I take a bus or train without having a panic attack? People think I'm lazy because I only want rides, it angers me because that is not the case at all. Please help.

    • ANSWER:
      Don't look at anyone, and imagine you're in your own little world, even thought that sounds crazy. Just ignore it and count to ten everytime you panic.

  2. QUESTION:
    What is the best medication for social anxiety?
    What are some medications that are avaliable in generic that are good for social anxiety and occasional panic attacks? I mainly just have social anxiety and when I have to get infront of the class, but I take valium for that but what would help for the social anxiety? what about welbutrin? but I am NOT a smoker.

    • ANSWER:
      It's hard to say what is best. Each medication works slightly differently for each person, some experience alot of side effects while the next person says the medication is great. Only a doctor can really say what is best for your lifestyle, and it may take some trying to find a medication you are really happy with.

  3. QUESTION:
    Which antidepressants seems to work best for social anxiety and other anxiety disorders?
    I have social anxiety, OCD tendacies, GAD, and bipolar. I'm currently a senior and going back to school soon, so I need some help. What are some meds to help me with my social anxiety. I'm going to the doctor soon and I want to try a antidepressant again. Prozac worked ok for me but it made me manic.

    • ANSWER:

  4. QUESTION:
    How can I get treatment for social anxiety?
    I've displayed several symptoms of social anxiety/phobia, but I don't have any health insurance so I can't seek professional help. I live in California - is there a program of some sort that can help me with this, that doesn't require insurance?

    • ANSWER:
      View the information and weblinks for social anxiety/shyness, and self confidence, in sections 9, and 38, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris Here is an exercise that can help you. It is called "Act as If." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior.

      Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit.

      Try this for a month, in every situation you can. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave.

      People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot". But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy). It will teach you that, although it isn't actually pleasant, you will survive; be stronger for the experience, and the next time (should you need to repeat this type of therapy) will be considerably easier. Remember: "A fear avoided is a fear strengthened; a fear faced is a fear reduced." Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me".

      Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind.
      Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger.

      Although there are anti-anxiety medications (anxiolytics) available, these come with risks, and the possibility of side effects, habituation, even addiction, and withdrawal problems, and are unsuitable for young people.

      Try having a cup of "Tension Tamer", herbal tea, by Celestial Seasonings, (from supermarket tea, or health food aisles) or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed (I find it so strong tasting, that I need to drink it quickly, followed by something like fruit juice, to take away the taste, but others may find it more tolerable). C(h)amomile tea is a more palatable option. As with all herbal/green teas, use lemon/lime, and/or a little sweetener (NOT ARTIFICIAL!!!) but no cream, or milk.

      Xylitol, or Stevia is preferable, (health food stores) or fruit sugar (fructose, such as "Fruisana", from supermarket sugar aisles) or even a little honey, because these will reduce "sugar spikes". Valerian has also been recommended, but some people experience "valerian hangovers". Ensure you know how you react to it, before doing something potentially dangerous, like going out on the roads. The idea is to use the above like water wings, to provide initial, short term support, while you become proficient in the above techniques.

  5. QUESTION:
    What medications help with social anxiety?
    What medications help with social anxiety? I know that there are a lot of anti-anxiety drugs but I am looking for any that specifically help with social anxiety.
    And I'm not interested in alternative methods other than medications. I already know of all of them.

    • ANSWER:
      Zoloft is specifically for social anxiety as well as range of others. Good Luck.

  6. QUESTION:
    How do I tell my best friend I have social anxiety?
    I have recently found out I have social anxiety disorder which has led to depression, and I have a psychologist etc to help me, but that will take a while and I've had it bad for a while already. I want to tell my best friend because he seems to think I'm being ignorant when I'm just kinda scared around other people. How do I tell him that I'm not being ignorant and tell him why I'm like this?

    • ANSWER:
      just be honest&upfront with your friend, if your friend is anything of a mate they wil help you through this! social anxiety&depression is bad enough to go through alone so speak to your friend. if they are anything of a mate they will understand&try to help etc. it's hard for a
      friend to help someone through something like this but give them a chance! I went through something similar when I was 17& it helps when friends are there for you.good luck!

  7. QUESTION:
    How long does prozac take to help social anxiety?
    I know it is supposed to take several weeks to help depression but is it the same with anxiety? I feel that social anxiety is a bigger problem for me than the depression itself.

    I've been taking 10mg Prozac for 2 weeks and just 3 days ago my doc took me up to 20mg.

    • ANSWER:
      Chemically, it can take anywhere from 2 days to 2 weeks to take effect. However, there IS a placebo effect when taking antidepressants that may cause you to feel more outgoing from the first moment of ingestion.

      Remember, no medication is a cure-all. You need to start engaging in the right mental exercises and activities to trigger the behavior response you're aiming for.

      Start with some of the suggestions in this article:
      http://www.stop-anxiety-panic-attack.com/lp/overcome-social-anxiety.html

      Good Luck!

  8. QUESTION:
    How can I get help for a social anxiety disorder without anyone knowing?
    I really want help. I am 15 and I have always had underlying problems of social phobia and anxiety. It first started with school when I was very young, and I have found it difficult to keep friends and have never got rid of anxiety for school. I really want to get rid of this because it is messing up my life but I don't want to let my parents know. They would not take me seriously. Can I get help with someone without anyone knowing?

    • ANSWER:
      It is soo hard growing up with SAD. Unfortunately the only way I could get treatment was to see a psychiatrist who prescribed me medicine. I am 23 years old now and have no signs of ever having Social Anxiety Disorder, are you sure you can't go to your parents for help and support?

  9. QUESTION:
    What symtoms does medication relieve for social anxiety?
    I suffer from social anxiety and am currently seeking cognitive behavioural therapy. However, with starting uni soon, i feel i need something else to help manage this condition. Has anyone found the medication to be successful and does it help lowself esteem?

    • ANSWER:
      If you find that your social anxiety is still keeping you from enjoying your life, despite counselling, you should ask your doctor to prescribe an antidepressant such as Paxil, which is particularly good for that condition. I don't like to recommend tranquilizers as they can be addictive. Paxil is well tolerated by most people and you will find that your mood will lift, which will relieve your anxiety. I would also like to invite you to attend a NAMI meeting, where you will meet others in your situation and make new friends.

  10. QUESTION:
    How can i get help for social anxiety?
    So im 17, and im pretty damn sure i have social anxiety. I hate it so much i end up drinking everyday to get rid of it. Thing is id have a a hard time explaining this to my parents , i think im too embarassed to talk about it with them. How can tell a doctor about this so i can get help?

    • ANSWER:
      I've never been diagnosed with it but I'm pretty sure I've had social anxiety my whole life. Usually parents are the cause, not the solution. lol. I've found that practice, practice, practice helps the most and that after the teen years things improve considerably.

      One time when I saw a counsellor about something else entirely, I also got some tips about managing anxiety (fancy word for fear), and she recommended a workbook called "The Anxiety & Phobia self-help workbook". I worked through it and most of it contained stuff I'd already read myself previously but given your age it might contain something new for you. I also noticed that there is a "Shyness & Social Anxiety" workbook out there too.

      Cognitive Behaviour Therapy might help a bit as well.

      After I stopped putting doctors and counsellors on a pedestal, I met a regular everyday joe that talked to me about human emotions and how they are all natural and come with a gift if we are willing to embrace them.

      The gift of fear is Wisdom. Every time you face and embrace yours, you will notice that you get some. Keep doing that and one day you'll be a really wise guy. :) Good luck and keep at it!

  11. QUESTION:
    Where can I get meds for social anxiety other than my family doctor?
    I do not feel comfortable going to my family doctor for my social anxiety issue. Is there somewhere else that I can go other than a family doctor? I don't know the difference between a psychiatrist and a psychologist. Would both be able to help? I am interested in starting on meds.
    Thanks.

    • ANSWER:
      You would need to see a psychiatrist for medication. Depending on insurance though, you may need a referral from your family doctor. Also, they may want you to see a psychologist as well.

      Psychiatrist - prescribes medication for mental illness
      Psychologist- a "shrink" or therapist. Someone who cannot prescribe medication. Someone you "talk about your problems" with.

  12. QUESTION:
    Who do you go to first for social anxiety disorder? How much does it cost or is it covered?
    Where do you go to get help for social anxiety disorder? Do you go to the doctor or go to a psychologist or something like that?

    How much does it cost or is it covered by insurance ( the visit + medication) I'm 17 and i doubt my mom would want to pay for it.

    • ANSWER:
      It all depends on your insurance. I had to go to the doctor first and get a referral to go to a therapist. My insurance paid for a certain amount of visit a year, but each insurance policy is different. Also, you're assuming that your mom wouldn't want to pay. Talk to her, let her know what the problem is, let her know why you want to get help, you're assumption could be wrong. I started out telling my mom by making a list of "symptoms". I then, not telling my mom what this was about, asked her to answer yes or no about if the the things on the list describe me.

  13. QUESTION:
    How to overcome social anxiety disorder?
    I am suffering from social anxiety disorder for a few years now. Tried a lot of varies treatments but very little of them used to help. Please give some advice on how to overcome social anxiety disorder.

    Thanks

    • ANSWER:
      Hmm.. I have a bit of this too. I think the best thing to do is to see a counsellor. My counsellor says the best thing for people like us is just to have someone to talk to and be 'human' with. If you can connect with someone, even if it's just your counsellor, then you can learn to work your way up to connecting with more people.

      Sorry I can't give more help, but you didn't say much about your background/experiences.

      And btw I love your pic and name too ;)

  14. QUESTION:
    How do you treat social anxiety disorder?
    I have had social anxiety disorder since I was 7. I'm 20 now and seems like its getting worse every single day. I don't have the money for therapy or medication so is there anything I can do by myself to help me?

    • ANSWER:
      Try your local county mental health clinic, they opften can offer therapy for those that can't afford it. Or see if you can find a support group in your area, that might help.

  15. QUESTION:
    How can I become a go getter, with social anxiety, and a stubborn attitude?
    I am a young adult, I haven't had a job, I want one but I am stubborn and have social anxiety. I want so badly to live a normal life, work and work alot! But how can I get myself to do it?

    I would like to hear stories of people who were like me and are doing good now...

    I need some inspiration & advice.

    What kind of jobs do I look for first? And I don't drive so that doesn't help! I feel trapped and just down right now!

    • ANSWER:

  16. QUESTION:
    What kind of doctor diagnoses social anxiety?
    psychologist, therapist, who?
    could i just walk into a doctor's office for a check up and say, "i think i have social anxiety disorder?"
    i want to get help.

    • ANSWER:
      Hi,
      I have social anxiety disorder, otherwise known as social phobia here in the UK. I got help by going to my gp (normal family doctor) and told them my problems, ie feeling anxious whenever I was in public, like in a supermarket, at the checkouts, on a bus
      ... basically everywhere and with anyone... even family!!! My doctor then prescribed me with an SSRI antidepressant (fluoxitine) and referred me for CBT (Cognitive behaviour therapy). As it has happened, I did not do too well with Fluoxitine, and have since been prescribed Paroxatine and am now on Sertraline and Propranolol. I feel A LOT better and my anxiety has almost become zero and I have my life back. I have been on medication for about a year now; I believe that it takes about 6 months to work to be honest. At first the SSRI's can may you feel worse (they did me, especially Fluoxitine) but once you find a good SSRI that suits you it is amazing how much better you can feel. You certainly dont have to suffer unneccessarily with social anxiety disorder, their is a lot of treatment for it and the doctors are certainly not fazed by you saying that you have it at all. Good luck and I hope that you feel better before too long.. It is a problem that is treatable (very much so in fact) even though you may think that you are untreatable!! Go along to you doctor next week and get your treatment started. Kind regards

  17. QUESTION:
    What are the names of prescription drugs for Social Anxiety Disorder?
    I am not a doctor, but I've done enough research online to know I have social anxiety disorder, and this has explained the way I have acted my whole life. Now my disorder is getting more severe. I'm losing contact with so many friends because of my apprehension and it is negatively impacting my career, because It is so hard to communicate with people. I need the names of medicines that help with social anxiety disorder so i can tell the doctor.

    • ANSWER:
      Most doctors will prescribe an SSRI, such as zoloft or paxil. Try doing a search on webmd.com or www.mayoclinic.com and you will be able to find more of what you are looking for.

      In all honesty it is the doctor who will decide which medication to start you on and every doctor seems to have their own favorite.

  18. QUESTION:
    Will working out help my social anxiety?
    I do not want to take medicines to overcome my social anxiety. Has anyone had any personal experience with working out, such as running and strength training, to alleviate social anxiety. Thank you for your time.

    • ANSWER:
      if you are having trouble with stress or anxiety ....check thsi out http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yjPcb3eMS6s lil Dr Jack can helps

  19. QUESTION:
    Who would I be without my social anxiety disorder?
    Its almost impossible to think about. For the past 3 years it's all I know and expect to happen when I am social. I know that I have had social anxiety my whole life but it started getting real bad when my mom died. Where ever I go and talk to people I'm afraid they will think I'm unfriendly or shallow. I know I'm not any of them things I just can't help becoming nervous and not wanting to talk. I'm in therapy and on some medicine. My question is what does a world without social anxiety feel like?

    • ANSWER:
      You are not alone in thinking about this. I often wonder. What would it feel like to have the anxiety and paranoia when in a social situation dissappear? The weight that would be lifted off would be amazing. I wish there was a pill that made it all stop. At least for a day. Because you forgot what it felt like. When you didn't have that. And you want to be like that one more time. But you can't. And that is something you have to live with.

  20. QUESTION:
    What should i do about my social anxiety?
    I realllllly want to go back to being the guy i used to be. Im seventeen, i started taking 20mg lexapro last year for my depression but my social anxiety has not gone away. I often avoid being with friends/going out to places where i'll see people i know. It just sucks, i want to be outgoing and fearless again. Are there any other antidepressants that would work better? please help

    • ANSWER:
      hi , I have been diagnosed with depression, agrophobia, panic attack, depersonalisation, derealisation, and anxiety... and till now after 4 years I am still on no medication... because what ever you take won't help you.. if you take medicines it means you are disapointed... all what you feel now need patient... I know how you feel... for me I feel I wish the death than having all of these.... I am feeling 24/7 all the symptoms that you can imagine... the best way is that

      tell yourself .. all what I feel now is just because of fear... anxiety will never be able to kill me... just go so deep inside yourbody and talk to yourself...if you want to believe what I say just ask yourself that question : "what about if I was alone sitting in my bedroom and suddenly a loud voice comes out,,, what will I do"

      for sure you will start having the symptoms even worst , right? yeah sure... because all what cause you that is fear.

      as yourself another question: " remember when I was in a trouble ... when I suddenly felt I am not going to make it work.. oh my god all my things will show up..." like me myself I remember my worst moment when I hide something and someone want to see it... I feel the exact thing when I am having anxiety... so know all what you feel from being anxious... really... there is nothing wrong with your head... anxiety happen to protect you.. ( if there is a serious danger like a wild dog coming to attack you) but now you are afraid .. because there is no wild dog ...

      if you understand how human mind work.. you will tell yourself ..."ah how bad what i am doing to myself... .." just tell yourself I won't let anxiety put me down.. each time you feel no maybe if i go out I will face something bad.. tell yourself .. "no I have to go,.,, my mind won't control me"

      and you will find it works...

      if you took medicines.. after you stop them .. the symptoms will get worst.. and won't help you at all later on. they don't cure.. just let you sleep..

      search videos on youtube for anxiety.. it helps alot.

      try to sit in a hot bathtub.. with candles... go to spa.. think of good future..

      hope I helped...
      wish you the best .. u r not alone.. now I am writing to u and I feel I am about to faint .. but just ignoring it ..

  21. QUESTION:
    Any good suggestions for books on social anxiety?
    I am going to college this fall and want to look into some sort of book to help me along. I've had social anxiety all my life but now want a new start. So any good reading suggestions?

    • ANSWER:
      I have SAD (specialized anxiety disorder) and moving out of state to go to college was actually the best cure for mine.
      I still take Lexapro but am no longer as bad as I was in high school.
      Don't know any books, just know that everything worked out.

  22. QUESTION:
    What are some good books about social anxiety?
    I'm not looking for like self help books, but books about a character who has social anxiety. If anybody could recommend some, that'd be great. Thanks!

    • ANSWER:
      Just read about a book called "Vibes" by Amy Kathleen Ryan...
      ... the protagonist, a teen girl, definitely has social anxiety, and has to go through her high school days (and uncomfortable home life) not only angry and feeling ugly, etc., but who can also hear people's thoughts... ouch.

      An older book is "She's Come Undone" by Wally Lamb; I've read that one and liked it.
      Another teen in a troubled home who eats because of anxiety; much more occurs.

  23. QUESTION:
    How do I find a doctor to make an appointment for treating my social anxiety disorder?
    I know that I have social anxiety disorder, I just don't know how to go about getting help for it. I am almost positive I need medication to help me cope. How do I find a doctor and make an appointment?

    • ANSWER:
      Talk to your family doctor or your insurance company. If you have an HMO you're going to need a referral, if you have a PPO your insurance company should give you a list of doctors to choose from.

  24. QUESTION:
    What are the best medications for social anxiety ?
    I have suffered with social anxiety for over fifteen years ive tried every kind of group to try conquer it but still it consumes me in my every day life. So much so ive thought of taking my own life. This is something I have to deal with on a daily basis im now really feeling low and cant see any way out I just really need some help and advice. Thanks

    • ANSWER:

  25. QUESTION:
    How do you treat social anxiety disorder is there hope?
    I have had social anxiety disorder for years but the doctors always told me I was just shy which was untrue it was much more than that.I do not have a job not that many friends dont even drive yet due to this .I want to get help and I am just wondering if there is any way to treat this or at least make it tolerable and let me live finally.If you want to make fun of this go right ahead but unless you actually deal with this you have no idea how difficult or hard it is to live with.

    • ANSWER:
      You've gotten good advice so far, i would also remind yourself that its nothing to be embarrassed about, your probably gonna feel a lot better once you get through it, just remind yourself that you have nothing to be anxious about and that people are good, eventually it will sink in and that will be your automatic sub-conscious :)

  26. QUESTION:
    What are some ways to cope with Social Anxiety?
    I have a severe anxiety disorder and I belive I also have social anxiety although I haven't conculted with a doctor. I take a medication for the general anxiety disorder. I would prefer not to take any more medication but I can't keep living like this. I'm very shy and whenever I have to call someone to cancel an apointement or something I get very nervous and worked up about it. IS there any way I can help calm myself during these moments?

    • ANSWER:
      Hi,

      I'm sorry to hear about what is going on.  I was a lot like you and searched the web far and wide for answers.  Eventually, I just got fed up and decided to create my own website to help those suffering from anxiety.  You can find this free resource on google.  It is called Project: I Wanna Live Again.  

      If you are seeking a medication that may help, please keep it natural.  Your body doesn't need anything other then that.  After reviewing many anxiety medications, I chose A2X as my sponsor because they are 100% natural and I personally found them effective.  They even give you a 14 day free trial which is awesome!  I will list the link to it below.  I highly recommend it.  Also, for anxiety help check out Project I Wanna Live Again for a free resource and help.

      In good health,

      Rich

  27. QUESTION:
    How to treat yourself from social anxiety disoreder naturally ?
    mmm, i suffer severly from social anxiety disorder that i cant ask my parents for a phycologist. I cant tolerate this disorder anymore since i am a teenager. Please help me treat myself by myself by a natural way. THANK YOU FOR HELPING

    • ANSWER:
      Visit support groups. There is a website called "social anxiety support" where you can read/share experiences.

      Find a support group in your area. It helps to connect with others who dealing with this disorder.

      Read self-help books. The one I'm currently reading, "Painfully Shy: How to Overcome your Social Anxiety and Reclaim Your Life" by Barbara G. Markway. This book offer techniques to use to battle it plus stories of people with SA.

      Eat healthy. Certain foods we put in our bodies affect our mood so eat fruits, veggies and drink water several times a day. It helps to lay off caffeine or alcoholic drinks.

      Exercise. Set a schedule to routinely exercise and sweat all that negative feelings away. When people exercise, it puts them in a feel good mood.

      Meditate. Clear your head of negative thoughts and have a moment to yourself with serenity.

      Try supplements. Although most SAD sufferers take prescription drugs, go the other route and take supplements. Examples, Vitamin B-12, and Valerian Root are among the many safe to use. Research more about it online too and other supplements good for anxiety.

      Don't give up! Just look at SAD as one of the hurdles (yeah it is a major one) to get through in life. Think positive (use positive affirmations) to remind yourself everyday- you are relaxed, confident, and accept yourself despite your condition, and other people's opinion does not matter because you comes first and THAT'S what's important. SA affects makes us very self-conscious so it's important to channel our thinking pattern to one free of negative self-talks.

      When you start thinking highly, you will believe in yourself and it will almost comes second nature. This will take time, but I'm sure you can overcome it. :)

  28. QUESTION:
    What are some jobs for a teen with social anxiety?
    Hi im a 15 year old girl and i have social anxiety, depression, OCD, and i might be bipolar. I cant find a job with little social interaction. I cant work as a cashier because of talking to people. My anxiety is pretty bad, you have no idea :( Anyway, pleeease help me. I need a job so bad. Thank ya!

    • ANSWER:
      maybe you could try being a stocker (like the people who restock the shelves in the store)
      i don't think that they talk very much, except maybe when the boss tells them where to put something

  29. QUESTION:
    How do I get over my social anxiety?
    I have a really hard time making new friends because I have horrible social anxiety. I appear to be confident but I'm constantly worrying about getting people to approve of me. Whenever I talk to someone new, especially if they're popular, I try to act normal but on the inside I'm freaking out and am desperate for the conversation to be over.

    How do I turn meeting new people into an enjoyable thing?
    And why am I so socially retarded? Help!

    • ANSWER:
      Xanax

  30. QUESTION:
    what are some good remedies for social anxiety, specifically in a high school environment?
    I have social anxiety sometimes when im at school and it seems to be worsened by cold weather. but what are good ways to reduce or help that during the day when im at school.? thanks!

    • ANSWER:
      You mean shyness. I faced my fears and was on the debate team for 2 years. Spoke in church and tried out for plays. Now you can't shut me up.

      I came up with a saying Surf the Pain

  31. QUESTION:
    My best friend has social anxiety. How can I be there for her without being annoying?
    I recently found out a friend of mine has social anxiety. I want to be there for her, but at the same time, not annoy her or make her feel less social. Is it common for her to retreat to the internet more than want to talk to me on the phone? Some pointers from those of you who have SA would be a ton of help. Please help :(

    • ANSWER:
      It is so kind of you to want to be there for your friend and support her with this anxiety she has. Having social anxiety is such an ostracizing illness, because it takes away the things you love most - family and friends.

      One of the biggest things for YOU to remember is that when she doesn't want to hang out or seems to be pushing you away, it's not anything that you've done, it's the anxiety. She is scared and she isn't scared of you, it's just an irrational fear in her brain that is making her afraid of doing the things she really enjoys, like hanging out with her friends.

      When you want to talk to her on the phone, call her up and say, "Hey, what's up?" If she sounds nervous then say, "Is this an okay time to talk, or do you want to call me back later when you're more comfortable?" Or you could send her a text that says, "Hey, I was gonna call you, is that okay?" That way she knows that you really want to be her friend and talk to her, but the ball is in her court and she can rise to the occasion when she is comfortable and ready.

      Also, don't push her to go out places that will make her uncomfortable, like to the mall or movies or other big gatherings. When you want to hang out, suggest that she come over to your place, or you to hers, or somewhere that she is comfortable. What she really needs is to keep that contact with you, her good friend, but she is afraid to because she has this anxiety of being in social situations even with people she truly cares about. As much as it hurts you when she says "No I don't want to hang out today", it actually hurts her even worse because she really DOES want to hang out, it's just that her anxiety makes her feel like she can't. So when you want to hang out, call her up and say, "Hey, I was wondering if you were doing anything this weekend? Do you want to hang out and do something? You pick." That lets her make the decision and allows her to pick a comfortable place where she can be with you and not have to fight her anxiety the whole time.

      I know it's hard and takes a lot of patience to be friends with someone with social anxiety, but the more she realizes that you accept her condition and want to help her work around it, the more comfortable she will become. Half the problem of anxiety is that we sufferers always keep it bottled up inside of us, we don't want the world to know we have anxiety, and that makes us even more anxious. When she knows that you know, and that you accept it and just want to help and make her comfortable, it will actually make her more comfortable and able to hang out with you. People with social anxiety often have a "safe person", who they can venture into social situations with knowing that they are "protected" or safe within the company of that person. You could be that person, and slowly help her get out into the world and face her fears.

      Also, if your friend is not receiving help for her social anxiety, gently encourage her to talk to a counselor at your school about it. Anxiety disorders are very common and VERY responsive to treatment. If she starts getting help now, she can live the rest of her life normal, happy, and social. This is coming from someone who has been there and done that... I got the right treatment, had the right support from loving friends, and now I am perfectly happy going out places and doing things with large groups of people. It is very treatable, it's something she can get past, but she needs the right professional help as well as the strong support of a good friend like you.

      Good luck!

  32. QUESTION:
    Is there a way to overcome social anxiety without medication?
    I have had social anxiety and depression for 5 years now. I know medication can help me but i don't have medical insurance and i cant afford to buy them. are there any special techniques or breathing exercises that can help me overcome this a little if not completely?

    • ANSWER:
      There are lots of tips and tricks when it comes to preventing and managing panic or anxiety attacks. I would not be surprised at all if your anxiety and depression are linked. Therefore, cure the anxiety, and everything else should fall into place. Good luck.

  33. QUESTION:
    Can people with social anxiety disorder make decent money?
    I'd really like to pull in at least 0k yearly. I'm signed up for a good college this Fall, but it's going to take a lot to make myself go. I have the dedication and intelligence, but I lack social skills and suffer from social anxiety (not simple shyness). Therapists and meds can only help so much. My question is basically, "Can people with social anxiety feasibly have a high income?" I'd really appreciate advice. Thanks a lot.

    • ANSWER:
      don't give into the anxiety. you dont want to get worse do you? get out there and fight what your scared of little by little. then you can earn some money and be happy in social situations too (:

  34. QUESTION:
    Would you recommend homeschooling for a highschool student with severe social anxiety?
    I've been in public high school for 2 years and in that time my anxiety has only gotten worse even though people keep saying constant social exposure will help me. I've been thinking about taking online courses, do you think this is a good idea?

    • ANSWER:
      YES YES YES!!!! Let me tell you my story, I was in a very similar situation: I have social anxiety/depression issues and have my whole life. My mom refused to homeschool me for a long time because of the whole 'socialization' factor. She said I wouldn't get better if I didn't 'keep trying, etc.". Well, school made me so miserable and unhappy, that finally (when I was in high school) I convinced her that being in school for all those years hadn't made me become less anxious or shy, so what was the point of suffering for a few more years? She agreed to see what would happen if I tried a correspondence school, with the stipulation that I had to join a club also, so I'd get out of the house a few times a week and be with other people my age. Well, I can say homeschooling was the best thing that ever happened to me and my anxiety disorder! Things really went up from there for me! I quit being so depressed (I'm off all medications now) and through the club and volunteer work I decided to do, I actually made a few friends (which I hadn't done in school since leaving elementary). All that keeps me from being lonely. I think homeschooling is a great option for people with social anxiety, especially if you've been suffering in school for awhile, but you really don't want to drop out and not get a diploma. The only thing is, you have to be pretty self-motivated to do something like an online school or correspondence school. I hope something works out for you and hang in there because it can get better!

  35. QUESTION:
    How can I get help in finding a job/getting money if I have severe Social Phobia/Anxiety?
    I have been diagnosed with severe social phobia and social anxiety. I have been off medication and therapy for about three months now, but it started getting worse right after it started getting better. Now I can't physically, emotionally, or mentally hold a full-time job, which is the amount of money I need to keep my apartment. Is there anything out there that will help me find a full-time job I can handle or at least get me some kind of disability money so that I could work part-time until I am able to work full-time?

    • ANSWER:
      Get a note from the doctor that says you are being treated for an illness and that you will be out of work for a period of time. Then call up TDI (temporary disability insurance) and file a claim.

  36. QUESTION:
    How do I appoarch seeking help for social anxiety disorder?
    Someone once told me that I have social anxiety disorder but I thought they were just messing with me. I recently looked it up and found that they might be right. My only problem is I'm scared to ask my parents about seeking help. I'm scared that they won't believe me or that they will and then I'll have to talk to someone. I don't know what to do or how to try and appoarch my parents..Can someone give me some advice?
    So I appoarched my mom about it and just what I thought would happen happened. She thinks that everyone feels like that even her. That I don't have a problem. But I really think I do I was nervous just to tell her about it because I was afraid of what she would think..What else should I do?

    • ANSWER:
      If you decide that you really want to get help, first do some research. Get examples of how the symptoms apply to you, and how it is affecting your life. Do you not want to participate in social activities? Has it kept you from doing things you needed to do?

      If you don't want to go to your parents directly, try going to your school counselor first. He or she might have resources to get you screened, and could provide an "expert" opinion and validation of your concerns.

  37. QUESTION:
    what is the main difference between social anxiety/phobia and avoidant personality disorder?
    just looking for a clear distinction as far as i can tell people suffering from social anxiety or social phobia don't necessarily avoid social interaction they just experience anxiety in social situations and phyiscal symptoms are prominent while avoidants simply avoid social interaction due to feeling inferior to others and socially inept.. am i somewhat correct here? appreciate the help!

    • ANSWER:
      I guess there are a few.

      1) Social Phobics don't necessarily lack self-esteem, but I think that's kind of a major characteristic of avoidant personality disorder.

      2) As you pointed out, personality disorders are often focused on maladaptive behaviours, if i'm not mistaken, whereas mental disorders (like social anxiety) do not - so someone w/ social phobia can feel extreme anxiety in a social situation while maintaining social contact. Someone with APD would avoid the situation all together.

      APD may also be more pervasive across all social situations, where SAD may be more likely in new social situations or in situations where they expect judgment, but in more comfortable situations, with people they know, they may feel OK.

  38. QUESTION:
    Is it possible to get medical marijuana in the state of Maine to help treat social anxiety?
    I have very severe social anxiety, depression, ADHD, OCD, and bipolar disorder.

    I have tried many different medications for my disorders and I would like to try something a little more organic.

    Any information on the subject would be very helpful. Thank you in advance.

    • ANSWER:
      That's a somewhat amusing question, since social anxiety is a fairly common side effect of marijuana.

      Other people claim that it makes them more social and empathetic with other people.

      The effects of cannabis on short term memory are unlikely to help ADHD.

      Marijuana is suffiently safe that you could try it and see what happens, but it looks unpromising.

      If you want to try a broader range of herbal medicines you might be interested in going to an Acupuncture clinic and talking with them about herbs. You can use traditional chinese herbs without acupuncture and a practitioner would be able to do an exam and set you up. Various forms of cannabis are also part of chinese herbal medicine, but I don't know if acupuncturists are allowed prescribe it, even in medical marijuana states.

      Comments on medical marijuana:

      Public discourse on medical marijuana is somewhat tainted by the necessity to make it look harmless to most people in order to pass decriminalization laws. Once medical marijuana is available in a state, everyone who wants to avoid the risk of arrest for marijuana concocts some therapeutic story about how much it helps alleviate some feigned medical condition. This is actually their best course of action as a rational person if they want to smoke marijuana.

      It's obvious that cannabis has real pharmacological effects and that CB-receptor agonists are a useful category of drugs. But it's almost impossible to know whether any particular anecdote or testimonial about cannabis is credible unless you try it yourself for the same condition or can find a peer-reviewed research paper on the topic.

  39. QUESTION:
    Would Toastmasters help a person overcome social anxiety?
    I know it's technically for public speaking, but has it been shown to help with social anxiety at all?

    • ANSWER:
      I don't know of any clinical studies, but I can tell you as a former Toastmasters member that you'll get experience in smallish and very supportive groups.

      You don't have to talk if you don't want to, but, of course, the more members practice speaking, the more comfortable they are.

      The first speech you give is called the "Icebreaker" speech. Almost everyone feels nervous speaking at first, so you will get applause just for standing up there! Everybody in the group wants you to succeed, and once you get to know people you can pick a mentor who can help you make progress.

      I think it would be a good place for you to practice feeling comfortable in public. And if you don't like it, you just don't have to go back.

      Good luck.

  40. QUESTION:
    Is exercise as effective as medication for social anxiety?
    My therapist suggested taking meds to help with my social anxiety. I have never considered taking any type of medication, but I have had social anxiety for about 20 years. I am in the process of doing research and have come across a lotl of information that equates meds with regular exercise.
    Has anyone tried exercising 6 days a week, and then taken anti-depressant or anti-anxiety meds. Are the result similar? I want to get better but don't want to get addicted to anything or experience bad side effects.

    • ANSWER:
      Exercise is the perfect medication for social anxiety. I always feel like shit when I sit around on the computer all day then go out to do something with my friends, I can't explain the feeling but I just feel horrible. My body feels like its rotting away into a vapid pile.

      There is nothing like the feeling of your body cleansing itself, your heart pumping oxygen to your body, all your arteries being flushed of all that bad shit. Sometimes I like to think that anxiety build up in my arteries, lol. Then when your done, you have an honest sweat on your brow and your body feels clean and strong, then there is that refreshing shower, that shower that you KNOW you deserve. Afterwards you can eat a guilt free breakfast and go out into the world thinking "I bettered myself today."

  41. QUESTION:
    What homeworks or assignments were you given by your therapist for social anxiety?
    I can't go to a therapist for my social anxiety, and so I decided to beat this on my own.
    So for those who did go to therapy, what assigments or homework did you have to do? For example, did she make you go up to people and as people the time, etc?
    Please help me out.
    I meant ask people for the time.
    P G, you sound a little cranky.
    go take a nap buddy

    • ANSWER:
      He told me to try focusing on something else, other than my anxious thoughts, like meditating, breathing, exercising, etc. If you want to beat it, here is my advice, take three deep breaths and this should diminish your thoughts. Then become aware of your thoughts that hold no weight but to keep your anxiety going. You can do the same not only with your thoughts but your emotions and behavior patterns. Hope this helps.

  42. QUESTION:
    How long does it take for Effexor to kick in if you take it for social anxiety?
    To anyone who's ever been on effexor or knows someone on it: how long does it usually take to start feeling normal again? I have social anxiety and was prescribed effexor XR 150 mg and I've only been on it a week, but I was wondering roughly when I could start to expect results. If anyone can help, I would really appreciate it!

    • ANSWER:
      around a week and a half to 2 weeks.

  43. QUESTION:
    Does anyone know any natural remedies/supplements that help with social anxiety?
    Hi, Im pretty sure i have social anxiety disorder. I would just like to now is there any natural remedies/supplements i could take to help me calm down a wee bit while in social settings? I already take magnesium supplements and feel theyve helped me a bit. Does any1 else with S.A.D feel magnesium helped?

    Thanks for answers in advance:)

    • ANSWER:
      Hey I have S.A.D. I also take magnesium and it helped alot.

      What i do before i have to go in front of a group of people is take a few short moments to be alone.
      I close my eyes and think about my family. I take deep breaths and consentrate on calming down.
      I will also take slow sips of water to calm me down or i will chew a piece of gum during conversation. It helps to keep my mind off of the situation.
      At night i make it a habit to take at least an hour to be alone.
      Sometimes i will fill the bath with warm water and pour a good smelling soap into the water.
      Then i place candles around the bathroom and put on music.
      In the tub i will close my eyes and relax.
      Other nights i will put some music on and lay in bed reading a good book.
      These relaxers helped me alot.

      If you are really looking into getting relaxed i strongly suggest yoga. The heat and consentration is AMAZING.

      hope i helped:)

  44. QUESTION:
    Can a psychologist help cure social anxiety?
    Just wondering is it possible, I have finally faced the truth and as a 18 year old I know I am suffering from social anxiety and I am 99% sure I have been for the last 10 years for sure, it is now affecting my entire life to the point of me not being able to go to uni and work well because of it. To me personally I can't see how someone talking to you will make this horrible feeling go away but is it true they can help? I can't grasp it.

    • ANSWER:
      I would recommend trying therapy. A psychiatrist might be better than a psychologist. They can prescribe medications. I also think that YOU are the one who will cure your social anxiety. The professionals can give you the help, means and possibly meds to do it.

  45. QUESTION:
    Could too much stress at work and school intensify social anxiety?
    I have always been shy, but I used too interact without stress before I started working over 40 hours a week and going to college full time. I have found myself too stricken to interact and form intimate and non-intimate relationships with women since my intense work load began. Could this be intensifying what was a minor social anxiety before, or is just another excuse for the fact that I am horrible person? Please help by answering this,

    Sincerely AudaciousFool

    • ANSWER:
      yes, at least it happens to me. it's a cycle really.

  46. QUESTION:
    Who should I approach about having Social Anxiety Disorder?
    I've been doing alot of research, and I think I may have Social Anxiety Disorder, or at least some form of it. I know there's something more to it than me just being shy. Anyway, I don't know who to approach. My regular doctor? Or a psychiatrist? I really just don't know, and also does anyone know how they go about helping you deal with it/ overcoming it? Thanks for any help!

    • ANSWER:
      Social anxiety disorder is mostly a psychological problem so I would advise you to go to a psychologist. You can significantly reduce your social anxiety through a variety of interesting strategies without medications. Control Your Reaction to Fear - Overcoming these reactions is as simple as learning relaxation techniques such as yoga, meditation, and self hypnosis; Prepare Yourself Mentally - Rather than let your fear of embarrassment or humiliation overwhelm you in social settings, role play a few scenarios in advance to make sure you are well prepared for any challenging situations. If you are prepared for things that can go wrong and you know what to do and say in those awkward moments, you will have the confidence to keep calm and handle the situation well; Face Your Fears - Sometimes, our social fears does not stem from a lack of social skills, but rather from a sense of insecurity and a lack of esteem. By stepping outside your comfort zone and placing yourself in uncomfortable situations such as speaking in front of your peers or complimenting someone, and doing it repeatedly, the easier it becomes. Soon you will soon realize that there is actually nothing to fear from most people and you may even enjoy and laugh about it; Positive Visualization And Affirmation - The way you think strongly influences the way you feel. The realization that only you can control how you think, and how those thoughts control you, is an important step in overcoming social anxiety. When those thoughts, such as “I’m going to fail” or “they will make fun of me” begin making their way into your mind, challenge those negativity and replace them with more realistic, calmer thoughts. Tell yourself that you are capable, confident, and wonderful to combat those negative thoughts. Positive visualization and affirmation are helpful in motivating you along the road to curing yourself of this problem and improving your self worth. Some people have found reading various Self Help Article to be of benefit in overcoming their Anxiety like this one I posted below.

  47. QUESTION:
    Does making online friends help you overcome social anxiety?
    Like if all your friends and relationships are online will it help a person be able to come out of their social anxiety. Not to meet them or talk on the phone but just to chat for hours at a time? Just wondering.

    • ANSWER:
      no. if you have social anxiety, anything social will result in the same way. i actually do have social anxiety and have spoken to people on the internet that i have never met. even if you can't see someone, you are still interacting with the idea of a person, so the thoughts and hesitations that go through your head still persist as you converse, maybe just not at the same intensity as if you were face to face with a person. in some cases it's actually worse, because if you are thinking that someone is thinking something, either positive or negative, there is no body language to support you, so if your anxiety is acting up, the uncertainty you feel in those instances makes it much worse.

      i've also talked to people online and later met therm in person, and even though we talked non-stop online, in person there was still that awkwardness.

      bottom line. if you want to overcome social anxiety, do it by being social, in real life. the anxiety exists only in your head so the setting your social interactions take place in don't effect the anxiety. there is no 'easy way'.

  48. QUESTION:
    Whats the best way to overcome social anxiety?
    I have suffered from social anxiety for almost 6 years now and i try to fight it but its difficult. I have been to counselling but kept stoping because i was getting too upset....i am a fighter because i keep trying to better myself but it always comes back.

    Help!

    • ANSWER:
      I'm on chlorpromazine which decreases anxiety generally. Medication isn't the only method but is probably the most effective. I am severely agoraphobic and have social phobias. See your GP and see if he can refer you to a psychiatrist - you can get funded by the NHS so money won't be an issue. Then ask the psychiatrist what they suggest you do about your social anxiety.

  49. QUESTION:
    Does medication for social anxiety work?
    Well I have extremely bad social anxiety. I was just wondering if medication to treat it would work. I know some of you would say I shouldn't try them but I'm just thinking out my options you know? My doc recommended I take them but I'm not sure. Would they make you have confidence or something? What do they actually do? help!

    • ANSWER:
      If your doctor is a good psychiatrist, and he is saying you should try some med, it probably wouldn't hurt...

      ...but that is ONLY if he is really a good psychiatrist that knows about social anxiety and the best treatment options...

  50. QUESTION:
    Is medicine for social anxiety the best way to go?
    I have social anxiety and I think medicine is the only way to help me, but I still am not sure if it is. Is getting medicine for my social anxiety the way to go?? If yes, is the medicine expensive??

    • ANSWER:
      Depending on how severe you have this, an anti-depressant may be the way to go. Some of them are used for many reasons. Ask your doctor, I do know Paxil is one of them. I would recommend you stay away from tranquilizers of any type as they are addictive and the crash can be severe. The one action you could take is therapy and find out the reasons behind how you feel. Many people don't end up social butterflies even after all this and the reason is, it is actually not their personality. They are trying to make themselves do and be something that is just not in their genetic make-up. For whatever the reasons you wish to change, you may find out that you will have to set your course for who you are right now. These days all medicines are expensive. You may want to visit a homoeopathic store as well. There are natural herbs and self help info that may help you with this too. Take care and good mental health


Heart Attack Symptoms Panic Attack Symptoms

Written By: admin - Apr• 20•12

Are you aware that panic attacks symptoms you are quite similar to having a heart attack? Usually the first episode is the worst, it is extremely frightening due to the similarity. But always be aware that although the chances are pretty high you are experiencing a panic attack, get a professional opinion A S A P. Let us go over a few of the physical symptom you will experience before and during a panic attack.

Panic attacks symptoms can make you feel like you have lost control!

Before i get into the symptoms, just a quick question. Have you ever woke up one morning and something just did not feel right, you had travel the same road to work, and sat in the usual coffee shop as you do every other morning, but for some unknown reason you where tense and had an overwhelming feeling of losing control? You had no idea why this happened, but it was something that made you so afraid you had to return home. Sound familiar .

Frequently Asked Questions

  1. QUESTION:
    What's the difference between heart attack and anxiety and panic attack symptoms?
    I'm curious because even though I'm told I'm too young for a heart attack, I'm 18 by the way, I'm afraid to get one... Now I've read into a lot of sites and have noticed that the three conditions have almost EXACT symptoms to one another. So how can you tell between these three?

    • ANSWER:
      Patrick

      To tell you the truth, most people wouldnt know the difference in the symptoms. A panic attack can feel just like a heart attack. Even doctors are sometimes unable to tell untill tests are run.

      Dont get in the habit of researching symptoms online, you will jump to the wrong conclusion and at the same time feed your panic symptoms.

      If you find you are doing this a lot, researching and getting more anxious, you are probably developing a health anxiety disorder. The best thing to do is to see a doctor, have a few tests and talk to the doctor about your anxiety.

  2. QUESTION:
    Would these symptoms be categorized as heart attack symptoms or panic attack symptoms.?
    I'm personally a bit scared as of right now because I can't figure out the difference between heart attack warning symptoms and panic attack symptoms. You see, I've been having a quick, sharp pain in my chest ever since I woke up. I woke up at 9:02 am central time. It goes away but comes back every hour or so. Now I've been trying to calm myself down and say it's nothing but for a couple of days now I've been dizzy, my left arm has been having muscle spasms, my face has been feeling like it's swollen, more or less meaning there's a lot of discomfort, and now I'm having a pain in my left shoulder/ upper arm. Please, can someone possibly tell me what's going on? I'm only 18, I shouldn't be feeling like this, should I?

    • ANSWER:
      go to the hospital asap

  3. QUESTION:
    How does one get over panic attack symptoms?
    lately I have a weird feeling I'm swaying when I'm just sitting. Then today I woke up with chest pains, shortness of breath (pretty sure not heart attack) and feeling generally weird... I had stomach issues and took tums and went to the bathroom but I want to feel good... It sucks because I feel like I just had a big fight with my boyfriend.. its kind of that same feeling and the chest annoyance keeps coming back.

    • ANSWER:
      Watercup, first of all there are thousands of people every day suffering from panic attacks. It's tough to deal with, but there's definitely things you can do to alleviate your symptoms.

      In order to know how to prevent panic attacks, we first have to know some of the causes. Much of it is psychological, so what we think affects how much stress and anxiety exists in our personal world-view.

      Preventing a panic attack can sometimes be as simple as focusing our minds on things that are more relaxing and soothing than what we are currently experiencing.

      Deep breathing techniques can be very helpful in combating panic attacks. But one of the most important things is to be able to realize the onset of an attack.

      If you want to learn how to prevent panic attacks you must be able to diagnose what situations tend to bring them on, and it will enable you to avoid those situations and keep them out of your life.

      Again, the types of thoughts you're having may very well be the root of the problem, and the starting point of most of the attacks-so consider that as a source. By learning to change your thoughts whenever they begin to stray into stressful areas, you can exercise some control over your panic attacks.

      It's always best to learn to master these breathing and thought changing techniques before reverting to medications. While medications work for many people, they always come with side effects and are hard on your body.

      The best way to attack this problem is to learn to keep your stress level down and prevent panic attacks at their first onset.

      There are really affordable therapy techniques out there, and new ways is to break panic attack cycles before they happen every time. That means your body can stop feeling the stress that happens before your panic attacks. Take a look at my source for more on this helpful therapy.

      Hope this helps!

      -J.C.

  4. QUESTION:
    Panic attack symptoms that make you feel like you are crazy?
    What symptoms of a panic attack cause the sufferer to feel like they are going crazy? I know that lightheadedness, combined with heart palpitations, and nausea can make a panic attack sufferer feel like they are going to die. What is it about a panic attack that can make one feel like they are losing control, or going crazy?

    • ANSWER:
      I reckon that it is feeling disconnected from your body. Like your 'in' a story and your life isn't real, but then the panic attack makes you realise that you are real and you are going to die or whatever causes the panic attack is real.

  5. QUESTION:
    How long can panic attack symptoms last?
    I had a panic attack about a week ago, I had all the typical symptoms and was taken to the emergency room. Is it normal to still have symptoms a week later? I still feel really off, I guess I would say..I just don't feel normal, I'm constantly worried that I have a heart condition. I'm still have a hard time breathing and it's been a week, I feel like I'm not getting enough air. Is this all in my head or should I seek medical treatment? Has anyone experienced this before?

    • ANSWER:
      I feel it will continue till any medical interventions.

      Keep Smiling & Good Luck...!!!

  6. QUESTION:
    Can panic attack symptoms last for days?
    Hey everyone,
    So, I've been having what I think may be panic attacks recently. I've had them in the past, but these symptoms I've been having lately, are very different. For a while, I was having chest pains and At night, sometimes I get these attacks and I have difficulty breathing and this sort of wave of panic comes over me. At first, I thought I was having a heart attack, so I freaked out and the next day went to the hospital, but after they did an ECG, tested my oxygen intake and did a chest x-ray, they said everything looked not just fine, but above average. Lately, though, I've been feeling really spaced out, faint and a little dizzy and this symptom isn't going away. Its been around for a couple of days now and there isn't much that makes this sensation stop. I feel disconnected, almost dream-like to what's around me, like I've just woken up. Is this a symptom of panic attacks and is it normal for this disconnectedness to go on for a few days?
    Anyone who's experienced this or has some clues, your help is much appreciated.

    Oh, also, I have been to the Hospital about 4 times regarding this because nothing's changed and I keep worrying that its something serious, but every time I go, different doctors do the same tests (ECG, oxygen intake) but all say basically the same thing: my heart's fine, my lungs are fine, and they say its in my head, but these physical symptoms don't go away...

    • ANSWER:
      It sounds like you may have sugar problems. Diabetes or hypoglycemia or allergies or have taken in something with MSG which is often in chinese food even when they tell you it is not. I stopped eating chinese food cause of this but look up what foods have this in it. You need to make sure you are drinking plenty of water & taking care of yourself & get some kind of spiritual support. Read You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay & watch the DVD your local library has it. The hospitals are a business & people are brainwashed to trust in them. If a person breaks a leg or needs stitchs go to a hospital but for everything else take control of yourself. If you can get a calcium supplement it will calm you down. Hopefully, it is just a bad time for you hormonally & you will be fine soon but you don't want it to happen like this every month so you need to get someone to coach you on improving your health.

  7. QUESTION:
    Can panic attack symptoms last for two weeks? Please answer I'm REALLY scared here!?
    Okay so I am a 14 year old female. I am of a healthy weight and I take dance classes every week that are an hour and a half long, so I get my excersize. I also obviously don't smoke or do drugs, and I wasn't born with any heart problems.

    So, About two weeks ago last tuesday I was in dance class. I had this crampy feeling in my chest that went away after about a minute. Ever since then, I have been feeling this weird crampy feeling all over my body. My chest, my arms, my back, my neck, my hands/fingers, my jaw, even in my head, like some weird headache! I was real scared I was gonna have a heart attack... so I told my dad and he's like "it's probably pinched nerves, something with your spine, or anxiety"

    So that's how I found out that panic attacks can mimic heart attacks. The thing is, I don't have any other symptoms of panic attacks or heart attacks. It's just the pain all over. The pain rarely lasts loner than three minutes after the most. Also, I'm not worried about anything really, and I've never really had a panic attack, so what's going on? (Although I do have a form of OCD could this contribute to it?)

    Also, I am due for my period in a few days and I usually get symtoms a few wees before I get it. Can menstruation cramps radiate throughout the body?

    Please answer I'm real scared! my dad thinks it's nothing so he wont bring me to a dr.

    • ANSWER:
      Do you have any other symptoms? You may have anxiety disorder if you feel stressed out, you really have to take it easy and relax and the doctor can put you on some medication.

  8. QUESTION:
    Panic attack and heart attack symptoms for about 2 weeks now, should i worry?
    About 2 weeks ago i had what im assuming is my first panic attack. Like most i freaked out assumed something terrible was wrong. But i felt better in about an hour. Tho i did have them off and on for a couple days. Now its mostly a once a day thing, but now my left arm hurts sometimes. It feels like it does when i take my blood preasure at the store. Like something heavy was laying on my arm then lifted up. I get heart palpatations sometimes also. And i have high blood preasure, but its been that way all my life.

    Since ive been dealing with this for 2+ weeks I'm assuming if it were a heart attack it would have happened already. I'm trying to avoid the E.R because for 1, I've never been to one and I'm not sure how it works, and they don't answer questions on the phone. and 2, if its just panic attacks i don't want to waste any ones time or money.

    Thank you for any replies.

    • ANSWER:
      Dude, seriously, i've had 3 major heart attacks and the last one on halloween had been coming on for 2 weeks, but i was trying to wait for my dr appointment to come up and when it would come upon me i would just hit my nitro on my tongue and it would subside for awhile, about 2 or 3 times a day, then on the last night the nitro wasn't helping and i went to the ER, and long story short i had 98% blockage in my main artery, they said they call it the widow maker because almost no one survives it. they put in a stint and stopped it. the first heart attack i was in cancun mexico and it was a week before i went to my dr here in the states and since i waited to long it had killed the bottom half of my heart. so i am running on 30% output, had to retire and there gonna implant a defibrillator in me in about 3 weeks. Look Dude, nobody hates hospitals and needles and all that stuff, more than me but it only last for a couple of days and it beats the hell out of dying! feels like a mack truck parked on your chest and a rope around your chest getting tighter and tighter, sweating bullets off your forehead, and something like a toothache in your left arm. your awake the whole time when they do the procedure, they give you something like a Valium so you will be more relaxed but totally awake, then they shave and numb a little spot on the inside of your leg (doesn't hurt) and they run dye in there through your heart watching it on a tv Monitor(you can watch also) if there is a blockage then they run a stent into the blockage and expand it. wallah, problem solved. i have 4 in me. and you know, it might not be your heart, but i beg you to go find out, don't get an appointment with the dr, go on down to the ER because if it's your heart than you don't have any time to waste. i'm so glad that my wife said i was being stupid not to go and it pissed me off at her and then i went, if i hadn't i wouldn't be here now! the thought of going through the deal is worse than actually doing it. come on man, are you ready to check out? i didn't think so! GO NOW!!

  9. QUESTION:
    Can you get a panic attack without heart beat pounding?
    I seem to get all the panic attack symptoms without my heart beating really fast. I use to get them with my heart almost jumping out of my chest. Now i don't. I just had one about an hour ago, and it lasted an hour. Symptoms.
    Chills
    Really hot (the face)
    Weakness in the arms and legs
    nauseous
    shaking

    • ANSWER:

  10. QUESTION:
    Panic attack symptoms?
    Are these panic attack symptoms. I can't breath, my fingers get numb, blurred vision, pounding heart?

    • ANSWER:
      These symptoms can represent a lot of different things - the best thing to do would be to see your doctor as soon as possible. This is not meant to worry you, it's just probably the best thing you can do for yourself at this point.

      While these are all symptoms of panic attacks, you really should get checked out to rule out other conditions. Good luck!

  11. QUESTION:
    How long does it take for your body to stop having symptoms after panic attack?
    I have been having daily panic attacks that are all day for about 2 weeks, My symptoms are usually throughout the day but not always at the same time, for ex: I might have heart palpations for a few minutes and an hour later cant breathe and dizzy, lightheaded for hours. I have learned to cope and calm myself and days later I am still having weakness numbness in arms and hands and lightheaded. How long does it usually take for your body to full recover?

    • ANSWER:
      One problem with panic attacks is they can become addictive. The reason for this is that large doses of adrenalin flood your body with a rush which may not feel pleasant but gives you a very powerful sensation. If you have regular attacks that last for hours you may never be out of panic mode hormonally speaking and this can cause serious physical and psychological harm. One major hormone released on cortisol, which causes arteries to stiffen and thicken thus weakening and increasing risk of stroke and heart attack.
      Learn to turn down the volume on your panic through exercise and meditation. Search for the reason for the panic and confront it. Do away with the horrible pain and suffering of these panics.
      Try massage therapy and read Dr Herbert Benson's books on stress management.

  12. QUESTION:
    Scare yourself into having heart attack symptoms?
    Im almost 22 and i am overweight, i have been my whole life. Ive been told i have bad anxiety/panic attacks. i always rush to the hospital and complain of chest pain and get ekgs done. i think ive had 50+ since june 2010. My problem is, each time i go there i get relieved and go home and sleep. but the next day it starts right back up again and im scared to death that im REALLY having a heart attacking this time. I just went to the hospital 2 days ago and had an ekg. But today/tonight ive been feeling crappy again. ive been reading about woman who have had heart attacks and everything. is it possible that i read so much about this and i scare myself so much that my body creates the symptoms of a heart attack because im convincing it that i am having one? Can you mind make symptoms feel real to you? I always have some symptoms of a heart attack when i go to the hospital but when i get there i no longer have them. Is my mind really tricking my body into making the symptoms i read come true? I dont mean like actually making me have a heart attack, i mean is my mind making all these symptoms real TO ME so that i feel like im having one even if im not? Im so scared and its driving me insane. I cant sleep and i havent eaten in a few days because of this. My doctors say there is nothing wrong with my heart but theyve only done chest xrays and ekgs. I was also on a holter monitor that showed alot of extra beats or something i dont remember. I cant keep running to the hospital everytime my chest hurts or my left arm hurts. Im losing my fiancee because of this and i need to find help.

    • ANSWER:
      It's good for people to go to the doctor when they have symptoms of heart disease, though you are very young to be having that. I was going to recommend a 24-hour Holter or event monitor but I see that you've already had one. In this case, you should have no problems that were not recorded on that. I had palpitations for years and I have a cardiologists who did not once see what I was experiencing until I had an event monitor (turned out to be a benign arrhythmia).

      [is it possible that i read so much about this and i scare myself so much that my body creates the symptoms of a heart attack because im convincing it that i am having one?]
      You will not go into cardiac arrest because you think you are having a heart attack.

      [Can you mind make symptoms feel real to you?]
      Yes, definitely.

      It's sometimes very hard to say if your symptoms are caused by your physiology or caused by your mind, because they can seem very similar to you. My only advice is to trust your doctors and tell yourself "I'm too young to be having heart problems." There comes a point at which doctors can only say "I can't make you healthier than you are." If you want to do something to help your heart, then lose a bit of weight or eat a low-cholesterol diet.

  13. QUESTION:
    Trouble breathing, deep breaths, No other symptoms, not panic attack?
    A little more detail, I'm having trouble breathing... it feels like the "after-effects" of being scared where your chest feels heavy and I'm taking deep breaths. Its also like taking a few too many energy drinks or Red Bulls but my heartbeat is around 110. The first occurrence happened last night and lasted for about 2 hours (took an aspirin, not sure it helped but the symptoms faded over time), its happening now and its been going on for about an hour or two. My hands, fingers and arms feel normal with no tingling sensations nor are they shaky/jittery. No shortness of breath and my shoulders/neck aren't sore or in pain so I'm pretty sure its not Heart Attack related.
    Breathing deep breaths cause a bit of a lightheaded feeling

    I'm 34 years old, about 70lbs overweight, don't feel overly stressed about anything nor am I in a situation that could bring upon a panic attack. As for Diet, over the weekend I had a few extra cups of caffeine than normal but none last night or this morning.

    As far as I can tell, my heart feels like its pumping extra hard (but beating the same) and no other symptoms other than a slight lightheaded feeling and a caffeine headache.

    • ANSWER:
      high blood pressure. for sure. if you smoke then it could bbe a bigger reason. advise your doctor please. sort term breath is very commen for smokers

  14. QUESTION:
    Why do I Get These Disturbingly Contradicting Panic Attack Symptoms?
    THese are the full blown, "Oh god im gonna die" ones, just so its clear. Im male and 25 years old ,150 pounds, and so forth.

    For the past year, since ive been having my multi-daily panic attacks, I have noticed two impossible symptoms somehow manage to act simultaneously.

    I have been utterly terrified that my heart had stopped. at the same time as I could feel my pulse pounding with panic. Basically, the internal parts become "numb" and I lost all sensation (this happens a lot.) But the outside still reacted fine..

    So why did it happen..? How could I possibly manifest those two symptoms at the same time, and continue taking my panic seriously? It doesnt even make sense.

    • ANSWER:
      I have suffered from both panic attacks, (anxiety) and manic depression. It sucks, and I know what you are going through. Over the years I've researched, studied, and tested out different things. I have found some solutions to help control my anxiety. These methods have worked for others as well. I wrote a hub on it here:

      http://jponline.hubpages.com/hub/How-to-Control-Your-Anxiety

      I hope this will help you.

  15. QUESTION:
    wht are symptoms of a panic attack,anxiety attack,&&heart attack?

    • ANSWER:

  16. QUESTION:
    Is this close to anxiety/panic attack symptoms?
    I often get nervous and upset.
    1. Fast heart beat
    2. Chest pain
    3. Body shake
    4. Dizziness
    5. Unable to move the body(like my hand gets thick) for 30 min.

    I often get this. What cause it? Also , Is this dangerous?

    • ANSWER:
      That sounds pretty much like a panic attack . Generally they're not dangerous so long as you try and keep calm (yeah, I know, its hard).

      Its always worth having a check over with your doctor to make sure its nothing more serious though. I used to have panic attacks quite a lot, and one thing that i found really helped me was Bachs Rescue Remedy - you put a few drops on your tongue when you feel yourself starting to get stressed, and it calms you down . Its widely available , and pretty cheap too .

  17. QUESTION:
    what are your panic attack symptoms when you have one..or are they diff each time?
    my recent symptom was my left arm and hand going numb and it became hard to close and open my hand..felt like tightness and thought it was a heartattack.when i was like 9 yrs old though i had another one and i felt my heart beat so fast and i couldnt breath and felt like i was gonna die and it was caused by worrying but the symptoms went away within a min.

    • ANSWER:
      I always felt like if I was somehow leaving my body, like if I was in another ( weird) dimension. Heart felt like it was going to jump out of my chest, breathing crazy...actually hyperventilating
      Panic attacks suck and can make your life miserable IF you think about them all the time.
      Sometimes only medicines can help.
      Good luck.

  18. QUESTION:
    panic attack symptoms?
    i forgot to mention in my lasst bit that i am on prozac for the panic attacks. what i want to know is if anyone has irregular heartbeats with em or just palpitations? Sometimes my heart skips irregular beats for about 10-15 beats and then returns to normal once the attack is over. that is what is really worrying me. Thanks

    • ANSWER:
      Oh yes - completely normal stuff. The heart seems to "stop and rest". Make sure you get plenty of magnesium in your diet - that helps nerves and hearts quite a lot. Magnesium is one of those minerals which are very important to life, but we burn up a lot with anxiety problems.

      The NOW supplement company makes a good magnesium pill with some calcium, vitamin D and zinc. Also might want to try 1000 mgs of taurine a day as well. That's an amino acid which is also soothing for nerves and hearts.

      They are callingl this "depression" these days - and a new treatment for depression is the use of massive doses of vitamin D. Ask your doctor about that. I've heard good things about it.

      Anxiety and depression are all about "loss of control" - or being "out of control". It often comes to the young adult as they leave childhood and step out into adulthood. There are many unknowns in adulthood. And the trick is to build a life where you can be content and in control.

  19. QUESTION:
    what are these symptoms of?heart attack?stroke?panic attack?
    earlier i was sitting on the couch and was fine then my face started getting real hot and my throat area felt like it was kinda heavy i didnt have any kind of head ache or anything. now my left shoulder and top of my hand is kind of weird feeling. its not numb or tingly. kinda cold feeling i guess. and my body is hot and toes are cold.i can see fine. i did have a big cup of coffee earlier. i dunno whats goin on but any answers would be great.thanks

    • ANSWER:
      The first bit you were describing sounds like a panic attack, i usually get them and they come out of no where and you feel like your going to die, but usually passes within a minute or so.
      because you are still experiencing wierd sensations in your left shoulder, that can 'sometimes not 'all the time' be related to the heart. so its probably best that you go to the doctor.
      stroke symptoms are usually slurred speech, disorientation, numbness etc.

      hope that helped :)

  20. QUESTION:
    What are the symptoms of a panic attack and what brings them on?
    Can someone please tell me the symptoms and triggers of panic attack. Lately when I'm feeling stressed or down/upset, my heart beat starts to speed up a lot, i get trouble breathing, eyes well up and sometimes feel dizzy. What is this?? Thanks.

    • ANSWER:
      Sounds like you're having a panic attack. When this happens, it might help to breathe into a paper bag for several minutes, or just consciously work to slow your breathing by taking long, deep breaths. Panic attacks are brought on by extreme stress or worry. You should try to figure out what is bothering you (school, work, relationships, etc). If you can look your stressor in the face and see it for what it is (usually a non-lifethreatening event that you are worrying about more than necessary) your panic will start to diminish. Journalling about what is stressing you out might also help.

  21. QUESTION:
    What are some symptoms of a panic attack?
    I think I may have had a panic attack the day before yesterday. While in the shower, I became short of breath, felt as if I would pass out, and my heart was pounding. After getting out of the shower, drying, and dressing, I sat for a while (about 20 minutes) until the symptoms went away. Deep breathing helped.

    Do you think I may have had a panic attack?

    • ANSWER:
      Hi
      I’d like to give some solid advice to you about panic attacks. There are many dead ends you can go down tryin to deal with this problem. I have a history of them and now I have dealt with them

      When a person has a panic attack they are frozen in fear. This is not cowardice. Panic attacks become a private hidden secret inner prison that destroys a person’s life and self-esteem. A person tries so hard to hide it even from him/herself. Panic attacks come on like a heart attack without a warning. It is a very similar feeling and hard to detect which makes it even scarier. The chest tightens, there is no way to handle the fear factor, the feeling that is paralyzing and comes from out of nowhere. Physical discomfort like a rapid heartbeat, sweating, trembling, hot flashes and trouble swallowing regularly accompany the attacks. Panic attacks usually peak within ten minutes but can last 30 minutes. Sometimes panic attacks can last as long as a day. Many feel very tired and worn out after the attack subsides.

      Learning how to stop panic attacks is a priority for the majority of those who have ever experienced them. This is because panic attacks are emotionally, mentally and physically draining. Some have gone so far as to describe panic attacks as emotional nightmares.
      Although a doctor is a good port of call first in case there is some health-cause, medications do not always alleviate the panic attacks, especially long term, and those prescribed with anti-psychotic medication are on the road to further problems resulting from the consistent use of chemicals that eventually have a permanent negative effect on the brain.

      I am not a doctor or a professional person, but I am a person that lived with panic attacks and have overcome them. I’ve had to read information and misinformation from sources that proscribe to know about panic attacks but they don’t. People give so many varied points of view on how one should deal with them. Persons that have panic attacks not only have to deal with the panic attacks, they have to deal with people who have a lack of understanding and arguments at the same time.

      There are now simple techniques you can learn to help you stop panic attacks quickly and easily and eventually cure panic attacks completely. These techniques have been tested and proven through research and actual application to stop panic attack quickly and effectively.

      The deep breathing technique (also called diaphragmatic breathing) is a very important technique to learn if you what to quickly know of how to stop a panic attack. The challenge now is when you are experiencing anxiety, focusing on proper deep breathing can be very difficult task. The deep breathing technique requires you to breathe directly from your diaphragm and is the type of deep breathing you do during meditation. This technique is simple and anyone can practice it when you begin to feel the symptoms of panic attack.
      I’ve included a link if anybody wants to really get to know more about techniques and how to stop the panic attacks completely and for good. I’ve been there so I wish all those on the search the best, and I offer lots of optimism because this affliction can be overcome.

      Good Luck

  22. QUESTION:
    are these normal panic attack symptoms?
    when i have a panic attack this is what happens, always in this specific order:
    well first, it always seems to happen when i am driving, i guess i feel like i have the least amount of control due to the people around me, especially when there is a lot of traffic i guess...
    1. i get this throbbing, tight feeling above my knees
    2. my legs will get a pins and needles sensation, plus foot cramps
    3. after that, my hands tingle, then kind of go numb and lock into a fist, and this is all very difficult to deal with be cause i have a stick-shift car and it's a scary sensation
    4. the derealization sets in. (basically when you are detached from your own mind and it feels like you are watching a movie of what is going on around you). it is a very odd feeling, hard to explain... kind of feels like you are going nuts
    5. i will feel like i am not getting enough air. i can breathe but i need to keep taking deep full inhales and exhales
    6. i can't tell if my heart is beating fast but it feels like someone is pressing on my chest and throat
    7. my facial muscles seem to quiver or twich slightly, which is really freaky
    8. the worst part is the slurred speech, the first time i ever experienced this i thought i was having a stroke
    the best thing i can do is pull over and chug water until i calm down, which sometimes takes a while
    note: i am only 22 years old, i take 10mgs of adderall twice a day for my adhd, this panic attack all seems to happen after a night of hardly any sleep, it's really only when i'm alone, and it always is when i'm driving my car. i think it is brought about by feeling like i am losing control of the situation and feeling uncomfortable with my surroundings, but i couldn't pin-point it exactly
    does anyone ever have things like this happen? what should i do?? it's been so intense a few times i almost drove to the ER

    • ANSWER:
      Most panic attack sufferers will ALWAYS associate panic attack with the activity or place that they were in at the time and try to avoid them. This is where the MAIN problems begin as each time you are forced into the situation that caused the attack, you automatically assume that it will happen again and avoid it.

      You need to understand that the problem here is your irrational fear, NOT the situation, NOT your symptoms.

      Panic attack CANNOT cause heart failure or a heart attack.
      Panic attack CANNOT cause you to stop breathing.
      Panic attack CANNOT cause you to faint.
      Panic attack CANNOT cause you to "go crazy."

      This is the TRUTH. It may not feel like it at that point in time, but it’s the truth. Believe in it.

      If you have gone to the ER, I can guarantee that the doctor will tell you that you are fine and nothing is wrong with you.

      Hence, in order to stop panic attacks, you need to work on these fears. You need to reassure yourself that you will be fine and BELIEVE that you will recover. Accept that you are a panic attack sufferer and do everything you can to overcome it, don't run or hide from it...and certainly don't fear it. This is the KEY to stopping it forever.

  23. QUESTION:
    Panic attack symptoms after smoking pot?
    Alright, So I used to smoke pot almost everyday for about the past 2 years.
    About a month ago I accidentally took my medication (Seroquel, mellitonin, celexa) before smoking.
    My legs gave out, I blacked out twice and I had to make myself throw up my medication. I then went to sleep and felt weird for the next two days.
    A week later I had a Horrible anxiety attack and had to go to the hospital, they perscribed me lorazepam for when I have an anxiety attack.
    Its been about three weeks- a month and two days ago I smoked pot with my friends out of my bong,
    at first I was just high, I took a few more hits and i was stoned, the usual. after about 20 minutes I got up and Had a horrible headrush, everything faded and went back quickly, i felt dizzy and lost my coordination a little bit, but i could still stand.it wasent a normal headrush, it lasted a few seconds too long and felt a bit strange. I walked up stairs from my room and I went into the kitchen to talk to my mom, My heart was racing and my chest hurt I got a bit scared and almost had an anxiety attack, but I calmed myself.
    after another 20 minutes I felt fine, then it came back again and went away. Once My high had worn off
    I felt groggy and dizzy, uncoordinated and strange, My stomach felt sick and I had to constantly switch my position to feel better. It felt nothing like how I usually feel after I smoke.
    Yesterday I was in bed all day, When I would stand up I would get a headrush and loose my coordination again. Its two days after and I feel a lot better, still a bit out of it but I can function fine.
    idfk what happened to me, I have a lot of problems and was pretty much self medicating myself for the past two years, along with my medication.
    Im starting to think maybe I just have to many problems to be smoking pot?
    Or so much trauma on my body in the past month has just been too much, and I should wait longer to smoke again.
    idk, help?

    • ANSWER:
      Here is a thought.
      STOP SMOKING POT!!!!
      In case you haven't noticed putting sticky resin into your delicate lung tissue is probably a bad idea.
      First of all it is burning to basically melt the THC so it will vaporize and then STICK to your DELICATE lung tissue.
      Did I say stick to your delicate lung tissue.....I meant to say STICK TO YOUR DELICATE LUNG TISSUE.
      They are not spare tires, you don't get another set.
      Good Luck

  24. QUESTION:
    I am experiencing heart attack symptoms. Have you ever had those symptoms but it wasn't a heart attack?
    I am seriously worried that I am about to have a heart attack. I went to the ER on June 6th, because I went to bed with a headache and woke up with a HORRIBLE headache. I was light headed and felt like I was going to pass out. I had a baby in January and my blood pressure increased and was high during the last three weeks before I delivered. I never had high blood pressure prior to getting pregnant. I was scheduled to have a c-section on a Friday, but ended having to do it two days early due to high blood pressure. The weird thing is that it hasn't gone away and it's been almost five months later.

    Anyway, my blood pressure was 165 over 89 (or it may have been 165 or 98, can't remember exactly) when I was went to the ER a couple of weeks ago. They gave me some pain medication and fluids through an IV, did an EKG and an MRI of my head because I had a severe headache with no history of migraines. The EKG was normal and if I'm remembering correctly (I was sort of out of it when the doctor came in) he did see some fluid over my left eye on the MRI. Just as a little history, I had an abscessed tooth for 7-8 years. I got it pulled a couple of years ago but I think I let it go too long because I lost a little vision. It's very blury in that eye.

    I followed up with a PCP the next day and was prescribed some blood pressure pills (my blood pressure was around 145 over 82 or something that day), as well as a strong antiobiotic because she saw fluid in my left ear and said my left nostril seemed inflamed. Well, today, I am still feeling horrible and have been since my trip to the ER. My head isn't hurting today but I am having chest pain on my left side. It's almost like my chest is full and it's contracting. I can breathe in and out fine but yesterday my stomach was hurting a little. I also feel hot and this weekend I broke out into a sweat and it was cool in my house. I feel lightheaded all the time.

    I don't want to run back to the ER because I feel they won't do anything. Plus I don't want my claims to be denied through insurance for non-emergency ER visits. The PCP was only open until noon today. Do you think I should go back to the ER? I have also been having episodes of what feel like minor panic attacks. I have always had anxiety ... my whole life in fact, and have never felt like this. I don't take any anxiety medication or anything. I almost 33, 5 ft. 2 in., 164-165 lbs. (was 145-146 pre-pregnancy).

    • ANSWER:
      Chest pain from a heart attack is rarely if ever one-sided. The symptoms you describe sound much more like those of a panic attack. Panic attacks give you chest symptoms, lightheadedness, make you sweat, give you palpitations, nausea, tingling and numbness in the lips, hands and arms, etc...
      The best thing you can do for yourself is to lay down and take long, slow breaths. The more you concentrate on slowing down your breathing rate the the less you will notice the other symptoms and they will eventually diminish. Inhale through your nose and exhale out your mouth. Make a call to your doctor in the morning and get in to see him or her. There are several medications available to help quell panic attacks~ and there are many more people suffering from them these days than you might imagine.

      If the chest pain becomes worse with pain radiating to the arms or jaw or you begin to vomit you need to seek immediate medical attention.

  25. QUESTION:
    Are these symptoms of panic attack what can I do?
    I feel light headed sometimes
    like my heart isn't beating hard enough or skipping beats
    (I have a heart monitor on for 30 days and the cardiologist says that he hasn't found anything yet)
    cold feet and hands clammy as well
    feeling in my mind that I am having a heart attack or stroke
    hot flashes
    light headed and dizzy
    cramps and sharp pains in legs, arms and chest
    feeling like I just need to run and get energy out, once I take a walk or do jumping jacks, I feel better
    nausea and diarrhea
    I periodically get pain in left side of neck only, left arm only, right leg only
    Tingling in hands
    I have had many EKGs blood work and xrays and the doctors say all is well
    I just had a baby and am waking up every 3 hours
    I am scared of a stroke but is this panic

    • ANSWER:
      its sounds like it could be a hun. i totally understand because i have them too. and many women get there first panic and anxiety attacks through pregnancy and or after the birth of a child. It will be ok. You need to discuss this more with the doctors and and maybe get some medication to help such as anti anxiety pills these wil definitely help if it is anxiety and u wil be back to ur old self again. but if these dont help it could be something more serious. Talk to your doctors about this i promise you everything will be fine!!

  26. QUESTION:
    Are these symptoms of panic attack ?
    I feel light headed sometimes
    like my heart isn't beating hard enough or skipping beats
    (I have a heart monitor on for 30 days and the cardiologist says that he hasn't found anything yet)
    cold feet and hands clammy as well
    feeling in my mind that I am having a heart attack or stroke
    hot flashes
    light headed and dizzy
    cramps and sharp pains in legs, arms and chest
    feeling like I just need to run and get energy out, once I take a walk or do jumping jacks, I feel better
    nausea and diarrhea
    I periodically get pain in left side of neck only, left arm only, right leg only
    Tingling in hands
    I have had many EKGs blood work and xrays and the doctors say all is well

    I just had a baby 5 weeks ago and am waking up every 3 hours my husband helps out too
    I am scared of a stroke but is this panic?
    I'm thinking also that the pain in my left arm and neck could be because that is the side I cradle my baby on

    • ANSWER:
      You are a new mother. Relax! You are up often at night. Constantly on the go. Your doctor's haven't found anything. You are just nervous. Everything should settle down in a couple of months. If not, revisit the doctor. Because you are having pain on part of your left and part of your right, I doubt it is a stroke or a heart attack. Just nerves. All new mothers go through this or something like it their first time. :)

  27. QUESTION:
    Are these symptoms of a panic attack?
    The last couple of days i randomly start to feel weird. My heart beats faster than usual, i get hot flashes, i feel weak and tired, i dont feel like doing anything, i feel lightheaded, and sometimes i feel scared because i think im about to have a heart attack
    and i also feel my stomache getting warm

    • ANSWER:

  28. QUESTION:
    Can panic attack cause heart attack?
    Whenever I've had one I always think I'm having a heart attack. I think this is normal(to think that), but could I ever really have a heart attack from a panic attack? Among other symptoms, such as tunnel vision and heart pounding, my left arm always gets numb when I have one which is why I'm always afraid its a heart attack.

    I'm 23, in good physical shape, and have never been diagnosed with any heart problems. Am I just being crazy?

    • ANSWER:
      I used to get them too and they felt so much like heart attacks that I used to go to the E.R. virtually every time I had one. And YES, they really, really felt like heart attacks (...or at least what I figured a heart attack would feel like).

      Eventually, I realized that I was just wasting everybody's time with false alarms and my heart tests would always come back as insanely healthy. Once I convinced myself that I wasn't having heart attacks and that it was all in my head, I stopped having panic attacks.

      As for panic attacks actually causing heart attacks, assuming you're in good health (which you say you are), it would take an awful lot of panic attacks to do enough damage to a 23 year old heart to actually bring on a heart attack. Take it from me, this is all psychological.

      Mine started not long after my dad died from cancer. They lasted on and off for about four years and I was fine. They picked back up again when my mom died of a heart attack and now they've stopped once more.

      Perhaps you've lost somebody close to you? <")))><

  29. QUESTION:
    does this sound like symptoms of panic attack?
    okay so i want to know if i had a panic attack today.
    1. I was sitting in my math class today, and i started getting really warm and my face got really red.
    2. I was in my chorus class and i started getting a "tingly" feeling and i got really nervous and i felt like I was going to pass out.
    3. When I was in my car going home my heart started racing and pounding really hard, and i stopped breathing for about 2 seconds.

    So does this sound like anxiety, panic attacks, anything?
    Please helpp.

    • ANSWER:
      They are symptoms of anxiety/panic attacks. You can unknowingly get them without having a reason. I get them all the time in school. The reason you get all tingly is because you start to breathe a little bit faster and take shorter breaths. This means less oxygen to your body creating less blood flow. When this happens you should really just tell yourself that your fine and there's nothing to be anxious about. Thinking about it could build on it and eventually lead to a panic attack.

  30. QUESTION:
    Any advice or anxiety/panic attack type symptoms please?
    Can anyone give me advice for how to sort out anxiety. I tend to get the following when I'm about to go to something like a gig (like I am tonight) or a do, a club, whatever... I feel kind of sick and nervous, and like I almost want to say "oh, I'll just stay at home" (which I don't want to do tonight at all!" but I don't ever feel short of breath, or like I'm "going to die" as I know is a common feeling during a panic attack.
    My heart seems to beat very fast, but I think that's quite normal for me, but I'm definitely aware of it.
    Any ideas on what this nervous feeling actually is and how to get rid of it. It's not just excitement it's only happened over the past year or so. Also it lasts for ages, all day or especially in the run up to the event, not just for an hour or whatever.
    I know this part is a bit silly but I also can't drink much alcohol when I feel like this, which is ironic as I'm sure it would help, but I just don't want to drink or eat much at all.

    • ANSWER:
      Beta blockers are great for releiving some of the symptoms of a panick attack, you dont need to tak them except when you need them, and they work pretty quick too (about 15 mins and last a good while after)

      Apart form that, slow breating etc, or a more long term anti anxiety drug (usually used for depression) like venlafaxine (brand name effexor) or fluoxetine (prozac) or one of the many of those things.

      For your case I would say beta blockers as they go to the root of fast heart beat, sweating, edgyness, and they slow the whole lot down.

      Heart beat drops so body relaxes, in turn the edgyness comes down along with racing thoughts and sweating etc.

      It all depends on the root cause of the anxiety and panick atttacks, but a doctor or pharmacist is a much better person to advise.

      You could try diazepam (valium) but this can be very addictive, beta blockers, well, you cant get addicted to them!

      visit a chemios and have a word with the pharmacist, they are fully qualified to give you advice, and if they feel its a bit more than is in there scope they will recommend visiting a doctor.

  31. QUESTION:
    LVH / Heart murmer / panic attack?
    I'm 42 & previously very healthy.
    Went to ER with sudden h/attack symptoms - they said panic attack & high bp,
    went to GP she said stress & high b/p - also a heart murmur.
    Went to Cardiologist - diagnoised LVH.
    a) Is there a connection between Panic / LVH / Heart murmur?
    b) Do you think it was really a panic attack - never had one before?
    c)Cardio did not mention h/murmur no one has before - do they come and go?
    d) Been on Cardizem for a month and still have high b/p and chest pains - Cardio just increased it from 180mg to 300mg - is it normal to still have chest pains?

    Thanks I am new to this medical world!

    • ANSWER:
      a) No, Left ventricular hypertension is caused by chronic hypertension.

      b) Its possible I would need to know more of the symptoms

      c) NO it is still there, whether it be mitral, aortic, or Tricuspid. You would need an Echo-cardiogram to confirm.

      d) That depends on its cause- My opinion is NO, lowering your blood pressure will not alieve the underlying cause- you need a stress test and an Echo-cardiogram. We usually give Cardizem to lower heartrates. I would suggest a Beta Blocker such as Toprol.

      Get a second opinion

  32. QUESTION:
    URGENT, HEART ATTACK SYMPTOMS ?
    Hi, I'm 16 and I'm a girl.
    I'm usually what you'd call a couch potato. I don't practise sports or anything and I spend most of the time in my room, so maybe that can be a factor.
    2h ago or so, I started to notice a discomfort at the complete bottom of my sternum. it didn't bother me at first since the discomfort was really subtle. But im kind of paranoiac, so I started to worry a little bit, after lets say 30 mins, my neck became tense, and I could feel sometimes subtle discomfort in all my neck, my chest and even in my arms but that was when I really started to worry. It still persists now. But I'm really worried so I can't figure out by myself if these are heart attack symptoms or more anxiety attack (I cried because I was anxious). Also, if its useful for your answers, I took a birth-control pill about 2h30 and never had any problems before with this, I've been using it for 2 months, now. Sometime I can feel a little pain in my shoulder or somewhere else in the top part of my body but it wont last for so long. After 2h of panic, I talked about it to my dad who told be to go get some sleep but I still can feel the "symptoms" even if they aren't that annoying, it just seems weird to me. The discomfort started instantly.

    Do you think I'm getting paranoiac or its pretty serious ?
    (I'm sorry if there are any mistakes, I'm french)
    Most of you said I shouldn't worry. but id like to say I have to eliminate the possibility of an anxiety attack because i still feel random pain in the chest, the shoulder, etc, when I get relaxed, the first seconds, my heart will get palpitations.
    I'd like to know what's the cause of all these particular symptoms, I'd like to get some sleep but I wont until I don't know what to expect.

    • ANSWER:
      I wouldn't panic...I think you're a bit young to have a heart attack. The pain could stem from many things...it's really hard to say what. The best advice I could give you would be to talk with your parents and doctor about it. But no, I don't think you're having a heart attack...

  33. QUESTION:
    I have the symptoms of a panic attack but not the mental ones?
    I have pretty much all the physical symptoms of a panic attack: shaking/trembling, cold feeling, fast heart beat etc. I also have that "Detached" and "unreal" feeling.

    But I do not feel afraid at all...I don't have fear or anything....is this still a panic attack or something else?
    I don't mean that I'm mental...I just don't FEEL that panic at all. I don't have any of the issues that occur mentally, like fear or panic. I ONLY have the physical symptoms.

    • ANSWER:

  34. QUESTION:
    Panic Attack/Anxiety Symptoms?
    I think that I'm having anxiety or panic attacks. Most likely because my girlfriend broke up with me and I still loved her. Another reason is that there is a high possibility for tornadoes where I live.

    Ok here are some of the symptoms that I'm having.

    Tightness in throat, kind of hard to swallow
    Dry mouth
    Heavy heart beats at times

    • ANSWER:
      Those are very common symptoms of panic. That doesn't mean they're always panic, but they're common symptoms. For more information about the symptoms of a panic attack, read this: http://www.anxietycoach.com/panic-attack-symptoms.html

      If you've never had your symptoms evaluated by a physician, just to clarify that they're panic symptoms, that would be a good first step to take. For more suggestions of how to take care of this problem, read this: http://www.anxietycoach.com/overcoming-anxiety.html

  35. QUESTION:
    What's the difference between a panic attack and a heart attack?
    How can i tell the difference between a heart attack and a panic attack. The symptoms for both are almost exactly the same. I know I'm a little too young to get a heart attack but still its scary.(I'm only 14) I do experience panic attacks and i do go to the psychologist for them. She says I'm not crazy and my body is just finding a way to get rid of a past incident. (car accident) Its just so terrifying at the fact that I don't know whether it's a heart attack or a panic attack. The symptoms are just way too similar.

    • ANSWER:
      Hi,

      You aren't having a heart attack. I know what that is like. You get so much pain in your chest its like there is metal band getting so tight you cant breathe. The other thing you get is pain down your left arm and can go into your shoulder and along the left jawline. You become dizzy and faint and feel clammy on your face and body.

      You gave the answer yourself, its more than likely the stress from the car accident. Try and relax as much as you can. Try relaxation music and relaxing baths with your fave bath salts or something like that in the water. It will all go towards easing the panic attacks.

      Hope that this has put your mind at rest.

  36. QUESTION:
    Symptoms of panic attack?
    For the past 3 weeks I think I may have started developing the symptoms of either anxiety or panic attacks, but I'm not sure.
    I'm going to the doctor later this week, but I'm still freaking out a bit, so I was wondering if anyone on here had any words of advice.

    I started experiencing a pressure on the left side of my chest and my heart starts beating really fast and I begin hyperventilating and feel near tears.
    I feel overwhelmed all the time and short of breath.
    It's freaking me out and I'm not sure what I can do to relax.
    Does this sound like a panic or anxiety attack?

    • ANSWER:
      YES IT DOES. It sounds like a anxiety disorder. just keep calm. don't wait for long to see a doctor, go see one now. hope everything will just be alright.

  37. QUESTION:
    Did I have a panic attack? What symptoms come afterwards?
    So pretty much I was at school today, and we were all going to an assembly and I couldnt find any of my friends at the assembly. My heart started getting really quick and this really awkward indescribable feeling overwhelmed me like i pretty much felt really sick like I had the flu or something, and I was just completely overwhelmed. Now its been like 5 hours and my breathings still a little awkward and my heart is pounding so fast, is this a symptom of after a panic attack, or is this something else? My sister was actually diagnosed with anxiety disorder last year, and I remember when I was really young having panic attacks, should i get this checked out? thanks

    • ANSWER:

  38. QUESTION:
    Are the symptoms of a panic attack similar to anything else?
    1) palpitations, pounding heart, or accelerated heart rate

    2) sweating

    3) trembling or shaking

    4) sensations of shortness of breath or smothering

    7) nausea or abdominal distress

    8) feeling dizzy, unsteady, lightheaded, or faint

    13) chills or hot flushes

    These are some of the symptoms of panic attacks. I've had a panic attack before, but today was quite different, VERY dizzy and the worst headache I've ever had. Could this be anything else, other than a panic attack? I was not fearful at all - which is usually required for the diagnosis.

    Anything similar to these?

    • ANSWER:
      similiar to heart attack symptoms, in fact, many people who experience their firt panic attack often mistake it for a heart attack - get a feeling of chest pressure and often it comes right out of nowhere.

  39. QUESTION:
    i would like to know what kind of symptoms panic attacks cause on you?
    For me, panic attacks symptoms are elevate heart beat of course, chest pain, and feeling my heart "arritmic", feeling of dying/fainting, sensation of numbness on hands and legs...

    • ANSWER:
      Well first I start to feel funny and my knuckles turn blackish , then my heart beat picks up and i get really anxious. I usually feel like my life is going to end right there and my mind is racing.

  40. QUESTION:
    What is this weird beating feeling in upper arm/shoulder? Heart Attack? Panic Attack?
    For the past 20 mins or so I have been getting this weird beating feeling (heart beat) in my upper arm and shoulder. I have heard that this is a symptom of a heart attack. I am beginning to really worry about this and I am prone to panic attacks/anxiety causing me to feel short of breath and have chest pains, numbness in hands and feet ect. After reading about what a heart attack feels like the symptoms the symptoms are really similar to those of a panic attack.

    Am I having a heart attack or is this just a panic attack brought on by that weird pain in my shoulder?

    Is the beating feeling in my shoulder serious?

    Please help, thanks.
    Just so you know I am 15 years old.

    Not sure if that helps with anything.

    • ANSWER:
      Go to your local pharmacy or walmart where they have a blood pressure machine. I had a panic attack before- easily mistaken for a heart attack, but don't wait around to find out.

  41. QUESTION:
    my husband has experienced symptoms of a mini heart attack twice in a week with a four day gap.?
    he is now refusing to see the doctor thinking that its not serious. i have read various stories on the net where people have had similar symptoms to my husbands. he first has a panic attack. then he feels sick. his chest starts to feel tight and his breathing slows down. he breaks out into a sweat then feels he is about to faint. i am really worried. i want my husband to see the answer to this question so he understands that he needs to be seen urgently

    • ANSWER:
      Well, as someone who worked on one of the best cardiac units in the country I can tell you that ERs take chest pain very seriously, and there is no waiting time for those who have it when they go to the Emergency Room.

      My own mother had 3 heart attacks and never knew it at the time so I'm one for getting any chest pain checked out. Often there are positive referrals which come out of such an incident that make future episodes more understandable...i.e. if the episodes are something other than genuine heart pain.

      It's worth checking out, in my opinion.

  42. QUESTION:
    Pre-Heart Attack or Panic Attack?
    I've been having what I thought were panic attacks lately ( I have not had confirmation from a doctor but from what I have read they have either been panic or anxiety attacks). Anyway, I found this in an answer to a heart attack question:

    "A heart attack usually provokes shooting pain on the chest that extends to the LEFT arm and also shortness of breath, palpitations, dizziness, loss of consciousness and many more obvious symptoms"

    My question is do you get sharp shooting pains in your chest, near heart area, for panic attacks? Or is that strictly a heart attack symptom? I feel that I am too young to have a heart attack, but I am pretty overbooked, thus overly stressed. I haven't had an shooting pains in my left arm though, and I know that is a trademark for Heart Attacks. So does anyone know whats going on with me? Here are the symptoms I have had for reference:

    -Chest Pain
    -Shaking (Not always)
    -Headache
    -Dizziness/Nausea
    -Trouble Breathing

    Thank you for your help!

    • ANSWER:
      You dont need to be young to have a heart attack...and you know what im going to write next.....go to your doctor just to be sure....and if it is stress he will give you advise on what to do.....like hell !....if your breathing doctors think your ok.!!...lol

  43. QUESTION:
    Albuterol giving panic attack like symptoms?
    I took a standard dose of it and now have increase heart rate and have to regulate my own breathing

    • ANSWER:
      You should not use this medication if you are allergic to albuterol.

      If you have certain conditions, you may need a dose adjustment or special tests to safely use this medication.

      Before using albuterol, tell your doctor if you have:

      heart disease, high blood pressure, or congestive heart failure;

      a heart rhythm disorder;

      a seizure disorder such as epilepsy;

      diabetes; or

      overactive thyroid.

      If you have any of these conditions, you may not be able to use albuterol, or you may need a dose adjustment or special tests during treatment.

  44. QUESTION:
    Heart attack symptoms?
    For the past few weeks, I have had this happen to me a couple of times at a rate of about once per week. I'll get a weird pressure in my head and my vision will blurr slightly, I cant seem to swallow, my feet either get a quick jolt of numbness or become very heavy, and I feel like I am going to pass out. This usually goes away after about 1 or 2 minutes. Yesterday however, this same thing happened to me but this time I had slight chess pain and my throat become very dry. I contemplated calling 911 but instead had my girlfriend drive me to the hospital. They did a EKG, chest xray, and took blood samples. After about 4 hours, all results came back normal. The doctor even suggested it could be panic attacks. I am 36 years old, non smoker, not over weight, and work out regularly. Has anyone else experienced this? Any input would be greatly appreciated.

    • ANSWER:

  45. QUESTION:
    Symptoms of a panic attack?
    For 1 full week, I have been experiencing the following symptoms almost 24/7

    * shortness of breath (not getting enough air, which eventually leads to "sighing & yawning)
    * tiredness (even after getting 10hrs of sleep the night before)
    * lightheadedness
    * Dizziness and occasional short spouts of "vertigo"

    I've been playing with these "symptoms" for a little while and I've noticed several things:

    1. If I try to get more air by breathing thru my mouth (using my stomach, not thru chest) the symptoms get worse - and eventually leads to:

    *Racing/pounding heart beat
    *Heart palpitations (one very hard THUMP)
    *Hands get very cold and sometimes pale
    *Feelings like I'm about to lose consciousness, but never do.

    And ONE time, before all of this began, I had something mysterious happen to me on the 4th of July last year where I went upstairs to let the dogs out, felt "faint" and confused.. I stood up and slowly lost consciousness. I remember feeling weak, my legs gave up. I remember sliding down the fireplace and everything went black. My mother told me at that point, I had what appeared to be a "seizure" where I twitched for 5-6 seconds, than stood up and felt fine.

    IDK if that is connected to what I'm experiencing, but I thought I'd include it anyway.

    My question is... does this sound like symptoms of panic attacks / anxiety? My mother believes it is, however I don't think so - she doesn't want me to waste money on a doctors visit because she feels it will "go away once I calm down".. but I dont feel anxious, so how can I calm down anymore? lol. I'm pretty easy-going.

    Also, I should include I'm 24 and my family has history of heart and lung disease. My father developed lung cancer by his 30's. I do smoke about 1 pack a day for the last 5 years, and have also partaken in recreational use of MJ. I do not drink alcohol (ever) or do anything else.
    thank you, I looked up hypotension, and it does seem to fit - I'm going to go to the doctor soon and talk to him about that.

    • ANSWER:
      No, it doesn't sound like a panic attack. It sounds like hypotension.

      When you stood up and felt faint, that's what we call postural hypotension.

      You should see a doctor to find out what is causing this.

  46. QUESTION:
    Can you still be having a panic attack if you don't have all the symptoms?
    Symptoms of a panic attack:
    A pounding heart
    Trembling
    Sweating
    Shortness of breath
    Chest pain
    Feeling of choking
    Feeling sick or stomach aches
    Wanting to go to the toilet
    Feeling dizzy or faint
    Chills or hot flushes
    Fear of dying, losing control or going crazy
    Tingling or numbness
    Feelings of ‘unreality’ – that things are ‘not real’

    Can you still be having a panic attack if you only have one/two/three of these symptoms?
    I suffer from Anxiety (Specifically Social Anxiety) and want to know if I get panic attacks.
    also Agoraphobia^^

    • ANSWER:

  47. QUESTION:
    symptoms of panic attack?
    I had a panic attack this morning.I started to feel very shaky and dizzie and i also thought something lifethreating was wrong with me and also felt i couldnt breath and felt my heart was going to stop.When i had the panic attack i felt like vomiting.I vomited and made me feel better.Is that normal for panic attack?
    also felt my jaw go numb and also sometimes the top of my head would feel numb 2.
    Is it panic attack?

    • ANSWER:
      You possibly had a panic attack. I used to have panic attacks, but not any more. They are very treatable so don't get worked up over having them. Prescription drugs do work in helping, but I conquered the attacks without drugs. Here are some tips hope they help.
      1. Let the attack happen, don't fight it. Fighting makes it much worse and last much longer. If you accept the attack it will go away in 5 to 10 min. Your heart will NOT race fast enough to hurt you and it is impossible to suffocate. So try not to stress about the breathing.
      2. Do not be a "chest breather." Put your hands on your abdomen and you should feel your stomach go out when you breath in. Breath in slowly for 4 seconds, hold for 1 second, then breath out slowly for 4 more seconds. Practice this procedure through out the day for 2 weeks and it will become a habit. You will be a more relaxed person.
      3. Research relaxation techniques, meditation, and systematic desensitization.
      4. Go running daily. You can literally outrun your anxieties. You also run out built up adrenaline that has accumulated in your system. I have found it helpful to repeat positive affirmations while running because they will adhere to your subconscious and will become automatic thought.
      5. Do not hold your feelings back. If something makes you sad feel sad. If something makes you angry be angry. (ex. Punch a pillow). Spill your guts out to someone you trust or write out your feelings on a piece of paper. Work on being more assertive.
      6. I highly recommend you read "The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook."
      Don't worry about having another one. A panic attack won't kill you and in fact can make you stronger. It sounds kind of scary to just let it happen, but it really helps.

  48. QUESTION:
    What are your symptoms of a panic attack?
    It all started about a year ago. I had never experience a panic attack. I was hanging out with friends (happy & in a great mood) when all of a sudden (without warning) it's like everything was in slow motion, I started to get dizzy and was trembling and sweating but cold. I felt like I was going to faint. Then I felt my heart racing and my face get numb and was getting very disoriented. I ran to the bathroom where the symptoms got 100x worse. I couldn't stand so I just laid on the floor til the symptoms subsided. After the symptoms subsided I had a terrible headache and was very weak and disoriented. The headache and weakness lasted a few days. Could this have been a panic attacked caused by built up stress? I didn't feel stressed or anxious at the time (have never had a problem with stress or anxiety), but maybe it was all bottled up inside and just decided to unleash all at once.

    This has happened a few more times since then, although not as extreme. These "attacks" are causing me great anxiety. I am now terrified to go out in public because I am terrified another "attack" might happen. My life is now in ruins.

    I have seen my doctor about these "attacks." A neurologist has determined they are not seizures. I am currently seeing a cardiologist and have undergone many test already (with more to follow), I assume nothing is wrong with my heart because the cardiologist has not notified me of any problems yet and I assume if there were any major problems he would have already told me.

    I was wondering if anybody has experienced an "attack" like mine, and if so was it just bottled up anxiety?

    • ANSWER:
      Low or high blood sugar can cause the same symptoms. Have a blood test to see if your diabetic or have anemia.

  49. QUESTION:
    Was this really just a panic attack or heart attack?
    First let me say im 26 years old, female,super lean and in great physical shape,always been healthy and no huge illness/disease ever, I gave had mental health issues in the past, so there is history if that.

    I went to the ER yesterday in an ambulance cause out of NO where I felt like I couldnt breathe,very anxious,dry mouth,trembling/jittery,feeling faint,and complete terror. (no pain anywhere).. It was all so crazy cause it was litteraly out of no where!!! Now, the medics took my vitals and said my heart looked great,my Bp was elevated at the time cause I was scared/nervous. They told me I prob didn't need to go to the ER, but since I was super scared.. I went. The Dr in the ER said I had every classic sign of a severe panic/anxiety attack. He didn't do any blood work,no monitoring,etc.. Just talked to me to get my history and said "you are ok, you aren't going to die of a heart attack at your age.. You seem to be in great health". He gave me a script for Ativan.

    Anyways, I'm really scared cause today i am exhausted.. Can't stop yawning (I only got 4 hours or so of sleep lastnight)..I did however wake up at 8am and go walking 2 miles just about... I find if I'm up and moving, I feel better. At times I sometimes notice I get very slight pains throughout my chest near my underarms that come and go.. Also I feel like I'm always hyper/anxious!! Like I have a ton of nervous energy!!! And here within the past 2 months or so, I find if I speed walk. I at times have trouble catching my breath. (and I'm in GREAT shape, you can see my abs)

    I was diagnosed with GAD when I was 16 (generalized anxiety disorder) with panic attacks. I used to be on paxil and lexapro but stopped taking them.. My brother also suffers major anxiety and at first before he got diagnosed, he would freak out thinking it's his heart.

    I read that in women, heart attack symptoms can go on for weeks/months before the actual attack which worries me!!!

    Any advice??? I'm reallllllly nervous here.

    • ANSWER:
      Your whole question is a panic attack in essay form.

      Gawd - have a glass of wine and lay in the sun for a couple hours. Get over yourself!

  50. QUESTION:
    EXact symptoms of PANIC attack(I think Im having one)HELP!!?
    there's just a few things that are stressing me out .
    And it hurts to breathe, Im crying, and my hearts beating really fast.
    what are the exact signs of a panic attack

    • ANSWER:
      It is possible that you could be having a panic attack, some feelings include:

      Feeling like you are dying,
      Feeling like you are not even there,
      Sudden feeling of imminent doom,
      etc

      Learn more about panic attacks, how to overcome them, and be prepared just incase.


Health Anxiety Disorder Symptoms

Written By: admin - Apr• 20•12

If you suffer from social anxiety disorder then you may be wondering what treatment is right for you. It is important that you understand your social anxiety disorder so that you can treat it and ultimately cure yourself of it.

Social anxiety is a psychological condition which causes overwhelming fear of situations or events that require social interaction or performance in front of other people.

The anxiety often activates physical symptoms such as blushing, rapid heart beat, sweating, difficulty concentrating, dizziness, and many others and that can interfere with daily activities and socializing. And if this condition worsens, like keeps on recurring for more than six months and in most days than not without any reasonable explanations, this can become an immobilizing disorder.

A person with this disorder may fear social events and may result to being home-bound. But, there is cure to this illness. Social anxiety disorder treatment includes professional counseling and anxiety medications.

Treatments such as psychological counseling and medications, such as antidepressants which help reduce associated anxiety and depression, are both effective to those with this condition. The initial treatment is based on the severity of your emotional and physical symptoms and your ability to function in daily life activities.

Frequently Asked Questions

  1. QUESTION:
    Should I be concerned about my physical health or is it just anxiety?
    I went to the ER about 2 months ago because of an anxiety attack. He referred me to see a phychologist. He said I'm developing generalized anxiety disorder. I worry all the time about me health because of the anxiety symptoms. I don't get attacks anymore...I'm just in a state of anxiety all the time. I've had a blood test, EKG, and a thyroid test. I have symptoms like chest pain, tingly arms & hands, headache, nausea, dizziness, fatigue etc.

    • ANSWER:
      The best thing u can do is go to a psychiatrist. I'm sure he will put u on antidepressants or maybe just an anti-anxiety med. They really work. Also, if u have the resources, you may want to see a therapist , counselor, or psychologist to talk with and hopefully uncover some of these reasons 4 your anxiety. You can't live like this, get help; its everywhere. i wish u the best of luck!

  2. QUESTION:
    If you think you have Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD), do you have to have ALL the symptoms to be diagnosed?
    I am 15 almost 16. I have 20/25 symptoms. Here is a list of the symptoms I have according to MayoClinic:

    Intense fear of being in situations in which you don't know people
    Fear of situations in which you may be judged
    Worrying about embarrassing or humiliating yourself
    Fear that others will notice that you look anxious
    Anxiety that disrupts your daily routine, work, school or other activities
    Avoiding doing things or speaking to people out of fear of embarrassment
    Avoiding situations where you might be the center of attention
    Blushing
    Trembling or shaking
    Difficulty talking
    Shaky voice
    Confusion
    Palpitations
    Diarrhea*
    Difficulty making eye contact
    Low self-esteem
    Trouble being assertive
    Negative self-talk
    Hypersensitivity to criticism
    Poor social skills

    *I have Diarrhea frequently at home when I am not in uncomfortable social situations.

    Symptoms I do not have:*

    Profuse sweating
    Nausea
    Stomach upset
    Muscle tension
    Cold, clammy hands
    I also don't think I have ever had a panic attack.

    *I don't think I have these symptoms but I may not pay attention.

    If you wish to read more about my exact situation please read my other question (it's very long)
    http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AgumiYh4RiwimJ6lh4_GZR_sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20100827204206AAJtAOT

    If you wish to read more about the disorder
    http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/social-anxiety-disorder/DS00595

    Also I have been noticing these symptoms and they have been interfering with my life for a VERY long time. I just found out about this disorder yesterday so anything can help. Thanks.

    • ANSWER:

  3. QUESTION:
    ANXIETY & SYMPTOMS!!!?
    hey all,
    i have major health anxiety/panic disorder, i was wondering can you exsperince the symptoms of these even when you feel fine, i get dizzy spells and sudden rush threw my body like feelings when just watching tv, is this normal i have had anxiety scince i started getting ectopic heart beats and now i am absest with my heart beat/rythme, i am currently taken cbt theropy im on no meds (my choice) what is the best way the tackle anxiety panic disorder im sick of thinking there is somthing wrong with me or that im going to die of a heart attack....im 23 m good health only smoke & drink 1s every 2 weeks!

    • ANSWER:
      Well, i have had anxiety since the age of 10, and what i have learned from it, is that life is not easy. Now every time i had a pain attack i would scream, yell, cry, and feel like i need to got to the bathroom. Till the age of 12 i was treated with some meds. and i was fine till the age of 14, it happened again. But it was just Anxiety disorder. I was able to handle it, but even when i am sitting down, i feel a rush of worries rushing throw my body in the same way you said (i think), and my Anxiety was triggered. Although i never felt dizzy or anything. But the truth is, i did feel sad and i use to cry and ask my self, why am i worried over something the will not even happen. So i went out to find how can i treat myself, because no medicine in this world can cure, but even if it did, that means i haven't found my true self to know why do i have anxiety and why does it happen to me. Now to tell you, Anxiety Disorder's symptoms are the following:
      1. Feeling like your doomed in a way,like "Omg i might die if i didn't pay attention etc..." and this feeling is always the same, and you feeling like crying or..i don't know how to say this but, Just trying to become free of it, you need to find a solution or something.

      2. Feeling uneasy in a way.

      And now back to you, your only 23 your in good health, WHY worry? Your fine, these thought will lead to anxiety disorder, and believe me, i would HATE to know that another person on this earth is going through what i have been going through. Just relax and don't worry, if it helps go see a therapist to ease your problems, and you'll me fine in no time:)

  4. QUESTION:
    health disorder/anxiety or bipolar or schisto?
    So this is a long story.
    I have so many symptoms since i was around 11. now im 14.
    So im always scared around my OWN house. like i feel like someone is watching me alot and sometimes i feel like something is next to me. even talking about this gets me the feeling.. This is so bad that . ; for example, lets say i'm in my room and i'm thirsty. i hesitate to go to the kitchen because i feel like some one is in the house or something. so i'll go in the kitchen, grab it. then run extremely fast back to my room and jump on my bed and my heart will be pounding. its like i go into emergency mode and get a ton of adrenaline.
    my next symptom is that i feel like soo..un life like or unreal. Like if i do something ill be like..no way this cant be happening, like ill feel like im in a dream like this is fake. its scary!
    my next symptom is that i get very over excited; for example, im getting the iphone 3g s and sometimes when i think about it i get so excited that i scream (like squeal or something.) and i get like butterflies..its hard to describe and then i get really nervous afterwards and very aware of my surroundings.
    my next symptom is that i get very scared of death to the point i cry. and i think about that ALL the time! its very scary!
    next, i get so scared sometimes that i start to sweat and wont come out of my room all day
    another one is that for some odd reason if im walking through the house my brain makes me think of scary things. like for example...the other day i was in my living room and my kitchen is right there so i was thinking of someone (very odd scary un describable character) very disturbing peeking out. and then i will get voices in my head occasionally if it is very quiet so i always have to have noise.
    i also have facial ticks sometimes and have trouble listening! i really need help ! so please tell me what each of these symptoms come out as...are they bipolar schitzo? anxiety? please help !
    also i have to have light in my room when i sleep at all times and sometimes i get so scared i have to turn the light on and get up.
    also if i see someone in a tv show;for example, they wave. ill wave and try to copy what they did. idk y. its weird. also please only serious answers
    also i do get very sweaty and shaking on my hands and face

    • ANSWER:
      It's not Schizophrenia and it's not BiPolar.

      I think you get anxious when you are alone, as someone else had said. You become so anxious that your mind starts making up certain events and things that prevent you from functioning normally.
      You seem somewhat paranoid, but that doesn't automatically mean you are horribly and mentally ill. You display little physical symptoms, but still, it wouldn't hurt to be evaluated by a psychologist or psychiatrist as no one here on Yahoo can give very effective feedback.

      Calm down and relax.

  5. QUESTION:
    symptoms of generalized anxiety disorder?
    I was recently diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder. I was just curious if anyone else suffered from this disorder, and if my symptoms are common? I mostly worry about my health, all the time. Im afraid that I have some undiagnosed problem, and that I will die soon. It sounds so strange i know. I have a rapid heart rate, chest pain, dizziness, derealization, i feel like my chest is shaking inside, blurry vision, headaches, lack of motivation, hard to breathe at times. I get extremely worried everyday that something is wrong with me and that the doctors are wrong. I seem to get panic attacks when I drive, my arms get tingling and my vision gets worse. My pastor is setting me up with a psychologist, so i am still waiting to see them. I researched foods to eat to ease symptoms of anxiety and am doing that, so well see how that is. My doctor prescribed xantax when i feel like im having an attack, and it seems to help for about an hour. She also prescribed zoloft, but i had terrible side effects so im not on that anymore. Im just so terrified that something terrible is going to happen to me. Is anyone else feel this way? how do you cope with it? Thanks so much for your input.

    p.s. I had blood work and 3 EKG's and all came back fine. She said she will give it a month, then i am going in to a cardiologist, and to get an MRI on my brain. but she said that she is almost positive that its GAD.

    • ANSWER:
      Hi there,

      These are definitely signs of anxiety. I used to suffer them when I was younger.

      When we get anxiety it triggers our 'fight or flight' response which causes our body to get ready to fight or to run.

      There are 3 things you can do to help yourself. Firstly, speak to a counselor that you trust and get along with. Don't be afraid to try different ones to find one that you like. So, if you don't like the one that your pastor has hooked you up with, then keep trying until you find someone that you trust. This will help with the thinking side of the issue.

      Secondly, go and get some natural therapy to help you eg. acupuncture or chinese herbs to help balance your body. The reason you're feeling like this is because your body is out of balance and your 'fight or flight' response has been triggered, causing you to feel like that. These therapies will help to relax that and help you feel better.

      Thirdly, do some regular meditation. Meditation helps to calm the nervous system. You can look up free guided meditations online to help you with that.

      Hope that helps.

  6. QUESTION:
    ~VERY LONG~Do these symptoms point to a serious health disorder?
    Hello. I've had strange, very annoying symptoms for as long as I can remember, including, but not limited to-
    -Occasional severe chest pains located on either side of the chest
    -Almost constant light head or headache
    -Rare migraines (I mostly become sensitive to sound.)
    -Almost constant mild stomach ache, that occasionally increases to a terrible one, but never results in vomiting
    -Feeling extremely hot, but no having a fever (Not just in summer. My friend's mother thinks it's because of a particular way that I breath, which creates more body heat)
    -Cramps (Non-menstrual)

    Those are the ones I can think of off the top of my head. I also have most symptoms that point to Dysphagia, although I haven't asked my doctor about it.

    Some of the above can be explained my my current medications (30mg of Prozac, 20mg of Adderall) But just in case it could be anything I would love to know what kind of disorder I could be looking at, as well as diseases it may be, or if they are probably side effects from the medicine. (I've been on Prozac, I think starting in February or the march area on 10mg, went to 20mg for awhile, but I forget when exactly they changed it to that, and on June 1st (That's bu the bottle says at least) ago they changed it again to 30mg, and they say I've been doing fine on it. As for Adderall, I think I started it at 10mg in either late may or early june, and they changed it to 20mg around last week or so.

    I have major depression, pretty bad ADHD, OCD, (Not serious, so if I were to take medicine, it would probably be Prozac) Anxiety, Bipolar Disorder (I think, unsure.) Cerebral Paulsy (Diagnosed at a very young age, although it was so mild it was nearly undetectable, and I had physical therapy for a while afterwords, and now is basically noticeable)

    I am 11, 4''11 and 3/4, and 95 pounds. (I know, pretty bad condition for a child) My period is pretty regulated (It started I think the month after I turned 10, which my birthday is in October)

    I was a basic average baby, but did have experiences which caused a scar somewhere in my brain. While my mom was pregnant, she tripped a fell on a stair step on a jungle gym, playing with my sister who was 3-ish at that time. When I was born, since my mother was very numb, without noticing I came out under the blankets and sat there god knows how long, and when the doctors came to check down there on her, I was laying there, completely blue. I don't remember how old, but somewhere before the age of 1, I fell out of a shopping cart and landed on my head. Which event caused the scarring is unknown. I just added this if it could've effected my health.

    Also, another thing that i haven't mentioned to my doctors is that I rarely drink water. I never feel thirsty. I do drink juice, milk, soda etc, just because I crave them sometimes, or want something to drink with a meal. It takes a long time for me to actually want water. I don't like the taste of water, so i rarely drink it for fun. The only times I really want water is if there's no good drink in the house and I haven't drank for a LONG time, when I finally feel thirsty and my mouth is dry, when I crave water, or after running (Although if it's a jog with a parent, we normally get chocolate milk which is a superb recovery drink) I don't take any to track practice, but if my mouth gets too dry, I endure it, borrow someone's water, drink juice if a coach has one from a previous track meet, or go into the high school our practice track is at and go to the drinking fountain. I bring a water bottle to track meets however, although I only take small sips before the first event, after and before other events. If my coaches don't bring juice or oranges, I chug my water afterwards, but if they do, I ignore my water, throw it away or dump it out, and drink the juice instead. I know this habit of drinking water, but I haven't been able to change it. It's been like this for as long as I can remember.

    I hope that's all the information you need to know, even if some was unnecessary, I added them just in case. Sorry for the length I would love some help. I would really enjoy responses! Thanks!

    • ANSWER:
      I'm not a doctor, but have experience with some of this.
      I don't think depression, anxiety and bipolar are caused from your mom having you without the doctor's knowing, or because you hit your head.These things are usually hereditary or because of your environment that you were raised in.

      Your doctor shouldn't prescribe that much Adderal with you having anxiety. Adderal makes anxiety disorders 10 times worse.

      I've taken both Prozac and Adderal and it cause me to have "Serotonin Syndrome". I think you might be getting this too because the symptoms start out like what you described. If you are getting SS then it will eventually cause you to feel like you are completely out of control. Real bad panic attacks etc. The more either of these medications are increased that will make way to much serotonin in your brain. SS can cause death so if you start having real bad panicky feelings stop taking the adderal because that is the worst of the two, and call your Dr. Actually I think you should call your Dr. anyway and tell him/her of your symptoms with the new increase of Adderal.

      If SS is not the case I know Adderal causes severe stomach problems in a lot of people who take it. I developed Acid Reflux due to ADD medications. Please try to get off of Adderall because I have a horror story about what it did to me.

      Take care!

  7. QUESTION:
    are there any physical disorders that can cause the symptoms of borderline personality disorder?
    basically people have said in the past on this forum that underlying physical problems can cause mental health symptoms, this has reinforced the anxiety in me do i have an underlying physical condition that could be causing my physical symptoms INSTEAD of my bpd diagnosis ??

    and would i know it ? would i know if i have a biological problem that caused mental / psychological problems ?

    basically im 31 now, suffered a very hard, tough life, years ago i was diagnose with borderline personality disorder and my psychiatrist accepted i have symptoms of PTSD disorder to.

    in the past my symptoms have been :, mind racing, cluttered, scattered thoughts, forgetting what i was thinking minutes before ---obsessive worries--- repetitive asking questions on yahoo about same life circumstances ----- impulsive outbursts of rage in public, difficult controlling aggression and rage ; antisocial anger towards people ; spacing out ( dissociation ) - persecutory paranoia , agoraphobia , intense panic and anxiety feelings when outside , palpitations ; a feeling of feeling abandoned and out of control : always found it difficult to concentrate and absorb information : ( although ive read books and understood them ) : keep having to re read sentences to understand them : mind drifts off whilst reading a page of words.

    always had low self esteem, difficulty interacting, forming and maintaining friendships . im very intellectual and are often told im very intelligent, understand things well, talk well , and have a good mind. have a good imagination. can converse very well.

    as a kid was quite hyperactive, always running around , but calmed alot into teenage years.

    my mind always races every day, racing thoughts, keep forgetting things , my mind feels scattered with thoughts, difficulty trying to organise and structure.
    have obsessive worrying thoughts about physical, mental health.

    now those are all the symptoms i can think of that ive always experienced.

    ive NOT been diagnosed with ADD , aspergers , autism , ocd or bi polar - and my psychiatrist was adamant i dont have those disorders.

    iam presently working with the mental health services although the therapy i want is not available ( psychotherapy ) because of lack of resources and funding, i have to accept what theyre offering which is an OT worker to go out into society to help me get integrated because ive been reclusive a long time now..

    if i do have those disorders would i know it ? and would they prevent me from getting on with life like education and career and learning etc ???

    my moods fluctuate from being deeply depressed, despairing, abandoned, lonely, to feeling ok again the next hour , then the next hour to feeling ANGRY, ENRAGED , full of anxiety , mind racing constantly . see thinks in BLACK and WHITE etc. unstable impulsive moods...

    this is why i agree i have Borderline PD .

    ive been told i probablly dont have aspergers or bi polar or autism or ocd which came as a relief recentley.

    but i scored high in an online adhd test recentley, and a GAD test , general anxiety disorder --

    as well as my borderline personality disorder diagnosis , im also worrying at the moment do i have other possible disorders with it, for eg - GAD -- OCD -- bi polar -- ADD -- im worried i may have these other disorders undiagnosed, even though my psychiatrist said i dont have bi polar or ocd .

    • ANSWER:
      I have a son with BPD this is a disorder that is usually caused by trauma during childhood such as physical or sexual abuse that the child was not able to cope with mentally. You do have all of the symptoms. It is not a matter of the therapy that you want because there are specific therapies for BPD one is Cognitive Restructuring Therapy, with this therapy you learn the distortions that you have about yourself that affect your self esteem, you learn to like yourself, this can change your life for the better it did for my son. There is also Emotion Regulation Therapy which gives you the skills to help with your anger and sadness and the terrible feelings of lonliness and abandonment this also helped my son immensely. There is also a new one called EMDR which helps you find in your mind the traumas that caused your BPD. You should be taking an antipsychotic medication and an antidressant which are of a great help for you. BPD is a disorder that you have to work hard with therapy if you want success. Young people don't completely recover but with hard work learn to live a successful and happy life. This is also something that can go away with age after about 40 years old. You can go to the site nami.org for any information that you want it is the site for the National Alliance for the Mentally Ill they are by far your best source of information and you can find the chapter in your city who can help you also. Good Luck to you and your well being, You don't deserve and don't have to continue suffering if you do the work. Severe depression is also a part of this disorder. Always remember that it is not your fault

  8. QUESTION:
    can anxiety disorder really causes such physical symptoms?
    i have quite a severe anxiety disorder and im constantly at the doctors thinking im dying over something. my main anxiety is health. im obsessed with my body and whats going on..any ache or pain and im ill.
    stomach aches, backaches, tired, depressed, feeling weak..are just some of the things i get sometimes.
    i dont really look after myself either anymore. i dont care what i eat anymore..i will just grab junk, hardly exercise anymore. i have no motivation to do anything anymore. i have gave up hope of getting better.
    any advice
    im only 25!

    • ANSWER:

  9. QUESTION:
    Anxiety disorder and uti symptoms and irritable bowels?
    im so sick of my anxiety how it comes and goes with ease i am in constant worry about health 24/7 and is no fun seems like everyday something new comes up and keeps me thinking what do i do? like today i have pissed 4 times all clear no pain but alot and all i had was 20 oz powerade. i have feeling of have to shit more than often and just passing gas or little amount of stool some days im constipated and others feels fine. feeling of pains not horrible pain but shock of electricty in legs and abdomen i had blood work done back in january and urine test done 1 month ago. why does anxiety do this i know it seems dumb to people who have no anxiety but sharp lil pains in rectum and other areas at times becomes frightening.. i sleep well with no symptoms and wake up feeling more tired everyday just dont get it cant believe they say anxiety can do all this any input?

    • ANSWER:
      Stress and anxiety have been shown to interfere with gastrointestinal function. It is estimated that up to 60% of people who seek medical care for Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS)
      also report anxiety and/or a mood disorder. Some researchers believe that people with IBS are sensitive to certain stress chemicals, resulting in an exaggerated response of the colon.
      If you are receiving medication for panic disorder, it is important to talk to your doctor if you have symptoms of IBS. Some medications used to treat PD may produce side effects that worsen your IBS symptoms. On the other hand, some PD medications may relieve IBS symptoms.
      Take care always........and God bless you!

  10. QUESTION:
    What is the best way to discuss mental health issues with your family?
    Unfortunately I have been dealing with mental health issues (specifically symptoms of an anxiety disorder) for several months now, and I have trouble "breaking the news" to my family. I really want to discuss such issues openly with them,and I know that's what you're supposed to do anyway, but the stigma can be tough. What would you say is the best way to go about talking to your family about mental health concerns? Thanks!

    • ANSWER:
      I do not know and when you find out, I'd greatly appreciate you telling me!

      However, I can give you the link to the Stigma Busters. It's below.

      I admire your great quality to fight for yourself...I wish I had been encouraged to not be ashamed.

      Added:
      by the way, there is this question of mine no-one has yet answered as far as I now know...please answer it...

      http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AineZlWYgNdZB8in0UWlikXty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20111010144359AAKNEfO

      Thank
      you.

  11. QUESTION:
    Anxiety symptoms of mind and body?
    I have general anxiety disorder(GAD) and i know some of the symptoms and try to deal with them the best i can,but lately i noticed weight fluctuations and appetite loss. It is like i don't feel hungry until i start eating then i feel hungry and my appetite is good,but i don't know if anxiety can cause these type of symptoms. I am always worrying about my health and do i have some un found illness even after my Dr tells me i am fine! Can any one relate to this and give me some info on the symptoms they have or had with anxiety?! Thank You!!

    • ANSWER:
      You can try:
      Medication! They cure Anxiety symptoms by changing the chemical activity in the brain. Medication usually acts as a short term way to control Anxiety symptoms . Most Medications can not be taken long term. Medication is usually prescribed by doctors and can be used effectively with therapy and self help.
      Natural Cures - herbal remedies, food, exercise etc. Read more about natural cures for anxiety disorder here
      Self Help - books, support from friends, improving your self esteem, affirmations, websites about anxiety disorder all can help to give you the best chance for a anxiety cure that will work for you.
      Cognitive Behaviour Therapy helps you change the way you react to situations in your life which make you feel anxious . This therapy can provide a real and lasting anxiety cure as it also helps you to cope with stress and problems and avoid falling into anxiety again. There are other forms of therapy and it is highly recommended as a possible cure.
      The mistake is that even if your conditions are reached you set new ones again and again. Decide to be happy now while you are working to achieve what you want and need. Enjoy the journey!

      Anxiety cure summary: Here are some changes you can make now to become a happier person:
      Be true to yourself
      Look to the present, drop the future worry and the past regret
      Focus on positives not negatives
      Give yourself permission to move forward
      Work on your self confidence and self esteem.
      Make a list of everything that you are thankful for now in your life.

      Although helpful in some situations, anti anxiety medications are not a cure for anxiety in itself.There might not be a quick and easy cure for anxiety available, but most types of anxiety disorders are still very treatable and there are many things you can do to help your own situation.

      Take care as always

  12. QUESTION:
    could i have Generalized Anxiety Disorder?
    as a kid i have always been worried for no reason like what if this happens or what if that happens
    now as a teen i get classic anxiety symptoms like tight chest and worry and i still "what if this what if that". i always worry about my familys health even though i dont need to. do i?

    • ANSWER:

  13. QUESTION:
    What are the symptoms of an anxiety disorder?
    I think I might have an anxiety disorder. I am constantly worrying about stuff that I shouldn't be worrying about. Like I am constantly worried about my family (this happened after my dad died) and their safety and health. Ofcourse that is normal but for me I go as far as to imagine a whole scenario in my head of a loved one dying or images of them dead. I keep worrying that my house is going to burn down and I will lose all of my priceless things like pictures. I worry about my son who is a month old. Thinking he is going to get sick and die. I'm always expecting the worse. I'm always expecting something bad to happen. I find it hard to relax. I sometimes find it hard to sleep or stay asleep. One time I woke up and couldn't go back to sleep because I kept worrying that not enough people recycled. I know it's not right but I can't help myself. I also can't keep my thoughts in order. Like I will start talking about something and then jump to another thing and then I don't remember what I was talking about in the first place.
    I do get panic attacks. But haven't had one in a while.

    • ANSWER:
      Continual anxiety like this is an anxiety disorder. It can, if left untreated, lead to panic attacks, which are horrible. You need to learn to control your thinking. You need to stop thinking negatively, and to think positively. One way is to continually count your blessings, and to tell God how grateful you are for those blessings. You need to come to the Lord Jesus too.......and start reading a Bible, and go to a good, Bible teaching church. Ask God to help you. Just changing your 'stinkin thinkin' will turn your life around. God will help you, if you ask Him in, and trust Him.

  14. QUESTION:
    Can anybody that have suffered or suffers from Anxiety/Panic disorder tell me what symptoms they have had?
    I had an episode about a month ago after taking diet pills but I blamed it on the pills but it wasn't until about a week that I learned I have been suffering from "anxiety panic disorder". I do not know if it was caused by the pill itself. At the beginning I thought I was going to die to the point that I ended up in the ER about a week ago and they admitted me to the hospital because of my rapid heart beats just to make sure there wasn't anything wrong with my heart and fortunately all of the tests came back negative and they discharged me. However, my life hasn't been the same ever since that. I am constantly thinking that I'm going to have another attack, which I have had one almost every other day ever since that but less intense. I have been searching for info on the web on how to deal with it and how to control the attacks until I finally get rid of them completely. Is anybody else out there going through the same thing or has gone through the same thing? What were the symptoms? What treatments or techniques have they used? Have they have had one when they were resting? How often did they occur? I am waiting for my health insurance to kick in next month so that I can go see a PCP regarding this. In the meantime, I wanna know what I can do to minimize them or stop them completely.

    • ANSWER:
      Unfortunately, it's hard to do much about panic attacks without the help of a psychologist of some kind. There's been research on thought processes and panic attacks, and thinking about disasters, or just about how bad it would be if you had a another panic attack, is something that can actually lead to them. Here's something that might help: Try writing down any thoughts that you have that are like that, then go through the list and try to find flaws in the logic of the thoughts--for example, a lot of people have thoughts along the lines of "If I have a panic attack in *insert name of a public place*, I won't be able to get out of the situation." If it's a classroom, you could sit right next to the door and let the teacher/professor know that you have a health problem and might have to leave unexpectedly. (Just knowing that you have a way to get away from the situation can help the attacks to happen less frequently.) If it's a mall, look at a map of it until you're confident that you'll always be able to find a restroom or an exit nearby no matter where in the mall you are. Work could be a combination of these things...I've found that people generally don't ask questions if you tell them that you may have to do something because of "health problems."

      I hope this helps. It IS possible to manage this and decrease the number of panic attacks you experience. Seeing a professional about it will be a huge step in the right direction. Good luck!

  15. QUESTION:
    physical symptoms of excessive stress, depression, and health anxiety?
    i am a 21 year old male. for the last year i have been dealing with extreme stress and bouts with depression. to make matters worse i have recurring bodily aches, dull pain that lasts for a few seconds anywhere in the body. my GP dismissed this as anything serious and i have convinced myself that i have a deadly disease. in addition to this, for the last 2 weeks i've been experiencing possible IBS. i always feel bloated, my stools alternate from tarry to pasty, and from loose and frequent ones to boarderline constipation. what could possibly be wrong with me or is this all stem from a mental disorder?

    • ANSWER:
      The part that stands out to me is you have convinced yourself you have a deadly condition and is typical of an anxiety issue. If your doctor has ruled out physical issues and you still feel like this it strikes me as some type of anxiety. All the symptoms are common for it. Have him run additional test to ease your mind and then if they come back normal accept it. A psychiatrist will run several test to make sure there is not really an underlying cause before calling it an anxiety disorder if they are worth anything. One who just writes up a script without test is one to run from.

      I have on many many occasion tried to figure how my illness that is mental is actually so physical. But alas anxiety can cause a long list of aches and pains, muscle spasms, and sadly IBS is a very normal unpleasant one too. Good luck and I hope you rest easy.

  16. QUESTION:
    Pregnancy and anxiety disorder?
    Long story short I've had a very hard pregnancy due to having anxiety. I can only take a very small dose of medication which helps only a little. With my anxiety I have health anxiety so I'm nervous everytime I feel even the slightest bit dizzy etc etc. Do any of you out there deal with somewhat the same thing? How do you handle it especially now being pregnant? Its made this pregnancy miserable for me. I basically have myself on bed rest because of my anxiety. (I don't like to be alone so when I am I tend to lie in bed all day unless I go into my mom's while my husband works.) Any advice would be greatly appreciated?

    Its just difficult because the symptoms I feel from anxiety (dizziness, shakiness, some depression.) Makes me think somethings going wrong with the pregnancy even though I know its most likely my anxiety.. I don't eat as well as I should etc. Again any help is appreciated. Thank you.

    • ANSWER:
      I know exactly what you are talking about. I had to stop all meds when I got pregnant. I take 3 for depression and 1 for insomnia and since I found out I just quit cold turkey. Fortunately I have not been depressed but my sleep is terrible. I try to make myself do one thing everyday that I enjoy. Even if it's just something simple like going to the gym for 45 min or going for a massage. Maybe it's just renting a movie or treating yourself to a good lunch. The anxiety will eat you alive if you let it. I spent about a year and a half holed up in my house. Especially during the time my husband was deployed and I regret it so much now. I hope that helps. Maybe tomorrow cave into a craving and buy yourself something good for lunch. If you have the ability to see a therapist I recommend it highly. It has helped me tremendously!

  17. QUESTION:
    is it possible to have anxiety disorder when you dont have any kind of problems???
    I was working one time and all of the sudden I felt my blood pressure go really high. I went to the nurses office and my blood pressure was 158/108, and I had had a bump in my throat for a while already. I had started to get swollen around the mouth and once in a while I felt dizzy and my stomach felt like I had the feeling that something really bad was gonna happen. I get scared really easily by any little thing and I get really red in the face when I get emberrased by things that I shouldn't. I feel nervous for things that I shouldn't. I am 26 years old and I had never had any health problems at all. I smoke about 2 packs of cigarettes a day and my doctor told me to cut down on them, he also told me that all those were symptoms of anxiety disorder and he prescribed me anti depressant pills. I told him I don't have problems at home and that I love my job, but still he said that was what was causing my blood pressure to go up and thats why I had been feeling that way.

    • ANSWER:
      Anxiety is a normal reaction to stress. It helps one deal with a tense situation in the office, study harder for an exam, keep focused on an important speech. In general, it helps one cope. But when anxiety becomes an excessive, irrational dread of everyday situations, it has become a disabling disorder. more>>

      Five major types of anxiety disorders are:
      Generalized Anxiety Disorder
      Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
      Panic Disorder
      Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
      Social Phobia (or Social Anxiety Disorder)
      Treatment
      Effective treatments for anxiety disorders are available, and research is yielding new, improved therapies that can help most people with anxiety disorders lead productive, fulfilling livesIf you think you have an anxiety disorder, the first person you should see is your family doctor. A physician can determine whether the symptoms that alarm you are due to an anxiety disorder, another medical condition, or both.

      If an anxiety disorder is diagnosed, the next step is usually seeing a mental health professional. The practitioners who are most helpful with anxiety disorders are those who have training in cognitive-behavioral therapy and/or behavioral therapy, and who are open to using medication if it is needed.

      You should feel comfortable talking with the mental health professional you choose. If you do not, you should seek help elsewhere. Once you find a mental health professional with whom you are comfortable, the two of you should work as a team and make a plan to treat your anxiety disorder together.

      Remember that once you start on medication, it is important not to stop taking it abruptly. Certain drugs must be tapered off under the supervision of a doctor or bad reactions can occur. Make sure you talk to the doctor who prescribed your medication before you stop taking it. If you are having trouble with side effects, it's possible that they can be eliminated by adjusting how much medication you take and when you take it.

      Most insurance plans, including health maintenance organizations (HMOs), will cover treatment for anxiety disorders. Check with your insurance company and find out. If you don't have insurance, the Health and Human Services division of your county government may offer mental health care at a public mental health center that charges people according to how much they are able to pay. If you are on public assistance, you may be able to get care through your state Medicaid plan.

      Ways to Make Treatment More Effective
      Many people with anxiety disorders benefit from joining a self-help or support group and sharing their problems and achievements with others. Internet chat rooms can also be useful in this regard, but any advice received over the Internet should be used with caution, as Internet acquaintances have usually never seen each other and false identities are common. Talking with a trusted friend or member of the clergy can also provide support, but it is not a substitute for care from a mental health professional.

      Stress management techniques and meditation can help people with anxiety disorders calm themselves and may enhance the effects of therapy. There is preliminary evidence that aerobic exercise may have a calming effect. Since caffeine, certain illicit drugs, and even some over-the-counter cold medications can aggravate the symptoms of anxiety disorders, they should be avoided. Check with your physician or pharmacist before taking any additional medications.

      The family is very important in the recovery of a person with an anxiety disorder. Ideally, the family should be supportive but not help perpetuate their loved one's symptoms. Family members should not trivialize the disorder or demand improvement without treatment. If your family is doing either of these things, you may want to show them this booklet so they can become educated allies and help you succeed in therapy.

  18. QUESTION:
    what is the difference between bi polar disorder & borderline personality disorder symptoms?
    i was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder 2 years ago, my psychiatrist also accepted that i have ptsd traits to.

    at the moment im worrying alot do i have other disorders co existing with the borderline personality disorder ? like bi polar , ADD , OCD , GAD ?? AND THEY HAVENT BEEN DIAGNOSED ?

    i lived as a reclusive for many years, developed agoraphobia , and only go out to pay bills do shopping etc - i have bad anxiety and panic attacks when i go out, hyper vigillant , cant venture far from my neighborhood anymore etc. i stay in my apartment most of the time etc.

    basically im 31 now, suffered a very hard, tough life, years ago i was diagnose with borderline personality disorder and my psychiatrist accepted i have symptoms of PTSD disorder to.

    in the past my symptoms have been :, mind racing, cluttered, scattered thoughts, forgetting what i was thinking minutes before ---obsessive worries--- repetitive asking questions on yahoo about same life circumstances ----- impulsive outbursts of rage in public, difficult controlling aggression and rage ; antisocial anger towards people ; spacing out ( dissociation ) - persecutory paranoia , agoraphobia , intense panic and anxiety feelings when outside , palpitations ; a feeling of feeling abandoned and out of control : always found it difficult to concentrate and absorb information : ( although ive read books and understood them ) : keep having to re read sentences to understand them : mind drifts off whilst reading a page of words.

    always had low self esteem, difficulty interacting, forming and maintaining friendships . im very intellectual and are often told im very intelligent, understand things well, talk well , and have a good mind. have a good imagination. can converse very well.

    as a kid was quite hyperactive, always running around , but calmed alot into teenage years.

    my mind always races every day, racing thoughts, keep forgetting things , my mind feels scattered with thoughts, difficulty trying to organise and structure.
    have obsessive worrying thoughts about physical, mental health.

    now those are all the symptoms i can think of that ive always experienced.

    iam presently working with the mental health services although the therapy i want is not available ( psychotherapy ) because of lack of resources and funding, i have to accept what theyre offering which is an OT worker to go out into society to help me get integrated because ive been reclusive a long time now..

    my moods fluctuate from being deeply depressed, despairing, abandoned, lonely, to feeling ok again the next hour , then the next hour to feeling ANGRY, ENRAGED , full of anxiety , mind racing constantly . see thinks in BLACK and WHITE etc. unstable impulsive moods...

    this is why i agree i have Borderline PD .

    ive been told i probablly dont have aspergers or bi polar or autism or ocd which came as a relief recentley.

    but i scored high in an online adhd test recentley, and a GAD test , general anxiety disorder --

    as well as my borderline personality disorder diagnosis , im also worrying at the moment do i have other possible disorders with it, for eg - GAD -- OCD -- bi polar -- ADD -- im worried i may have these other disorders undiagnosed, even though my psychiatrist said i dont have bi polar or ocd .

    inspite of this ive NOT been diagnosed with ADD , aspergers , autism , ocd or bi polar - and my psychiatrist was adamant i dont have those disorders. just borderline .

    • ANSWER:
      The behaviors and sympoms are very similar. How ever the main differnce is Bipolar is a mood disorder, and the sympoms arise from the mood epiodes. BPD is a personality disorder.....and the moods arise from their learned way of thinking.

      They can be missdiagnosed for eachother if not looked deeply into or by a dr that is bias towards diagnosing one or the other.....but they are distinct from eachother, and can coexist even.

      Pretty much as an example.....impulsiveness in both. In bipolar, it is typicly only in the manic episode, where the mood is so high, thoughts are racing, ton of energy, and perceptions are distorted by this so things seem great very quickly, and will for the duration of the manic episode. In borderline it is due to a more black and white thinking, where at one point something will seem like the best thing in the world, until either something happens that causes it to become horrable in their eyes, or until something else takes their interest in the same manner.

      And as far as moods, moods in bipolar IS the illness. Moods will change to being depressed or manic no matter what is going on i life. Could have everything going wrong and be manic and feel like everything is great, or could have everything great, and be depressed as can be. Could cry over nothing when depressed, or get angry quickly over something small when manic because that is how the brain is running. In borderline the mood problems are a result of the thought prossess. They have a very black and white thought prossess, so you could go from being their best friend in the world, and do something relatively small that they take as a insult, and suddenly you are the worst person in the world and hate them and so on. Because of this thought prossess, someone with BPD does get angry or upset very easily over little things, because they see things as very black and white, so its everything is great, or everything is horrable and falling apart.

      I guess simplest way to put it is bipolar, moods cause the distorted thought prossess and other symptoms and BPD distorted thought prossess causes any mood problems and other symptoms.

      If you have the very clear mood problems that are not caused because of of how you percive things, and also have very clear distorted perceptions of things that is not mood dependent, it is quite possible you have both

  19. QUESTION:
    Anxiety Disorder and Stool?
    Hi ya'll.

    I thought I'd share some background information. I'm a 29 y/o male and I suffer from health anxiety / hypochondria. I have not been "professionaly" diagnosed as such, but given my symptoms of isolation, constant worry, effects on my every day life, physical and mental symptoms and lots of other things I don't want to get into - I think I'm quite certain I suffer from an anxiety type disorder (or maybe more).

    So here it goes, about 1.5 months ago I've started getting major health anxiety attacks which has been quite debilitating - and it still hasn't left me. Although I've had good and bad days. I am not on any medication. Basically since the anxiety / panic / worry attacks started I've been getting some crazy symptoms which obviously don't help - the usual insomnia, some sweating, twitching, irritability etc etc...

    My main concern has been the change in my stool. When the anxiety was at it's peak I had diarrhea for days on and off, but lately my stool has been light brownish/yellowish color. It's not light yellow but when I look at it it definitely has a shade of yellow. It does however come out light brown as well. To tell you the truth my mind is so scrambled up that I don't even know whether to call it brown or yellow, but it definitely isn't the consistent dark brown I was hoping for. Also when I wipe, it leaves a streak of yellow.

    I've read a lot of things about liver, pancreas, bowel diseases that didn't help my anxiety at all.

    Also I would like to add that I have no other symptoms. No fever, no pains of any sort - a rare cramp here and there that don't last more than a minute or so but I can definitely say that's due to the not so healthy food i eat from time to time. I've dropped about 2 - 2.5kg (I weigh 96kg at the moment and am 1.85m tall) since the start of attacks but have gained them back about 1.5 - 2 weeks ago. The loss was possibly due to my huge levels of anxiety and not being able to eat normally. I don't consider my self overweight (although the height to weight ratio says otherwise), but I can definitely say i've let myself go last few months.

    Also I want to add that since the psychological issues, I haven't been doing any exercises and haven't been eating my veggies as I should.

    MY MAIN CONCERN: I was wondering can these sudden severe anxiety attacks I've been having for almost 2 months change my bowel movements to cause the "inconsistency" in stool all the time? I've also been going to the toilet 4 - 5 times a day.

    If anybody has some light to shed on this it would be highly appreciated. And please if you could not comment on suggesting for me to see a psychiatrist - I think that is a given and I shall make time for that, but for the time being I would appreciate an answer in regards to the stool. :(

    Thank you all in advance and god bless.

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  20. QUESTION:
    Could I transfer during 10th grade if I have social anxiety disorder or another mental health issue?
    I think I might have it but first I have to go to see my doctor first (do i see my doctor or go straight to a therapist/psychologist?). I have all the symptoms and I was thinking that it might be better for me if I go to a Charter school because the classes are usually a lot smaller, instead of the overcrowded New York high schools, like the one I go to. It wasn't always like this, the classes used to be smaller in 9th grade where I did excellent but they changed something and now some classes are twice or triple the size of the classes from 9th grade. Social phobia affected me throughout Junior high and finally when the classes got smaller in High school I did better but now the classes are bigger again and I'm back at square one.

    But anyway, would it be possible to get transferred in 10th grade due to a medical problem (which kinds?) and what about my credits, and who would I talk to? My guidance counselor right? Thanks in advance everyone.

    • ANSWER:
      The only way to get over an anxiety disorder is to confront your fears. You can't get over your social anxiety by avoiding large groups. In fact, avoidance is just going to make it worse. You're having some issues, but you're not so caught up in them that you are unable to leave your room because of the shear terror of the anxiety or panic that you experience, in fact, if you were, my advice would be the same. Get some therapy, perhaps some medication and stay at your regular school.

      Yea, talk to your parents, your counsellor, a teacher, anyone so that you can start learning to deal with your anxiety.

  21. QUESTION:
    how can i manage or control my great anxiety better?
    im nearly 32 and great panic and anxiety has been one of my main problems throughout my life, racing thoughts, obsessive thoughts , worrying thoughts - i was diagnosed with various personality disorders , which i accept , but im wanting to pursue another independent assessment to see if i have separate, co existing anxiety disorders , the disorders i suspect are : ptsd , OCD and generalised anxiety disorder.

    im on medication now which has vastly helped me with my moods and outlook , also the incredible anxiety.
    my psychiatrist said once that sometimes symptoms of disorders can overlap, that its possible i have symptoms of severe anxiety disorders, certain personality disorders can have terrible anxiety symptoms to.

    ive lived alone in a small apartment on disability for years now, owning few material items, but doing really well, controlling anger and aggression well, cooperating with mental health resources . unfortunately because of the events of the way my life went , i missed out on normal life happenings , such as : building relationships - getting qualifications or an education - having a job or being employed. - but im wanting to work hard to better my situation, achieve my aims in life. - build relationships and eventually would like to buy a home in a quiet coastal village near the sea.
    every day im constantly worrying about things out of my control, as i have done for years. obsessively worrying over the SAME things everyday.

    - wordly events, societys collapsing.

    - do i have what i need as in material possessions ( i dont, i want and need a lot of things )

    - what if the government shut down and restrict the internet , heard a news report that governments can now listen in to you and watch you visibly from your computer .

    - having the bare basics in material possessions ( mainly my computer ) , dont have or possess what id like and want.

    - worldy events, worldy events, currency's collapsing, possible internet restrictions, society collapsing, wars , world events , have i got enough possessions ? do i need this possession or that possession ? - world events, wordly events ! !!!! !!!!!

    these worries, every day drive me mad, as they have done for years. im pursuing a separate test for anxiety disorders, im hoping to get psychotherapy in the near future , but not now.

    any other ideas on how i can manage these intense anxieties and worries each day ?

    • ANSWER:
      I use to be a very well functioning person in society. In high school I had lots of friends, was on the homecoming court, went into the military, got married and became a mom, then decided to go to nursing school and became a nurse, then all hell broke loose. I caught my husband cheating on me. I eventually got remarried. Met my soul mate and then at age 42 he dies of a heart attack. I had three abdominal surgeries within 6 months and then found out I have a disease that attacks my joints, ligaments and muscle tissue. Life events and things that go on in this world can cause us to become mentally unhealthy. I myself have have been waiting 3 years fo disability. Still waiting. Now my daughter is pregnant. My anxiety is so high I break out in hives that look like cigarette burns. I try my best not to think about things that are gonna cause me anxiety. I read my bible and I go for walks and write song lyrics. Don't think you are alone and don't be ashamed. Normal is just a setting on a washing machine and 99% of the world is on the spin cycle. Good Luck and if you worry and it does not happen you worried for nothing and if it does happen you worried to long. God Bless

  22. QUESTION:
    anxiety symptoms and G.A.D?
    does anyone with G.A.D or anxiety disorder have disturbing thoughts alot?

    and can you identify with some of my symptoms.. i will list them here.

    run conversations and answer them in my head before talking to someone or after.
    talk to myself about health issues over and over again.. answering myself inside my head.
    have a weird feeling about who i am.. like realisation.
    paranoid that i have a mental illness.. like psychotic disorders.
    have weird feeling and thought that i am going to see things and hear things.
    weird nightmares and feeling really depressed in the morning.
    every day worry that i am losing the plot.
    and paranoid that ppl think im weird or boring.
    disturbing sexual thoughts

    thanks if you read all that and i appreciate if you answer. cheers :D

    • ANSWER:
      Classic anxiety disorder symptoms. Paranoia is a huge part of the disorder, and that is clearly what you're experiencing here. The depression is probably just a by-product and will likely go away once you get treatment for the anxiety.

      You actually don't have to live like this anymore. You can talk to your doctor and describe all your symptoms, he will give you medication for it.

  23. QUESTION:
    Could these be Anxierty Disorder symptoms?
    Hi I would like to start by saying that I have been told by doctors that I do have an anxiety disorder. I am also emetaphobic (Scared of vommiting).

    When I have an anxiety attack, I usually get real nauseous which leads me to feeling like I am going to vommit. I also have a hard time swalloing which also leads to the vommit feeling. I got swallo tests and they are fine. Are these symptoms? Will this last forever? I am getting the non medication method of health, The one where they teach you these techniques to cope. It is not working. So would medication be a good idea for me, I meen I really want to feel better and not ffeel like I am about to vomit. I have school registration tomorrow and I am afraid that I won't be able to even stay in the school. What should I do?

    • ANSWER:
      relax . you'll be fine is all i can tell u bcuz i have never heard of this

  24. QUESTION:
    Please , answer these questions. Brain tumor or anxiety disorder/stress??!!?
    So here's the deal. A few days ago, after not having slept enough (6hours) for several month, i suddenly had a slight headache and felt very tired and lifeless.
    about a week ago when i typed my symptoms in on google I suddenly hit the 'brain tumor' link.
    And I FREAKED out.. My heart started pounding like crazy, i had troubles breathing, I really felt different suddenly. After that when i read the symptoms, i felt like some really matched, f.e. having headache, and neckache (my lower neck muscle hurted too.) and i made a question on yahoo (check it out, please). Many people told me it was my imagination so i kinda felt reassured.
    But still after that i kinda kept believing that there was a chance i'd have a tumor, Since my neck muscle pain was really prominent. When i go to school or am on the computer, my neck muscle really starts to get tired after a few minutes... Anyway, since then i went through this 'depression' state, i had no appetite, felt tired all the time, couldn't concentrate on my studies, and just didn't felt the urge to do anything.and because of that i couldn't sleep easily (not doing my symptoms any good.). I've been to the cp and my blood results said i was in perfect health, but since you cant diagnose a brain tumor that way, i still didn't feel any better.
    Now, 3 days ago or something i reread symptoms, and found out, that personality changes and seizures are primairy symptoms,..
    And i thought 'OMG , personality changes' and suddenly i realised that indeed, i had been acting quite anxious, and depressed the past few days,.. And shortly after that, as soon as i realised seizures could also be simple muscle twitches, i started noticing those too...
    Like in my legs, my muscle may suddenly twitch from time to time (but it could also be my own doing, because they only happen when i think about them.)
    And the past 3 evenings i've had a dull headache, on the sides of my head, (near), above the jaw area. But this is just stress right? since tumor headaches appear in the morning and in the back of the head no?
    they go away when i sleep , but in the evening after dinner they really are annoying
    Now since ive read that these are also just symptoms of anxiety disorder and stress ive kept trying to make myself believe it's just that, and then i'll feel better for a while.
    But sooner or later these thoughts come again and i'll feel shitty again.
    I thought of having a CT but it's hard to tell my parents i think i might have a brain tumor, so i want to go alone. Does it take a long time to take a CT? is it expensive and a difficult procedure? or can i have it just as easily as getting a blood check-up?

    Now my main questions:
    -How likely do you people think i might have a brain tumor?
    When id read what ive just written, i'd think 'its just imagination' , but still i REALLY feel like i have it.
    -If it is stress and anxiety, how do i fix this, because i think i might need a psychologist for this,..
    But its really hard to talk about this with my family, since we're the 'happy carefree-kind of family'
    -Is the procedure of having a CT scan difficult ? Because if it isn't ill just visit the hospital later on.
    -How can you people explain the headaches i have been haivng in the evening lately and the neck muscle pain when i spend time on the computer? My doctor had told me the neck muscles were due to spending too much time on the computer, but ive been trying to relax it for the past week => didnt work.
    -If i really had a Brain tumor, for what symptoms should i really look for? because most symptoms are vague... I mean Personality changes? We all go through personality changes dont we? or do they mean HUGE differences, like suddenly laughing or something?
    And seizures, could muscle twitching be a sign of brain tumors? or would it more likely be an epileptic kind of seizures? Since everybody has muscle twitching from time to time...

    Lastly PLEASE answer me..
    I understand that you may not feel like answering such a tedious question for some stranger...
    but i BEG U. Im really freaking out here, havent slept properly for days...

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  25. QUESTION:
    My anxiety disorder story?
    im 28 and male have had this disorder since 2005 and dont really get back panic attacks anymore its just a state of constant anxiety. i get symptoms and cycles ranging from obcessive thoughts and palpitations these episodes make me go days and days thinking of something more wrong which leads to fatique and muscle weakness i constantly find new symptoms and new scenarios that effect my health negative i get symptoms of uti and erectile dysfunction which is bothersome. i usually wake up feeling more tired and more awake at night . aches and pains through out day and is quite annoying i lose focus and concentration when out in public talking to people or social events feel wobbly legs and dizziness like walking on a boat and distorted vision. i had urine test done last month and ultrasound of testicles to see what was wrong with pains and blood test done back in febuary everything checked out well.. only thing he found was ephidmytis and is chronic.. also diagnosed with irraitable bowel syndrome. i do take xanax which helps but i come dependent on it and dont like that i could go on for days with symptoms but nothing every seems to work. any insight or stories.?

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  26. QUESTION:
    What Works for anxiety disorder im just tired of it..?
    i have tried everything from zoloft, celexa, paxil and only thing that really helps me is xanax i take 1 a day on occasion cuz i dont wanna get addicted to it... it seem like everyday i have new symptoms of anxiety starting from worry about health and if my heart starts palpitating i get worried i got some type of heart condition.. i have already had a ekg and a holter moniter back in feb 09 and everything was normal i know anxiety can do bad thing and debilatate people but it is so bothersome... some day i get pale skin, feeling of ill, floaters in eyes, shortness of breath and from just walking up stairs but im healthy and workout 3 times a week with out shortness of breath... also get lightheadness,dizzy spells, cant focus as much anymore.. i constantly grind my teeth and jaw and chew on lips and can never sit stilll. please let me know your stories and what you have done.. to help this disorder.

    • ANSWER:
      So what if you get addicted to xanax. My Mom had Generalized Anxiety Disorder for most of her life. The best remedy was xanax. Yes, she had to stay on it, but it eased her suffering tremendously. Talk to your doctor about it.

      Best of luck to you!!

  27. QUESTION:
    anxiety and health concerns?
    i have generalized anxiety disorder and i constantly worry about my health like if i see things on cancer on tv i believe i have it, if i get headaches i think i have a brain tumor... i get lethargic easy, headaches, hot flashes , blanching of skin, looking pale, shakiness and it is constant hassle i dont like relying on meds either i take xanax now.. but there are some many symptoms.. any help anyone?

    • ANSWER:
      watch this and use the Lil Jack stress reduction method http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yjPcb3eMS6s it reall works

  28. QUESTION:
    GENERALIZED ANXIETY DISORDER HELP ME PLZ?
    Generalized anxiety disorder (or GAD) is characterized by excessive, exaggerated anxiety and worry about everyday life events with no obvious reasons for worry. People with symptoms of generalized anxiety disorder tend to always expect disaster and can't stop worrying about health, money, family, work, or school. In people with GAD, the worry often is unrealistic or out of proportion for the situation. Daily life becomes a constant state of worry, fear, and dread. Eventually, the anxiety so dominates the person's thinking that it interferes with daily functioning, including work, school, social activities, and relationships.GAD affects the way a person thinks, but the anxiety can lead to physical symptoms, as well. Symptoms of GAD can include:

    Excessive, ongoing worry and tension
    An unrealistic view of problems
    Restlessness or a feeling of being "edgy"
    Irritability
    Muscle tension
    Headaches
    Sweating
    Difficulty concentrating
    Nausea
    The need to go to the bathroom frequently
    Tiredness
    Trouble falling or staying asleep
    Trembling
    Being easily startled
    In addition, people with GAD often have other anxiety disorders (such as panic disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and phobias), suffer from depression, and/or abuse drugs or alcohol.

    HI im stephanie and im 16years old. I have not be diagnosed with GAD but ive felt all these things for the longest time. and i really need help. i hate feeling like this. and its making me crazy. i wake up every morning with the same thought: is the pain ever gonna stop??? like to day my boyfriend went to the store and i freaked out. it made me crazy. my mind kept making up things and all this stuff and i cant control it anymore. i hate it and i need it to go away. i always feel sad. even wen im out with my boyfriend at the park or something and we are happy i DO feel happy but the thing is that i still feel this deep depression underneath my happiness. im so insecure and depressed and i make things up in my head and i worry every minute of the day. i have trouble falling asleep and once i do im out for a long time and no one can wake me up so now im on BECKA BILL. how do i make this go away?? its really messing me up.

    • ANSWER:
      Well first of all, you should probably get diagnosed by a psychiatrist or at least make an appointment with one. Many people have generalized anxiety disorder, myself included. I went and talked to a therapist for awhile & that helped a little bit & i also take medication for it. In the last year i've really improved a lot. You might also be feeling depressed BECAUSE of your anxiety. It takes a lot of energy to worry about everything and to be constantly nervous. Also anxiety causes stress and that takes a lot out of use as well. That's the only advice I have, hope it helped. All the best (:

  29. QUESTION:
    What should I do (anxiety disorder question)?
    I honestly think I have General Anxiety Disorder. I've done a lot of reading on it and I have many of the symptoms (i.e constant worrying; lately I've been worrying myself sick because some online friends have been fighting). The point is, I want and need help- I'm tired of always being tense and worried. I can't even enjoy things because I'm worried that something will go wrong the minute I relaxe. I worry about things that might possibly happen, even if they never do!

    Problems are, I have no health insurance of any kind and I cant really afford to see a doctor. Also, my family is not supportive. They love me, but whenever I try to talk to them about it they just wave it off as a quirk, "You don't have that, you're just a worry wart!". They don't seem to want to believe that I may have GAD, and that makes it very difficult to deal with. I feel like I'm alone in this with nowhere to turn for help and its very depressing. Advice would truly, truly be appreciated!.

    • ANSWER:
      It's a little dangerous to self diagnose the way you have. I would agree that the symptoms you describe do sound like an issue with anxiety. Anxiety can and usually does lead to depression. Check to see if there is a mental health society in your area. Also, check to see if your community has a mental health clinic that is privately funded. Most communities have some form of care that is available on a sliding scale based on your income. Don't hesitate to contact all of the agencies listed under mental health in your yellow pages. Explain your financial situation and most likely someone will be able to point you in the right direction........best wishes

  30. QUESTION:
    anxiety cycle and symptoms?
    i get phases of anxiety upset stomache,weakness,symptoms of flu, headaches,palpitations,sluggish,feel shaky and worry bout health alot i get aches and pains more during winter months and wake up more tired in the mornings i do have anxiety disorder i take xanax on occasion and only thing that really helps but are addicting to me. make me feel better and less symptoms but overall doesnt fix problem i take fish oil and b12 as well any ideas or what do you do for symptoms and relief?

    • ANSWER:
      Try doing some more physical activity, assuming you don't do lots already... I suffer from morning anxiety and I find going for a run before bed to really help. Or getting involved in yoga, or anything like that really helps some people.

  31. QUESTION:
    HELP please is this anxiety?
    Please help me! I was recently diagnosed with a health anxiety disorder and postnatal deppression, for the past few weeks i have been convincing myself i have a brain tumor. its pretty ridiculous i know but im so scared at the thought of having one i ont know if im imagining the symptoms or if they are real? I feel like my eyes slight move with out me doing anything, no one has seeen anything odd though, i feel nauseous alot but that could be my anxiety. I had a ct scan 5 months ago as they thought i had pulminary embloism (blood clot spread to lungs) but it turned out tyhere was absolutely nothing wrong with me! could they have seeen a brain tumor then? what is happening to me i dont want to be like this but i cant help it i hate worrying all the time im fine through the day time but as it gets dark i start to panic like mad! has anyone else suffred with this? It seemed to have started after birth or the death of my grandad (terminal cancer) Help!!>>
    ive been given anti-deppressants anfd booked in to see a pyschologist in feb. I know everyone dies,. but its taking over my life in the fact its going to happen soon and im just so terrified of it.

    • ANSWER:
      You probably have anxiety and some stress in your life at the moment, this causes you to think the way you do and have panick attacks. You might still be grieving also after your grandad had died and all kinds of things are playing on your mind.
      You don't have a brain tumour because they would have told you if you had after your ct scan so you should stop worrying about that.
      Did you say you recently had a baby also, your hormones are probably all over the place also, it takes time for your system to settle back down.
      Do you think maybe you need your eyes testing if you think they move without you doing anything.?
      Anxiety and stress builds up after certain events in your life and they start to take over if you let them.
      Visit your doctor and have a word with him, he may be able to help you in some way.
      Good luck and hope you feel better soon.
      Think positive always...

  32. QUESTION:
    Anxiety attack symptoms? Hearing loss?
    Hi - I suffer from chronic anxiety disorder & have about 1-2 panic attacks a day. Today I had one in a fashion shopping store and was about to faint but it was way more intense and odd than the other ones - I couldn't hear a dang thing! My friend was trying to talk to me and it sounded as if she was under water - Is that due to the attack or a real health problem? I've never had that before. My hearing was almost gone?! It came back after the attack though.

    • ANSWER:
      If you're having panic attacks this frequently, and especially if they've just started recently, you should talk to your psychologist/psychiatrist as soon as you can.

      Maybe what you experienced was because of your lack of consciousness. Sometimes when you faint, your hearing and vision is impaired when you come to. However, if you were fully conscious when this happened and your vision was intact, then it's definitely something you want to consult your psychologist, or even your doctor, about.

  33. QUESTION:
    What type of anxiety disorder is the following...?
    Below are symptoms I would like to know which anxiety disorder fits them best:

    -worries about health illnesses, thinking it could always be the worse thing, such as a deadly disease-fears death.
    -worries about combining medications, calls 5 different pharmacists to make sure whatever medications can surely be combined together safely....has this constant need for knowing it is surely safe.
    -stares at door locks and stove knobs for about 5 minutes repeatedly...but never any longer.
    -keeps looking back as driving away to make sure the garage is surely closed...but only as driving away.
    -when worries about a health issue, tends to ask questions repeatedly-needing the reassurance and to feel comfortable and safe. seeks an answer that will relax them or make them feel better.
    -checks silverware out of the clwan dishwasher, may even rinse them off (because you just never know)...=)
    -when opens a closed tv dinner, opens it up, and the seal on the dinner HAS to be entirely shut or will not eat it for it (has to be contaminated)...=)

    OCD? Hypochondria? panic disorder? what do u think???

    • ANSWER:
      All of the above. Most likely hypochondriac. You might just need some xanax to mellow out honestly.

  34. QUESTION:
    Please Help-Questions Concerning Generalized Anxiety Disorder?
    Hello,

    This is the first time I am using yahoo answers because I have been very concerned with my mental health over the past few months. I will write what has been happening to me lately and hopefully you guys can help me with my concerns.

    I am a 15 year old male who recently was diagnosed with GAD (Generalized Anxiety Disorder). I have always been a care free person all until my first panic attack which was an incredibly scary experience. My first panic attack attack happened right after winter break where I was just sitting in science class taking notes. I was just sitting there and out of the blue I had this intense feeling of not being able to breathe. I tried to calm myself and took deep breathes but that just made it worse. After about five minutes it was becoming unbearable so I asked to leave the classroom. I went to the nurses office and she was obviously concerned. I was FREAKING OUT! I had no idea what was going on with me and I thought I was living the last moments of my life. I went outside to try to calm myself and my mom came to pick me up from school. After about two hours of intense panic and fear my symptoms slowly began to disappear. I thanked God that I was still alive and prayed that it would never happen to me again. Unfortunately that was not true. I began to return to my daily school life after two days rest at home and was intensely worried that I would experience another one of these "episodes". The worry turned my already existing anxiety even worse and I experienced yet another attack. I had to go home yet again and after an hour or so I was calm. At this point I was starting to get really concerned about my health because I didn't know what was going on with me or my body. I just continued to pray and hoped I would get better. I did not. For about 2 weeks I was getting on again off again symptoms of my anxiety and just kept praying it would go away in time. Then, one Sunday night, I returned home from a friends house and experienced the worst panic attack I ever had. It happened right before I was going to bed and I just starting freaking out again for no reason. I had intense nausea which made me throw up four times. Then the breathing problems returned. This time, worse than ever. I was going crazy I literally felt I couldn't breathe. ( I would describe this sensation as breathing through a tiny straw) I was beginning to feel light headed and felt like I was going to pass out. My mind was racing and I thought death was close by. I told my dad that I needed to go to the emergency room because I couldn't breathe. He was obviously concerned so he drove me to ER. I was beginning to hyperventilate and could not stop shaking. The ER doctor ran a bunch of tests on me and I was put into the bed and then he gave me medication to calm me down. After about 30 minutes I began to feel normal again and my panic attack was over. I returned home at 4 in the morning and fell asleep out of exhaustion. My dad then scheduled a doctors appointment for the next day and I discovered why all this bad stuff was happening to me. Apparently I had Generalized Anxiety Disorder and that was the reason I was getting intense panic attacks. He reassured me they weren't dangerous and I should become feeling better after a month. He gave me Oxazepam which helps when me calm down when I'm having a panic attack. After the doctors office I told myself I will begin a uphill battle to rid myself of this anxiety. Now two months later after my first panic attack on January 4th I still am not better. There is a good and a bad out of this now. The good news is that I have stopped having panic attacks and don't have that intense fear of not knowing what is happening to me. The bad news is, the panic attacks have been replaced by the HORRIBLE symptoms of GAD. I will list what I am feeling and hopefully fellow yahoo members can relate and answer my questions. For the past month now, instead of panic attacks I have unbearable feelings coming from GAD. I have done a lot of research on the web and almost all the sites list my symptoms exactly as if I would have said them out of my own mouth. My most troublesome feelings currently are Derealization/Depersonalization. I feel so out of it. Its extremely hard to describe but I would say I feel like I am not mentally here in this world and I'm just an observer to life and I feel like I am a robot. I feel like I have lost MY thoughts and actions and have been replaced by a whole new version of myself who has a totally different thought process. I space out constantly and just don't feel real anymore. It is such a scary feeling. I need to know to that these feelings will go away. I also have been having an extreme difficulty falling and staying asleep. I wake up constantly during the night and can't get a good nights rest. Some nights I will wake up many times and having racing thoughts going through my head. I feel like I simply cant turn my brain off. I feel li

    • ANSWER:

  35. QUESTION:
    What symptom or other health problem you have with G.I.D?
    i will like to know what symptom anxiety or health problem you have with gender identity disorder. the problem i have is bad anxiety. i would like to know what you had or what you have from gid?

    i am a male to female.

    • ANSWER:
      Dear Ashley,
      The truth is that the VAST majority of trans-persons in our society suffer from extreme depression. So much so that
      About ½ year ago they found that by age 18 half of all TG youth had made at least one attempt on there own life.
      And that 53% of us don’t make it to age 40.
      Hugs,
      PennyAnn

  36. QUESTION:
    [10pt best answer]What is name of disorder where person thinks they suffer from all MENTAL health disorders?
    NOT hypochondriasis (Hypochondriasis deals with PHYSICAL complaints without a cause (anxiety of having a serious physical disease), they may repreatedly go to a doctor, go to many doctors because they believe one + doctor is wrong, it typically begins in middle age, involves focusing on symptoms, cognitive perceptual distortions, and an inaccurate conceptualization of health.) OR somatization disorder (occurs before age 30, history of PHYSICAL complaints w/o medical cause, people are not concerned with the meaning of symptoms, onset is typically adolesence, and involves weak behavioral inhibition system).

    The two mental health disesases deal with PHYSICAL symptoms (i.e. gastro/intestinal, sexual/reproductive, and neurological symptoms). What is the name of the mental health disorder in which an individual believes they have many/all MENTAL health disorders? (i.e. say someone thinks they have OCD, body dismorphic disorder, conversion disorder, depersonalization disorder, dissociative identity disorder, dysthymia, bulemia, sleep apnea).

    I can't seem to remember the name.

    • ANSWER:
      munchausen syndrome ... its in eminems song lol

  37. QUESTION:
    Sound like anxiety disorder?
    Ok so this has been happening for 4 weeks, I always worried I had a brain tumor. I went to the doctor and they said my iron was really low but I still dont believe it. Everytime I worry about it I will get a headache and will feel like im feeling the symptoms of a brain tumor but when Im focused on somethign else I have no headaches no nothing. My blood pressure has increased and so has my heartrate. Its not just health I worry about its other stuff like when im in the shower im afraid that someone will break into my house or something crazy. I have chest pains when I excersice, and while I do my homework I just get so stressed I sart to cry. I always google my symptoms and If I have one symptom of cancer I will get a panic attack. Also I will be focusign on googling my symptoms so much I forget to do homework and my grades are slipping away. I have alot of the symptoms of anxiety. No one in my family has had anxiety. So this sound like anxiety????
    Srry this is so long lol

    Thanks

    • ANSWER:

  38. QUESTION:
    Hi, I'm a young girl who is pretty sure she has an anxiety disorder.?
    I'm just wondering, do the physical symptoms develop and worsen or change over time?
    Please help, anything, its driving me crazy and making me paranoid and fearful for my health. Thanks for the support I'm sure you guys will give.

    • ANSWER:
      The symptoms vary and yes - they can become more intense depending on the amount of anxiety-producing things are going on in your life.

      Read here:

      http://psychcentral.com/quizzes/anxiety.htm

  39. QUESTION:
    Do I have an anxiety disorder?
    My mom does. A little. Not very much though.
    Here are my symptoms.
    I don't sleep very well. I am always tired. I am always worrying about the worst of things such as- What if this happened? What if this happened and my mom died or I died or my brother died? What if the world ends tomorrow? Just stuff like that
    I am always worrying about health, school work, and family.
    I get bad head aches. I can't concentrate very well. I get distracted very easily. I get startled so so easily(like when I drop my pencil in class, it makes me jump)
    So do you think that these are symptoms of anxiety or something else?

    • ANSWER:
      Well,your symptoms seem to be of some type of anxiety,but you also must learn how to control these negative thoughts and feelings,we all tend to feel anxious at times.But there is a line not to be crossed to the point of allowing ourselves to get way into our own anxiety.Basically...you seem to have some type of anxiety,but just because your mother has anxiety does not mean that you also have to have it.Relax and learn to catch yourself getting anxious,then you will learn how to steer-clear of the anxiety.It sounds silly...but it really did wonders for me and my old anxiety.It really sucks too,that I will never forget!!! I wish you all the best....:).

  40. QUESTION:
    I'm scared all the time...Do I have an anxiety disorder or am I just being stupid?
    I hate being by myself...no matter where I am...it just terrifies me. If i'm walking through a park and there's no-one around I will constantly look round, and I can't relax at all because all I can think about is that someone may be following me...or about to attack me. Its worse if i'm home alone...especially at night time...every single noise terrifies me and I just can't relax at all until i've checked the whole house. Everytime I enter my bedroom I have to search the wardrobes and under the bed to check that there's no-one there. The thought of ever living by myself terrifies me.
    I'm happy to be by myself if i know that others are close by...for example if i'm in one part of the house alone yet i know that other people are in another room, i won't worry at all.
    Even in broad daylight, I still hate to be alone, especially in a public place, and if there isn't people near by I will constantly look around me, certain that there's someone waiting to attack me.
    I also constantly worry about my health and spend hours on symptoms websites doing tests to see whether i have some disease.
    Is this just me being paranoid? Or do I have an anxiety disorder? Does anyone know whats wrong with me??
    Thanks for your help xxx
    p.s. just to let you know i'm 16 years old...is this normal for someone of my age?

    • ANSWER:
      You are NOT being stupid. You need help because it looks like you have anxiety, compulsive disorder and being paranoid. It doesn't matter what how old you are. I am 24 and I was diagnosed with major depression and anxiety. I go to therapy and I just started on Prozac. Please get professional help cause you won't beat anxiety on your own.

      I hate going to the store or public places cause I think people are watching me and/or they are about to physically hurt me. I hate sleeping in the dark. And yes, I often check everywhere in my house cause I feel someone is hiding. And I am paranoid all the time.

  41. QUESTION:
    Severe anxiety and ocd symptoms?
    i do have anxiety disorder but this is outta control. for the past 2 weeks i have been just in bed constantly worried bout health and been to 5 different doctors. i cant stop worrying about my health i always feel like sometihng is wrong or undetected and has became obsessive. xanax helps alot but i still get anxiety/panic feel like i cant breath and dizziness hearth palpiations and sleep trouble they gave me zoloft and more xanax. anyone else deal with this? please give story. im 28 male and having rough time with health lately not sure if my mind playing tricks but unpleasant.

    • ANSWER:
      Using your logical mind, think about this. If you have been to 5 different Doctors and they have found nothing medically wrong with you, then the likelihood is that there is nothing wrong with your health. Doctors have years of training and want to help you, so if they each have checked you out and found nothing, it is most likely there is nothing 'real' wrong with you. Do you see what I am saying? Of course because you are very anxious and worried about this, you're finding it difficult to probably think logically. Have you a family Doctor who knows you really well who could reassure you better? Its not your health that is needing checked and reassured, it is your mind and no amount of tests and poking around will help with your mind. Have you tried even relaxation exercises to calm your racing thoughts? So that the logical part of your brain will reason out your worries better. Take care xx

  42. QUESTION:
    How much does alcohol contribute to the effects of anxiety and depersonalization?
    i suffer from dp, dr, ocd, panic disorder, generalized anxiety disorder and a few others. unlucky, i know. Im also somewhat of an alcohol abuser, for about 7 yrs. i drink primarily to ease my symptoms, but the day after is a nightmare- so i hit the bottle again, a vicious cycle, not every night, but most. could alcohol be the cause of my deteriorating mental state? Could it lead to more mental disorders? how big a part does alcohol really play in people with mental health issues? thanks guys.

    • ANSWER:
      Alcohol is a depressant it can exacerbate symptoms, especially those in the mood/anxiety category. Alcohol does kill brain cells and can cause you to develop Korsekoff Syndrome, a type of dementia.

  43. QUESTION:
    What's my problem? (Mental Health disorders)?
    What's my problem? (Mental Health disorders)?
    I have been aware that something about me is amiss ever since childhood and I still don't know what my problem is.

    Just about everything has been suggested and/or diagnosed at some point with a variety of "disorders" including depression, ADD, social anxiety disorder, High Functioning Autism, Asparagers, I forget what else honestly but it probably leaving me worse off than where I started, a common problem in psychology because there is too many unknowns about the mind to go about labeling people the way we do). Furthermore, one of the major flaws I have learned is that each disorder has way too many symptoms to the point that it makes it easy to apply just about any disability to an individual, but never really finding the right one.

    But anyway, what I do know for certain is that I am AWFUL in social situations and a complete embarassment to myself and EVEN THOUGH I have enough awareness of what I do wrong in these situations, I still can't seem to change it naturally or even force it. Examples of this include not "getting" jokes so i might sort of half assed pretend that I do, forcing eye contact in conversation frequently, electing to be alone far more often than hanging out with friends, no ability to engage in small talk whatsoever. As a result I do have a tendency to withdraw as a learned defense mechanism. It is NOT that I would prefer to avoid social situations, but rather I am such a social cripple and as a result I have learned to do withdraw or disconnect even though I would love to be join in, associate myself with other people better, engage in conversations that everyone else is involved in.

    Everyone I know or have met labels me as "shy" but my problem isn't holding back in a conversation due to fear of judgment from others like many others think. No, my problem is having nothing to say, no place, lack of interest (that I'll try to force at times), etc. Lets just put it this way, I have the same problems around the people I am most comfortable with, so lets dismiss the whole "shy" thing here. I will admit, however, that I am often extremely nervous as a result of feeling disconnected from others but I have never suffered from a panic attack. and so I ask you guys out there: What IS wrong with me? Any psychology buffs have an answer to my case or am I bound to live with the knowledge that I have a problem that is impossible to ever get an accurate diagnosis for because of the factors i mentioned in the 1st paragraph?
    I appreciate everybody's insight here. Each and every answer here was helpful and if I could select multiple "best answers" here I definetely would. Something I want to add, however, to those who suggested depression and anti-depressants is that this all started with a shrink that I started seeing during a time when I didn't feel I needed one at all! My family decided that their problems at the time were effecting me when it really wasn't, and in the end of it all I was prescribed Prozac by a psychiatrist, and it did nothing but send me down a path of confusion for the last 7-8 years where I have been prescribed to all sorts of BS and I really believe that it is because of this that I am where I am today... and now feeling like I have more mental issues than ever. Like the last answer suggested, maybe a good shrink would have helped, but maybe not. Basically I'm saying from personal experience is be careful if you decide to seek medical help because it might just leave you worseOff

    • ANSWER:
      This clearly can't be diagnosed in YAnswers. i would need more info than this and would have to do a social, family and developmental history to better grasp the issue. For example, I'd want to know if the situation is worsened by caffeine or by a heightened emotional state and a host of numerous other questions. What you describe, w/o a comprehensive evaluation, could indicate anything from agoraphobia to mad cow disease to an anxiety disorder (yep, I know these are strange examples, but they make the point).

      Our profession is far from exact, but a very good shrink can be very useful. In our practice, at times we run into mystery conditions and the only way to diagnose is to see which medication it responds to. For example, depression can come from hyperthyroidism, low blood sugar, a metabolic disorder or any other host of illnesses. A blood draw can be helpful at times, and responding well to a specific medication can be useful in delineating the condition.

      None of us can give you a diagnosis, but an excellent psychologist/psychiatrist can go a long way.

      Good Luck. Hope this helps.

  44. QUESTION:
    If I speak to my family doctor about being diagnosed with Social Anxiety Disorder, will my parents find out?
    Hello, I'm 18, and since I've been in middle school, I've been having symptoms of what I believe to be Social Anxiety Disorder.

    First, I will explain what I'm talking about. You can skip this part if you want, as it is not completely related to the question. I'm absolutely terrified to go to parties, clubs, and the like. In social situations, I'm always wondering what people are thinking of me. If I walk by a person laughing, I automatically think that they are laughing at me. I have a friend that has tried to hook me up with a few girls. I fail because I spend the whole time trying to think of things to say without sounding like an idiot. I cannot use public restrooms, and have to force myself to use restrooms at another person's house. It's so bad that I've strained so hard to the point that I get hemorrhoids just trying to pass urine. When I was in school and had to give presentations, I got so shaky. My palms would sweat and my body temperature would go through the roof. It would get so bad that I'd cuss in frustration in the middle of the presentation. I even cussed in a spelling bee once because I was stumbling over letters as I was spelling a word. I don't have many friends. When given the opportunity to meet new people, I often make up very elaborate lies to get my way out of going. It's such a damn hindrance. And it all sounds so completely ridiculous, even to myself. I know that there is no good reason I should feel the way I do in social situations, but that in itself is not enough to stop me from acting the way I do. I want to get out more. I want to meet new people. I want to be able to have fun without feeling paranoid about what other people will think about me. I dropped out of college because I was so afraid of having to give presentations and work in groups. The campus scared the hell out of me. I'm currently trying to figure out what I want to do with my life. I can go back to college for free if I choose to. But I know that if I continue to feel this way, I won't have it in me to rise to an even moderately respectful social status.

    Now, for my question...I am seriously considering speaking to my family doctor about this issue. My parents aren't very understanding of this kind of thing. I feel that if they found out I was going to see the doctor over something like this, that they would discourage me, tell me that I'm overreacting, and ultimately convince me not to go. I am still under my parents' health insurance...so I would assume that if I go to the doctor for something, they would end up finding out what it was for. I don't want them to think I'm a fool, or that I'm doing something dumb...But if I did go to see about being diagnosed with Social Anxiety Disorder, could I ask the doctor to keep my reason for going confidential from my parents?

    Thank you for taking the time to read this, and for any answers you might have.

    -Allan

    • ANSWER:
      If your 18 years of age the doctor cannot discuss or release any of your medical information without your consent.

  45. QUESTION:
    I suffer severe depression and have an anxiety disorder.Should i quit my dope Habit?...?
    I suffer severe depression and have an anxiety disorder.Should i quit my dope habit?...
    I've been smoking weed heavily for almost 17 years...i started early as my ENTIRE family smoke, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles all of them...I started at just 7 years old. (disgusting, i know...but i was just a child i didn't know it was all that bad)
    I don't feel that the weed has ever gotten in the way of anything, my partners have all been smokers and i've always had good jobs.
    Recently i've had a break-down due to a bad break up with my ex.
    I've decided to quit... I smoked my VERY last one last night and put away all paraphernalia, grinders, rizlas etc... I've just been reading about the withdrawal symptoms of weed and they are: depression, anxiety, restlessness and insomnia...
    My question is... is it really a good idea for me to quit while i'm already suffering severe depression and anxiety?
    I can't sleep and haven't managed to eat today... i'm sweating like mad too... feel really hot!... i feel it would be nice to have a smoke... but i feel so so serious about quitting...

    should i quit? or wait until my mental health has re-gained some stability?

    Any advice?
    YVONNE S...YOU HAVE BEEN REPORTED FOR NOT ONLY INSULTING ME BUT ALSO MY FAMILY...I CAME ON HERE IN NEED OF HELP AT A DESPARATE TIME...HOW DARE YOU INSULT ME AND MY FAMILY!... YOU HAVE NO CLUE...
    as for everyone esle.. thanks very much i really apriciate all the advice...
    oh yeah... and i only smoke the best weed thanks... LOL... only buds no hash or shitty weed!...as i said...been smoking 17 years... i know good weed n shit weed! lol...

    • ANSWER:
      it's definitely a good idea to quit the drug habit but you do need to be sure. it will be really hard and that's something you need to be prepared for

      It's a good idea to get support in place (whether it be outside help, friends or within the family) It usually helps to have somebody there to talk to when you are feeling your worst,

      also its a great idea to have alternative coping strategies in place to ease the feelings and cravings for cannabis. also to stop you from feeling the need to turn to other coping strategies which could be potentially destructive

      i hope this helps X

  46. QUESTION:
    Do i really have generalized anxiety disorder or is it something else?
    I have recently been diagnosed with hypothyroidism within the past month. Before then I had no health problems, and i never worried about it. Since I have been having symptoms from my thyroid problem, I seem to worry about everything now. My symptoms started out as just a racing heart. I had blood work and an EKG done and both came back normal besides the thyroid. Im on medication now but I keep worrying about it. I went to the emergency room because I had an anxiety attack, and that is where they said i have generalized anxiety disorder. Lately I have been going to bed around 10 and wont fall asleep until 3 or 4. Also, my vision seems blurry, almost like im in a dream or not even there. I also got my vision tested to make sure and that came back normal as well. Ive been shaky and last night was the first night i had numbness/tingling in my legs and arms. It seems to get worse when its dark and im alone. Is there something else going on or is it just me? Im a 20 yr old female.

    • ANSWER:
      Hello Kenzie..

      What I think has happened is, that finding out you have a medical condition has frightened and upset you and this has knocked your confidence. It has caused you to become overly concerned with your health and be hyper sensitive to bodily sensations.

      All the symptoms you have described are classic anxiety symptoms. You did the right thing and got yourself checked out by the doctor, so you know you are ok. The condition you have Hypothyroidism, can be successfully treated with medication. There is no reason now why you can't just get on with your life and enjoy it.

      Panic attacks are very destressing, but once you realise, that the symptoms are self induced, as in they are caused by anxiety thoughts, or suddenly reacting to an anxious moment, or a sudden over awareness of a normal bodily function. You panic and think, I'm dying, or I'm going blind, or I'm having a stroke. Its pure fear. Tell yourself, you are ok, nothing terrible is going to happen. You know this to be true, as you have been checked by the doctor who says you are fine.You can start using that information, to calm yourself down.

      Most panic attacks last no longer then a few mins, though when they are happening I know it can seem to go on for ever. Best thing you can do, is try to keep your breathing normal. Let the feeling wash over you and consciously relax your body. Try not to react to it. If you can keep doing this, your panic attacks should start to shorten and eventually will stop. There are some great relaxation cd's out there as well as self help books about anxiety and panic attacks. Knowing what is causing it, is half the battle. The rest of it, is about staying calm and letting it pass. I hope this helps.

  47. QUESTION:
    I Don't Know Which Anxiety Disorder I Have!?
    I Am 13 And I Know I Have Had Anxiety Problems From Around 6 Years Old.
    These Included LOTS Of Health Worries , Significant Obsessively Touching Things More Than Once Like Light Switches Not Wearing Certain Colours . Worries About Other Things And Lots Of GAD And OCD Symptoms. I Have Cognitive Therapy Oh And I Also Worry About Upsetting People. This Ruled My Life Before I Was Put On Sertraline Tablets. I Haven't Been Told The Name Of My Anxiety DIsorder But I Think Its OCD Or GAD Or Both ?? Does ANyone Know?

    • ANSWER:
      Make an appointment with your doctor and inform her/him that you want some clear answers. This is the only way to be sure and to also find alternative ways to help yourself. The medicine you are on is used for depression and OCD, which does cover your symptoms.

  48. QUESTION:
    Anxiety Disorder - How do I find a good psychiatrist, do i need one?
    This has been going on for about 3 months now, ever since a bad experience with a drug. Long story short, I had an anxiety attack while on something and believed I was dying. Since then I have been getting panic attacks multiple times throughout the day. I was told I have an anxiety disorder, which might be true.

    Also, at times I feel that I'm mentally unstable (which I probably am) but I've never felt it this much. I feel like I'm going to develop symptoms and soon acquire a full diagnosis of a schizo patient. I'm terrified of that too.

    I probably need to see a psychiatrist, I'm not sure. But if so, how do I go about to look for a good psychiatrist (granted they take my insurance). I don't want to go to a public health center psychiatrist. I want to go to a respectable and legit doctor (sorry for the generalizations/stereotype)

    • ANSWER:

  49. QUESTION:
    Should I accept the fact that i have generalized anxiety disorder?
    Im a 20 year old female. About four months ago i went to my physician because I was have a racing heart and some palpitations. She did some blood work and found out I had hypothyroidism. She said my symptoms should go away in a few weeks. They didnt go away and I ended up going to the emergency room about a month later where they told me I had an anxiety attack and they diagnosed me with generalized anxiety disorder. I went for a few more weeks. Throughout all of this I have been experiencing some frightening symptoms. I have had a racing heart throughout everything, headaches, I feel like im not here, like im in a glass bubble watching people around me. i have had snowy vision my entire life but i think it has gotten worse recently, ringing in my ears, numbness/tingling on my ears, neck, arms, legs, nausea. Im so afraid that something is seriously wrong and they havnt found it yet. With my brain or heart? I went back to my physician about a week ago and she prescribed me zantax to take whenever i need it. Im not a fan of taking medication so I have only taken it about twice. Its a very low dose too. My symptoms seem like they are getting worse, so i went back to my physician this morning and she wants to take me of my thyroid medication, and prescribed me zoloft to take everyday for six weeks. then come back and retest my blood levels and see if the anxiety is truly the issue. I just want to be healthy again, I have never had any health issues before this. Do I just need to get over this and accept the fact that it is really all in my head and I just have an anxiety disorder? Thank you so much for hearing me out and I appreciate all the help. I have spent hours online looking at sites trying to reassure myself that im alright.

    • ANSWER:

  50. QUESTION:
    What are some signs of an anxiety disorder?
    My fiance worries constantly about his health. Every day when I am at school, he researches different things he feels and what they could be a sign of. He insists there must be something urgent wrong with him, and complains about being able to feel his heart beat, his blood pressure going up and down,...anything he feels he will immediately look it up and find that all of his symptoms are linked to all these different terrible things. He has been convinced that he has prostate issues, cancer, this, that-he always has a new thing that could be wrong with him. I am very worried about him and I think his only actual problem is that he is struggling with extreme anxiety. He recently went to the eye doctor and they found that he may have glaucoma, and this has sent him on a HUGE worry frenzy. He is going to find out within the next week or two whether he actually does have it and what they can do about it...but I am not sure any of the symptoms he feels normally even have to do with glaucoma..

    Does this sound like a typical anxiety disorder? and if so, what could treat it? (I do not think he should take benzos..but if that is the only thing available,...)

    • ANSWER:
      Definately a hypochondriac, it is causing him to have anxiety, and possibly panic attacks. Get him involved in something other than his health. Try starting little activities, because if you have a big activity it could make him start to freak out a little. These things can be cured with pure reassurance alone, tell him he is ok and change the topic.


Hamilton Anxiety Test

Written By: admin - Apr• 19•12

Depression tests are given by health providers in order to assess the level of depression of the patient. Different Depression Tests vary not only in their set of questions but on their assessment procedures as well.

Depression tests are grouped as self-test questionnaires given by health providers. There are several self tests for determining a person’s level of depression.

• Self-Tests

Zung Depression Scale – This is a 10 minute screening test with 20 questions. This is for people who experienced symptoms in the past 2 weeks. Scoring includes 50-69 common range for depression and 70+ for severe depression.

Center for Epidemiologic Studies Depression Scale (CES-D) – This test has a total of 20 questions. It was developed by Lenore S. Radloff for the assessment of depression symptoms for the past week. This also tracks the progress, on a weekly basis, in a short form. Depression is present when there are a 16+ point gained. This is also equivalent to 10+ points in short form of.

Geriatric Depression Scale (GDS) – This is for adults. It is screening test with 30 questions and a short form of 15 questions. Scores indicates; 10-19 = for Mild Depression, 20-30 = for Severe Depression. For the Short Form, 4-10 = Mild Depression, 10-14 = Severe Depression.

Some of the detailed self-assessment depression tests are:

1. The National Mental Health Association Depression Screening
2. Mayo Clinic Depression Assessment
3. The Wakefiled Self-Report Questionnaire on Depression

• Free Depression Tests Online

Anxiety and Depression Screening Test – These are screening questions for assessing anxiety disorders as a mental illness.

Goldberg Depression Questionnaire – This is designed by Dr. Ivan Goldberg. It consists of 18 questions. It can be answered with the use of a scale that responds to their feelings. Scoring comparison are: 54+ for Severely Depressed, 36-53 for Moderate to Severe, 22-35 for Mild to Moderate, 18-21 for Borderline Depressed, 10-17 for Possible Mild Depression, 0-9 for Likely Not Depressed.

Wakefield Depression Questionnaire – This is composed of 12 questionnaires which can assess signs of depression at the moment you are answering it. A score of 15+ points needs a care of a mental health professional.

• Tests Given By Health Care/Mental Health Professionals

Beck Depression Inventory (BDI) – This is commonly used by health providers. This has about 21 multiple test questions that can assess a patient for the past two weeks who needs further treatment. The higher the score, the more severe the depression is.

The Depression-Arkansas Scale (D-ARK) – This brief instrument developed test is made by Dr. G. Richard Smith. It has 11 questions that can assess disorders for the past 4 weeks. It is categorized by: 0-8 minimal, 9-12 mild, 13-8 moderate and 9+ severe.

Edinburgh Postnatal Depression Scale (EPDS) – This depression screening test has about 10 questions which can assess the last 7 days, for further evaluation. 9+ points indicates a suicidal tendency and 1+ point for further care assessment via health providers.

Hamilton Depression Rating Scale (HAM-D) – This has a total of 21 questions that can assess severe symptoms. This is handed by health professionals for proper monitoring. Severe indicates a high score.

Cornell Dysthymia Rating Scale (CDRS) – This test assesses dysthymia symptoms. It has about 20 test questions.

Depression Tests are designed to determine the risk of developing a depressive disorder. The test is a series of questions which concerns the daily habits and mood swings. This can help identify symptoms for more evaluation and can only be done by professionals.

Depression tests are now on the tip of our hands offers instant free results. Aside from this, it can be done with confidential screening nowadays. The National Mental Association even started its web based tests so as to lower the risk of people not seeking help.

Although the disorder is highly treatable, The American Psychiatric Association states that eighty to ninety percent can be treated effectively with the help of depression testing. Once the testing is done, the report and personalized interpretation will pass through medical professionals for proper treatment.

Depression Tests is an early warning signal of the disorder. The best way to help a person is to undergo different tests so as to manage the stage of depression before it becomes full-blown. The type of depression will depend on the treatment given to the patient.

Symptoms of depression include the following:

• loss of activity interest
• sad mood
• changes in body weight and appetite
• less sleep or oversleep
• loss of energy
• agitation
• inappropriate guilt
• concentration difficulty
• suicide attempts
• and a feeling of worthlessness

Other warning signals include low motivation, extended fatigue and chronic frustration.

Depression Tests are not intended as the official diagnosis or a medical treatment substitute. This only serves as the primary route for the recommendation of a patient, especially for future plans of diagnosis and treatments. Treatment would include:

• Antidepressant medications
• Psychotherapy
• Or both

Aside from this, a referral to a good psychologist or psychiatrist would ease these depression problems. Thus, in order to effectively carry out these tests, doctors do a background check on the patient, particularly for past depressive episodes. Observing different situations is also part of the diagnosis. This is where the doctors can identify if the patient is suffering from emotional or physical depression.

Frequently Asked Questions

  1. QUESTION:
    do i have anxiety? i took a test on The Anxiety Community?
    and the results came up as

    Hamilton Anxiety Scale (HAMA)

    Your score is: 24

    Mild Anxiety: 18+
    Moderate Anxiety: 25+
    Severe Anxiety: 30+

    is there like medication for this type of stuff?
    but where do i get them? im 17 and havent really told my parents about this. i dont really talk t them about anything

    • ANSWER:

  2. QUESTION:
    Driver Road Test license!!!?
    I'm About to take my G Drivers test (g2 exit) this Thursday down at the drive test center in Hamilton Ontario, near Barton and Kenora.

    I am nervous and have some anxiety does anyone have any advice or tips on how to help whether it be for nerves/ anxiety or the road test it self I am actually stressing about this whole test and cant seem to think of anything else but it.

    • ANSWER:
      I'm 17 and I just took and passed the test on my first attempt about a month ago. It wasn't hard at all, so you really shouldn't stress it. Just try not to be nervous. What I did was pretend my mom or friend was in the passenger seat. The things you need to know are your left and right signals, parallel parking(easier than it seems), and just knowing how to brake smooth, keep a steady speed usually right at the speed limit, and obey traffic signs. Thats pretty much all there is! Hope you pass! Goodluck!

  3. QUESTION:
    Ontario drivers...... G license Highway road test ....Help!!!!!!?
    Finally that the strike is over I have to book my G (highway) road test I'm pretty (really) nervous about it because I don't want to fail seeing that my g2 expires in may.

    Maybe I get some extra time because of the strike situation but still I'm really scared and stressed of this G license thing I just want to put an end to it and pass so this weight will be lifted off my shoulders I'm not a bad driver But I feel I have to be a perfectionist for the examiners which is a lot of pressure knowing that just one mistake and I could fail meanwhile a lot of people on the road shouldn't even have licenses and even examiners make mistakes.

    I will probably book it at the drive test place in Hamilton, Ontario at Barton and Kenora so does anybody know how hard this test is(I know there is no easy place to go to and its just common sense but i also feel that its a 50/50 possibly even an 60/40 chance with these examiners with pass/fail rates).

    And what will I have to do... possibly the route the examiner will take me through can anybody give me some help,hints or tips,experiences,advice.... best time to go during the day and what days of the week, what to do/watch out for, get rid of anxiety/nervous and stay calm and anything else, I'm also in my 20's so will they consider that seeing I'm older and not 16 or 17 but anything that will help? & sorry about the essay I typed.

    • ANSWER:
      Boy, if you are this nervous now I'd hate to be around when you get behind the wheel! You will screw up for sure and no amount of advice is going to help.


Getting Rid Of Social Anxiety Disorder

Written By: admin - Apr• 19•12

Life is like a stage. In some way, shape, or form, we are all people with masks playing the roles of actors. And at some point, we can all get some stage fright as we perform in front of other people. This analogy can be compared to having social anxiety in any real life situation. Here are just some examples, from very high types of social anxiety to lower types of society anxiety.

Very High

  • Giving a business presentation in group meeting
  • Being in an job interview with a group of professional interviewers
  • Giving a formal speech in front of a large audience
  • Performing on stage in front of hundreds of thousands of people

High

  • Calling somebody on the phone you dont know well
  • Starting a conversation with a stranger
  • Going on a date with somebody you like
  • Going to a party where there will be lots of people

Medium

  • Returning something back to the store you just bought
  • Trying to politely escape from an effective sales person
  • Showing disagreement with somebody in public
  • Speaking to an authority figure like your professor or your boss

Low

  • Eating food while others watch you
  • Trying on clothes at the mall while people wait for you
  • Being sung happy birthday to by a group of friends
  • Being called on in class and not knowing the answer

Im sure you have gone through some of these experiences such as being called on in class and not knowing the answer, eating something while others are looking at you, or going through a painful job interview where you are making up answers on the spot. I know; it gives me the chills too. All of these situations cause social anxiety even before we step on that stage. And as you can see, some deal with us participating while others deal with just being observed.

Do you see something common in all these situations however? It feels like all of these scenarios deal with one common thing, and that is how we react tobeing evaluated by others. Social anxiety, in another way, can also be referred to evaluation anxiety because our anxiety is rooted from how we feel others are evaluating us like your boss, your friends, or even your date sitting across from you at the table.

It is common to feel scared, nervous, shy, or embarrassed in front of a social atmosphere and this is what we call social anxiety. And before we find out ways to get rid of these anxious feelings, lets identify these feelings first so we know what we are going through. Most social anxiety experiences fall into categories. Here are some examples.

Think Negatively About What Will Happen When Nothing Has Even Happened Yet

  • Oh no she probably wont like the way I dress.
  • What was I thinking wearing this today?
  • I didnt prepare. Im going to mess up this speech.
  • My friends are going to think Im weird for doing this.

Frequently Asked Questions

  1. QUESTION:
    what are natural at home ways to get rid of social anxiety disorder?
    what are natural at home ways to get rid of social anxiety disorder?
    i have valerian root capsules and st john wort at home, does this get rid of this condition?

    • ANSWER:
      The pills may help but its not realistic to expect them to prevent anxiety. They don't cure the cause. In almost all cases of social anxiety there is no serious imbalance in brain chemistry (except in severe cases) its purely all in the head.

      You should ask yourself on a scale of 1-5 how severe this condition is. If you're just having difficulty maybe asking someone out on a date or have mild symptoms then you can try to work this out on your own. If you have a more severe case then you should seek counseling. Any severe anxiety disorder 95% of the time requires effective treatment to correct.

      You might try a few things like have a simple converstation in a mirror or have a friend or relative come over and do some role playing. The other way you might face this anxiety is to try to tackle it head on and do things like try out for sports or join school or community groups. The worse thing is to do nothing. Because then you just make this homeostasis that only ensures the anxiety never goes away. Counseling, even in mild cases of social anxiety can also help too.

  2. QUESTION:
    How do I get rid of social anxiety disorder?
    I know I have this disorder and I would like to get rid of it. This disorder limits me in many ways. Like I don;t want jobs that require being too exposed to people or just talking to people. A job I refused to work in is Mcdonalds drive thru since I needed to talk to people all the time. Please, how do I get rid of it? Thanks :)

    • ANSWER:
      A therapist would be very beneficial.

  3. QUESTION:
    I am diagnosed with social anxiety disorder. I need some tips on getting rid of my nervous tic...?
    When most nervous (speaking in front of a group), the muscles in my neck tense up. I can prevent my head from twitching by rubbing the back of my neck constantly, but this is not an appropriate method. Does anyone have any suggestions, other than medication? Can anyone explain the physiology behind this to me? Thanks.

    • ANSWER:
      The nervous system is found in every inch of your body and that's why most anxious people complain about aching muscles. So the sensations you feel are nerve related.
      Muscle tension can cause a lot of pain. For example, pains in the neck or back can cause the blood vessels and nerves to become restricted and this can cause a headache.
      Massage is the best way to relax the muscles, even if you are not in a social situation, so try to get a friend to do it for you, this way it'll be better.
      Hope this helped!

  4. QUESTION:
    How long does it take to get rid of Social Anxiety Disorder?
    Hi. I am 16, and I strongly believe that I have social anxiety disorder/social phobia. I am starting to see a psychiatrist in a months time. I rarely ever leave my house, as when I do, I start shaking and can't breathe, and when I do go out, I can't breathe, and think that I will either get attacked, or that everybody is talking about me and laughing at me. I can't do social things like use the telephone, or get a date, or talk to friends, or even look people in the eye. I even had to quit college and finding it hard to even go out and look for a job.

    So, I was wondering how long does it take to get rid of this disorder? Or doesn't it fully go away and I will always have it?

    Many thanks to all who reply

    • ANSWER:
      I'm sorry to hear!

      But there are way to cure your anxiety, though it doesn't go over one night.

      It's a good thing that you have decided to go to a psychiatrist.

      Usually it's important to find the source to why your anxiety started. Do you remember when and how it started?

      A usual reason to having anxiety disorder is because of a lack of knowledge or self esteem.

      Your brain shows you scanarios that are not true.

      Usually other people have their own problems to think about, and don't have the time to think about you.

      It can also depend on a lack of self confidence.

      So the best thing in my opinion, is to start facing your fears (though you can do it slowly), and try to build up your confidence as well.

      One thing I would recommend you is to get a bike.

      Maybe this sounds strange, but I have been using my own bike to face some of my social fears.

      This way you can get more relaxed (I get more relaxed of the physical training) and you can also quaite easliy leave social situations if it would be to tough for you.

      Repeat this some times, and you're brain will finally be used to that it's not dangerous anymore. Trust me I know!

      Good Luck and don't try to be anyone else.

      Just be yourself!

  5. QUESTION:
    how to get rid of social anxiety disorder?
    im 17 male, had it for 1 year and half now im sick of it already how can i get rid of it i dont go out at all i havent had a gf in 3 years

    • ANSWER:
      hey dude, i have had an anxiety disorder my whole life, i feel your pain, though it isnt the same as yours it does keep me from being as social as i could be without it. im also a teen. the thing is, look at the positives, it has made so much stronger emotionally and mentally, without it i would be in a way different place than i am now. with it i have gone through struggles like having to shave my head and gone through school as bassically a loner and an outcast.

      now a solution, there probably is one out there. but dont bother, there are a lot easier ways, first off find a psychiatrist ( gives you meds) and a therapist, it may sound ridiculous but it helps, get some meds and go to the therapist, they will help you find calming techniques and will help you get over this, i have gotten a ton better over the years with these. i might be able to get completly over it, but for now im just living my life and taking my meds.

      good luck to ya and private message me if you want anymore help :)

  6. QUESTION:
    How can I get rid of social anxiety disorder?
    I'm constantly being referred to as 'the quiet one' I'm sick of it. Everybody knows I'm shy, my mum, my friends and my family. I have no confidence what so ever. I can't talk on the phone to strangers, order my own food in a restaurant, make a conversation with someone (only my close friends) the list goes on. I can be loud and confident but only in front of my best friend Courtney who I have known for years. I came across a website which explained the symptoms of Social Anxiety Disorder and I have near enough every symptom mentioned. I told my mum about this and even my friends, they think I'm just exaggerating (because I can be a bit dramatic at times) ''You're just a little shy, you'll grow out of it in a few years'' I hate performing, speeches plays, etc. And I hate being called on in class. Ever since year 3 I have become more and more shy, and more symptoms have developed. It's got to a point now where I just can't cope. I left school in january because of it, I'm back in school now though. (long story). I need my confidence back, How can I get it back? I've been trying myself for years.

    • ANSWER:
      Well I've found quite a few people with SAD post on yahoo answers every day. I'll put up some excerpts from an email I sent to another person, since my replies tend to get lengthy and frequent.

      I've been a social anxiety sufferer since I was 11yrs old, I'm 21 now....

      ... I only told one person...and waited...and waited, before seeking more help. For whatever reason that you don't trust people doesn't matter...

      ...However, the therapist continued to ask questions about my background and what my exact problem with people were. It did start to work its way out more fluently. After that I started telling some of my friends about what I was going through and why I visited. Even though it was only tidbits to each person

      ... Through the therapy process, you'll learn more about the fundamentals of communication and emotions. All of that being stuff you already know but was afraid to apply. You'll realize you've left alot of lessons unlearned. You probably thought by being observant of other people's mistakes, you can avoid those mistakes yourself. Too bad it doesn't work that way have to experience things for yourself. Hopefully, you are cautious and lucky about the consequences. That's why you learn as a child being caught taking a cookie not to steal instead of getting charged for grand theft auto as an adult. You are going to get hurt, but guess what you're no different from everybody else. We all learn these lessons including those you feel inferior too. You think they're better because they don't make those kinds of mistakes. However that's only true because they have made those mistakes in the past, dealt with their emotions, learned their lesson, got over it and learned how to prevent the same situation from occuring. That's why you never got over embarrasment or anxiety. You avoid learning the lesson and sharing your experiences. Not only do you not know how to recover from it but you're open to making the same mistakes over and over again.

      You know how to socialize. You know how to be in the same room with somebody else and enjoy each others company. Wether its silent or not. By the way, silence isn't always awkward. For the most part, its not awkward at all. You just make it out that way. All you have to do is relax, stay with the moment, stay out of your head(meaning being focused on others, not on what you did wrong socially), and focus on others. Don't try to impress. People don't like anyone who's better than them. Perhaps that might be why some people prefer not to talk to you because you only show the best side of you and not your vulnerabilities. They wonder why you seem so perfect when they later find out you're not that great with people. All of a sudden, you're not upfront or honest about yourself to them and they don't want anything to do with you. If you tell them about your experiences and vulnerabilities, then they find out its not that bad to open up to you. Now they start talking to you and that brick wall between you starts to erode away.

      I started becoming more open to people about who I was, thus I started being more genuine and more people became my friends and more people talked to me more often. Believe me, its not always up to you to keep the conversation going, its up to them too. If it gets silent, don't immediately assume its your fault. It might be their problem that the conversation stalled. Hell, you might even be inclined to ask them if anythings bothering them and why they are so quiet.

      There's alot more to it, thats just a cookie cutter response I'm using for everyone who posts for help. If you want more personal help just email me rob_pawlak@yahoo.com

  7. QUESTION:
    Is there any way to get rid of 'Social Anxiety Disorder'?
    The only time I feel confident and can speak to people is when I've been drinking alcohol. I dropped out of school because I had no friends and I just hated it. I'm starting college in September and I don't want to be like this then. Can anti-depressants or any other type of pill stop it? How can I get rid of it?

    • ANSWER:
      Social Anxiety Disorder can be managed with drugs and therapy. The drugs (antidepresents) can be used to manage the anxiety and depression. If you have generalized anxiety disorder (fear over many social situations) drugs and therapy can be used effectivly in the long term. If you have only fear of a few social situations, couciling alone may be all that is needed. The types of therapy that are usually offered to people with Social Anxiety Disorder are Cognitive-Behavior therapy. Cognitive-Behavior therapy is used to help you identify your anxieties and the situations the provoke anxiety. There are several sub-catagories of Cognitive-behavior therapy that include exposure therapy, social sklls training and cognitive restructuring. Exposure therapy is when you are guided by your therapist to imagine that you are facing your fear or anxiety or situation until you no longer fear it. Social skills training helps you develop the the skills needed in order to engage in social situations. Cognitive restructuring helps you identify and improve fearful thinking in order to help you handle social situations.

      Good luck and I hope everything works out!

  8. QUESTION:
    how to get rid of the social anxiety disorder?
    im 17 male please help me out, i dont go out i go school but i sit in class with a friend but i just look at my table

    • ANSWER:
      Treatments and drugs
      Social anxiety disorder typically persists for life, often waxing and waning. But don't lose hope. Treatment can help you control symptoms and become more confident and relaxed in social situations.approaches are often used in combination.

      Psychotherapy
      Cognitive behavioral therapy improves symptoms in up to 75 percent of people with social anxiety disorder. This type of therapy is based on the idea that your own thoughts — not other people or situations — determine how you behave or react. Even if an unwanted situation won't change — you still have to give a presentation to management, for instance — you can change the way you think and behave in a positive way. In therapy, you learn how to recognize and change negative thoughts about yourself.Cognitive behavioral therapy may also include exposure therapy. In this type of therapy, you gradually work up to facing the situations you fear most. This allows you to become better skilled at coping with these anxiety-inducing situations and to develop the confidence to face them. Relaxation or stress management techniques may be included in your treatment plan. Medication may also be an option.

      Stick with it
      Don't give up if treatment doesn't work quickly. You can continue to make strides in therapy over several weeks or months. And remember that finding the right medication for your situation can take some trial and error.For some people, the symptoms of social anxiety disorder may fade over time, and medication can be discontinued. Others may need to take medication for years to prevent a relapse.

      Lifestyle and home remedies
      Although social anxiety disorder generally requires help from a medical expert or qualified psychotherapist, you can try some self-help techniques to handle situations likely to trigger social anxiety disorder symptoms.First, assess your fears to identify what situations cause the most anxiety. Then gradually practice these activities until they cause you less anxiety. You may need to begin with small steps in situations that aren't overwhelming.

      Situations to practice may include:
      Eating with a close relative, friend or acquaintance in a public setting.
      Making eye contact and returning greetings from others, or being the first to say hello.
      Giving someone a compliment.
      Asking a retail clerk to help you find an item.
      Getting directions from a stranger.
      Showing an interest in others. Ask about their homes, children, grandchildren, hobbies or travels, for instance.
      Calling a friend to make plans.
      At first being social when you are feeling anxious is challenging. As difficult or painful as it may seem initially, don't avoid situations that trigger your symptoms. By regularly facing these kinds of situations, you'll continue to build and reinforce your coping skills.

      The following techniques can help you begin to face situations that make you nervous. Practicing these techniques regularly can help you manage or reduce your anxiety.Prepare for conversation. For instance, read the newspaper to identify an interesting story you can talk about.
      Focus on personal qualities you like about yourself.
      Practice relaxation exercises.
      Adopt stress management techniques.
      Set realistic goals.
      Pay attention to how often the embarrassing situations you're afraid of actually take place. You may notice that the scenarios you fear usually don't come to pass.
      When embarrassing situations do happen, remind yourself that your feelings will pass, and you can handle them until they do.In addition, be sure to keep your medical or therapy appointments, take medications as directed, and talk to your doctor about any changes in your condition.

      Over time, treatment can help you feel more comfortable, relaxed and confident in the presence of others. In the meantime, don't use alcohol or illicit drugs to try to get through an event or situation that makes you anxious.

      Some positive coping methods include:
      Reaching out to people with whom you feel comfortable
      Joining a support group
      Engaging in pleasurable activities, such as exercise or hobbies, when you feel anxious
      Getting enough sleep
      Eating a well-balanced diet

  9. QUESTION:
    Getting rid of social anxiety - where to start?
    I'm 16 at weekly boarding school and have social anxiety disorder. I am planning on applying to oxbridge at the end of the year to study medicine and obviously I need to do voluntary work/hospital work etc. I am extremely anxious at school and i rarely speak and am so depressed , i just want it to stop. I want to know where to start to get rid of this. I know i should c doctor but im so scared of doin that. Ive told my mum how shy i am but she just says she doesn't know what to do to help me. How should i go about trying to get rid of this social anxiety, its ruining my life

    • ANSWER:
      View the information and weblinks for social anxiety/shyness, and self confidence, in sections 9, and 38, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris Here is an exercise that can help you. It is called "Act as If." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior. (I PRETEND that I'm an ACTOR, PLAYING a PART).
      Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit. Try this for a month, in every situation you can. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing.

      One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and yell out: "I'm the President of England", or something else ridiculous, (make up your own - have some fun, safely) then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave. People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot". But, you may not be up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy). Or, preferably in the company of a friend, or family member, on a different train, or bus route to your regular one, call out the names, or numbers of all the stops. It will teach you that, although it isn't actually pleasant, (EXPECT MODERATE DISCOMFORT) you will survive; be stronger for the experience, and the next time (should you need to repeat this type of therapy) will be considerably easier. Remember: "A fear avoided is a fear strengthened; a fear faced is a fear reduced." Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally.

      It is endearing, if you don't do it too often. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me". Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind. Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger. Although there are anti-anxiety medications (anxiolytics) available, these come with risks, and the possibility of side effects, habituation, even addiction, and withdrawal problems, and are unsuitable for young people.

      Try having a cup of "Tension Tamer", herbal tea, by Celestial Seasonings, (from supermarket tea, or health food aisles) or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed (I find it so strong tasting, that I need to drink it quickly, followed by something like fruit juice, to take away the taste, but others may find it more tolerable). C(h)amomile tea is a more palatable option. As with all herbal/green teas, use lemon/lime, and/or a little sweetener (NOT ARTIFICIAL!!!) but no cream, or milk. Xylitol, or Stevia is preferable, (health food stores) or fruit sugar (fructose, such as "Fruisana", from supermarket sugar aisles).

  10. QUESTION:
    getting rid of social anxiety - where to start?
    I'm 16 at weekly boarding school and have social anxiety disorder. I am planning on applying to oxbridge at the end of the year to study medicine and obviously I need to do voluntary work/hospital work etc. I am extremely anxious at school and i rarely speak and am so depressed , i just want it to stop. I want to know where to start to get rid of this. I know i should c doctor but im so scared of doin that. Ive told my mum how shy i am but she just says she doesn't know what to do to help me. How should i go about trying to get rid of this social anxiety, its ruining my life

    • ANSWER:
      Jake realizing you have a problem is on the way to addressing it. You already realize that you need some counseling so go ahead and get it now that you are ready. You have some great goals but to start reaching them you will have to do something about the anxiety. It will be extremely hard being doctor with social anxiety given the amount of interaction you will be required to do, either with patients or peers. As I'm sure you know there are a lot of new SSRI's that help with anxiety as well as prescriptions such as buspar.
      Another suggest to get yourself ready to see a doctor is to start keeping a journal of what is going on with you , journal several times a day and see what some of the main issues are, and maybe ways you start to address each issue. Say for example-"I went out of my way to speak to John today during Biology class" That maybe a silly example but you get the idea. Watch for progress that you are making-DO not look for perfection. At any rate, make a change it sounds like you are ready. God Bless Reggie

  11. QUESTION:
    Does anyone know how or where to get rid of "Social Anxiety Disorder" safely?

    • ANSWER:
      I have social anxiety disorder due to a medical condition. I seen my regular physican and he put me on Effexor (anti deppressant) and also Lorezapam (anti anxiety) as needed. With that and decreasing the stress in my life has helped alot. I do my best to only allow people that I feel comfortable with around me. For awhile I had to avoid several people in my life because my self esteem always took a beating when I was around them. Once I was more sure of myself and surrounded myself with encouraging people then I was able to go "out and take on the world" one day at a time. Hope this helped you.

  12. QUESTION:
    Does hypnotherapy really work for getting rid of disorders such as social anxiety?

    • ANSWER:
      i tried responding to your other question, but it said "something went wrong". anyhoo.

      "ooh, me! seriously. severe social anxiety, depression, lonely, isolated... almost the full package! :D
      S:
      but, besides moi, group therapy. there'll obviously be people like that if they go there for that problem. only problem is, when my sister was in her "visit" the the mental institution, she couldnt talk with the people in group therapy outside of sessions, not until they stopped going. i dunno if that applies to all groups though. "

      you might have deleted the question, don't know, but if i didn't answer it would have bugged me.

  13. QUESTION:
    How do I overcome Social Anxiety Disorder?
    i could have a social anxiety disoder but I already talked to my mom, my dad, my grandma, people i know, I talked to a therapist, a counciler, and all the people i could get that I learned to help get rid of a social anxiety disorder, but nothing helped me. I'm still shy, I can't communicate well, I can't do anything much, I worry about a lot of things. What else should I do to overcome a social anxiety disorder?

    • ANSWER:
      welcome to the club...nah just kidding....hehe

      well, one thing for sure, you ain't alone on this one...cause you and me and all other peeps on here are suffering on the same issues......I suggest, having a positive thinking towards people, they ain't gonna judge you if stop acting weird....lol

      and start doing activities that will keep your mind and body busy to achieve focus on life...you will learn to live w/o worries when your focus on something more important like, having a happy life or doing something you like....I suggest engaing in sports...don't worry if you feel anxious the first time...later on you'll learn to forget about it and just focus your head on the game.....goodluck

  14. QUESTION:
    Is there a way to "get rid of" Social anxiety disorder without drugs or therapy?
    Well basically, I have a pretty bad case of SAD and it's destroying my life. I won't go into details, because it will take too long.
    I was just wondering if there is a way to get rid of it without going to the doctors/therapy/drugs?
    I just want my life back, quickly.
    Thanks.
    @Raven - "Social anxiety disorder is a mental condition, but it is often misunderstood and minimized by non-sufferers and people outside the mental-health profession. Many people mistake social anxiety for simple shyness rather than a real and debilitating condition. This can cause sufferers to retreat from society and experience more isolation." You have no idea.

    • ANSWER:
      Not really as the only way to do it is to face your fears and go out and socialize. And with the social anxiety this won't happen as the anxiety is too powerful. I had a really bad case of it to the point where I could not leave the house unless I was going to work (that was a safe place for me). I finally did manage to leave to get to the doctors and saw a wonderful nurse and two years on I am not cured but I can live a normal-ish life and control control most of the thoughts/worry.

      I am on medication but that is also for depression and to be honest I don't find it helps much with the anxiety.
      I know this isn't the answer you wanted to hear but trust me I wanted someone to come up with a fix it situation when I was bad, but it is hard work and in the end worth it. You could do other things to help such as work on self esteem as that tends to go hand in hand with anxiety, and you could also read some self help books.

      Good luck

  15. QUESTION:
    I have been diagonosed with Social Anxiety Disorder.How do I get rid of it?

    • ANSWER:
      Social Anxiety Disorder - Treatment Overview
      Treatment for social anxiety disorder involves psychological counseling and sometimes medications (such as antidepressants) to reduce associated anxiety and depression.

      A combination of medications and professional counseling is most effective for people who have generalized anxiety and fear over many social situations. For those who fear only one or a few social situations (such as public speaking or eating in front of others), professional counseling to overcome the fear may be all that is needed.

      source:
      http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/tc/social-anxiety-disorder-treatment-overview

      more information about it here:

      Social Phobia (Social Anxiety Disorder)
      “In any social situation, I felt fear. I would be anxious before I even left the house, and it would escalate as I got closer to a college class, a party, or whatever. I would feel sick in my stomach-it almost felt like I had the flu. My heart would pound, my palms would get sweaty, and I would get this feeling of being removed from myself and from everybody else.”

      “When I would walk into a room full of people, I’d turn red and it would feel like everybody’s eyes were on me. I was embarrassed to stand off in a corner by myself, but I couldn’t think of anything to say to anybody. It was humiliating. I felt so clumsy, I couldn’t wait to get out.”

      Social phobia, also called social anxiety disorder, is diagnosed when people become overwhelmingly anxious and excessively self-conscious in everyday social situations. People with social phobia have an intense, persistent, and chronic fear of being watched and judged by others and of doing things that will embarrass them. They can worry for days or weeks before a dreaded situation. This fear may become so severe that it interferes with work, school, and other ordinary activities, and can make it hard to make and keep friends.

      While many people with social phobia realize that their fears about being with people are excessive or unreasonable, they are unable to overcome them. Even if they manage to confront their fears and be around others, they are usually very anxious beforehand, are intensely uncomfortable throughout the encounter, and worry about how they were judged for hours afterward.

      Social phobia can be limited to one situation (such as talking to people, eating or drinking, or writing on a blackboard in front of others) or may be so broad (such as in generalized social phobia) that the person experiences anxiety around almost anyone other than the family.

      Physical symptoms that often accompany social phobia include blushing, profuse sweating, trembling, nausea, and difficulty talking. When these symptoms occur, people with PTSD feel as though all eyes are focused on them.

      Social phobia affects about 15 million American adults.1 Women and men are equally likely to develop the disorder,10 which usually begins in childhood or early adolescence.2 There is some evidence that genetic factors are involved.11 Social phobia is often accompanied by other anxiety disorders or depression,2,4and substance abuse may develop if people try to self-medicate their anxiety.4,5

      Social phobia can be successfully treated with certain kinds of psychotherapy or medications.

      source:
      http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/anxiety-disorders/complete-publication.shtml

  16. QUESTION:
    does anybody know how to get rid of severe social anxiety disorder?
    well I'm going to give this a try. I'm sorry to be taking up your time but i have a serious problem. I'm afraid to go anywhere or do anything because i think i'm constantly being judged, talked about negatively, starred at. i just want to be able to enjoy things in life without worrying about other people. all of the anger is building up inside of me. I've kept it all in. I feel like i'm in a prison cell. does anybody else feel this way?
    thanks one dollar how do you know so much. you are very kind. i wish i could tell you more and maybe you could help me break these chains.
    iv'e never seen a taxi. i live in a small town with about 6,000 people. it's a redkneck town in arkansas.
    iv'e never seen a taxi. i live in a small town with about 6,000 people. it's a redkneck town in arkansas.

    • ANSWER:
      Wow you doesn't look like someone having social anxiety, more like a celebrity ;) . Yes. Go to: http://ecouch.anu.edu.au/welcome... Select "social anxiety" for free Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy. An exercise which may help you is called "Act as If." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing. Talk more; smile at people, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone. Watch some of your more outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior. (PRETEND that you are an ACTOR, PLAYING a PART). Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy.

      You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit. A form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and yell out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, (make up your own - have some fun, safely) then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave. People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot". Or, possibly in the company of a friend, or family member, on a different train, or bus route to your regular one, call out the names, or numbers of all the stops. It will teach you that, although it isn't actually pleasant, (EXPECT MODERATE DISCOMFORT/EMBARRASSMENT) you will survive; be stronger for the experience, and the next time (should you need to repeat this type of therapy) will be considerably easier.

      Remember: "A fear avoided is a fear strengthened; a fear faced is a fear reduced." Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me".

      Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down, or print, in large type/capitalisation, the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind. Put it in a prominent position, where you will see it regularly. Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication. Start out small by asking the time, or directions and gradually go bigger.

      Although there are anti-anxiety medications (anxiolytics) available, these come with risks, and the possibility of side effects, habituation, even addiction, and withdrawal problems, and are unsuitable for young people. Try having a cup of "Tension Tamer", (from supermarket tea, or health food aisles) or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed. C(h)amomile tea tastes better. As with all herbal/green teas, use lemon/lime, and/or a little sweetener (NOT ARTIFICIAL!!!) but no cream, or milk. Xylitol, or Stevia is preferable, from health food stores. Valerian has also been recommended, but some people experience "valerian hangovers".

      Ensure you know how you react to it, before doing something potentially dangerous, like going out on the roads. The idea is to use the above products like water wings, to provide initial, short term support, while you become proficient in those techniques. Use a relaxation method daily, like http://www.drcoxconsulting.com... or http://altmedicine.about.com/c... or http://www.wikihow.com Meditate or Tai Chi, Qi Gong, or yoga. Give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you. It is free via the searchbar at http://www.mercola.com "EFT" & "EFT therapists" or www.tapping.com (13 free videos). Professional is best. - There is a version for use in public places, (if you want to, you can claim to have a headache, as you massage/lightly tap your temples, but you would then be restricted to subvocalising: saying it to yourself in your mind: "Even though I suffer from social anxiety, I deeply and completely accept myself."

      It's hard work but hey, it certainly worth your sweat and tears, imagine the improvements your life without anxiety bothering you

  17. QUESTION:
    How can I get help for a social anxiety disorder without anyone knowing?
    I really want help. I am 15 and I have always had underlying problems of social phobia and anxiety. It first started with school when I was very young, and I have found it difficult to keep friends and have never got rid of anxiety for school. I really want to get rid of this because it is messing up my life but I don't want to let my parents know. They would not take me seriously. Can I get help with someone without anyone knowing?

    • ANSWER:
      It is soo hard growing up with SAD. Unfortunately the only way I could get treatment was to see a psychiatrist who prescribed me medicine. I am 23 years old now and have no signs of ever having Social Anxiety Disorder, are you sure you can't go to your parents for help and support?

  18. QUESTION:
    Will alcohol get rid of my social anxiety?
    It sucks because I can't drink under 21. I'm 19 and my whole life is f*cked up because of my social anxiety disorder. Will alcohol help?

    • ANSWER:
      Possibly, but it will also get rid of your liver, therefore ridding you of any problem ever again on this earth.

  19. QUESTION:
    How to overcome a social anxiety disorder?
    How can I rid myself of social fears, as being nervous talking to most everyone I know, specifically to girls my age? I cannot seem to give presentations or speeches; I cannot argue myself for a group, etc. Also, I get sweaty and nervous around my family and friends, making me seem awkward and weird. I would rather not project an appearance of myself in that manner.

    Without medication, are there any exercises to ameliorate my condition? Thank you, users.

    • ANSWER:
      Outside of conventional science and psychology, there is the concept that you are an empath. You are able to perceive the feelings of others. Even when people are laughing on the outside, many people are harboring or repressing great feelings of feer and stress. You may be able to feel all that they are feeling on top of your own feelings. There are people who are experiienced with being able to shut off and turn on these abilities. If you gain control of them you will be happier and less anxious. Also you will be able to help others on a one-on-one basis to come to realize and deal with stress that they tell noone about. Look up indigo kids and indigo adults for the proper vocabulary that deals with your specific case.

  20. QUESTION:
    I think I am suffering from Social Anxiety Disorder.How do I get rid of it?
    Does anyone else suffer from this disorder?How do I get rid of it?Are there any drugs available in the market that can help me overcome this fear?Any response will be appreciated.

    I feel anxious,nervous,lonely,insecure every time I walk out of my house.I feel everybody on the street is watching me,passing remarks and making judgements about me.This is having a serious effect on me so much so that sometimes I do not get out of my house for days.I also get the feeling that I wont be able to accomplish the work that I set out to do and that I'll make a fool out myself and I'll be a laughing stock for everyone.Once I read in a magazine that these are the early symptons of schizchophrenia.Is is true?

    • ANSWER:
      please try this

      Mediation technique

      We experience life through our mind.
      Experiences are what they are, but the mind often puts a new spin on them, making them seem worse at times.
      This produces the pain we feel inside, and when it builds up enough we either hurt others or ourselves.
      Not because we are bad or evil, but we aren't sure how to deal with the agony inside.
      The longer it stays, the more dead/dull we feel inside.

      Meditation is all about controlling you mind rather than being controlled by it.
      It is difficult to directly approach the mind and tame it, so we start by approaching the nearest manifestation of it- breath.
      It can be seen that when we have tremendous concentration we are not breathing as regularly, and when upset breath shallow and rapid.

      How to do this.
      Begin by becoming aware of your breath.
      With each inhalation pay attention to the air entering you right nostril(air will enter both,but focus on the column of air in the right side)
      Exhale and pay attention to the column leaving your left nostril.
      Inhale and pay attention to air entering the left nostril
      Exhale and pay attention to air exiting the right nostril.
      Then breath deep and feel the air in both sides rise up to the tip of your nose(like an inverted V ),
      and push it all out(feeling both sides).
      This is one cycle, you can do up to 100 in a day.

      It is a simple game to keep the mind busy(if you loose track on count restart), and off the things it can't change with worry(realistically everything).
      As you get better at this you'll be able to identify a space between your thoughts. As that awareness deepens you'll feel a peace when it arises. And soon you should be able to identify yourself as that peace rather than your mind.

      Good luck.

  21. QUESTION:
    How do you deal with social anxiety disorder?
    I have social anxiety disorder; I was diagnosed about 3 years ago. I have tried medication and therapy, but I don't like how the medication makes me feel and I would like to find an alternative to therapy. How do you combat negative thoughts and face your fears in social situations? One negative thought in particular I am having difficulty with is the constant fear that my boyfriend is cheating on me. How do I get rid of this?

    • ANSWER:
      Its hard to overcome... what meds have you been on? I have General Anexiety Disorder and sometimes it controls my life. There are times when I can't even leave my bedroom. Sometimes I go hysterical at work (so embarressing) and other times I'm able to calm myself down, but it's hard. I take xanax daily... i used to be on a "maintenance" drug - but I didn;t like it, so now I'm going to counsuling ... It's not making a huge difference yet, but I am learning how to cope and what to do when I feel I'm about to have a panic attack... Sometimes just learning new ways to cope really help. Hang in there. Just remember some of the negative thoughts and fears you have are irrational. He loves you and would never cheat on you. Just the fear of it happening is scary - analyze the situation. . . (Trust is the most important part of a relationship, you know that so have a little trust & faith) Hang in there doll.

  22. QUESTION:
    How do you cure or lessen Social Anxiety Disorder symptoms?
    I'm pretty sure I have Social Anxiety Disorder. I don't have the money to get a proper diagnosis, but it can't possibly be anything else. It makes life...existence...a nightmare. How can I get rid of the fear of being around people? Is there a drug that can do this, without making me dopey? Or, is there some self-hypnosis that can help?

    • ANSWER:
      well, it is hard to make a self diagnosis. There are counseling centers will provide services on a sliding scale. You may benefit from counseling more than you think. There are also medicines. A lot of antidepressants, such as Paxil, are also used for Social Anxiety Disorder. I was diagnosis with SAD and have been on Effexor, Wellbutrin and Lamictal for years. This combination works well for me. I don't feel drowsy or anything. Some times I have constipation.

  23. QUESTION:
    How I can talk to my doctor about getting a social anxiety disorder medication?
    I have been trying to fix my SAD(social anxiety disorder) for a very long time. Ive been looking up things online, talked to parents about it, talked to a therapist about it, but it still is quite bad, even though some of the things online helped some. I cant get rid of it though even through all of those attempts. The thing I think is nesecary is medication. Ive heard about xanax,zoloft,ect. Not to mention, I also have generalized anxiety disorder(GAD), because im always worried about if I have health issues, what someone is planning to do to me, and what might happen, although the SAD is 3x worse.

    I also have ADHD, and I have adderall for that. Will my doctor think I am abusing drugs if I try to get xanax or something like this because these medicines are highly wanted and abused. I really need both if these medicines though because I also have bad ADHD. How can I talk to my parents about getting a adderall and xanax prescription without both of them being suspicious?
    Why would it matter if you got addicted to them if yur going to take them anyways?

    • ANSWER:
      Explain all of this to your doctor. Do not ask for any certain medication because, then you look like you are drug seeking and not looking for a solution.

      You and your doctor will talk about it and then if you have a chance tell him what you've looked up online and ask about a tranquiler.

      Make sure you write down all your symptoms, so you don't forget any when you get there. Sounds silly but, it happens to almost everyone.

      The more he knows the better help you will recieve.

  24. QUESTION:
    I have social anxiety disorder and I am afraid (obviously) to seek for professional help...?
    Is there anything I can do that will help me get rid of this anxiety and live my life the way I want to without seeking professional help. It has got so bad to the point where I have no more close friends and my grades have gone down dramatically because of it. Oh yeah, I am in college and 19 years old.

    • ANSWER:
      Your college will likely have a counseling service of some sort, probably free. Send them an email explaining the problem, and that you want help but are afraid to get it. Ask if you could talk to someone over email/phone for a while. They'll likely not want this as a permanent arrangement, but they should be okay with it as something to start out.

      Alternately, call/email some of the people you used to be friends with. I'm sure some of them still remember you and would like to be with you. Explain what's going on, and ask if they will talk/come over/help you go places (whatever you're comfortable with).

  25. QUESTION:
    Social Anxiety Disorder?
    I know I have some serious symptoms such as blushing, shaking voice, sweating, etc. But I want to know what I can do to reduce or get rid of social anxiety forever.

    The odd thing is I used to be a really outgoing child, then after I don't know what I became quiet and get nervous in almost any social situation where I don't feel comfortable. Such as going to a party where I don't know who'll be there, meeting new people, speaking up in class or large groups, presenting things to my class or basically doing anything where I have to do something in front of people I don't know.

    Also just wondering, do social anxiety and adhd tie in together?
    But the odd thing is usually caffeine helps. Not with the physical symptoms but since I can think faster and on my feet I feel like I won't have a problem coming up with saying the right thing.

    • ANSWER:
      See a therapist :)

      http://www.find-a-therapist.com/

      Here's something I found from a site:
      While it may seem like there’s nothing you can do about the symptoms of social anxiety disorder (social phobia), in reality, there are many things that can help. The best treatment approach for social anxiety disorder varies from person to person. You may find that self-help strategies are enough to ease your anxiety symptoms, or you may need professional help as well, such as therapy or medication. But whatever your approach, you can overcome your social anxiety if seek the help you need and make a commitment to treatment.
      Lifestyle changes for social anxiety disorder (social phobia)

      While lifestyle changes alone aren’t enough to overcome social anxiety disorder, they can support your overall treatment progress. The following lifestyle tips will help you reduce your overall anxiety levels and set the stage for successful treatment:

      * Avoid or limit caffeine. Coffee, tea, caffeinated soda, energy drinks, and chocolate act as stimulants that increase anxiety symptoms.
      * Drink only in moderation. You may be tempted to drink before a party or other social situation in order to calm your nerves, but alcohol increases your risk of having an anxiety attack.
      * Quit smoking. Nicotine is a powerful stimulant. Smoking leads to higher, not lower, levels of anxiety.
      * Get adequate sleep. When you’re sleep deprived, you’re more vulnerable to anxiety. Being well rested will help you stay calm in social situations.

      Medication for social anxiety disorder (social phobia)

      Medication is sometimes used to relieve the symptoms of social anxiety, but it’s not a cure for social anxiety disorder or social phobia. If you stop taking medication, your symptoms will probably return full force. Medication is considered most helpful when used in addition to therapy and other self-help techniques that address the root cause of social anxiety disorder.

      Three types of medication are used in the treatment of social anxiety disorder (social phobia):

      * Beta blockers – Beta blockers are used for relieving performance anxiety. They work by blocking the flow of adrenaline that occurs when you’re anxious. While beta blockers don’t affect the emotional symptoms of anxiety, they can control physical symptoms such as shaking hands or voice, sweating, and rapid heartbeat.
      * Antidepressants – Antidepressants can be helpful when social anxiety disorder is severe and debilitating. Three specific antidepressants—Paxil, Effexor, and Zoloft—have been approved by the U.S. Food and Drug Administration for the treatment of social phobia.
      * Benzodiazepines – Benzodiazepines are fast-acting anti-anxiety medications. However, they are sedating and addictive, so they are typically prescribed only when other medications for social phobia have not worked.
      Therapy for social anxiety disorder (social phobia)

      Of all the treatments available, cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) has been shown to work the best for treating social anxiety disorder, or social phobia. Cognitive-behavioral therapy is based on the premise that what you think affects how you feel, and your feelings affect your behavior. So if you change the way you think about social situations that give you anxiety, you’ll feel and function better.

      Cognitive-behavioral therapy for social phobia typically involves:

      * Learning how to control the physical symptoms of anxiety through relaxation techniques and breathing exercises.
      * Challenging negative, unhelpful thoughts that trigger and fuel social anxiety, replacing them with more balanced views.
      * Facing the social situations you fear in a gradual, systematic way, rather than avoiding them.

      Other cognitive-behavioral techniques for social anxiety disorder include role-playing and social skills training, often as part of a therapy group.

      Group therapy for social anxiety disorder uses acting, videotaping and observing, mock interviews, and other exercises to work on situations that make you anxious in the real world. As you practice and prepare for situations you’re afraid of, you will become more and more comfortable and confident in your social abilities, and your anxiety will lessen.

      -Good luck and I hope you get over your social anxiety soon :)

  26. QUESTION:
    Do I have social anxiety disorder? What can I do to get rid of it?
    First of all, I would like to thank you for even clicking on my question because I thought that I was invisible to the world.
    anyway...
    I'm a 12 year old boy, will be 13 in march. I have problems socializing with people. whenever my family has a get together somewhere, and my dad asks if I want to go I make up an excuse like "I'm tired" or something like that. then I et mad at myself for missing out.
    and that's just one incident.
    another one happened today. I was absent from school yesterday, so I had to make up my science test today. the teacher told me to go to another classroom and take the test... but I didn't go to a different classroom. I went to the bathroom and took the test in there. I didnt want to go to a different classroom because when I walk into the door, it feels as if all eyes are over me. and then it feels like everytime someone whispers to someone, it feels like they're talking about me. I hate being in crowds. it feels embarrassing to be tripping up all over the place as if I'm having a problem because everyone is bumping into you.
    I HATE riding the bus because from the time I get on till the time I get off it feels like everyone is staring or talking about me. so I sit in the front. I just listen to my iPod. my parents used to beat me so much with a belt, so now I'm scared to talk to them about ANYTHING. I have no problem talking to my friends at school (only about 4) and I'm not shy to eat in front of them. but I also make up excuses if I get asked out to a restaurant because I have a problem eating in front of people I don't know.
    I HATE GOING TO GYM. I hate gym. I HATE gym. I could repeat it 700 more times if I have too. I do not know how to play any sports so when I don't catch the ball when I'm playing foot ball at gym the whole team yells at me, which is embarrassing and makes me want to sit out. this explains why I have an E in gym on my report card. I dont even like eating infront of my parents. so is this S.A.D? thanks! ;-)

    • ANSWER:
      I have an anxiety disorder and basically was EXACTLY like that, especially the gym part. I failed gym because I never went. I dreaded the idea of all eyes being on me. I took therapy for it though, and I received medication to boost up my energy and happiness. It helped a little but I was still scared to be in crowds. For the gym part, I had my psychiatrist write me a note telling my teacher about my disorder. I was excused and given independent study instead.
      Now, it's not so bad. You just have to force yourself into uncomfortable situations. It's difficult but you have to do it if you ever want to get over your anxiety. Try doing more things with your friends. Being with a group of people you're already comfortable with in a situation you don't want to be in is wayy better then being alone.

  27. QUESTION:
    My house makes me depressed and reminds me of my social anxiety disorder?
    I had social anxiety disorder and i think it was pretty severe because i stopped going to school because of it and didn't really go out at all. I really hated my life and i thought i was depressed but no one else thought i was because i was sometimes happy and if ppl (like psychologists) ask me if i ever had suicidal thoughts or anything i said no even though i did. So after about a year off school i went to boarding school (i've been there for 2 months now). I really love it there, i love going to school and being around ppl more (even though i still get too anxious to join in groups and make loads of friends) and i am definitely not depressed but i still have social anxiety and it is affecting me and my school work (like teachers don't think i care or try but i do, i'm just to anxious to ask for help or to answer questions in class).

    Anyway my life is definitely better there (even thought i am still anxious but i don't think that will ever go away) but whenever i come home now, for holidays and weekends, i just feel really sad and always think about my anxiety disorder and always make everything seem a lot worse than it is. My mum can only afford to send me to boarding school for this year and then i'll have to go back to my last school, or a different school nearby my house. So i'm worried that once i come back home for good i'll become just as anxious as i used to be and become a "school refuser" again. So is there anyway i can stop feeling like this when i come home? I just want to be able to feel as happy and non-anxious at home as i do at school. I'm not asking how to get rid of my social anxiety completely because i know that's not going to happen.

    BQ what is the difference between social anxiety and avoidant personality disorder? NOT the definition of the two just the difference. And what one do you think i have?

    • ANSWER:
      I might be able to help with the being at home part of your question. Rearrange your room. If your mum can afford it, get some new sheets and a comforter / bedspread anything to put a change in your room.

      Ask your mum if she would be willing to rearrange things in the lounge also. We get so used to the way things are that even little changes like this can make a difference. Snip some flowers out of the garden and put them out, this can help too.

  28. QUESTION:
    how do I overcome social anxiety disorder?
    i think i may have social anxiety dosorder, and i dont wanna have it i want to get rid of it but how?

    • ANSWER:
      You need to go to the doctor first. He or she will tell you whether you actually have it or not. If it turns out you do, they will probably suggest a mix of behavioural therapy, cognitive therapy and medication. I feel your pain by the way, I have it too :( The sad thing is it will never just go away. You CAN overcome it though.

  29. QUESTION:
    Has anyone ever had social anxiety disorder?
    I think I've got it because I've always passed it off as shyness but I was talking to my mum and she said she had it. It's gotten really bad now as I've moved schools and I get so scared I'm sick. :( It's affecting my school work because a report came in and I've got 75.7 attendance. I wanted to know who else has had it and how they got rid of it?

    • ANSWER:
      I think I do. I'm so shy. When I'm around my family, I have a quick wit, I'm silly, I have lots to say, and am completely myself. But when I'm around other people, I freak out about every little thing that comes out of my mouth. I think about what I say 2-3 times before I say it, and this causes me to be quiet. Even after I'm not around people anymore, I go re-play the experience (good one or bad one) over and over in my head for days. For months. And if I do something even slightly embarrassing, it makes me sick.

      I missed like 100 days of school Freshman year. I was so miserable, I had my mom homeschool me.
      And the ridiculous thing was, I wasn't even like an unpopular person. I thought I was, because I was so self conscious and degrading of myself. I gave up. It was such a mistake.

      I'm re-enrolling soon, and I really think I have more confidence now. What I do to help with my shyness and being a terrible intorvert, is make a very strong effort to be exactly who I am with my family around everyone else. It's hard at first. You're so not use to doing that, it goes against every fiber of your being. But day by day, you become less of your quiet, ashamed, pathetic alter ego, and blossom into the wonderful person hiding underneath.

      It's weird, introverted people tend to put all of their strengths where no one get to them. And they put forward what they think other people want to see. But what they think others want, is always weaker than what they actually have. It's sad, you have this great person underneath, and you don't know how to get them out.

      I don't know if you're as bad as I, or behave in the same way. But just try to be yourself. Its much easier said than done, I know, but it feels so amazing once it starts to work for you.

      Just the other day, I hung out with my friend Michael, and I said what I wanted, and acted the way I wanted, and just pretended that he was my brother or something. And instead of the whole experience being one awkward silence after another, it was full of laughter and fun. We both had a really great time.

      I can't tell you how great I feel about having a good time with someone else, whilst not pretending to be something I'm not, not trying to say things that I think would sound good. When you say what you want, it screams confidence, and makes you FEEL confident too.

      So, yeah just be yourself. Oh, and being a little hyper off coffee or an energy drink always helps too. It loosens me up.

      I hope my novel was helpful. Haha

  30. QUESTION:
    question about social anxiety disorder...advice needed?
    i have social anxiety disorder and i don't know how to seek help :(
    i can't tell my parents because they just don't understand me
    they don't understand that this is a disorder...i tried to tell them but couldn't because in the middle of the conversation they said that you have to be able to make friends and you must make friends and stop being alone, be more contagious.
    i wasn't able to tell them that i have SAD cuz they aspect so much from me and i don't want to let them down; and because they aspect so much from me i'm ashamed to tell them
    i know i have SAD (sociol anziety disorder b/c i read about it and i have all the symptoms )

    i really don't know what to do
    i have just 2friends now and i'm afraid i'm going to lose them too (i can feel that...and i also can't talk to them about my personal problems cuz we are not that BF )

    do you have any advice on how to get rid of this disorder without seeking professional help?...cuz clearly i can't seek professional help in these condition

    i'm 19

    • ANSWER:
      First of all, you need to seek professional help. Just checking off symptoms from an online list does not equal a diagnosis. There is so much more involved but I won't go into details. But you are 19 which means you do not need your parents' permission and they do not need to know unless you tell them. Any professional will retain confidentiality unless you disclose plans to harm yourself or another or situations concerning elder, child, or disabled person abuse. So legally they are not allowed to even confirm or deny to your parents' whether you are seeking their services.

      If you are in college, I would look up the counseling center there. Usually students get 10 sessions a year free or so. If not, see if you can find a clinic by a university that trains mental health students. Usually such clinics have a sliding scale based on your income. You can also call your local help line or look up a psychologist or a mental health counselor in your area (but these would be more expensive). There is no formula to getting better. A good professional will tailor a therapy plan just for you which will be much more effective than any tips you receive online. Actually, I would like to warn you against taking any tips from strangers online since there is a chance you may actually make yourself worse.

      Lastly, you seem like a really brave person who has great insight into your problems. You are brave because you want to change what you see as not effective in your life right now. You are already steps ahead of most people. But doing anything alone is hard so a professional in this case could also serve as a sounding board for your thoughts and feelings and make all this a little easier. Good luck!

  31. QUESTION:
    how can i tell if i have social anxiety disorder?
    for some reason ive been thinking about this lately, maybe i have it, how can i tell? what can i do to get rid of it? i dont wana tell my parent cuz theyll just be sayin that everything is ok that everyone has their issues

    • ANSWER:
      A disorder means that you have a condition that prevents you from living a normal life. If you start having panic attacks when you are in a social setting, then yes, you have a social anxiety disorder.

      If you are anxious all the time, this is called a Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD). If this is the case I would try drinking Chamomile tea during the day-- that can calm your nerves enough to live a normal life.

      Everybody is socially anxious one time or another. The more time you spend facing your fear, the greater chance you have to overcome it. Just remember that the entire world is not looking at you and that at your age your self awareness is heightened. Find a friendly face and remember that people can be just as nervous as you. You don't have to go through life alone:)

  32. QUESTION:
    Should I take medication for my social anxiety? How can I get rid of it? I have a huge problem.?
    I'm 17 and I have social anxiety disorder and it's been ruining my life. I want to change for the better, for me and for my parents. I'm planning on talking to my doctor but I'm kind of scared about it. I know I may sound weird, but since I suffer from this disorder, I'm shy around doctors, serious people, anyone unless they seem very friendly. I'm even shy to show my doctor my own body when I'm sick. My mom wants me to change, she wants me to be sociable like other people, she sees me as an abnormal girl who won't go out except for school. Sometimes I think she sees me as a freak. She WANTS me to be normal and she even compares me with other girls like sometimes when she sees girls hanging out at the mall, she starts to say "You see those girls over there? I want you to be like them, they aren't shy. I want you to be normal not abnormal." And this kind of hurted my feelings because it makes me believe that she prefers a girl who likes to go out and is not shy. It makes me think that I'm not the best daughter. My mom is really nice and I understand that she wants me to change but I can't and I need help.

    She thinks she understands my shyness but she doesn't know what it's like because she's a sociable person, she hasn't been through this. I've been bullied a lot since kindergarten that's why I developed this disorder because of the fear that someone might criticize me or embarrass me or call me names, I often worry about what's going to happen in the future. I'm kind of sensitive, I like to be alone. Sometimes when I go to parties, I secretly drink to cover my shyness, I know it's wrong but that's why I need help, Im not addicted to alcohol either, it only happens like once a month. To be honest, I don't know how to fight because I get nervous. Sometimes I even think to myself that if I was more prettier (which everyone says I am) I would have been more sociable and more confident. My mom tries to help me by taking me out in public and introducing me to new people, but I never allow it and it pisses her off and I know it's my fault.

    It's not easy having this disorder. Living with social anxiety is like living in a haunted house where you're scared of people. I want to change but there's another part of me that won't let me. My mom tries to get this shyness away from me and tells me that I need to make more friends, she says that this shyness is like a demon taking control of me. It's hard to get rid of it, I wish I was different.
    She's afraid that I won't be able to have a great career and get married. She fears that I'll be stuck living with her throughout my life. Being around boys is a major problem for me. She wants me to have a boyfriend because she thinks it'll take my shyness away but I doubt it. I never had a boyfriend and I get jealous when I see a couple holding hands. I get jealous when I know I can't be like other people because of the fear that they might not like me or think of me as if I'm ugly and worthless. I don't like it when people watch me or stare at me when I'm doing something. Should medication help me? I heard it isn't enough to take the shyness away but at least it helps a little.

    • ANSWER:
      Talking therapy will help you and Fluoxetine (Prozac) may help reduce anxiety. Oxazepam may assist with one off crisis intervention (i.e. if you are really very very anxious, having a panic attack and must get to a meeting or something important).

      Social Phobia is now well documented and far better understood by the medical profession. You will overcome this condition, trust in yourself.

  33. QUESTION:
    Treatments for Social Anxiety Disorder?
    I am almost 100% sure that I have this disorder. I know I could get rid of this condition by just confronting the things I fear, but it's very difficult and I'm really tired of feeling this way, being scared of everything 24/7. It's like I'm scared of life. And how can I live when I'm scared of doing so? Is there any advice you can offer for getting rid of this? I'm aware medication will be an option, but I'm interested in hearing other possible treatments.

    • ANSWER:
      Counseling is very helpful. The counselor would help you/talk you through your fears. They can give you techniques to you use when you are faced with situations that cause panic and anxiety.

  34. QUESTION:
    whom to consult If you are suffering from social anxiety disorder?
    I think i am suffering from Social anxiety disorder (social phobia)
    i really want to get rid of this..
    i like my self...my life...and i want to live my life to fulllllest...
    I am little bit good looking....i want to make girlfrnd ...i want to flirt
    i want to defeat eminem in rapping...i want to dump angelina jolie from my Girlfrnds list..
    i want to dance in library...i want to give john cena his attitude adjustment...i want to do many things

    BUT only one thing is stopping me...my blooody confidence level
    i am miserably suffering from social phobia..
    u guys wont belive that i cannot go outside my home...from this u can guess how badly am suffering

    Whats the treament for social phobia and whom to consult for this
    Hey guys c'mon i am so shy i cant ask that to my doctor thats y asking here...i will die if i do that with shyness

    • ANSWER:
      Call your regular dr. He can get you a referral to the specialist you need

  35. QUESTION:
    I think I have social anxiety disorder. Do you think it's worth looking into?
    I've read through the criteria on this page, and everything seems to fit me perfectly:
    http://socialanxietydisorder.about.com/od/diagnosisofsad/a/diagnosis.htm

    I'm not really interested in being involved with my peers, but for some reason they still cause me significant distress. I feel as if I'd be a lot happier if I could just get rid of all my anxieties toward it.
    I've tried counseling. It only provides temporary relief.

    • ANSWER:
      This is what we learn in New Zealand in school http://www.tki.org.nz/r/health/curriculum/statement/img/page31.gif

      If one wall falls down, the others soon follow. This is definitely something to look into. It's your mental health and you should attack the problem early.

      Talk to your family doctor, family members and anyone close. Ask for support, you'll get it.
      You can take something called Fluoxetine http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fluoxetine. Ask about it or alternatives if you're feeling really stress about this

  36. QUESTION:
    Help how can i get rid of my social phobia or socia anexty disorder plz help need treatment, cure and advice?
    after months of researching what was
    wrong with me i found out i had (SAD)
    social anxiety disorder and i think it
    happend bcoz
    This is my story
    I live in a poor family and Last year when i was at school i got chessed out
    of class coz school fees and b4 dat i was
    so popular at school, wasnt shy alwayz
    socializing but after i had been forced to
    leave every1 in the school knew the
    reason i wasnt goin to school every1! Even the teachers so finally after 3
    months i went back to school and it
    was a life changing move for me! Coz i
    was embarassed, humiliated every1
    knew y i wasnt goin to school.. It was
    school fees So the sec i went bak no1 talkd to me,
    every1 laughed at me and i was
    embarssed for bieng so poor that i
    couldnt go to school and it changed my
    life i aint jokin i swear coz i was cool,
    popular every1 talkin to me bt after i was shy, afraid to say wat was on ma
    mind, nervous all dat so since then i
    havnt been the old me the cool me the
    not shy me!
    FYI im not goin to school now coz of
    money bt if i go i wil change schools.. So since feb til now i havnt been me
    Im shy cant go places im afraid of wat
    pple wil think! So plz tel me what is the cure to this
    nightmere im living in??
    How can i go bak to old cool not afraid
    me?? Its effectin my life and every thing i do
    plz help How can i treat it?
    Oh and im a male 14 years old is this
    happening coz puberty?
    Y cant i get over it? How can i treat it?
    How can i stop being shy,nevours,afraid
    and anti social?! Coz i
    was embarassed, humiliated every1
    knew y i wasnt goin to school.. It was
    school fees So the sec i went bak no1 talkd to me,
    every1 laughed at me and i was
    embarssed for bieng so poor that i
    couldnt go to school and it changed my
    life i aint jokin i swear coz i was cool,
    popular every1 talkin to me bt after i was shy, afraid to say wat was on ma
    mind, nervous all dat so since then i
    havnt been the old me the cool me the
    not shy me!
    FYI im not goin to school now coz o

    • ANSWER:
      A deficiency in magnesium and chromium causes anxiety (google to see for yourself!). you might want to get your nutrient levels checked up for these nutrients. the doctor/nurse will take a blood test to see if you're low in either of them.

  37. QUESTION:
    is this social anxiety disorder?
    i've always known that i've had really bad anxiety, and i've been diagnosed with ocd, but could i also have social anxiety disorder? social anxiety really gets in the way of my life. i looked it up and i've got most symptoms for social anxiety disorder, so i'm leaning towards the idea that i might actually have it. i'm terrified of talking to people, i'm horrible in social situations. i obsess over how i act and look, i always feel like everyone's judging me. i'm always scared i'll embarrass myself. it's gotten to the point where i'm losing friends because i'm just too damn awkward to talk like a normal human being. i really don't wanna live with this. could it be social anxiety disorder? and if so, how the heck do i get rid of it?

    • ANSWER:
      Haha you are just like me.
      That's social anxiety disorder. I had an appointment for an anxiety workshop last year, and a mental health assessment for anxiety this year, I missed them both because I was too anxious to go to them. I hardly even go out now it's terrible!

      What I've gathered from research etc is this,
      to overcome anxiety you need to challenge it.
      You can either worry inside your head, or chose not to and be outgoing and talk.

      Sometimes I worry when i'm with people and think "omg I need to talk what can I say" and that never works. So sometimes I tell myself "I'm gonna stay completely quiet and say nothing" and then I just start talking and not worrying. It's weird!

      You need to learn how to stop working yourself up over it because that makes it worse.
      Take lots of deep breaths and relax too.

      Good luck!

  38. QUESTION:
    How can I get rid of social anxiety and facial tension?
    I know many people who suffer but still have warm, cheerful smiles. I want to learn to do that too. trying to smile when I'm anxious often produces for me a very fake expression. (smiles aren't something that you jerk onto a stiff face)

    I want to be able to soften my face at will. Smile at people, and bepleasantt to be around. People that can smile, somehow produce their own happiness, cheer others and make their life something to be happy about. Is there anyone else out there who has learned to take control of their face and emotion instead of just feeling their pathetic gestures with selfconsciouss horror?

    I've beat many of the underlying causes of my tension. (No more OCD or eating disorder) only social anxiety is still a problem. With any other phobia you can face your fear and after a period of mind-twisting agony, reprogram your subconscious mind to know there is no real danger. Fear of rejection, on the other hand is self fulfilling. If your brain sends off flight response hormones in social situations, people can't help but dislike you.

    I know any time I'm worried about what people think of me instead of focusing on them, I deserve rejection. Still, I feel so helpless sometimes. How can I find the confidence to be myself and lose my habitual sense of fear?

    • ANSWER:
      View the information and weblinks for social anxiety/shyness, and self confidence, in sections 9, and 38, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris Here is an exercise that can help you. It is called "Act as If." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior.

      Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit.

      Try this for a month, in every situation you can. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave.

      People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot". But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy). It will teach you that, although it isn't actually pleasant, you will survive; be stronger for the experience, and the next time (should you need to repeat this type of therapy) will be considerably easier. Remember: "A fear avoided is a fear strengthened; a fear faced is a fear reduced." Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me".

      Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind.
      Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger.
      Although there are anti-anxiety medications (anxiolytics) available, these come with risks, and the possibility of side effects, habituation, even addiction, and withdrawal problems, and are unsuitable for young people.

      Try having a cup of "Tension Tamer", herbal tea, by Celestial Seasonings, (from supermarket tea, or health food aisles) or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed (I find it so strong tasting, that I need to drink it quickly, followed by something like fruit juice, to take away the taste, but others may find it more tolerable). C(h)amomile tea is a more palatable option. As with all herbal/green teas, use lemon/lime, and/or a little sweetener (NOT ARTIFICIAL!!!) but no cream, or milk.

      Xylitol, or Stevia is preferable, (health food stores) or fruit sugar (fructose, such as "Fruisana", from supermarket sugar aisles) or even a little honey, because these will reduce "sugar spikes". Valerian has also been recommended, but some people experience "valerian hangovers". Ensure you know how you react to it, before doing something potentially dangerous, like going out on the roads. The idea is to use the above like water wings, to provide initial, short term support, while you become proficient in the above techniques.

      Advice on rejection: section 9. View section 8, on panic, and practice the relaxation methods shown, which will enable you to emotionally centre yourself, and be less concerned with the opinions others may have. Also try the EFT. Smile in front of a mirror, daily: use your eyes, as well as your mouth, and show some teeth.

  39. QUESTION:
    Does anyone know how to get rid of anxiety disorders, depression, and chronic headaches?
    I've gone to numerous doctors (medical and others), psychologists, neurologists, and I've taken various supplements and medical drugs, and nothing has worked. The anxiety disorders I have are Social Anxiety Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and OCD, and I've been taking a drug combating OCD and an anti-anxiety medication. The OCD one has been somewhat effective, but I still have severe breathing problems and feel in a state of panic constantly.

    My chronic headaches and neck pain have been going on for four years and nothing has helped. I can't sit comfortably anywhere and it's hard to hold my head up for very long. It makes me constantly feel insecure. Is there any way to get rid of any of this stuff?

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  40. QUESTION:
    Social Anxiety Disorder (S.A.D.)?
    I have social anxiety disorder, and I know that it "evolved" from my childhood shyness, which I was trying to get rid of. However, not that it's a anxiety, it's so hard to get rid of. Now, the hardest place for me to socialize are public areas, especially school. If I talk to some one 1-on-1, by the time I finish, I'm shivering all over, and I'm always afraid to express my opinions, because I'm afraid that people will be hypercritical to me. Talking to peers is the hardest thing for me, so I don't have any friends to hang out with, only those who know me for my kindness and aid. What should I do?

    • ANSWER:
      Most anxiety disorders are a result of your body not able to regulate the "fight or flight" stimulous that is natural to our survival as animals. This may not be a result of simple shyness, but an actual condition where your brain is "wired" a little different.
      Herbal teas and religion are nice and all, but if you have a biological problem that affects you psychologically, a professional is your best bet.
      So after talking to a Psychiatrist (and MD with psych training)... it's likely they'll recommend a few options. There are types of antidepressants that also work with the receptors in your brain that contribute to anxiety disorders. These are pills that you take daily and kick in after a few weeks.
      There are also quick fixes if you are not willing to venture into the world of the "daily pill." You might be prescribed a benzodiazepine (a mild tranquilizer) to take in the situation when you feel a panic attack beginning. There are also meds called beta blockers that temporarily block your epinephrine and norepinephrine receptors in the sympathetic nervous system (something you have no control of). The sympathetic nervous system maintains the "fight or flight" response. Lots of musicians take beta blockers to help with stage fright. These last two options are take as needed drugs.
      In lieu of meds, there is also a technique called exposure therapy. In this situation, you would be gradually introduced to stressors in your life that bring on these panic-like attacks. You need to FORCE yourself into these situations. Little by little, of course. Next time you are in line at the store, make eye contact with someone and say hello or smile. The next trip, ask someone a question. Something simple. The time, the location of the nearest gas station, bank, etc. Just start small and move on when you feel comfortable.
      You can really lead a very fulfilling life with an anxiety disorder. You just need to really want to overcome it. It's hard work, but it can be done.
      Good luck!

  41. QUESTION:
    For people who have had treatment for Social Anxiety Disorder..........?
    What do they do? How did they get rid of it? I'm suffering from depression...and possibly bipolar. I haven't had a proper counselling (tried but they did not understand me at all), not really keen on seeking help though I know I should. I have Social Anxiety Disorder. Although I've self diagnosed this my symptoms seems to point to Social anxiety disorder.

    My symptoms are extreme nervousness sitting in a place where there's a lot of people sitting close to me and when it goes quite quiet I start to feel my face getting hot, and i start sweating, i become aware of my breathing and then i'd hold my breathe then keep taking sharp breathes, and i get very fidgety and feel like i need to get out of the room but the more i think about that the more i panic and my version gets blurry. It can get really bad to the point where i feel like I'm suffocating, but if i start breathing i hyperventilate and i get paranoid that people will notice my behaviour.

    Anyway I just want to know what they do in the sessions because i heard people recover from it in sessions or so. Thanks x

    • ANSWER:
      I suffer from axiety attacks, or panic attacks as they are also reffered to. generally in meeting rooms and crouded places, i had pretty much given up on myself getting over the issue and thought i'd be avoiding situation all through my life. but my doctor prescribed me some "propranolol" (litterally about 5 days ago) which basically blocks the adrenalin gland somehow, thus stopping the panic attacks, heart racing, sweating, dizzyness, and it seems to give me a sense of no fear around situations i'd normally dread. you can get this drug (propranolol) in very low 10mg doses, and they give it to people taking driving tests / it's also used for performers to combat stage fright / and for people with heart conditions as it regulates their heart beat.
      i have had no side effects and it is effective within an hour after taking it. not addictive either so this would be a great temporary solution to get you on right track. for me so far so good... look it up
      i am slowly putting myself in situation that trigger of my anxiety attacks so that i can train my mind to see that i'm going to be ok, i'm not going to burn up and die, and eventually stop taking it.
      it's stopped all my fears over night!

  42. QUESTION:
    how to get ride of social anxiety disorder?
    ok so i have an anxiety disorder, & it makes me pretty quiet and shy.
    so i found a description of it and i fit this 10000000%.
    "Excessive Self-Consciousness – you are overly aware of yourself, particularly in social situations.
    Excessive Negative Self-Evaluation – you tend to see yourself negatively.
    Excessive Negative Self-Preoccupation – you tend to pay too much attention to all the things you are doing wrong when you are around other people."

    so everyone that i can be myself around with tells me i'm very funny, have quick wit, and amazing comebacks. & they always say that if i was myself in school i would be popular.
    but i'm pretty quiet & shy and i have no idea how to get rid of it.
    what can i do? medicine?
    when i'm in school i feel like i can never think of the right words to say or anything to talk about, i have friends and i can be myself around them, but when i wanna meet new people it's pretty hard to become good friends cause i have this retarded anxiety thing.
    please tell me how i can get rid of this.
    thanks.

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  43. QUESTION:
    do i have social anxiety disorder? please read.?
    I'm 15 years old, and for the past 2 years i've had digestive problems. but now, i'm starting to think they might just be all in my head. i have noticed that i cannot talk when there are people i don't know that well are around, i sit there talking to myself in my head saying "SAY SOMETHING" not kidding. and i just cant get myself to say something. i have been trying to get rid of my sweating problem, but nothing works. i sweat, ALL the time. and my hands are always freezing cold and clammy, so are my feet. how i feel is really starting to ruin my day, cause i'm always uncomfortable from sweating so much, my hands are FREEZING. i get stomach aches every time i'm nervous and i get SUPER red faced when any teacher calls on me.

    would you think this is considered social anxiety disorder ?

    oh and, when i was 5 years old, i cried every single day. i mean, EVERY single day until i was 9 years old. can anxiety start as a child ? i really want to see a doctor. =/ please tell me your opinion.

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  44. QUESTION:
    how to overcome social anxiety disorder at 15?
    im 2 days into my freshman year and the only thing in my way of my whole life right now (or more realistically my high school life) is my social anxiety disorder. i like people but i only have a couple real friends because im too afraid to make friends at my high school i barely talk to them... i hate the fucking ridiculous fear i get when im going to start talking to someone casually so i end up not talking at all and walking by

    please fucking help

    i cant go through 4 years of highschool without one friend
    what real self-help solution can i follow to overcome this damn feeling

    im not telling anybody ive been too humiliated by my mom who tries to call it autism and this has embarrassed me severely over the past 3 years in front of kids i used to talk to and my old teachers

    what surefire practice can i do to simply get rid of the freakin nervousness i get when im conversing with kids my age

    omg

    • ANSWER:
      To get a rainbow, you have to have sunshine at the same time as a shower. Sometimes, it is only when we face the worst, that we release the best. No 'quick, instant high' compares, for example, to the sense of elevation you get when, after a long period of feeling low, your mood finally starts to pick up. Think back over the deep difficulties you have encountered lately. For all that they have been so painful, they have led to one real ray of hope. As you now follow that back to the source, you will yet discover a priceless treasure.

      good day~~~~~~

  45. QUESTION:
    How to you defeat social anxiety disorder and depression?
    I was diagnosed with depression when I was 17. I believe I have had it every since I was little I was just too afraid to tell anybody cuz I thought people would think I was weird. I was given medication and biofeedback and It really helped me. I felt like a new pearson! The government cut off my health insurance when I turned 18 so I could no longer take medication & biofeedback. I am 20 now and I am back to feeling super depressed about life. and now I have social anxiety disorder. (Ive had this since I was in elementary but never new the name of it until last year) I swear everyday is hell and I really need help. I cant see a therapist,take medication,biofeedback or anything like that cuz I don't have money or insurance,I don't even know how to get medical insurance. I cant talk to family or friends cuz they are tired of hearing it but its hard not to talk about it when its the only thing on my mind. Just facing my fears and doing the things that give me anxiety is not helping. Ive been doing for 3 years now. I don't know how much more I can take . Is there anything I can do to get rid of these bastards!

    • ANSWER:
      Try looking around on the internet for insurance companies.

      But money shouldn't matter at this point.What matters is that you are healthy and happy. So once you take care of yourself by going to appointments, taking medication, is when you can worry about how its going to be paid for.

      Don't wait to do this. I'm 24 and was just diagnosed with social anxiety this month. I wish I would have went in earlier. My treatment is already helping me.

      I wish you luck!

  46. QUESTION:
    Is This Stage Fright Or Some Social Anxiety Disorder?
    Urm.. if you know if this is stage fright, social anxiety disorder or something else and you know how to solve this, please tell me.. i REALLY want to overcome this fear.

    urm.. i'm quite a joker around my group of friends, always laughing and saying jokes. but when i talk to a big group, >7 , people start to have their eyeballs fixed on me, i'll start to get very very very nervous.
    additional info abt myself(hopes this helps): i'm not a shy person, but rather somewhat outspoken. when i'm nervous, i'll rub my nose evn though i don't have flu.
    my whole process of thoughts/actions when making some speech or talks: walks up to stage. look at audiences. eyeballs looking at me. starts to get real nervous. at the 10th word when i'm talking, i'll start rubbing my nose, mind thinking : "will people think i'm crazy? i don't have flu but yet i keep rubbing my nose." mind goes blank there and then. cant talk anymore. awkward silence. friends starts cheering for me. and i'll smile. and then, my face will suddenly get crampped up, i cant stop smiling even after they stopped cheering for me, my eyelids keep jumping nonstop, uncontrollable.
    the whole thing it's just so awkward.. i really wanna get rid of this whatever phobia/stage fright..

    • ANSWER:
      Explain that you are stage fright to the people that are listening to you... Answer mine? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100702005141AAsxWhB

  47. QUESTION:
    Can anyone help with a speech I have to give on Social Anxiety Disorder?
    I'm in a public speaking class and my first speech is next week on the 26th. I'm doing it on Social Anxiety Disorder. I'm working on the outline right now. We have to cite 3 sources in the speech. I already have 2 points, with subpoints.. and 2 resources for them. The last point I have is how people with Social Anxiety usually acknowledge their problems but don't know how to deal with them or get rid of them. I thought I had a good resource... but I was wrong. I need to find an online article or something that tells more about that but I can't seem to find one that's official and has sources to it. Can anyone help please? If you could it'd be great. Thanks!
    And also, I have Social Anxiety Disorder... so I already know alot about it. But I'm needing an article that I can cite in my speech.
    Actually.. no... I'm not trying to get you all to do my homework. I've put in quite a few keywords in the search engine and they take me back to the same things. Not many that I found are .org websites and don't site where the information on the page comes from. I'm not sure you understand what exactly I have to have for the class. I'm supposed to site the resource (website/name of website) the information comes from, AND where the information on the page comes from, such as who wrote it (psychologist/doctor, etc.) I can't find any of those that contain the information I need.
    And also... the ones I do find that have the information I need with the info sources.. are the ones I've already cited. And I'm not allowed to use them twice, unfortunately.

    • ANSWER:
      Put it into any search engine and you can find dozens of articles - I saw 36 reputable articles in the first 15 seconds. If you want a reputable one go to the .org sites or scientific journals. I'd list the article but it was so easy to find either you're trying to get us to do your homework or you need to learn how to use a search engine, which is a basic tool.

      Here's an example. "Social Anxiety Disorder: A Common, Underrecognized Mental Disorder" at aafp.org details diagnosis and treatments. Oops I forgot to give you the pub date, author, and journal

  48. QUESTION:
    What do i do about girls while dealing with social anxiety disorder?
    I'm suffering from social anxiety disorder, and going to start a treatment called CBT But, as I was told, this therapy will take some time (40 meetings), and of course this is not sure to work.

    The problem is that there is this girl I like and I know i won't be able to even talk to her (even have hard time talking to girls in general) until I get rid of this pesky problem.. And it's driving me mad, she is driving me mad, and I have to find a way to deal with it, any help?
    wait a sec.. I haven't expressed my self well probably.
    my problem is that i can't stop thinking of her (or it in general) while i can't deal with it because of the anxiety, and that really really annoys (driving me mad was pretty exaggerated)
    The problem is not only about girls, guys just have nothing to do with my question
    ahh. .never mind, people just doesn't seem to get my question although i described it the best way i can

    • ANSWER:
      Focus on dealing with your SA for now, and girls can wait. No reason to drive yourself crazy over a situation you aren't prepared to deal with at present. If you cannot muster up the courage to speak to her, then why make yourself crazy over it? Let it go for now...and hopefully the new you will have more confidence and speaking to others will never be a problem again.

      Good luck!

  49. QUESTION:
    Can bulking up when you're skinny and weak eliminate anxiety disorder completely?
    I've started going to the gym and really exerting myself, taking protein powder. Right now I'm on the skinny side of average. I'm wondering if I bulk up like Taylor Lautner if I'll be able to get rid of my social anxiety.

    • ANSWER:
      Nope. But it can help.

      I actually try to tell people to stay off supplements.

  50. QUESTION:
    what is social anxiety disorder?
    i think i suffer from that. how can i get rid of it?

    • ANSWER:
      Being afraid of being around other people. It can be with or without a condition call Agoraphobia. This is a condition that makes a person afraid to go out of their house.

      Then are people like me. I just don't want to deal with other people. It makes mefeel uncomfortable.
      They call me antisocial. But I am as social as I can be around people I like. Or know.